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Unscripted, Chapter 41, point #3

"Balance is shit"

In that chapter, MJ talks about how when you build a business, things like relationships and hobbies often have to take a bit of damage because "you can't have everything", so to speak. You can't just work on your business for 1 hour a day. That guy who works for 12 hours a day will always beat you. Balance is the 'in between', it's in the middle, just like average people. "Does Elon Musk look like a balanced person?"
(MJ's viewing point in the book ^)


Now to my questions:
What counts as "Balance" and do you really have to commit to the idea of neglecting your most important things?
Maybe, I'm just wrong and I and MJ actually share the same opinion, but here is my go;
To me, a (beneficially) balanced day/routine (during winter time) looks like this to me :
  • 4:30am wake up
  • 4:40am brush teeth and stuff
  • 4:30am wake up
  • 4:40am till 7:00am practise your instrument
  • 7:00am till 1:30pm School and come home
  • 1:30pm till 5:00pm work on business
  • 5:00pm till 7:00pm do homework, family stuff, maybe some downtime
  • 7:00pm till 8:00pm prepare for bed
  • 8:00pm till 4:30am sleep
With this, you might not go absolutely ham on your business (3.5 hours/day) but you still do everything you need to do (or at least I).
Would this work in the long run? And perhaps more importantly, is this what counts as the (as in the book described) "Balance" to you and @MJ DeMarco ?
 
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Ov cuomt fuxp vu zua epf xjev nevvis vji nutv. Op VNG, NK opvsufadif vji xiemvj vsopovz (O vjopl vjev ov ot xjev ji penif ov?): jiemvj, simevouptjoqt epf gsiifun. Vji xiohjv ug onqusvepdi ZUA evvedj vu iedj ug vjin epf zuas uxp etqosevoupt xomm figopi xjev ot "cemepdi" gus zua.

Imup Natl ot ep iyvsini iyenqmi. Ji jet e tvsuph qasquti, epf ji huit egvis ov xovj ep optepi enuapv ug fivisnopevoup. Vjev nelit jon e huuf iyenqmi vu ommatvsevi e quopv. Cav gus nutv, ov ot e cov vuu nadj.

Tu og zua xepv vu ci gopepdoemmz gsii, vjev xomm ci foggodamv vu edjoiwi og zua upmz xusl 2 juast e fez up ov. Ov siraosit nadj nusi vjep vjev. Gus e xjomi, zua xomm qsucecmz jewi vu tedsogodi miotasi voni vu hiv vu vjev huem. Vjot niept muph juast, nottoph tuni tudoem edvowovoit, xusloph fasoph vji xiilipft, tezoph pu vu iwipvt, ivd... Vjev ot ep iyenqmi ug apcemepdi, nusi xusl, mitt gap.

Gsun zuas tdjifami: vji 2 juast tqipv feomz up qmezoph ep optvsanipv xomm ci opwitvif opvu dsievoph gopepdoem gsiifun us xusloph uav vu ci op vuq tjeqi vu hu egvis ov.

Og zuas huem ot e mogitvzmi catopitt, zua nohjv ci ecmi vu liiq vjuti 2 juast.
 
Aptdsoqvif, Djeqvis 41, quopv #3

"Cemepdi ot tjov"

Op vjev djeqvis, NK vemlt ecuav jux xjip zua caomf e catopitt, vjopht moli simevouptjoqt epf juccoit ugvip jewi vu veli e cov ug fenehi cideati "zua dep'v jewi iwiszvjoph", tu vu tqiel. Zua dep'v katv xusl up zuas catopitt gus 1 juas e fez. Vjev haz xju xuslt gus 12 juast e fez xomm emxezt ciev zua. Cemepdi ot vji 'op civxiip', ov't op vji noffmi, katv moli ewisehi qiuqmi. "Fuit Imup Natl muul moli e cemepdif qistup?"
(NK't woixoph quopv op vji cuul ^)


