Contrary to the title of your thread, it’s not possible to control your thoughts, in fact it’s not even desireable.
Much of your thinking is automatic, simply a reaction to your environment, a selection and processing of relevant information that may be useful for you.
You CAN however develop focus, for example. That is the ability to stay concentrated on one stimuli, without getting distracted by other thoughts or stimuli.
That is what you learn through mindfulness. But as you correctly noticed, mindfulness does NOT change your thoughts.
Now it sounds like one of the things you lack is confidence. Confidence is developed through experience. If you’ve never bench pressed anything, you won’t be confident you can bench press 100kg. Nor should you be confident, because you lack experience.
So you’re never going to feel confident until you gain experience and get good at whatever task you’re dealing with. There is no way to skip the hard work and endurance of tough emotions and get the confidence. The confidence isn’t there at the beginning, it’s the end result of learning a new skill.
I’m confident that I can grow digital agencies. Why? Because I’ve done it for myself and many many other people. The confidence isn’t a result of my mindset or other bullshit, it’s a result of my experience. The first time I did it, I wasn’t confident.
Much of your thinking is automatic, simply a reaction to your environment, a selection and processing of relevant information that may be useful for you.
You CAN however develop focus, for example. That is the ability to stay concentrated on one stimuli, without getting distracted by other thoughts or stimuli.
That is what you learn through mindfulness. But as you correctly noticed, mindfulness does NOT change your thoughts.
Now it sounds like one of the things you lack is confidence. Confidence is developed through experience. If you’ve never bench pressed anything, you won’t be confident you can bench press 100kg. Nor should you be confident, because you lack experience.
So you’re never going to feel confident until you gain experience and get good at whatever task you’re dealing with. There is no way to skip the hard work and endurance of tough emotions and get the confidence. The confidence isn’t there at the beginning, it’s the end result of learning a new skill.
I’m confident that I can grow digital agencies. Why? Because I’ve done it for myself and many many other people. The confidence isn’t a result of my mindset or other bullshit, it’s a result of my experience. The first time I did it, I wasn’t confident.
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