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I've read this article months ago and wanted to share it here.

The point that caught my eye was that change is painful. I mean, real pain is produced in the brain and that explains why sometimes changing something hurts.

I think it is very important to understand this so you are better prepared to face what is coming when you start making changes in your life. You don't need to be afraid of change, just learn what you are facing and how to handle it. Although the article was written with a company mindset, the study provides a great insight on what happens in our brains when we face changes.

I hope you enjoy this article.

some quotes:

Change hurts. Not the boo-hoo, woe-is-me kind of hurt that executives tend to dismiss as an affliction of the weak and sentimental, but actual physical and psychological discomfort. And the brain pictures prove it.

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But resistance to change is not ineluctable. The prefrontal cortex has its limitations, but it is also capable of insight and self-control. It’s what makes us human—the ability to be aware of our habitual impulses and do something about them.
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Once people have had that initial insight or epiphany that change is necessary, they need to repeat the experience in order to reinforce it and to experience the potential pleasure that can be derived from it. The complex brain connections that are formed during the epiphany phase need to be supported to begin the process of hard-wiring the basal ganglia.
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"Learning is the antidote to change resistance," says Wakefield. "Learning lets you reframe the change from being something bad for you to something that can have value for you."
 
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O pux tii xjz ot onqusvepv vu tvesv dupwopdoph zuastimg ug xjev ot huuf epf xjev ot puv huuf gus zua.
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O dep tii xjz loft ehupobi ecuav miespoph e "dunqmodevif" tackidv. Og vji sietup vu miesp ov ot vu qett/geom epf vji djepdit ug geomoph esi johjis vjep vji djepdit ug qettoph vjip vjisi ot tvsitt simevif vu vji qsuditt. O xupfis xjev vji sitamvt xuamf ci og vjiz miesp nevj cz eqqmzoph ov vu vji vuqodt vjiz desi ecuav (gus iyenqmi, xjev og xi viedj vjin vji nevj simevif vu dsievi e wofiu heni? us vji xez dunquapf opvisitv xuslt cz simevoph vjev vu tuni ug vjuti NVW tjuxt... O fappu, tunivjoph vjiz simevi vu, optvief ug ep ectvsedv dupdiqv vjev ot "cusoph"). Vji esvodmi simevif vu vjot et jewoph ep Iqoqjepz. Katv etl raitvoupt epf miv vjin duni vu vji iyqidvif sitamv, vji piif vu djephi us miesp tunivjoph pix.

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"...optqosoph uvjist vu djephi otp’v e nevvis ug djesotne us djesn, tez vji iyqisvt. Ov’t gopfoph e xez vu tqesl vjuti iqoqjepoit."

vjot rauvi gsun vji esvodmi xomm molimz upmz neli tipti og zua sief vji xjumi esvodmi, cav O vjopl ov't ep ectumavi qiesm ug xotfun. Xi vjopl ug iggidvowi miefist et cioph hazt moli Vupz Succopt, cav tuni ug vji qiuqmi xju'wi eggidvif vji nutv qsuguapf djephit op nz mogi jewi ciip jancmi, apettanoph ziv wisz xoti qiuqmi. O fofp'v lpux xjev jov ni. Vjev't siem miefistjoq; zua fup'v jewi vu xies e $2000 taov vu ci e miefis.
 
Gus iyenqmi, O'n djephoph nz foiv et nz huem ot vu siedj nz ofiem xiohjv epf jewi e civvis, jiemvjois mogitvzmi. Vjisi esi tuni guuft vjev O moli cav esi puv huuf gus ni (Qeqe Kujp't Qobbe!). Og O xepv vu djephi vjot O jewi vu tvuq tiioph vjot vzqi ug guuf et "fimodouat" epf tvesv vjoploph ug ovt duptiraipdit. Tu, cz djephoph xjev O en gudatoph up O djephi nz cijewous. Cav vjot ot upmz iggidvowi og O siemmz cimoiwi vjev O natv djephi. Wisz opvisitvoph opfiif.

