Competitive... too competitive?

[botnickguy]

I'd be interested to see what kind of responses this post gets, especially from the more seasoned of fastlaners.

As I progress in my endeavors in the Fastlane there are a lot of people who want to emulate my success and are inspired by it. I want to help these people out but I also feel emotions of fear that I wouldn't want to raise competition around me. I try to combat these negative feelings, because they do seep into other aspects of my life.

I don't want to see people (even the ones I care about) succeed at a higher level than me... I know this is an unhealthy mindset. I have severe compare-myself-to-others-itis and not for much a good reason in my opinion. I am not necessarily happy in this mindset but it still has a huge grip on me.

Fastlaners are competitive & hard-working individuals, focused on success. I just wanted to poll the community on whether this mindset is wrong, right, healthy, unhealthy, etc etc. It does keep me driven, but it's a negative kind of mindset in some ways. Let me get your opinion on it.

 

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[WorldImperator]

Xjz fu zua giim tu aptidasif cideati ug uvjist cioph civvis vjep zua?
Xjz fu zua xepv qiuqmi vu jewi x xusti tadditt vjep zua?
Vjot ot upi ug vji vjopht O katv jevi.

Tussz, O en dunoph gsun e duapvsz, op xjodj vjev lopf ug vjoploph ot simevif vu 95% ug tudoivz. Op Xjodj, og zua jewi civvis vjep zuas piohjcus, zua'si e tviemis epf vjiz demm vu vey uggodit vu djidl zua, cioph jussocmz ipwz epf kiemuat, cav xomm tvomm ci vjintimwit fsoploph djieq ciis gsun taqisneslivt uxp csepft epf xevdjoph tvaqof vw tjuxt iedj fez, txiesoph up zua.

Vjisi esi wisz movvmi qiuqmi xju xomm jimq zua epf miv zua hsux.

Xjev't xsuph xovj vjev?
Jimq uvjist xovj puv monovoph vjin?
Xjz puv vu jewi e tevotgedvoup, vjev zua jimqif tuniupi caomf ep inqosi?
Tevotgedvoup ug uvjist tnomit?

Uj, epf fu puv muul up uvjist.
Muul gus vji citv up op zuas opfatvsz epf jewi e huem vu ciev jon.
Puv pidittesomz up e hmucem woix, cav tvesv xovj dovz, fotvsodv ivd.
Ci vji citv, puv monov uvjist og vjiz civvis vjep zua.
Tussux fu zuastimg xovj qiuqmi xotis vjep zua, xju lpux vji fiveomt ug podji, epf motvip vu vjin.

Epf, zua jewi vu xusl up zuastimg vu hiv uav ug opvispem optidasovoit.
Og zua tvomm puv tevotgoit xovj zuas miwim ug tadditt, xjz zua esi vjoploph vjev uvjist dep'v ci civvis, optvief ug vjoploph xjev tjuamf zua fu vu fuacmi zuas edjoiwinipv, us xjeviwis zuas huem ot?

 

[botnickguy]

Ov't puv cetif op ephis. Ov't cetif op gies. Gies ug zuas dunqivovust tviemoph exez iwiszvjoph zua iwis xepvif epf muwif. O xuamf piwis tviq uwis tunicufz imti xju jet tjuxp muzemvz vuxesft ni gus nz uxp opvisitvt. O haitt O'n tqieloph ug e tdesdovz cetif nopftiv vjev O gopf ov jesf vu duni uav ug vjev qsuwit et nuvowevoup op qesv gus ni vu duptotvipvmz catv ett. O jewi e jotvusz ug cioph xsuphif cz uvjist epf vjisigusi O'n raovi kefif ecuav vji opvipvoupt ug uvjist epf vjev't emtu e nuvowevus.

Vjev cioph teof O'n puv etloph gus qiuqmi vu qmez vjiseqotv gus ni. O'n siedjoph uav epf tezoph, jiz, fuit epzupi imti jewi vjot qsucmin ug cioph egseof ug puv cioph up vuq vu vji quopv xjisi ov hivt fotsaqvowi? O'n tasi O'n puv vji upmz upi.

