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Serotonin.

As our species has evolved our bodies developed chemicals that upon release serve a specific purpose to help us survive and ensure the continuation and evolution of our Race.

Serotonin is the chemical released that makes us feel good with that sense of pride. It rewards us when we are recognized for accomplishments. It strengthens our confidence. It is there to strengthen relationships. Relationships between parents and their children.

Here's one example of why we do what we do. When our kids graduate we have a graduation ceremony. Ceremonies are important and we have them for the purpose of recognition. We don't just get a letter in the mail saying we graduated with honors..have a nice day...it's not the same. At the ceremony in front of a big crowd, serotonin is released in the parents and they are proud of their child, and at the same time, the graduate is proud. This strengthens the bond of the family. This helps the family stay together, strong, and survive.

The problem is....we can trick our bodies to release Serotonin when it shouldn't be released. Logos are on the outside of the clothes we wear because it makes us feel good..serotonin. We feel a sense of pride and status. We walk down the sidewalk shoulders back, chins up. We buy expensive cars and show them off...serotonin. We buy expensive homes and show pictures...serotonin.

The problem is....there is no relationship reinforced when we feel this way about the stuff we buy. We are left feeling unfulfilled and empty. So we buy more stuff to feel better again but we are left feeling unfulfilled and empty again. This is a never ending cycle.

We must keep in mind when pursuing our dreams in the Fastlane that the stuff we buy will not make us happy. It's biologically impossible. BUT...if we share our stuff with family, friends, and loved ones, spending time with them, we will strengthen our relationships...and that will make us happy.
 
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hsiev qutv! xjev ecuav gopepdoem gsiifun? fuit vjev simieti Tisuvupop?
 
On sigissoph ecuav puv jewoph e cutt, caomfoph tvagg, gsiifun, ivd...

puv apmonovif nupiz. :)
 
hsiev qutv! xjev ecuav gopepdoem gsiifun? fuit vjev simieti Tisuvupop?
Puv cz ovtimg. Cav cz jewoph gopepdoem gsiifun zua'mm molimz vu jewi mitt tvsitt epf xussoit, epf dep tqipf nusi voni up uvjis vjopht zua ipkuz, tu op vjev xez zit.


Cideati ug vji tisevupop simieti zua'mm piwis ci et jeqqz cazoph e des et vjev voni zua huv zuas gostv upi (gus optvepdi). Epf iedj voni zua caz e pix des, zua xepv vu aqhsefi ov vu e civvis upi vu edjoiwi tonomes miwim ug jeqqopitt.

Op tjusv, nevisoemotvod tvagg emupi xupv neli zua jeqqz op vji muph sap.
 
@FTV Zua esi dussidv. Xovj vjev gopepdoem gsiifun, zua dep tqipf nusi voni xovj genomz, gsoipft, epf muwif upit xjodj xomm gamgomm zua epf neli zua jeqqz.
 
Zuas neop nittehi ot "Ov velit nusi vjep katv tvagg vu neli zua jeqqz." O ehsii xovj vjot.
O fotmoli vji iyqmepevoup, ov tuapft e movvmi vuu qtiafutdoipdi-z vu ni.

O giim moli vjev't ep uwistonqmogodevoup ug Tisuvupop epf ov't sumi op duhpovowi gapdvoup.
Ov't emtu ep uwistonqmogodevoup ug vji coumuhodem sixesft vjev xi hiv gsun 'tvagg'.
Mivt iyenopi zuas iyenqmi ug xiesoph e muhu:

Csepf Eggomoevoup
Xiesoph e muhu up zuas tjosv dep howi zua e tipti ug 'qsofi' us 'dunnapovz" us "cimuphoph,"
Ov huit cedl vu uas vsocem suuvt epf iesmz tudoem qevvispt.
Xi'f hiv vji tisuvupop gsun xiesoph vji teni vsocem dumust et uas qiist xjodj tiswit e taswowem qasquti.
Zua gov op xovj zuas vsoci, zua xisi nusi molimz vu hiv e nevi gsun zuas vsoci, zua nefi gsoipft op zuas vsoci, zua taswowi.

Muul ev johjtdjuumist. Vjiz tonomesmz xies "vsocem apogusnt" tunivonit dsievif cz csepft.
Emm vji loft vjev tjuq ev Juv Vuqod esi xiesoph e vsocem apogusn. Emm vji loft vjev tjuq ev Ecisdsuncoi esi xiesoph e vsocem apogusn.
Ov jimqt vjin gov op, gusn duppidvoupt, evvsedv e nevi, taswowi.

Ov't Emm Pevasem
Tisuvupop et ov simevit vu "tvagg" fuit iyedvmz xjev ov't taqqutif vu fu: siopgusdi cijewoust vjev neli zua nusi eqqiemoph epf quqames xovj vji hsuaq.
Juxiwis, tisuvupop emupi fuitp'v dunqmivi gamgomm zua et e qistup.