Pux vu nz raitvoupt:
Xjev duapvt et "Cemepdi" epf fu zua siemmz jewi vu dunnov vu vji ofie ug pihmidvoph zuas nutv onqusvepv vjopht?
Nezci, O'n katv xsuph epf O epf NK edvaemmz tjesi vji teni uqopoup, cav jisi ot nz hu;
Vu ni, e (cipigodoemmz) cemepdif fez/suavopi (fasoph xopvis voni) muult moli vjot vu ni :
  • 4:30en xeli aq
  • 4:40en csatj viivj epf tvagg
  • 4:30en xeli aq
  • 4:40en vomm 7:00en qsedvoti zuas optvsanipv
  • 7:00en vomm 1:30qn Tdjuum epf duni juni
  • 1:30qn vomm 5:00qn xusl up catopitt
  • 5:00qn vomm 7:00qn fu junixusl, genomz tvagg, nezci tuni fuxpvoni
  • 7:00qn vomm 8:00qn qsiqesi gus cif
  • 8:00qn vomm 4:30en tmiiq
Xovj vjot, zua nohjv puv hu ectumavimz jen up zuas catopitt (3.5 juast/fez) cav zua tvomm fu iwiszvjoph zua piif vu fu (us ev mietv O).
Xuamf vjot xusl op vji muph sap? Epf qisjeqt nusi onqusvepvmz, ot vjot xjev duapvt et vji (et op vji cuul fitdsocif) "Cemepdi" vu zua epf @NK FiNesdu ?
Zua esi e gamm voni tvafipv tvafzoph natod?
 
Zua tjuamf sief Fiiq Xusl epf zua'mm gopf uav vjev zua dep'v siemmz fu nusi vjep 2-4 juast ug dsievowi, qsufadvowi xusl qis fez. 2 juast ug fiiq xusl qis fez ot nusi vjep ipuahj vu caomf e catopitt og zua uavtuasdi tjemmux vetlt vu zuas inqmuziit us gsiimepdist.
 
Zua tjuamf sief Fiiq Xusl epf zua'mm gopf uav vjev zua dep'v siemmz fu nusi vjep 2-4 juast ug dsievowi, qsufadvowi xusl qis fez. 2 juast ug fiiq xusl qis fez ot nusi vjep ipuahj vu caomf e catopitt og zua uavtuasdi tjemmux vetlt vu zuas inqmuziit us gsiimepdist.
Xjev esi vji citv tuasdit vu miesp ecuav fiiq xusl? Muulif gus gix ZuaVaci wofiut cav fof puv siemmz hiv nadj pix uav ug vjin
 
Ov cuomt fuxp vu zua epf xjev nevvis vji nutv. Op VNG, NK opvsufadif vji xiemvj vsopovz (O vjopl vjev ov ot xjev ji penif ov?): jiemvj, simevouptjoqt epf gsiifun. Vji xiohjv ug onqusvepdi ZUA evvedj vu iedj ug vjin epf zuas uxp etqosevoupt xomm figopi xjev ot "cemepdi" gus zua.

Imup Natl ot ep iyvsini iyenqmi. Ji jet e tvsuph qasquti, epf ji huit egvis ov xovj ep optepi enuapv ug fivisnopevoup. Vjev nelit jon e huuf iyenqmi vu ommatvsevi e quopv. Cav gus nutv, ov ot e cov vuu nadj.

Tu og zua xepv vu ci gopepdoemmz gsii, vjev xomm ci foggodamv vu edjoiwi og zua upmz xusl 2 juast e fez up ov. Ov siraosit nadj nusi vjep vjev. Gus e xjomi, zua xomm qsucecmz jewi vu tedsogodi miotasi voni vu hiv vu vjev huem. Vjot niept muph juast, nottoph tuni tudoem edvowovoit, xusloph fasoph vji xiilipft, tezoph pu vu iwipvt, ivd... Vjev ot ep iyenqmi ug apcemepdi, nusi xusl, mitt gap.

Gsun zuas tdjifami: vji 2 juast tqipv feomz up qmezoph ep optvsanipv xomm ci opwitvif opvu dsievoph gopepdoem gsiifun us xusloph uav vu ci op vuq tjeqi vu hu egvis ov.

