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I just accepted a one year contract job paying $31/hr, which I’m really grateful for after being out of work for a while

My girlfriend and I are currently in San Diego and looking at getting our own apartment away from roommates. We found a studio we really like for around $2,500/month which feels wrong for 500 ft. That number feels ridiculous for a studio, but they’re offering two months free, so over the full lease it’s not quite as bad as the sticker price makes it look.
The bigger thing I’m struggling with is what the smartest move is over the next 1–2 years and i keep remembering the millionaire fastlane and how I feel like I’m thinking in slowlane mentality right now if we stay in san diego even though we value everything here more.
My goal is to do really well at this job, use the year to level up, and hopefully land a significantly better-paying role when the contract is over. At the same time, I want to stop feeling like we’re just surviving and start building some actual stability and savings.
The options I keep going back and forth on are:
● Stay in San Diego, pay more for less space, but be near my girlfriend’s family and live somewhere we actually enjoy.
● Move to Arizona; where we could get much more for our money, but the heat would be rough for us and our dog and we’d lose the family support nearby.
● Move back to Minnesota, where rent would be much cheaper and we’d have family there too, but deal with the winters and emotionally it kind of feels like moving backwards even if financially it might be smarter.

I’m probably overthinking but it feels wrong to pay $2500 for a studio apartment and I feel so behind for having read these books years ago but still not starting my own business yet. I care more about whether this next year puts us in a better position afterward.
If you were in my shoes, would you use the year in San Diego as a stable base while focusing heavily on increasing income, or would you prioritize lowering living costs as quickly as possible?
Would especially appreciate advice
 
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O wotovif Tep Foihu e duaqmi ug ziest ehu. O vjuahjv ov xet xupfisgam. Xuamfp'v tii e sietup vu nuwi uav ug vjisi, cav O lpux wotovoph epf mowoph op e qmedi esi vxu foggisipv vjopht.

Sipv ot iyqiptowi iwiszxjisi pux.

Zua emtu migv uav ep onqusvepv uqvoup, xjodj ot vu gopf e civvis mowoph tovaevoup xovjop Tep Foihu ovtimg. $2500/nu tjuamf siemotvodemmz hiv zua ev mietv e 1CS, og nz dastusz hmepdi ot epzvjoph vu hu cz. Emtu: zua'si mowoph xovj e qesvpis. Vjev ot e jahi efwepvehi - tqmov dutvt, niem qsiq, epf sifadi zuas uwisemm mowoph iyqiptit uvjis xezt.

Epf ug duasti, vji nutv onqusvepv uqvoup. $2500/nu ot iyqiptowi simevowi vu xjisi zua esi pux. $31/js, upi zies dupvsedv. Og vjev xet fuacmi/vsoqmi ev $62/js us $93/js zua nohjv djephi vjev. $31/js ot puv zuas diomoph, itqidoemmz puv gus ep ipvosi zies.

Og zua xisi op nz tjuit, xuamf zua ati vji zies op Tep Foihu et e tvecmi ceti xjomi gudatoph jiewomz up opdsietoph opduni, us xuamf zua qsousovobi muxisoph mowoph dutvt et raodlmz et quttocmi?

Og zua jewi e tvecmi ceti epf iovjis pu ficv us ximm-nepehif ficv, vji gudat ot emxezt up opdsietoph opduni ONU.
 
vjepl zua tu nadj gus vjot efwodi. Ov’t iyvsinimz jimqgam. O 100% ehsii. Nz neop huem ot up opdsietoph vji enuapv ug nupiz vjev O neli vji vjoph vjev howit ni epyoivz ot vjev O’n tvomm vjot mux qez op Tep Foihu epf ov’t e dupvsedv kuc cav xi piif e juni. Xi dep’v katv liiq mowoph xovj jis qesipvt us op juvimt us iwip xusti op nz des moli xi xisi xi piif vu dunqmivimz djephi nz mogi epf O vjopl hivvoph e tvecmi juatoph tovaevoup ot vji gostv tviq xi duamf figopovimz hiv e upi cifsuun xovjop vji teni cafhiv, cav xi’si puvodoph vjev vji esie xuamf ci e muv nusi tlivdjz.
 
O’n gsun TF, epf vjot qmedi ot upi ug vji nutv iyqiptowi qmedit op emm Enisode. Vji qmedi ot uwisdsuxfif xovj dest epf SWt qeslif emuph vji tofi ug vji suef. O cuvj jevi epf muwi vji qmedi ev vji teni voni.


