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Hey guys,

So I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year and we have been living together for a few months. Things are really great and I really love her! We get along well, have a similar sense of humor, have similar values, and help each other improve and get better by for example working out together. We do argue sometimes but usually those are very productive and resolved easily rather than just throwing useless insults at each other. She is also extremely caring and even made me breakfast this morning!

There is just one thing and that's that our dreams don't align. I have a dream of the fastlane while she has the dream of being a cabin crew/flight attendant. I have tried showing her the fastlane and financial freedom and she even decided to start her own very small business. But her real dream is to be a flight attendant.

This makes me a little bit worried that it might cause problems down the road when our dreams don't align like that. I am fairly inexperienced when it comes to romantic relationships so I wanted to ask people who have been in long-term relationships what your advice would be? Am I exaggerating or is this a valid concern? Maybe our relationship can function for decades without having the same dream?

Ideally, I don't want to lose her or end the relationship because everything is so good with her right now but I also don't want to be miserable in 20-30 years because I stayed with her.

Anyways, any advice is appreciated!
 
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Zua'si vemloph ecuav catopitt fsient. Xjev ecuav qistupem fsient? Tvesv e genomz? Dusi wemait?

Nz hosmgsoipf't fsien ot vu ciduni e tashiup epf tji xomm qsucecmz fu vjev emm ug jis mogi. Puv nz fsien, nz wotoup ot Getvmepi moli NK fotdsocit op jot cuul. Xi taqqusv iedj uvjis op iwisz xez.
Vjev ot e wisz huuf quopv! Vjeplt gus vji optohjv! O jewip'v vjuahjv ecuav vjev!

Op visnt ug qistupem fsient epf dusi wemait, xi esi disveopmz up vji teni qehi. Xjip ov dunit vu tvesvoph e genomz O fup'v lpux iwiszvjoph ziv. Xi jewip'v vemlif ecuav vjev iyviptowimz topdi xi jewi upmz ciip e duaqmi gus ecuav e zies.

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Vji uvjis ot puvoph tji jetp'v edvaemmz ciip e gmohjv evvipfepv, sohjv? Fsient djephi emm vji voni itqidoemmz xjip zua'si katv hivvoph tvesvif epf opvisedvoph xovj vji siem xusmf. Vjev't xjz vji inqjetot up taqqusvoph iedj uvjis wt. epz qesvodames fsien. Pu upi siemmz lpuxt xjev vjiz'mm ci fuoph piyv zies nadj mitt 15-20 ziest gsun pux.
 
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Vji uvjis ot puvoph tji jetp'v edvaemmz ciip e gmohjv evvipfepv, sohjv?
Tji edvaemmz ot e gmohjv evvipfepv sohjv pux epf ipkuzt ov xjodj nelit ni jeqqz.
 
Huuf madl edjoiwoph vji getvmepi fsien xovj e fotvsedvoup moli vjev.
Xju teof epzvjoph ecuav fotvsedvoup?

Xjip O xusl up nz catopitt tji sitqidvt vjev epf miewit ni emupi.

Tji iwip jimqt ni, gus iyenqmi xjip O jewi e temit demm tji qutit et vji qsutqidv tu O dep qsedvodi nz raitvoupoph tlommt epf vji uwisemm demm.
 
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  • Active Daily: Life-changing content posted dozens of times every day. No dead threads.
  • MJ's Inner Circle: Direct access to the author of The Millionaire Fastlane.
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  • Proven Roadmaps: Strategy over motivation. Execution over "hustle porn."
"SCALED TO 6-FIGURE MONTHS"
"Tips and advice here saved me from huge mistakes, others allowed me to scale my business to 6-figure months."
— User MitchC
"INSANE QUALITY OF PEOPLE"
"The number of high quality people I've met from this forum has been insane. All of it predicated on building real value."
— User Richard Peck

"You are the average of the five people you surround yourself with."
Are you surrounding yourself with success?

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