MsMoney
Contributor
I've been asking that question alot of myself lately.
I'm finding that I don't seem to have the "best" selection when it comes to men. The current man in my life is a good man, but very simple. Simple in his ways and what he wants out of life. Although there are many qualities I admire & respect from him, I sometimes feel he is "talking down" to me. He is constantly pushing for me to get a J.O.B. I think it annoys him to no end that I don't. I don't expect to be with any man for the amount of money he has, but I do expect someone to not only encourage & believe in my dreams...but can see them too! Does that make sense to anyone?
I am really struggling/battling this with myself and everything is coming to a head. I am really exhausted from talking about this stuff with him. Sometimes I think he sees me as a way to save himself (which I will NOT do!)....I even told him that that is one of the most unattractive qualities a person can have (at least in my book). He tells me he is joking, but there is that little knawing inside of me saying he's not. If I break up with him, I know that I will break his heart and it's killing me inside.....but, sometimes I think he's not the one for me and it's not fair to either of us. Other times, he seems so perfect for me....just he doesn't understand our lingo? Does that make sense?? He doesn't GET IT.
I am so overwhelmed with my personal life that I know it is slowing me down in my professional/financial life. I think I need to try to be alone for awhile, but I'm scared. I've always been one of these people that have had someone in my life....I enjoy having a man around, you know?!? But I want a man around that I can converse with, discuss my business ideas and get real feed back, want to go out and have drinks with friends, maybe go away on a trip or two.....I always seem to get either the workaholic guys, or the guys that expect me to be their mommy.
I think I'm afraid....and I normally don't allow my fear to run my life, but boy is it right now! I can take on alot of stuff, but for some reason always seem to end up a little short in my personal life. I told myself that I can just keep this relationship the way it is (we see each other twice a week) and that's it....but to be honest, I've never been more lonely in my entire life.
Has anyone else been in a dilemma like this? I know there is no easy way out, but I'd love to get feedback. Have any of you ever stayed in a relationship similar to this and it worked out?
Thoughts/Comments??
I'm finding that I don't seem to have the "best" selection when it comes to men. The current man in my life is a good man, but very simple. Simple in his ways and what he wants out of life. Although there are many qualities I admire & respect from him, I sometimes feel he is "talking down" to me. He is constantly pushing for me to get a J.O.B. I think it annoys him to no end that I don't. I don't expect to be with any man for the amount of money he has, but I do expect someone to not only encourage & believe in my dreams...but can see them too! Does that make sense to anyone?
I am really struggling/battling this with myself and everything is coming to a head. I am really exhausted from talking about this stuff with him. Sometimes I think he sees me as a way to save himself (which I will NOT do!)....I even told him that that is one of the most unattractive qualities a person can have (at least in my book). He tells me he is joking, but there is that little knawing inside of me saying he's not. If I break up with him, I know that I will break his heart and it's killing me inside.....but, sometimes I think he's not the one for me and it's not fair to either of us. Other times, he seems so perfect for me....just he doesn't understand our lingo? Does that make sense?? He doesn't GET IT.
I am so overwhelmed with my personal life that I know it is slowing me down in my professional/financial life. I think I need to try to be alone for awhile, but I'm scared. I've always been one of these people that have had someone in my life....I enjoy having a man around, you know?!? But I want a man around that I can converse with, discuss my business ideas and get real feed back, want to go out and have drinks with friends, maybe go away on a trip or two.....I always seem to get either the workaholic guys, or the guys that expect me to be their mommy.
I think I'm afraid....and I normally don't allow my fear to run my life, but boy is it right now! I can take on alot of stuff, but for some reason always seem to end up a little short in my personal life. I told myself that I can just keep this relationship the way it is (we see each other twice a week) and that's it....but to be honest, I've never been more lonely in my entire life.
Has anyone else been in a dilemma like this? I know there is no easy way out, but I'd love to get feedback. Have any of you ever stayed in a relationship similar to this and it worked out?
Thoughts/Comments??
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