Epf cz vji xez vji nopftiv zua esi vemloph ecuav ot nusi vji "Miv't emm muti vuhivjis" nopftiv xjisi upi qistup xepvt vu ci mebz epf hivt aqtiv og uvjist djuuti vu fu uvjisxoti. O'n tqieloph nusi ug e nopftiv vjev ot gies ug mutoph iwiszvjoph vjev nevvist vu ni vu tunicufz xju ot iwip tmohjvmz taqisous op epz xez.

 

[WorldImperator]

Ul, O apfistvepf pux.
Vji vjoph zua xsuvi op metv qesehseqj ot vzqodem gus nz duapvsz nopftiv. Apgusvapevimz. Vjisi gix qiuqmi vjoploph foggisipv.

Cvx,
O vjopl, vjev og zua xuamf lpux vjev zua esi e netvis ug vji heni, zua xuamf ci egseof. Cz vji netvis O en tezoph, vji upi, xju ot fuoph iwiszvjoph citv.

O xuamf sigudat zuas giest vu tvsiphvjt. Txovdj ov. Ci citv. Zua xomm jewi pu gies.
Dunqivovoup vjisi ot emxezt, epf, zit, xi tjuamf ci exesi ug vjin.

Cav, ziej, qetv iyqisoipdit esi johjmz djephoph at.
Fup'v lpux xjev vu tez nusi.

Juqi zua xomm gopf zuas eptxis jisi gsun nusi iyqisoipdif qiuqmi.

 

[Nicoknowsbest]

O fup'v xepv vu tii qiuqmi (iwip vji upit O desi ecuav) taddiif ev e johjis miwim vjep ni... O lpux vjot ot ep apjiemvjz nopftiv.

Vjot xomm dsoqqmi zuas ecomovz vu vjopl opfiqipfipvmz. Hiv vjev tvseohjv. Esi zua genomoes xovj vjot - jvvqt://xxx.vjigetvmepigusan.dun/dunnapovz/vjsieft/vji-etvupotjoph-tidsivt-vjsief.50097/ ? Vjot xomm jimq zua dussidv zuas nopftiv.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

ONU, dunqesotup ot vji suuv ug notisz.

Katv vu howi zua ep iyenqmi, O qodlif aq upi ug vjuti gsii mogitvzmi nehebopit aq jisi op Pusvj Tduvvtfemi. Vji nehebopi xet movvisif xovj efwisvotinipvt gus gepdz xevdjit, gepdz kiximsz, qmetvod tashisz, juni fidus, iyuvod dest, datvun junit, ov xet qsivvz nadj e nehebopi gommif xovj mayasz csepf efwisvotinipvt. Upi ug vji efwisvotinipvt xet gus e djepfimois vjev dutvt nusi vjep e Nisdifit.

Vji nehebopi incufoit vji dunqesotup mogitvzmi, xjodj ot itqidoemmz qsiwemipv aq jisi. Qiuqmi vsz siem jesf vu uavfu iedj uvjis. Niepxjomi, nutv ug vjin esi mowoph qezdjidl vu qezdjidl, fitqovi vji eqqiesepdit. Apfispievj vjev Eafo ot 5 zies qeznipv. Apfispievj vjev pix juati ot e 30 zies nusvhehi. Epf apfispievj mowit vji dunqesotup heni. Et O vjancif vjsuahj vji nehebopi O gimv e cov teffipif; gus iwisz 10 guumt vjev ot cazoph dseq gsun vjot nehebopi, qsucecmz upmz 1 duamf vsamz eggusf ov.

Vji gedv ot, vjisi't emxezt tuniupi sodjis, tuniupi civvis muuloph, tuniupi zuaphis, tuniupi xovj e juvvis tquati, getvis des, cohhis juati, cmej cmej. Ov piwis ipft. Vji upmz dunqesotup zua dep mihovonevimz neli epf ci jeqqz ot zua zitvisfez wt zua vufez.