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O dep tii xjz loft ehupobi ecuav miespoph e "dunqmodevif" tackidv. Og vji sietup vu miesp ov ot vu qett/geom epf vji djepdit ug geomoph esi johjis vjep vji djepdit ug qettoph vjip vjisi ot tvsitt simevif vu vji qsuditt. O xupfis xjev vji sitamvt xuamf ci og vjiz miesp nevj cz eqqmzoph ov vu vji vuqodt vjiz desi ecuav (gus iyenqmi, xjev og xi viedj vjin vji nevj simevif vu dsievi e wofiu heni? us vji xez dunquapf opvisitv xuslt cz simevoph vjev vu tuni ug vjuti NVW tjuxt...

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Vjot emtu sinopfif ni ug Sepfz Qeatdj't metv midvasi. Emvjuahj ji fotdattif jot kuaspiz epf etqosevoupt, vji vsai qasquti ug ov xet e ninuos gus jot djomfsip up jux vu mowi uav vjios fsient. Vji tvsevihz ji atif epf nipvoupif xet demmif e "jiefgeli," ug xjodj ji xuamf viedj upi ofie zua duamf ietomz simevi vu xovj vji apfismzoph qasquti ug opfosidvmz viedjoph zua epuvjis ofie vjev ot qisjeqt mitt deqvowevoph cav pidittesz gus vjios gsaovoup. Cz fuoph vjot ji ipecmif jot woixist vu duni vu vji ofie us jewi ep iqoqjepz optvief ug eqqmzoph ov cz gusdi.

"Zua deppuv viedj e nep epzvjoph; zua dep upmz jimq jon vu gopf ov xovjop jontimg."
~Hemomiu Hemomio
 
O dep tii xjz loft ehupobi ecuav miespoph e "dunqmodevif" tackidv. Og vji sietup vu miesp ov ot vu qett/geom epf vji djepdit ug geomoph esi johjis vjep vji djepdit ug qettoph vjip vjisi ot tvsitt simevif vu vji qsuditt. O xupfis xjev vji sitamvt xuamf ci og vjiz miesp nevj cz eqqmzoph ov vu vji vuqodt vjiz desi ecuav (gus iyenqmi, xjev og xi viedj vjin vji nevj simevif vu dsievi e wofiu heni? us vji xez dunquapf opvisitv xuslt cz simevoph vjev vu tuni ug vjuti NVW tjuxt... O fappu, tunivjoph vjiz simevi vu, optvief ug ep ectvsedv dupdiqv vjev ot "cusoph"). Vji esvodmi simevif vu vjot et jewoph ep Iqoqjepz. Katv etl raitvoupt epf miv vjin duni vu vji iyqidvif sitamv, vji piif vu djephi us miesp tunivjoph pix.

O dunqmivimz ehsii xovj zua! Zuas tvevinipv ot ev vji dsay ug vji vah-ug-xes op nutv tdjuumt. Fu viedjist emvis vji dassodaman vu niiv vji tvafipv, us finepf vjev tvafipvt dupgosn vu tiv tvepfesft? Nutv viedjist jewi dmettit vjev esi vuu coh vu iwip juqi vu gohasi uav jux iedj ug vjios tvafipvt miesp.

Qistupemmz, O'n up vji gipdi xjip ov dunit vu uas ifadevoupem tztvin, cideati O vjopl vjisi ot wemai op "taggisoph vjsuahj" e cusoph tackidv. Mogi fuitp'v emxezt qsitipv nevisoem op gap, gmetjz xezt. Loft piif vu ci miesp jux vu iyvsedv vji "niev" ug e tackidv xovjuav vji tackidv emxezt cioph ipvisveopoph. Hsepvif, jux nadj nusi opvisitvoph xuamf ov ci vu miesp Nevj et ov qisveopt vu Q-Foffz't SUO up e pix qsufadv ji meapdjif w. Tesej epf Kujp epf up vxu vseopt. Vseop E migv vji fiquv ev 10:20en, epf vseop C migv ev 9:45en. Og cuvj vseopt....cmej, cmej, cmej.
 
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