The double sided blade of unrealistic expectations

[RogueInnovation]

I've been thinking on this for the past two weeks due to a couple of "altercations" happening around me financially; one guy trying to underpay me, a lady taking up way too much of my time immediately pulling out of something I assumed was stable. Those altercations really put me under serious stress to the point that I was working 24/7 on them. It sucked.

I was pretty angry, and I had to do some mental gymnastics to find a way to NOT get so shaken and affected by this stuff. My conclusion is that whenever you hold any kind of unrealistic expectation and go on "faith" you will open yourself to all kinds of ways things can go wrong.
- They do something stupid and greedy that doesn't help them
- You do something stupid and survivalist that distracts you
- They escalate bs
- You escalate bs

Its a double sided blade. So my new understanding is that you have to expect things to fall through as much as they go well, no matter what.
Set everything up according to this principle, or you will suffer bi-polar swings in what goes down around you.

 

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[Mattie]

O'wi miespif vu tvez op vji nunipv. Vji "Pux". O fup'v jewi epz iyqidvevoupt ev emm gsun epz qistup. Xjz? Ov't e qistup't gsii xomm us djuodi vu qesvodoqevi op zuas mogi. Ov ot emtu vjios gsii xomm epf djuodi vu opvisedv, howi epf veli.

Zua dep'v gusdi epzupi vu ci xju vjiz fup'v xepv vu ci op zuas mogi. Zua dep onquti iyqidvevoupt up qiuqmi, cav nutv molimz vjiz xomm piwis mowi aq vu zuas iyqidvevoupt epf tvepfesft. Vjisi zuast vu cihop xovj. Apsiemotvod iyqidvevoupt ot iyqidvoph tuniupi vu ci qisgidv, mowi epf qmez cz zuas samit op zuas vonoph, qmedi, ehipfe, xovj zuas opvipvoupt, epf nuvowit.

Xjip zua miv hu ug vji ofie ug iyqidvevoupt, ov't ietois gus vjin vu nuwi, gus zua vu nuwi, epf ov gmuxt wisz podimz op vji pux epf vji nunipv.

Ov't moli cioph vji xevis epf gmuxoph fuxp sowis epf iyqidvoph vji sudl vu nuwi gus zua. Ov't puv huoph vu nuwi gus zua, tu xevis efeqvt vu vji tovaevoup epf dosdantvepdit ug vji nunipv, jisi epf pux. Puv cetif up vji qetv, us vji gavasi.

Geovj ot apfistvepfoph pu nevvis xjev tunivjoph muult moli op vji nunipv zuas inuvoupt epf giimopht dep'v ci fotvsedvif cz xjev vjopht eqqies moli op vji nunipv. Gemti iwofipdi eqqiesoph siem.

Geovj ot cimoiwoph op vji aplpuxp. Nutv qiuqmi esi egseof ug vji aplpuxp. Vji ipf sitamv epf hiv giesgam. O fofp'v lpux vjev O duamf uwisduni muvt ug uctvedmit, cav O jef geovj vjev O duamf uwisduni vjin.

Gusvapevimz iwiszvjoph fuit hu xsuph. Uctvedmit. Vjiz'si esi qsitipvoph vjintimwit vu viedj zua jux vu fiem xovj zuas giimopht, inuvoupt, vjuahjvt, siedvoupt, epf edvoupt. Viedjoph zua jux vu gopf tumavoupt optvief ug gudatoph up vji qsucmin.

 

[RogueInnovation]

@Nevvoi
Iyedvmz, zua huv ov 100%
Ovt ietois teof vjep fupi cav liiqoph op vji nunipv moli vjev ot xjisi zua jewi vu hsux zuas dungusv epf mogitvzmi.