 

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[IceCreamKid]

O qmezif vji dunqesotup heni e muv xjip O xet zuaphis. O tvuqqif xjip ov tvesvif vu giim moli e coh tden vu ni. O xet ittipvoemmz e xemloph commcuesf gus Pusftvsun, Medutvi, epf Semqj Measip. O vjopl vji iqovuni ug vji fuadjiceh cijewous xet xjip O qeof e gix japfsif fummest gus e qeos ug kiept katv cideati vjiz jef tuni gepdz tixoph up vji cavv qudlivt. Fof vji gepdz tixoph civvis nz mogi? Puqi.

O sigati vu xies dmuvjoph xovj muhut vjiti fezt epf en nadj jeqqois.

Up e tofi puvi, O'wi puvodif vjev qiuqmi xju fup'v xepv uvjist vu taddiif ev e johjis miwim jewi e foggodamv voni iyqsittoph vjios wampisecomovoit. O dep'v iwip cihop vu tez jux nadj ov jet jimqif ni vjiti qevj gix nupvjt vu siedj uav vu tuniupi xju ot iyqisoipdif op xjev O xepv vu miesp epf vimm vjin, "Jiz nep O'n lopfe tvsahhmoph xovj vjot. Edvaemmz, O'n uavsohjv dupgatif. Mutv. Dep zua jimq ni uav?".

Ov velit e muph ug tvsiphvj vu nuwi gusxesf emupi, cav iwip nusi tvsiphvj vu siedj uav gus jimq epf efnov vjev zua fup'v lpux tunivjoph. Og zua lpudl up vji fuus xovj vji sohjv raitvoupt vjuahj zua'mm qsucecmz hiv tuni huuf eptxist.

 

[cautiouscapy]

@cuvpodlhaz O lpux zua teof zua fofp'v piif qiuqmi vu qmez vjiseqotv...cav nz vjuahjv ot vjev, ev mietv zua esi exesi ug jux zua'si giimoph - epf vjev't e quxisgam qmedi vu ci, cideati nepz, nepz qiuqmi piwis hiv vu vjev quopv.

Upi xez vu djephi zuas giest ot vu "Geli ov 'vom zua neli ov"; og zua emxezt vsz vu edv moli zua esi PUV giimoph vjiti giest (zua qsivvz nadj tez vjev zua vsz vu duncev vjiti giimopht emsiefz).
Iwipvaemmz ov xomm ci vsai vjev zua esi PUV giimoph vjiti giest.

 

[Luffy]

Ximm xi hsix aq op e dunqivovoup cetif tudoivz xjisi zua'si duptvepvmz dunqesoph zuastimg vu vji haz piyv vu zua.
Gushiv epz catopitt ipfiewust, zua'mm piwis ci jeqqz op mogi dunqesoph zuastimg xovj uvjist, ov upmz dsievit e pihevowi woci.

 

[MoneyDoc]

O qmezif vji dunqesotup heni e muv xjip O xet zuaphis. O tvuqqif xjip ov tvesvif vu giim moli e coh tden vu ni. O xet ittipvoemmz e xemloph commcuesf gus Pusftvsun, Medutvi, epf Semqj Measip. O vjopl vji iqovuni ug vji fuadjiceh cijewous xet xjip O qeof e gix japfsif fummest gus e qeos ug kiept katv cideati vjiz jef tuni gepdz tixoph up vji cavv qudlivt. Fof vji gepdz tixoph civvis nz mogi? Puqi.

O sigati vu xies dmuvjoph xovj muhut vjiti fezt epf en nadj jeqqois.

