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Hello, I’m 31 years old; born and raised in a small town in IL roughly a 4-5 hour drive away from Chicago, but now live in Slovenia (my dad’s native country) because that’s where I met my Slovenian husband.
I’ve recently read TMF and Unscripted , both of which I’m very thankful to have come across at exactly the time when I'm transitioning to a new stage in my life. I first read TMF because of an Amazon review stating that “I've read many business books, and this is by far the best.” Both fit exactly what I’ve been searching for and hoped to find – Thank you MJ DeMarco!
My backstory/FTE:
I’ve followed an exemplary slowlane path: went to an Ivy league school in the US, won a prestigious grant that brought me to Slovenia for a year, then did well in a 1 year pre-med program back in the US. It was only after applying to med school that I realized it wasn't what I really wanted. My RAS was activated and suddenly I noticed tons of online articles with titles such as “Doctors face the highest rate of suicide” and “Medical school debt at an all time high and increasing.” Out of 5 doctors that I spoke with after applying to med school, 4 said that they wouldn’t recommend a career in medicine; the only exception retired more than a decade ago.
It was during this time that I started discovering and reading materials about finance and entrepreneurship. What I read further confirmed my gut feeling that a career in medicine wasn’t for me.
I returned to Slovenia to be with my husband (then-boyfriend at the time) and pursued a few dead-end entrepreneurial projects. Within a matter of months, I was accepted into a STEM PhD program. I was invited to apply through personal connections, otherwise I wouldn't have known about it. It wasn’t something I ever imagined doing, but I wanted to build my skillset and connections. Besides, the position was funded, so I have no debt and earned a generous monthly salary. I don’t think it’s possible to get much better than that.
I already knew before the PhD started that I wouldn’t want to remain in academia and that it would be a brutal experience. I was correct. Mentors generally don’t want to be bothered with their students, but mine really outdid herself in terms of being both neglectful and irritatingly intrusive at the same time. Along with my colleagues, I was often ordered to pursue dead-end ideas using equipment that can’t carry out the tasks I was told to complete—and I would be brushed off when I told her that. Her mindset was/is, “Because I’m the mentor, I'm a genius and everything I say is pure gold.” The last straw was when she started purposely undermining my work.
I was ultimately able to get through the toughest part of the PhD because I asserted my independence and turned to people outside my group for guidance and access to the equipment I needed. That really pissed off my mentor and created a lot of stress for me, but I couldn’t care less (somehow we actually get along). If I wouldn't be able to finish the PhD, I would have to pay back all the money I earned plus interest, not her. This nearly happened to a colleague of mine who just barely finished her PhD the year after I started—talk about a red flag that something is wrong in the group! Add to this the long work days, lack of vacation, the unrelenting, insane levels of stress and the inevitable physical breakdown that accompanies it, and you really start to question why you're here.
Presently:
I’m now finishing the program (almost everything but the defense) which means that I have free time again for the first time in years. The entire PhD has been one huge FTE, although I’ve learned some valuable lessons and developed some much needed problem-solving skills. Even though I will apply for some industry positions and am doing some freelancing work at the moment, I won’t have peace until I gain true financial independence with a CENTS-compliant business. At this early stage in my entrepreneurial journey, I’m looking for one idea to focus on; potentially something in the academic sector.
Thank you for reading; I look forward to gaining and contributing insight through this forum as I immerse myself in the fastlane.
I’ve recently read TMF and Unscripted , both of which I’m very thankful to have come across at exactly the time when I'm transitioning to a new stage in my life. I first read TMF because of an Amazon review stating that “I've read many business books, and this is by far the best.” Both fit exactly what I’ve been searching for and hoped to find – Thank you MJ DeMarco!
My backstory/FTE:
I’ve followed an exemplary slowlane path: went to an Ivy league school in the US, won a prestigious grant that brought me to Slovenia for a year, then did well in a 1 year pre-med program back in the US. It was only after applying to med school that I realized it wasn't what I really wanted. My RAS was activated and suddenly I noticed tons of online articles with titles such as “Doctors face the highest rate of suicide” and “Medical school debt at an all time high and increasing.” Out of 5 doctors that I spoke with after applying to med school, 4 said that they wouldn’t recommend a career in medicine; the only exception retired more than a decade ago.
It was during this time that I started discovering and reading materials about finance and entrepreneurship. What I read further confirmed my gut feeling that a career in medicine wasn’t for me.
I returned to Slovenia to be with my husband (then-boyfriend at the time) and pursued a few dead-end entrepreneurial projects. Within a matter of months, I was accepted into a STEM PhD program. I was invited to apply through personal connections, otherwise I wouldn't have known about it. It wasn’t something I ever imagined doing, but I wanted to build my skillset and connections. Besides, the position was funded, so I have no debt and earned a generous monthly salary. I don’t think it’s possible to get much better than that.
I already knew before the PhD started that I wouldn’t want to remain in academia and that it would be a brutal experience. I was correct. Mentors generally don’t want to be bothered with their students, but mine really outdid herself in terms of being both neglectful and irritatingly intrusive at the same time. Along with my colleagues, I was often ordered to pursue dead-end ideas using equipment that can’t carry out the tasks I was told to complete—and I would be brushed off when I told her that. Her mindset was/is, “Because I’m the mentor, I'm a genius and everything I say is pure gold.” The last straw was when she started purposely undermining my work.
I was ultimately able to get through the toughest part of the PhD because I asserted my independence and turned to people outside my group for guidance and access to the equipment I needed. That really pissed off my mentor and created a lot of stress for me, but I couldn’t care less (somehow we actually get along). If I wouldn't be able to finish the PhD, I would have to pay back all the money I earned plus interest, not her. This nearly happened to a colleague of mine who just barely finished her PhD the year after I started—talk about a red flag that something is wrong in the group! Add to this the long work days, lack of vacation, the unrelenting, insane levels of stress and the inevitable physical breakdown that accompanies it, and you really start to question why you're here.
Presently:
I’m now finishing the program (almost everything but the defense) which means that I have free time again for the first time in years. The entire PhD has been one huge FTE, although I’ve learned some valuable lessons and developed some much needed problem-solving skills. Even though I will apply for some industry positions and am doing some freelancing work at the moment, I won’t have peace until I gain true financial independence with a CENTS-compliant business. At this early stage in my entrepreneurial journey, I’m looking for one idea to focus on; potentially something in the academic sector.
Thank you for reading; I look forward to gaining and contributing insight through this forum as I immerse myself in the fastlane.
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