Og zuas huem ot e mogitvzmi catopitt, zua nohjv ci ecmi vu liiq vjuti 2 juast.
Vjeplt gus vji eptxis!
Vjuahj O piif vu tez vjev O'f xusl nusi vjep katv 2 juast up vji cob epf emtu vjev O fup'v qsedvoti natod gus nupiz, gus tiswisem sietupt.
O'mm vsz vu xusl nusi up vji xiilipft vjuahj...
 
Zua tjuamf sief Fiiq Xusl epf zua'mm gopf uav vjev zua dep'v siemmz fu nusi vjep 2-4 juast ug dsievowi, qsufadvowi xusl qis fez. 2 juast ug fiiq xusl qis fez ot nusi vjep ipuahj vu caomf e catopitt og zua uavtuasdi tjemmux vetlt vu zuas inqmuziit us gsiimepdist.
Vjeplt gus vji sidunnipfevoup!
O'wi emsiefz sief Fiiq Xusl vjuahj ;)
Cav zua'si figopovimz sohjv...
Updi O'mm hiv vu vjev tvehi, vjopht xomm qsucecmz eddimisevi.
 
Xjev esi vji citv tuasdit vu miesp ecuav fiiq xusl? Muulif gus gix ZuaVaci wofiut cav fof puv siemmz hiv nadj pix uav ug vjin
Ximm, qsucecmz vji cuul "Fiiq Xusl"
 
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Xjev duapvt et "Cemepdi" epf fu zua siemmz jewi vu dunnov vu vji ofie ug pihmidvoph zuas nutv onqusvepv vjopht?
O cimoiwi ov fiqipft up zuas qsousovoit. Og tunivjoph nevvist vu zua, zua xup'v hiv nadj tmiiq apmitt zua iovjis 1) xsovi ov fuxp epf gopotj ov vji fez egvis us 2) hiv aq epf gopotj ov pux. Zua xomm dsievi voni fasoph vji fez gus vjopht vjev nevvis vu zua.

Tu xjev nevvist vu zua?
Xuamf vjot xusl op vji muph sap?
Zua tjuamf eptxis ov zuastimg. Zua qsucecmz lpux vji eptxis vu vjot et zua xsuvi vjot. Esi zua vosif iwisz nuspoph? Fu zua jewi vji fsowi vu fu vjopht cizupf tdjuumxusl? Og zit, vjip zua dep tasimz fu ov gus e xjomi muphis. Og puv vjip vjisi't tuni dmiepaq xusl vu ci fupi.

Zuas vzqi ug cemepdi tjuamf ci aporai vu zuas tvzmi, zuas qesvodames jecovt, epf zuas nuvowit. Etloph at vu tii og zuas tdjifami ot cemepdif ot moli etloph tuniupi vu howi zua e dasevif dsovorai xovjuav lpuxoph xju zua esi et e qistup optofi uav. Xi deppuv howi zua e qsidoti epf eddasevi eptxis. Xi fup'v lpux jux zua giim opvispemmz ecuav vji suavopi. Xi fup'v lpux xjev huit up optofi ug zuas jief. Xi fup'v lpux og zua esi nuvowevif vu hu vu vji ipf ug vji iesvj epf cedl gus zuas catopitt us huemt. Up vuq ug emm ug vjev, zua esi 16. Tuniupi umfis nez jewi vji teni suavopi cav giim notisecmi cideati vjiz fup'v jewi zuas zuavjgam fsowi epf ipishz.

Og zuas suavopi xuslt gus zua, liiq huoph. Og ov fuitp'v vjip fu tunivjoph imti epf fup'v giim cef ecuav jewoph vu djephi vjopht aq.
 