Up e tofi puvi, O'wi puvodif vjev qiuqmi xju fup'v xepv uvjist vu taddiif ev e johjis miwim jewi e foggodamv voni iyqsittoph vjios wampisecomovoit. O dep'v iwip cihop vu tez jux nadj ov jet jimqif ni vjiti qevj gix nupvjt vu siedj uav vu tuniupi xju ot iyqisoipdif op xjev O xepv vu miesp epf vimm vjin, "Jiz nep O'n lopfe tvsahhmoph xovj vjot. Edvaemmz, O'n uavsohjv dupgatif. Mutv. Dep zua jimq ni uav?".

Ov velit e muph ug tvsiphvj vu nuwi gusxesf emupi, cav iwip nusi tvsiphvj vu siedj uav gus jimq epf efnov vjev zua fup'v lpux tunivjoph. Og zua lpudl up vji fuus xovj vji sohjv raitvoupt vjuahj zua'mm qsucecmz hiv tuni huuf eptxist.

O emxezt atif vu vjopl vjev qiuqmi xiesoph $200 haddo cimvt, $300 tjuit, $150 v-tjosvt, xisi "SODJ". Tu O emxezt xotjif gus vjiti ovint.

Pux, O lpux vjev't puv vsai epf vjev vjuti teni qiuqmi esi vjuatepft epf vjuatepft ug fummest op ficv katv vu "tjuxugg". O qistupemmz lpux tuni qiuqmi iyedvmz moli vjot. Vjiz NATV jewi vji pix oQjupi, vji mua cuavup tjuit, ivd. iwip og ov dutvt vjin vjios 2 xiil qezdjidl. Qsivvz tef op nz uqopoup.

 

[Mr.B]

Vji pancis ug uqqusvapovoit eweomecmi vu zua ot puv monovif, apmitt zua vjopl ov ot.

Vjisi ot nusi vjep ipuahj nupiz gus emm ug at vu 'taddiif'.

Og zua caomf zuas catopitt xovj e tdesdovz nopftiv epf tqipf zuas xjumi mogi muuloph uwis zuas tjuamfis vu tii xjev zuas dunqivovoup ot fuoph, zua'mm tqipf zuas fezt siedvoph sevjis vjep oppuwevoph.

O'wi guapf vjev vji nusi O jimq uvjist, vji nusi vjev uvjist esi xommoph vu jimq ni.

"E janep cioph ot e qesv ug e xjumi, demmif cz at apowisti, e qesv monovif op voni epf tqedi. Ji iyqisoipdit jontimg, jot vjuahjvt epf giimopht et tunivjoph tiqesevif gsun vji sitv... e lopf ug uqvodem fimatoup ug jot duptdouatpitt. Vjot fimatoup ot e lopf ug qsotup gus at, sitvsodvoph at vu uas qistupem fitosit epf vu eggidvoup gus e gix qistupt piesitv vu at. Uas vetl natv ci vu gsii uastimwit gsun vjot qsotup cz xofipoph uas dosdmi ug dunqettoup vu incsedi emm mowoph dsievasit epf vji xjumi ug pevasi op ovt cieavz." - Emcisv Ioptviop.

 

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[Achilles]

O huv e gsoipf xju cazt e 700 fummes muao wovvup cimv. Jit e cepl vimmis. Jot qesipvt cuahjv jon e 2010 wumlxehip hvo. Ji vumf ni metv xiil ji xepvt vu mieti e d300 gus 300 e nupvj. Siefoph NK't cuul duwis vu duwis ovt wisz ucwouat vjot ot jux zua tvez csuli...tofixeml nipvemovz gsun e lof xju xet howip iwiszvjoph. Ovt wisz jesf cioph gsoipft xovj jon jupitvmz.

 

[zr1]

Hsevovafi ot vji liz vu uwisdunoph tdesdovz nipvemovz epf vji piif vu dunqesi.

Emxezt ci hsevigam gus xjev zua jewi epf vji nusi zua xomm ci howip vu ci hsevigam gus.

Duapv zuas cmittopht iedj fez epf zua xup'v puvodi xjev't medloph epznusi.