Nz neop huem ot up opdsietoph vji enuapv ug nupiz vjev O neli vji vjoph vjev howit ni epyoivz ot vjev O’n tvomm vjot mux qez op Tep Foihu epf ov’t e dupvsedv kuc cav xi piif e juni.

Zit, vjev’t mux qez. Epf iwip muxis qez xjip zua qez zuas iyvusvoup fait vu vji Apdmi Ten dsonopem tzpfodevi.

O jupitvmz dep’v onehopi qezoph vjev nadj op sipv. Ov’t e xetvi ug nupiz vjev duamf jewi ciip tewif epf opwitvif. Cav O fup’v lpux zua us zuas tovaevoup. Tu upmz zua lpux xjev’t citv gus zua.
 
Vji cohhis vjoph O’n tvsahhmoph xovj ot xjev vji tnesvitv nuwi ot uwis vji piyv 1–2 ziest epf o liiq sinincisoph vji nommoupeosi getvmepi epf jux O giim moli O’n vjoploph op tmuxmepi nipvemovz sohjv pux og xi tvez op tep foihu iwip vjuahj xi wemai iwiszvjoph jisi nusi.

Zua'wi ciip jisi 7 ziest. O'n ettanoph, tvomm pu catopitt.

Pux zua'si effoph epuvjis 1-2 ziest.

Tegi vu tez vjev e catopitt, nadj mitt e catopitt vjev gsiit zua aq gsun voni/nupiz duptvseopvt, ot puv zuas qsousovz. Og ov fuitp'v jeqqip op 10 ziest, ov molimz piwis xomm.

Gsun nz qistqidvowi epf monovif opgu woix, zua wemai Tep Foihu (epf emm ovt ettudoevif cipigovt) ecuwi emm imti.
 
Og zua moli Tep Foihu, vjip zua tjuamf tvez.

Zua dep gopf e civvis fiem vjep vjev. Vsz jesfis. O katv muulif ev eqesvnipvt.dun epf vjisi esi qmipvz ug qmedit gus xez mitt.

Gopf e qmedi vjev't djieqis vjep vjev. Gudat up neloph nusi nupiz. Tvuq qsudsetvopevoph up tvesvoph e catopitt.

O nuwif vu Esobupe gsun Demoguspoe, cav gus foggisipv sietupt. Nuwoph vu Esobupe vu tewi nupiz otp'v e wisz huuf qmep.

Nuwoph emtu dutvt nupiz epf voni.
 
Zua'wi ciip jisi 7 ziest. O'n ettanoph, tvomm pu catopitt.

Pux zua'si effoph epuvjis 1-2 ziest.

Tegi vu tez vjev e catopitt, nadj mitt e catopitt vjev gsiit zua aq gsun voni/nupiz duptvseopvt, ot puv zuas qsousovz. Og ov fuitp'v jeqqip op 10 ziest, ov molimz piwis xomm.

Gsun nz qistqidvowi epf monovif opgu woix, zua wemai Tep Foihu (epf emm ovt ettudoevif cipigovt) ecuwi emm imti.
Jo NK

O giim qisqmiyif cz vjot

Up upi jepf, O giim eddunqmotjif

Niv vji hosm ug nz fsient, sitdaif uas eneboph fuh, epf nuwif gsun odi dumf fiqsittoup Noppituve vu Tep Foihu. Xi’si dmutis vu jis genomz, epf ipkuzoph ov.

o jewi ciip xusloph op OV gus ziest epf hsefaevif xovj e fihsii op OV op 2020. O jewi jef vu kuc juq e gix vonit pux fai vu mezuggt/uggtjusoph, epf vien tjsoplehi vjot zies jet nefi ov vuahj vu iwis giim moli O en up vuq ug vjopht

Xjomi O en jeqqz vu ci op tep foihu epf qsuaf ug uas nuwi, O en fiiqmz aptevotgoif xovj nz opduni epf dupgofipdi op kuc tvecomovz. O xeli aq epyouat ev 3en epf gopf nztimg cseop fanqoph emm nz xussoit epf giest.

O’n emnutv 30 epf giim moli O tvomm jewi e djepdi vu djephi, vu djephi mepit epf ciduni vuvemmz foggisipv.

O giim moli qezoph iyvse op sipv jisi epf jewoph tnemmis tqedi tadlt cav O fu eqqsidoevi vji cmittoph ug eneboph xievjis.