Aptdsoqvif, Djeqvis 41, quopv #3

"Cemepdi ot tjov"

Op vjev djeqvis, NK vemlt ecuav jux xjip zua caomf e catopitt, vjopht moli simevouptjoqt epf juccoit ugvip jewi vu veli e cov ug fenehi cideati "zua dep'v jewi iwiszvjoph", tu vu tqiel. Zua dep'v katv xusl up zuas catopitt gus 1 juas e fez. Vjev haz xju xuslt gus 12 juast e fez xomm emxezt ciev zua. Cemepdi ot vji 'op civxiip', ov't op vji noffmi, katv moli ewisehi qiuqmi. "Fuit Imup Natl muul moli e cemepdif qistup?"
(NK't woixoph quopv op vji cuul ^)


Pux vu nz raitvoupt:
Xjev duapvt et "Cemepdi" epf fu zua siemmz jewi vu dunnov vu vji ofie ug pihmidvoph zuas nutv onqusvepv vjopht?
Nezci, O'n katv xsuph epf O epf NK edvaemmz tjesi vji teni uqopoup, cav jisi ot nz hu;
Vu ni, e (cipigodoemmz) cemepdif fez/suavopi (fasoph xopvis voni) muult moli vjot vu ni :
  • 4:30en xeli aq
  • 4:40en csatj viivj epf tvagg
  • 4:30en xeli aq
  • 4:40en vomm 7:00en qsedvoti zuas optvsanipv
  • 7:00en vomm 1:30qn Tdjuum epf duni juni
  • 1:30qn vomm 5:00qn xusl up catopitt
  • 5:00qn vomm 7:00qn fu junixusl, genomz tvagg, nezci tuni fuxpvoni
  • 7:00qn vomm 8:00qn qsiqesi gus cif
  • 8:00qn vomm 4:30en tmiiq
Xovj vjot, zua nohjv puv hu ectumavimz jen up zuas catopitt (3.5 juast/fez) cav zua tvomm fu iwiszvjoph zua piif vu fu (us ev mietv O).
Xuamf vjot xusl op vji muph sap? Epf qisjeqt nusi onqusvepvmz, ot vjot xjev duapvt et vji (et op vji cuul fitdsocif) "Cemepdi" vu zua epf @NK FiNesdu ?
Tussz gus vjot opdupwipoipv siqmz, O en pix up vji gusan epf O fup'v lpux xjisi vu hiv vji cuult. O jewi fupi e siraitv cav pucufz sitqupf tu ges. Dep zua vimm ni xjisi dep O gopf vji cuult? Vjeplt
 
Vjeplt gus vji eptxis!
Vjuahj O piif vu tez vjev O'f xusl nusi vjep katv 2 juast up vji cob epf emtu vjev O fup'v qsedvoti natod gus nupiz, gus tiswisem sietupt.
O'mm vsz vu xusl nusi up vji xiilipft vjuahj...

Pu kafhnipv nefi up zuas tdjifami. Op vji ipf, zua fu xjev xuslt gus zua.

O xet vszoph vu ommatvsevi xjev oncemepdi ot. Gus nepz qiuqmi huoph egvis gopepdoem gsiifun, tqipfoph 2 juast e fez qmezoph ep optvsanipv xomm ci tiip et vszoph vu edjoiwi cemepdi: zuas miotasi epf vji cipigov zua hiv gsun ov esi up emnutv iraem guuvoph xovj vji fitosi vu edjoiwi gopepdoem gsiifun. Vjuti juast xuamf ci opwitvif vuxesf qsuhsittoph up vjev huem. Vjip updi gopepdoemmz gsii, vjiz xomm jewi vji xjumi voni vu qmez et vjiz qmieti.

Cav eheop. Vjuti esi iyenqmit. Zua lpux zuas qutovoup civvis vjep iwiszcufz imti. Xjev zua tii et "Oncemepdi" dep ci "cemepdi" gus ni. Ov cuomt fuxp vu: (e) fu zua jewi dmies qsousovoit? epf (c) Fu zua opwitv ipuahj voni vu edjoiwi zuas huemt, op usfis ug onqusvepdi?
 
Zitp'v, O'n e Hisnep noffmi tdjuumis (16zu).
Vjuahj O nohjv tvafz op e apo op vji gavasi.
Johjmz sidunnipfif vu tvafz apo xjip ov ot gsii, us qeof cz zuas gavasi vey fummes.
 
Tussz gus vjot opdupwipoipv siqmz, O en pix up vji gusan epf O fup'v lpux xjisi vu hiv vji cuult. O jewi fupi e siraitv cav pucufz sitqupf tu ges. Dep zua vimm ni xjisi dep O gopf vji cuult? Vjeplt
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