Where can I meet NT types: NTJs/NTPs, with fastlane mindset? (Also, say hello if you're one!)

[bRiddhesh]

Hey!
Since the past year, I've met many people.
I put effort into making friends.
(I say put effort, as I've an inclination to do my own thing. In other words, be a caveman).
This did improve my social skills. But I am still dissatisfied.

Most of the people don't share the same interests as I do (Meditation, Philosophy, Reading, Nutrition, Polyphasic Sleep, etc).
Worst of all, we don't share similar mindsets (Fastlane).
This leads to a good first few weeks/ months - then I grow bored as I'm aware their life likely hasn't changed by much. They're in a state of comfortable discomfort.
I don't want to blame them, but I find that rubbing off on me.
I quit social media many years back, so I don't interact with anyone other than them.

I think meeting NTs might help. As we share the pragmatic outlook towards life (MJ being an ENTJ is a living proof).
But I never come across them in person.
And I think the bigger issue is not surrounding myself with fast lane minded people
I don't know why I never thought of creating an account here.
I might have wasted time, but here I am!

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Q. If you're an NT type- where I can meet people like you? If you don't know about MBTI, this test is a good start..
And of course, say hello! I'd love us to stay in touch!
I'm an INTJ, so I mix well with NTPs. But if you are an NTJ, maybe we can call ourselves on our BS perfectionist tendencies.

OFC, other types can chime in too. This NT question has been lingering in my mind for quite a while- so that's what I chose to ask.
(Apologies if this in the wrong section. I want to know the answer to the question ,more than my self-intro, so I put it in 'Networking' section)

 

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[DougRMR]

Sup, fellow NT. Lemme tell you, as an INTP, it is nearly impossible to find somebody in your same wavelength. I can make friends and I have some pretty close friends but in 26 years of meeting tons and tons of people, only a handful of them "got" me.

However, I would say artistic fields are a good place you might find NTs, ironically. The few that I've met that I think are NTs have been musicians and like to read. So maybe book clubs or dudes that are into philosophy or something like that. However, being NT and fastlane aren't mutually exclusive.

And I think the bigger issue is not surrounding myself with fast lane minded people

This could be an issue for sure but, imo, that is rare in itself whether they're NTs or not. Even dudes who want to start businesses or who have started business usually have a myopic, win/lose view of the market. The few times I met dudes that had business and were driven, usually view you as another potential employee to add into their machine rather than wanting to actually network. You're much better off looking for people online and then maybe meeting up in person because it's faster for you to qualify whether they're fastlane-minded or not.

Keep in mind I'm not in the circles of actual winners that have had fastlane success, except only one I met who became a web design client. And this dude was definitely not NT, at least I think. Either way, one should always network. I've had successes just by simply talking to the right person at the right time, even if they weren't "fastlane".

That being said, I will always love talking to a fellow NT. We could definitely chat and see what's up

 

[Been Machine]

Most of the people don't share the same interests as I do (Meditation, Philosophy, Reading, Nutrition, Polyphasic Sleep, etc).

Off topic but Wtf is polyphasic sleep and how do you do it?

 

[Jerma]

Idk it feels like it shouldn't be too hard for you to find someone with NT personality type.

Looking at some statistics: the NT types add up to 10% of the population.. So 1 in 10.

The problem is probably more about the lack of shared interests.

I'm INFJ, and I do feel a little alienated from most people and I don't meet people like me anywhere.. but I also suspect that I probably put too much stock in those labels

 

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[ValueSystems]

Hola I'm an INTP.
And as you've probably guessed yourself, you can't network much with these types because we're not the type to like networking.

Fellow INTP engineer/philosopher-types will much prefer to solve complex problems in isolation I believe than mingle and try to prove their worth to people they don't judge as... shall we say... "interesting".

I personally gave up on the idea of being fully "understood" by people and hanging with truly like-minded people, as it's statistically super unlikely. Always open to anomalies, tho.

I found some interesting people, but as you said, not fastlane enough for me. Too "matrixed".

That being said. I do share your interest, stranger on the internet!
So let's talk!

 

[splok]

Q. If you're an NT type- where I can meet people like you?

You meet NTs online of course! Any forum/community where people min/max things or problem-solve. Selecting for a fastlane-mindset slices a small pie even smaller though. I wouldn't expect the % of fastline-minded NTPs to be very high. NTJs probably fare a bit better.