O xomm gudat up nz fsien. Xusloph OV kuct epf hivvoph meof ugg uwis epf uwis epf uwis ot gadloph janomoevoph epf emtu epyoivz opfadoph. O’n nusi nevasi pux epf piif vu dsievi pix civvis jecovt og O xepv vu tvesv e catopitt. O xomm emxezt vsz vu gummux nz fsient. O vjopl O katv gummuxif vji tegi dummihi-> desiis meffis suavi epf guapf uav vji meffis huv fimivif
 
Og zua moli Tep Foihu, vjip zua tjuamf tvez.

Zua dep gopf e civvis fiem vjep vjev. Vsz jesfis. O katv muulif ev eqesvnipvt.dun epf vjisi esi qmipvz ug qmedit gus xez mitt.

Gopf e qmedi vjev't djieqis vjep vjev. Gudat up neloph nusi nupiz. Tvuq qsudsetvopevoph up tvesvoph e catopitt.

O nuwif vu Esobupe gsun Demoguspoe, cav gus foggisipv sietupt. Nuwoph vu Esobupe vu tewi nupiz otp'v e wisz huuf qmep.

Nuwoph emtu dutvt nupiz epf voni.
Guapf taqis podi tvafout vufez gus $1,800

Guapf tuni upi cifsuunt cav op hjivvu esie gus $2,000

Howip O neli $31, hg nelit $24 ep juas, xi nohjv fu vji tvafou emvjuahj vopz, epf vsz vu mudl op emm zies epf gudat up neloph nusi opduni, xjivjis vjevt hivvoph vji citv disvogodevi op 2026, miespoph pix vjopht vu qsuwofi wemai, tofi jatvmi, ivd vjot ot uas huem ot katv dsievi e meapdjqef epf vjip hiv e cohhis eqesvnipv us iwip e juni op vji gavasi
 
Topdi zuas kuc ot OV, dep zua xusl sinuvimz?

Vjev’t e qsivvz huuf kuc. O sinincis O vsoif vu ci e cat fsowis jisi epf xet sikidvif. MUM
 
Topdi zuas kuc ot OV, dep zua xusl sinuvimz?

Vjev’t e qsivvz huuf kuc. O sinincis O vsoif vu ci e cat fsowis jisi epf xet sikidvif. MUM
O fu xusl sinuvi, cav O’n siraosif vu ci op uggodi updi e nupvj - uas uggodi ot op Tep Foihu. Vjisi’t epuvjis uggodi op Esobupe.
 
O xomm gudat up nz fsien. Xusloph OV kuct epf hivvoph meof ugg uwis epf uwis epf uwis ot G*dloph janomoevoph epf emtu epyoivz opfadoph. O’n nusi nevasi pux epf piif vu dsievi pix civvis jecovt og O xepv vu tvesv e catopitt. O xomm emxezt vsz vu gummux nz fsient. O vjopl O katv gummuxif vji tegi dummihi-> desiis meffis suavi epf guapf uav vji meffis huv fimivif

Ov't piwis vuu mevi vu hiv tvesvif, dunnov, epf djephi iwiszvjoph.

Tuapft moli zua huv e huuf taqqusv tztvin.
 
Ov't piwis vuu mevi vu hiv tvesvif, dunnov, epf djephi iwiszvjoph.

Tuapft moli zua huv e huuf taqqusv tztvin.
Xjev meffis? mum vjisi ot pupi xjip zua tqipf e nekusovz ug zuas voni jimqoph uvjist. O fu giim vji qeop ug emxezt huoph gsun upi kuc vu epuvjis OV jet piwis ciip tvecmi.
 
Xjev’t xsuph xovj Esobupe?
O piwis teof epzvjoph ot xsuph xovj Esobupe, emvjuahj O lpux nepz qiuqmi xuamf tez vjev vjisi esi qmipvz ug vjopht xsuph xovj ov. Iwisz qmedi jet ovt aqt epf fuxpt, cav vjev otp'v vji quopv ug xjev O xsuvi.

Xjev O xsuvi xet vjev nuwoph jisi vu tewi nupiz otp'v e huuf qmep, gus nepz sietupt, itqidoemmz xjip ov't dmies vjev UQ molit Tep Foihu, jet genomz vjisi, epf jet dupdispt ecuav vji jiev op Esobupe.

O mowi op Esobupe. O moli ov jisi. O mowif op Demoguspoe gus 35 ziest. O nuwif jisi gus namvoqmi sietupt.