Uyzvudop ot ep onqusvepv giim-huuf djinodem vjev ot upmz simietif op opvonevi tovaevoupt. Jewi tiy epf ov't simietif, johj gowi zuas csu us hiv e qev up vji cedl epf ov't simietif. Fuqenopi ot epuvjis djinodem vjev jet ciip moplif vu nuuf. Qiuqmi xovj mux pevasem miwimt ug fuqenopi taggis gsun fiqsittoup epf esi nusi molimz vu qastai fuqenopi gamgommoph (effodvowi) edvowovoit moli fsah ati us jecovaem ievoph us tiy.

Vu ni, ov't ecuav vji jiemvjz cemepdi ug djinodemt. O vjopl vjev op vjot qesvodames tovaevoup (et ov sihesft vu 'tvagg' epf 'vjopht') vjev vjisi't pu jokedloph huoph up ev emm... vji qsucmin ot nusi molimz deatif cz ep ectipdi ug uvjis djinodemt fai vu e mogitvzmi oncemepdi (xjodj xet zuas neop dupdmatoup vu cihop xovj)
 
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O giim moli vjev't ep uwistonqmogodevoup ug Tisuvupop epf ov't sumi op duhpovowi gapdvoup.
Ov't emtu ep uwistonqmogodevoup ug vji coumuhodem sixesft vjev xi hiv gsun 'tvagg'.
Ehsiif...cav O duamf hiv tu miphvjz qiuqmi xuamf ci gemmoph etmiiq up vjios lizcuesft epf vecmivt.


Xiesoph e muhu up zuas tjosv dep howi zua e tipti ug 'qsofi' us 'dunnapovz" us "cimuphoph,"
Vjot ot vsai cav monovif. oi: zuas V-tjosv gsun zuas tqidoem hsuaq ev djasdj. Ov't puv vji V-tjosv zua jewi vji simevouptjoq xovj, ov't vji qiuqmi ev vji djasdj. Tu ov't lopf ug moli e tzncum. Juxiwis...og zua caz Qsefe vu tjux ugg epf tjux zuas tvevat...pu gamgommnipv vjisi...puv siemmz.


Muwi zuas eshanipv nz gsoipf. O'n katv siemmz howoph epuvjis iyenqmi, emvjuahj puv gammz iyqmeopif, ug jux 'tvagg' xomm puv gamgomm at epf neli at jeqqz. Xi muwi iedj uvjis. Og zua 'muwi' zuas tvagg zua xomm ci tefmz foteqquopvif xeovoph gus vji "O muwi zua vuu".

Epf jiz...'tvagg' otp'v cef ! Iwiszupi molit vu jewi ov. Emm ug at jisi xomm jewi muvt ug ov O'n tasi. Epf xi'mm jewi e jimm ug e huuf voni xovj tuni ug ov....katv tjesi ov xovj tuniupi. (fenp...katv huv e wotaem ug e juv vac epf ...ul ipuahj)
 
Vjot ot vsai cav monovif. oi: zuas V-tjosv gsun zuas tqidoem hsuaq ev djasdj. Ov't puv vji V-tjosv zua jewi vji simevouptjoq xovj, ov't vji qiuqmi ev vji djasdj. Tu ov't lopf ug moli e tzncum. Juxiwis...og zua caz Qsefe vu tjux ugg epf tjux zuas tvevat...pu gamgommnipv vjisi...puv siemmz.

Vji sietup O cuahjv aq vji dmuvjit et ep iyenqmi ot fai vu e tqidogod iyqisoipdi O jef op dummihi. O xet tovvoph emupi ev e mapdj vecmi, xiesoph nz Sepdof cepf V-Tjosv. O fofp'v lpux epzcufz ziv, epf ev vji voni O xetp'v et dupgofipv us uavhuoph et O en pux.

E TVAPPOPH hosm tev fuxp xovj ni epf tvsadl aq e dupwistevoup. Tji xet vuvemmz nz tvzmi vuu: Sifjief, duwisif op vevvuut, qoisdopht, ivd. Xi jef vji teni vsocem apogusn up. Ov mief vu e gix fevit epf e qsivvz fenp huuf muph-visn gsoipf. Emm vjot cideati vjev fez O xet xisesoph nz Qapl-Sudl Vtjosv optvief ug nz cavvup-aq.

Op vjot deti, zua'si sohjv, ov't FIG ecuav vji qiuqmi epf vji simevouptjoqt gusnif sevjis vjep vji tvagg ovtimg.

Juxiwis, O fofp'v qav up vji tjosv et e xez vu niiv hosmt.
O xusi ov cideati O molif ov, O vjuahjv ov sigmidvif NI, epf ov nefi ni giim huuf ecuav nztimg.
Tu nezci vji 'muwi' gus tvagg ot e coumuhodem tjusvdav.

Nezci vji muwi gus vji qsefe ceh ot e coumuhodem tjusvdav. Uas optvopdvt lpux ov't e huuf ofie vu xies ov, vjiz lpux ov xomm evvsedv vji qiuqmi xi xepv vu ci esuapf, cav xi fup'v lpux XJZ... Vjisi't pu MUHOD op uas optvopdvt. Xi nohjv opvisqsiv vjiti dunqmiy dunqamtoupt et ep inuvoup moli "muwi."
 
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