 

[c23r]

Almost a decade ago a friend of mine said he thinks I am an INTJ. In the following months I researched the MBTI, and made a few tests, which confirmed it.

You meet NTs online of course!

Sad but true. Unless somebody wears a T-Shirt with his/her MBTI on it.

 

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[NeoDialectic]

I understand what you are saying, but I totally disagree with your conclusion. Most people aren't extreme enough on any of the personality scales that personality type should impede friendships with them.

It just sounds like you need close friends and friends with similar interests. I have plenty of friends that "get me" that are not like me. This would likely be more a factor of their social ability to understand others and how close you have gotten with them. I also have friends that are not my "personality type" but I thoroughly enjoy debating and talking philosophy/politics with them. Again, this will have more to do with their interests than their "personality type". There is no better person to hone my arguments with than the person that approaches situations in a completely different manner. Otherwise it's just a big circle jerk where everyone walks away substantiating their own false biases.

The real problem here is that you are probably not super social (so it doesn't just come naturally to you) and likely that you aren't willing to put in the real work required to build relationships with people. This also means that the people you do meet and start talking to are likely in similar boats as you (but maybe with different interests) and you are seeing in real time what it's like interacting with less sociable people.

On the other hand, all I'm working off is one small post that you just wrote. So I could be completely off base!

 

[DougRMR]

Hola I'm an INTP.

Hey!

Looks like you found two NTs here, OP. I'm down to chat and talk

 

[starttoday123]

Idk it feels like it shouldn't be too hard for you to find someone with NT personality type.

Looking at some statistics: the NT types add up to 10% of the population.. So 1 in 10.

The problem is probably more about the lack of shared interests.

I'm INFJ, and I do feel a little alienated from most people and I don't meet people like me anywhere.. but I also suspect that I probably put too much stock in those labels

Im an INFJ too! INFJ literature has helped me improve myself so much over the years. But I’ve tried to lean more towards T for better productivity and I’m now more of an INTJ someone said recently. And yes I have to not take it too seriously too.

Bumble BFF has been great for me and is very popular where I live in the US. You see someone’s interests and even personality type before making friends with them on the app, so you can literally ask people their kiersey type when you chat and see if they’re NT! Don’t give up though that’s the most important part

 

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[smtlaissezfaire]

Would love to connect. I'm an INTP (although I've typed myself as INTJ or even ENTP before).

Would anyone want to do a zoom?

 

[ValueSystems]

Would love to connect. I'm an INTP (although I've typed myself as INTJ or even ENTP before).

Would anyone want to do a zoom?

Man you must be an ENTP then if you propose a zoom haha

I'm also an INTP and sometimes I guess leaning on the ENTP side.

Would love to connect with all of you guys anyway, and preferably via text lol.
Maybe something like discord?

I feel like our types talking together just end up debating ideas and not being productive haha not sure how it would end up.

 

[Cojo]

Hey!
Since the past year, I've met many people.
I put effort into making friends.
(I say put effort, as I've an inclination to do my own thing. In other words, be a caveman).
This did improve my social skills. But I am still dissatisfied.

Most of the people don't share the same interests as I do (Meditation, Philosophy, Reading, Nutrition, Polyphasic Sleep, etc).
Worst of all, we don't share similar mindsets (Fastlane).
This leads to a good first few weeks/ months - then I grow bored as I'm aware their life likely hasn't changed by much. They're in a state of comfortable discomfort.
I don't want to blame them, but I find that rubbing off on me.
I quit social media many years back, so I don't interact with anyone other than them.

I think meeting NTs might help. As we share the pragmatic outlook towards life (MJ being an ENTJ is a living proof).
But I never come across them in person.
And I think the bigger issue is not surrounding myself with fast lane minded people
I don't know why I never thought of creating an account here.
I might have wasted time, but here I am!

-------
Q. If you're an NT type- where I can meet people like you? If you don't know about MBTI, this test is a good start..
And of course, say hello! I'd love us to stay in touch!
I'm an INTJ, so I mix well with NTPs. But if you are an NTJ, maybe we can call ourselves on our BS perfectionist tendencies.

OFC, other types can chime in too. This NT question has been lingering in my mind for quite a while- so that's what I chose to ask.
(Apologies if this in the wrong section. I want to know the answer to the question ,more than my self-intro, so I put it in 'Networking' section)

Damn, it has been sometime since I looked up mbti. I'm an entp

 

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