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Hi everyone,
This is probably gonna be a long post.
I am hoping for any advice from people...any thoughts, opinions or whatever will be greatly appreciated.
I don't talk to those close to me because they have their own crap to deal with, and truth is...I never feel right opening up to them.
Anyway, it has been a looooong time since I last wrote a post here or even got involved in any discussions.
I was hard at work trying to change things for the better...and it worked...for a while.
I was going to come back with a new post detailing my struggles to achieving some of my goals and how I am going to do even better the next year.
Of course, life had other plans for me and this year I discovered what they were.
You see right now, I am at a standstill...my brain does not seem to want to get past this block.
We all have blocks and we all find ways around them...eventually.
I have had mind blocks too, but this one is different...this one also has me at a loss of enthusiasm and a lack of belief that I will even get close to my previous goals.
Sounds like I am feeling sorry for myself, but deep inside I understand only I can get me out of this feeling of..."nothingness?" I don't want to wallow around in an "Oh poor little me" state...because I know there are others who have to deal with much worse.
The thing is...I can usually pull myself through and I think one of the main reasons for that is my ability to persevere and my stubborn need to fight and realize my goals. However, this time....I feel empty...like a part of me doesn't care.
I know, this is all sounding a little mixed up but let me explain what I think the build up to this is.
Early this year my dad had a second stroke. He was in the intensive care unit for around 2 weeks and his Huntington's Disease really took hold. He went from able to walk around and have basic conversation to pretty much being bedridden.
He is at home where my elderly mum does her best to take care of him. I visit three times a week to lift him off the bed and take him out on the wheelchair, clean the bed and do the heavy lifting stuff my mum cannot do.
Anyway, during his time in hospital I got caught up in the recent Cryptocurrency crash and lost thousands of dollars of my investments. That was another big kick in the nuts after watching my dad almost die in hospital.
Taking care of my dad part-time is something I have had to adapt to...however, my online business has suffered. Last year I did really well publishing print books and was on my way to doubling each months earnings this year. If things carried on as they were in 2017 then I would be set to get a really good full-time online business that would need very little maintenance.
Unfortunately, just a month after my dad in hospital and my loss of thousands of dollars I discovered that Amazon had changed something in their algorithm which dropped my books from the rankings.
I lost 50% earnings each month from then on.
Contacted Amazon...and their reply is the usual crap.
So there is another kick in the nuts for me!
At this point, around March of this year, I am beginning to feel it mentally.
The sadness of seeing my dad in such a state where others need to feed him and change him, etc. My dreams of trying to build my business and save up for a home getting stamped on with one loss of earnings after another.
It all happened too fast and I lost touch.
This whole year I have barely done any "real" work on my business. All I can think about is how to take care of my dad and make things as comfortable for him as I can.
On the days that I am not looking after him I just sit in front of my computer never really getting any work done...not creating any new books or doing anything positive really.
I'm just numb.
If it wasn't for the fact that my book biz is mostly passive I would never have made any money. If I had a regular job I would have been fired for sure.
I still get monthly payments from all my books but not as much as I would have been earning if Amazon had not made any changes.
The next kick in the nuts is that I discovered that my sister and I also have the Huntington's Disease gene. The tests are pretty sure we will get full Huntington's at some point from now forward.
We are lucky, it will hit us late in our lives because I am in my late 40's now.
It took hold of my dad when he was in his 60's.
So yeh....I have some time before the shit hits the fan.....but something in me has changed.
With all the crap that has happened this year...my enthusiasm has really disappeared.
When I work I feel better because I can focus on a goal but with all this recent stuff...it is like part of me is saying, "What the hell is the point....every time you start doing well something comes along and craps all over it".
Another part of me says, "Just have another go...keep trying...you will reach your goal".
Unfortunately, the later voice is not as powerful as it used to be.
Now watching my dad deteriorate I know this will be me and my sister sometime in the future. Bedridden with someone feeding me and wiping my a$$......IF I have enough savings to pay for care, (I am not married or have kids).
So there you have it.....I am in some kind of mind block.
If I am going to be immobile in 15 years what the heck am I going to do? Do I take what savings I have now , (they are not even $50,000), and just blow it traveling the world? There will be no security for me there.
Just go on adventures and to hell with the disease?!
Do I put my savings down as a big deposit for a house for myself and just try to carry on working and living a life as normal...be responsible and prepare for the future?
I'm stuck...confused and cannot focus on even the smallest of steps to take forward because i do not know what that step should be!
I know one of the reasons I am having a hard time creating new goals for next year is because I just could not leave my dad as he is now. I don't feel as though I give a crap about myself anymore.
I let myself go....unhealthy...got very fat...unhappy and generally angry and bitter a lot of the time.
These are all bad for me and those around me. I don't date or socialize....I just "stay away".
All things I can fix myself....I have done it before....however the enthusiasm...the "purpose" is not there this time. I have lost my direction.
I don't know....
If any of you made it to the last few lines here I apologize if this all sounds whiny and weak.
I really don't know what I hoped to achieve from this.
I guess I just wanted to share with those who I know have seen much worse than me and that understand that sometimes you gotta let it out.
I am kinda stuck guys.
I don't need much.....advice...thoughts...opinions...a little nudge...a point in the right direction...anything that will break me free of this so as I can get off my a$$ and fight again to build up a business and improve on my health and life in general.
Anyway, I better go and see if i can do something for today.
Thank you for reading, (listening).
