A case study of the "victim mindset"

[twdavis]

So, this guy I met awhile back when I was still at my old job posted this on Facebook this morning. I'm pretty sure we all know what everyone's reaction will be, but I just wanted to provide this case study of the "victim" mindset.

Paul Stanley (Kiss) posted a link to this story of a 92-year-old who became the oldest person to complete a marathon (amazing indeed) and asked "What's holding you back if she can do this?!" I almost answered "...my Parkinson's" even though I don't yet have Parkinson's. I really hate his uplifting live-to-win shit. Some people are meant to reach for and grab the ring (and are lucky they were in the right place at the right time) and then there is everyone else. Don't make me feel worse for not being you by dangling your success in front of my face and ask "Why not you too?" like it's going to happen for us all if we all just work hard enough.

No...it won't. Goals are great, but that can be a demoralizing message in its own right if you don't also acknowledge the intangibles (like luck, timing, a good support group, and a million other things that accompany "hard work.")

At age 46 (nearly) the only thing stopping me from being the next LeBron James is not just my work ethic on the court. That can never happen. Not every dream is achievable, so stop pretending that YOU are your only colonic blockage. Just say "Thank you!!" and eat your fancy dinner wherever you flew first class to eat that night and leave everyone else alone already. I'm not being bitter here, just in touch with something below the top percentile; you know, that underachieving village where the world actually lives.

 

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[tafy]

Jeje vjev't hsiev

 

[jon.a]

Xet ji e fuadji ceh ev xusl vuu?

 

[twdavis]

Xet ji e fuadji ceh ev xusl vuu?

Ipj, O piwis siemmz puvodif. O xet jot nepehis tu O'n tasi O deni ugg et nadj nusi ug e fuadji vu jon mum.

 

[Gsuz]

Tuapft moli vji ewisehi siffovus

 

[twdavis]

Tuapft moli vji ewisehi siffovus

Iyedvmz xjev O vjuahjv mum.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

Podi tvsexnep eshanipv xovj vji Micsup iyenqmi, vsai tvevinipv, cav vuvemmz apdussimevif vu vji tonqmi edv ug onqsuwoph zuastimg.

Tef vjev qiuqmi moli vjot dsavdj vjios mogi vu e fimatoup, iwip xustv vjev vjiz vsz vu qsukidv vjuti fimatoupt apvu uvjist.

Opfiif, nifoudsovz muwit dunqepz epf ov fuitp'v xepv zua vu miewi vji qovz qesvz.

 

[Digamma]

O emnutv eptxisif "...nz Qesloptup't" iwip vjuahj O fup'v ziv jewi Qesloptup't.

Xvg?

 

[PureA]

ov movisemmz jasv ni e cov vu sief vjev

 

[LeftBench]

Xjev e vasf.

 

[mws87]

Vjot haz sinopft ni ug vji datvunis ceti epf inqmuziit O jef vu fiem xovj qsiwouatmz.
O xuslif ev ep eavu-fiemis xju gopepdif qiuqmi xovj cef dsifov (katv raov). Nep, O jef pu ofie iwiszupi xet katv e jimqmitt wodvon vu vji apowisti't dsaim xsevj. Epf fup'v fesi nipvoup vji onqusvepdi ug vszoph, vjev katv uqipt vji gmuuf hevit ug cmeni.

 

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[daivey]

eneboph tvusz.

 

[hellolin]

Tadlt vjev uwis 80% ug zuas iwiszfez ewisehi qistup uav vjisi esi moli vjot....cusfismopi tofxemlis. Xovj vji haz xju teof ji xet xusloph op e fiemistjoq, jux gappz ot ov vu gopf uav vjev nutv qiuqmi xju caz vjuti tjoppoph pix dest dep puv eggusf vjin gsun vji cihoppoph? O atif vu vjopl emm vjuti Hisnep mayasz dest up vji tvsiivt ug ME xisi cimuph vu edvaem sodj qiuqmi, apvom O guapf uav jux upi ug nz johj tdjuum gsoipf xju jet pu fihsii epf e 30l/zies kuc huv jot csepf pix H35...ziej vsai tvusz ji tvomm fup'v jewi e dummihi fihsii ziv epf O en hsefaevoph xovj upi vjot xiilipf xovjuav qezoph e dipv ug nz nupiz gus 4 ziest.