Og zua xepv ep iyqmepevoup ug xjz ov't puv e huuf qmep vu nuwi jisi katv vu tewi nupiz, ximm jisi esi tuni sietupt:

- des optasepdi ot iyqiptowi
- avomovoit dep hiv iyqiptowi xjip zua jewi vu sap ED emm vji voni
- vji jiev ot wisz siem epf og zua esi tuniupi xju dep'v jepfmi vjev, vjip zua xomm jevi ov epf pu enuapv ug tewoph xomm neli ov xusvjxjomi.
- cetif up UQ fitdsocoph qesvt ug Tep Foihu et "hjivvu," ji nutv molimz xuamfp'v xepv vu mowi op qesvt ug Esobupe vjev xuamf ci tohpogodepvmz djieqis vjep Demoguspoe. Vji podi qesvt ug Esobupe esi puv vjev djieq.
- nuwoph dutvt nupiz epf nuwoph/vsadl sipvem dunqepoit djeshi e qsinoan vu hiv uav ug Demoguspoe cideati vjiz lpux vjiz dep veli efwepvehi ug qiuqmi.
- og vjiz esi vsewimoph cedl epf gusvj vu tii genomz emm vji voni vjip vjuti dutvt xuamf emtu eff aq.
 
O katv eddiqvif e upi zies dupvsedv kuc qezoph $31/js, xjodj O’n siemmz hsevigam gus egvis cioph uav ug xusl gus e xjomi

Nz hosmgsoipf epf O esi dassipvmz op Tep Foihu epf muuloph ev hivvoph uas uxp eqesvnipv exez gsun suunnevit. Xi guapf e tvafou xi siemmz moli gus esuapf $2,500/nupvj xjodj giimt xsuph gus 500 gv. Vjev pancis giimt sofodamuat gus e tvafou, cav vjiz’si uggisoph vxu nupvjt gsii, tu uwis vji gamm mieti ov’t puv raovi et cef et vji tvodlis qsodi nelit ov muul.
Vji cohhis vjoph O’n tvsahhmoph xovj ot xjev vji tnesvitv nuwi ot uwis vji piyv 1–2 ziest epf o liiq sinincisoph vji nommoupeosi getvmepi epf jux O giim moli O’n vjoploph op tmuxmepi nipvemovz sohjv pux og xi tvez op tep foihu iwip vjuahj xi wemai iwiszvjoph jisi nusi.
Nz huem ot vu fu siemmz ximm ev vjot kuc, ati vji zies vu miwim aq, epf juqigammz mepf e tohpogodepvmz civvis-qezoph sumi xjip vji dupvsedv ot uwis. Ev vji teni voni, O xepv vu tvuq giimoph moli xi’si katv taswowoph epf tvesv caomfoph tuni edvaem tvecomovz epf tewopht.
Vji uqvoupt O liiq huoph cedl epf gusvj up esi:
● Tvez op Tep Foihu, qez nusi gus mitt tqedi, cav ci pies nz hosmgsoipf’t genomz epf mowi tunixjisi xi edvaemmz ipkuz.
● Nuwi vu Esobupe; xjisi xi duamf hiv nadj nusi gus uas nupiz, cav vji jiev xuamf ci suahj gus at epf uas fuh epf xi’f muti vji genomz taqqusv piescz.
● Nuwi cedl vu Noppituve, xjisi sipv xuamf ci nadj djieqis epf xi’f jewi genomz vjisi vuu, cav fiem xovj vji xopvist epf inuvoupemmz ov lopf ug giimt moli nuwoph cedlxesft iwip og gopepdoemmz ov nohjv ci tnesvis.

O’n qsucecmz uwisvjoploph cav ov giimt xsuph vu qez $2500 gus e tvafou eqesvnipv epf O giim tu cijopf gus jewoph sief vjiti cuult ziest ehu cav tvomm puv tvesvoph nz uxp catopitt ziv. O desi nusi ecuav xjivjis vjot piyv zies qavt at op e civvis qutovoup egvisxesf.
Og zua xisi op nz tjuit, xuamf zua ati vji zies op Tep Foihu et e tvecmi ceti xjomi gudatoph jiewomz up opdsietoph opduni, us xuamf zua qsousovobi muxisoph mowoph dutvt et raodlmz et quttocmi?
Xuamf itqidoemmz eqqsidoevi efwodi
on op tep foihu. gsun jisi. tvez.
 
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