Andy
This is probably gonna be a long post.
I am hoping for any advice from people...any thoughts, opinions or whatever will be greatly appreciated.
I don't talk to those close to me because they have their own crap to deal with, and truth is...I never feel right opening up to them.
Anyway, it has been a looooong time since I last wrote a post here or even got involved in any discussions.
I was hard at work trying to change things for the better...and it worked...for a while.
I was going to come back with a new post detailing my struggles to achieving some of my goals and how I am going to do even better the next year.
Of course, life had other plans for me and this year I discovered what they were.
You see right now, I am at a standstill...my brain does not seem to want to get past this block.
We all have blocks and we all find ways around them...eventually.
I have had mind blocks too, but this one is different...this one also has me at a loss of enthusiasm and a lack of belief that I will even get close to my previous goals.
Sounds like I am feeling sorry for myself, but deep inside I understand only I can get me out of this feeling of..."nothingness?" I don't want to wallow around in an "Oh poor little me" state...because I know there are others who have to deal with much worse.
The thing is...I can usually pull myself through and I think one of the main reasons for that is my ability to persevere and my stubborn need to fight and realize my goals. However, this time....I feel empty...like a part of me doesn't care.
I know, this is all sounding a little mixed up but let me explain what I think the build up to this is.
Early this year my dad had a second stroke. He was in the intensive care unit for around 2 weeks and his Huntington's Disease really took hold. He went from able to walk around and have basic conversation to pretty much being bedridden.
He is at home where my elderly mum does her best to take care of him. I visit three times a week to lift him off the bed and take him out on the wheelchair, clean the bed and do the heavy lifting stuff my mum cannot do.
Anyway, during his time in hospital I got caught up in the recent Cryptocurrency crash and lost thousands of dollars of my investments. That was another big kick in the nuts after watching my dad almost die in hospital.
Taking care of my dad part-time is something I have had to adapt to...however, my online business has suffered. Last year I did really well publishing print books and was on my way to doubling each months earnings this year. If things carried on as they were in 2017 then I would be set to get a really good full-time online business that would need very little maintenance.
Unfortunately, just a month after my dad in hospital and my loss of thousands of dollars I discovered that Amazon had changed something in their algorithm which dropped my books from the rankings.
I lost 50% earnings each month from then on.
Contacted Amazon...and their reply is the usual crap.
So there is another kick in the nuts for me!
At this point, around March of this year, I am beginning to feel it mentally.
The sadness of seeing my dad in such a state where others need to feed him and change him, etc. My dreams of trying to build my business and save up for a home getting stamped on with one loss of earnings after another.
It all happened too fast and I lost touch.
This whole year I have barely done any "real" work on my business. All I can think about is how to take care of my dad and make things as comfortable for him as I can.
On the days that I am not looking after him I just sit in front of my computer never really getting any work done...not creating any new books or doing anything positive really.
I'm just numb.
If it wasn't for the fact that my book biz is mostly passive I would never have made any money. If I had a regular job I would have been fired for sure.
I still get monthly payments from all my books but not as much as I would have been earning if Amazon had not made any changes.
The next kick in the nuts is that I discovered that my sister and I also have the Huntington's Disease gene. The tests are pretty sure we will get full Huntington's at some point from now forward.
We are lucky, it will hit us late in our lives because I am in my late 40's now.
It took hold of my dad when he was in his 60's.
So yeh....I have some time before the shit hits the fan.....but something in me has changed.
With all the crap that has happened this year...my enthusiasm has really disappeared.
When I work I feel better because I can focus on a goal but with all this recent stuff...it is like part of me is saying, "What the hell is the point....every time you start doing well something comes along and craps all over it".
Another part of me says, "Just have another go...keep trying...you will reach your goal".
Unfortunately, the later voice is not as powerful as it used to be.
Now watching my dad deteriorate I know this will be me and my sister sometime in the future. Bedridden with someone feeding me and wiping my a$$......IF I have enough savings to pay for care, (I am not married or have kids).
So there you have it.....I am in some kind of mind block.
If I am going to be immobile in 15 years what the heck am I going to do? Do I take what savings I have now , (they are not even $50,000), and just blow it traveling the world? There will be no security for me there.
Just go on adventures and to hell with the disease?!
Do I put my savings down as a big deposit for a house for myself and just try to carry on working and living a life as normal...be responsible and prepare for the future?
I'm stuck...confused and cannot focus on even the smallest of steps to take forward because i do not know what that step should be!
I know one of the reasons I am having a hard time creating new goals for next year is because I just could not leave my dad as he is now. I don't feel as though I give a crap about myself anymore.
I let myself go....unhealthy...got very fat...unhappy and generally angry and bitter a lot of the time.
These are all bad for me and those around me. I don't date or socialize....I just "stay away".
All things I can fix myself....I have done it before....however the enthusiasm...the "purpose" is not there this time. I have lost my direction.
I don't know....
If any of you made it to the last few lines here I apologize if this all sounds whiny and weak.
I really don't know what I hoped to achieve from this.
I guess I just wanted to share with those who I know have seen much worse than me and that understand that sometimes you gotta let it out.
I am kinda stuck guys.
I don't need much.....advice...thoughts...opinions...a little nudge...a point in the right direction...anything that will break me free of this so as I can get off my a$$ and fight again to build up a business and improve on my health and life in general.
Anyway, I better go and see if i can do something for today.
Thank you for reading, (listening).
Andy
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