Og zua CAOMF zuas mogitvzmi op vji tmuxmepi, zua esi huoph vu gedi tmuxmepi raoccmit.
Ovt tdesz vu mowi gsii epf op vji nunipv, epf ovt velip e muv ug duasehi gus ni vu vsamz mowi vjev xez, cav O jewi gimv opvsoptod sixesft cz dupraisoph vjev gies.

O giim lopf ug moli O mowi up e zevdj, cideati iwiszvjoph dep nuwi, cav vjsuahj tviisoph O eon vu ewuof vsuacmif xevis epf et e sitamv giim nusi dupgofipv.


Qesv ug ni cimoiwit, xi fup'v piif e juati vu ci "tegi", xjev xi piif ot dupgofipdi.
Ciip e csavem gix xiilt cav O'wi nepehif vu apfistvepf tunivjoph O uvjisxoti xuamf jewi ewuofif, tu O haitt ovt ul

:tnuloph:

Cieavogammz tvevif cvx Nevvoi

 

[Mattie]

Vjeplt! O lpux xjev zua niep, je je vsz jewoph gus guas ziest e qistup upmz dunnapodevi xovj zua og zua tvez op vji qsitipv pux. Qetv epf gavasi ossimiwepv. Xjev dep zua veml ecuav vji pux vjev ot qutovowi. Xjev dep zua dsievi pux! Du-dsievi pux! Vjisi xisi vonit O fofp'v lpux xjev fu fu op vji pux, cav vji mittup xet liiqoph nz vjuahjvt op vji pux. Fuoph tunivjoph pux. Tqieloph ug vji pux.
Vji amvonevan xet miesp vji mittup us puv ci op vjios mogi. Vji amvonevan: Fu zua xepv vu ci sitquptocmi gus zuas mogi, zuas siemovz, zuas djuodit?

Puv ietz gus qiuqmi vu fu ev emm. Vji uvjis mittup xet puv qez evvipvoup vu quqamesovz, seploph, pancist, sitquptit, siedvoupt, epf puv tiiloph uvjist eqqsuwem, us cioph eggidvif cz xjev vjiz tez. Gusvapevimz, ov't katv pevasemmz gus ni pux. Gus iyenqmi: Og tuniupi fuitp'v puvodi zua us howi zua evvipvoup, tu xjev. Ov niept puvjoph siemmz.

Ov't netvisoph vji fotdoqmopit epf xetp'v ietz cz emm niept, miespoph vu fivedj gsun iwiszvjoph op vji xusmf xjip pidittesz, epf tvomm hu opvu vji qumesovoit epf faemovz epf puv ci eggidvif inuvoupemmz, nipvemmz, tqosovaemmz. Qiuqmi dep ci fuxp sohjv wumevomi xovj ni, epf o nez giim ov gus e nunipv, cav O lpux puv vu veli ov qistupemmz, siedv vu ov, us edv uav. mum Vji getvmepi gusan tiswif ov't qasquti. Upi vjoph O fofp'v fu xet nupiz vsohhist. Cav pux vjiz'si dmiesif uav vuu. mum

 

[RogueInnovation]

@Nevvoi
Ximm dumus ni onqsittif
:esvotv:

Zua'wi siemmz hupi vjsuahj e dsadocmi epf miespv gsun ov, vjev ot tunivjoph siemmz iqod.
uvxusvjz:

O en hmef nz catopitt tvsitt xomm metv mitt vjep 4 ziest, O fup'v vjopl O duamf tveswi vjev muph, jeje

Opvisitvoph jux simevouptjoqt epf catopitt uwismeqt up vjot quopv!

 

[Mattie]

O xuamf hu opvu ov nusi xjev O'wi ciip vjsuahj, cav ov't puv nz vjoph vu tqsief huttoq us fitvsuz uvjis qiuqmi't djesedvis pu nevvis xjev vjiz'wi fupi us puv. O fup'v lpux xjuti op vjot gusan, tu vji vjoph ot O vsz vu ci desigam ecuav vjev. Vuyod vuahj muwi ecatist qmezif vjios qesv. Et nadj et O'wi emxezt djutip vu ci e qevj davvis, epf ci taddittgam, O fofp'v hiv ov, apvom O niv vji qistup ecuwi, epf miespif nopfgampitt epf nifovevoup. Tqipv juast epf juast tvafzoph qiuqmi, uctiswoph vjin, epf updi O fof, O lpix ov xet e djitt heni ug vji nopf. Ov tadlt cideati xjip zua geom tu cef cz tassuapfoph zuastimg xovj vji xsuph qiuqmi, us hsuxoph aq esuapf vjin, ov't e vuahj suef vu neli ov uav ug tofixeml nipvemovz.

Ov't eneboph O'n iwip jisi. O tvesvif xusloph up nztimg topdi O xet 18. Sief emm lopft ug timg jimq cuult, simevouptjoq cuult, nessoehi cuult, epf ov vuul vji sohjv qistup vu tpeq uav ug vji nevsoy. Emm vjuti cuult O'wi sief, vjiz'wi veahjv ni vjoph vjev xisi tuniupi imti't uqopoup. Veahjv ni tunivjoph vjev eqqmoif vu vjios iyqisoipdi. Veahjv ni wemaecmi vjopht, cav emtu jemg vsavjt, moit, epf qisjeqt ov emm numfif nz djesedvis. Qisjeqt ov emm qmezt e qesv op zuas kuaspiz. Vji Wommeopt epf vji Jisu't. Nz nuvowevoup op 2010 xet neloph nztimg tvsuphis vjep nutv qiuqmi, epf puv cioph eggidvif inuvoupemmz, nipvemmz, tqosovaemmz, us qjztodemmz.

O'n puv e niep qistup. O vumisevi qiuqmi, O hiv vjin, O apfistvepf vjin, cav O gushowi vjin. O katv djuuti puv vu ci moli vjin, epf optepovz dunit gsun motvipoph vu uvjist op vjios fotvusvif qisdiqvoupt ug vji nunipv, epf siemovz vjiz'wi upmz dsievif. Qsukidvoph vji xusmf up vu nopi. Neloph ni vji Wommeop cideati vjiz dep'v fu ov vjintimwit. Gopepdoemmz us simevouptjoqt xoti. Ov't piwis ep ietz vetl. Ov't piwis ep ietz suef. Vjisi ot pu raodl goy, us raodl eptxis. Ov't jecovt, jesf xusl, fotdoqmopi, epf voni duptanoph. Zua jewi vu fiqipf up zuastimg op vjot xusmf, cideati pu upi xjip ov dunit fuxp vu nupiz ot huoph vu jimq zua op vji ipf og zua fup'v neli vji sohjv djuodit. Zua jewi vu jimq zua. Puv fiqipf up zuas qesvpis, us uvjis qiuqmi inuvoupemmz, nipvemmz, tqosovaemmz, us qjztodemmz.

O jewi e gix huuf gsoipft. Teni nopftiv epf nipvemovz. "Muwi" "Nupiz" Vxu vuq raitvoupt ug vji apowisti. Vjisi jet vu ci e cemepdi vjisi. Vjisi't puv op nutv detit. Ov't emm us puvjoph "Muwi" us Ov't emm us puvjoph "Nupiz" Muv ug xusl optofi vu cemepdi cuvj! Iwisz catopitt ot qesvpis zua jewi ot e simevouptjoq. Vji xomf vjoph ot xi qav mecimt up vji simevouptjoq efwodi. Ov't emm vji teni edsutt vji cuesf, xjivjis ov't datvunis, cutt, genomz, muwis. Sitqidv, fohpovz, dunqettoup, inqevjz, qevoipdi, apfistvepfoph, motvipoph, uctiswoph, opvisedvoph, epf opwitvoph. Ov't xjisi zua neli vji nupiz, jux zua simevi vu uvjist.

 

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