People not let you enjoy things that are "above" your financial or status level?

[Deleted85763]

I remember when I was just starting out in my business career and I bought a nice upscale jacket. This jacket was affordable to me, maybe it was $200.00, but most people of my then current status would not wear such a jacket. It is seen mostly on upper class people. Well, one day I rode my bicycle to the supermarket in the US this guy sees me get off my bicycle and as I'm walking into the store he starts motioning like "Yea, you're not rich. You just got off a bicycle. You're fake".

I thought this was interesting particularly since I had heard there is a type of bird that is of light color but there are some that are dark. These dark one have status in the bird community. Sometimes a light colored bird will roll around in berry ink to become dark. If other birds discover this they peck at the "fake" bird.

So this is almost exactly what happened to me. But it has happened at other times with other things. Has anyone else experienced this, too?

I will add that when I "made it" everyone shut up about anything I did or said. I just find it fascinating that people behave like that. I could care less if someone with little money wore expensive Gucci shoes or whatever. I might be like "Maybe they have little money now but they are showing they want to and maybe will have a lot money in the future.".

 

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[Itizn]

Another "woe-is-me" post from this dude.

Another neg.

 

[Deleted85763]

Another "woe-is-me" post from this dude.

Another neg.

You can't deny it's an interesting social phenomenon related to wealth.

 

[Jobless]

If a person prioritizes brand clothes (status) over a car for transportation (functionality) it can be perceived as incongruent, a coping mechanism and an attempt to flex on his/her surroundings. It is not logical to spend more on a jacket than on your transportation. In most places, major purchases such as your house or car signal your wealth / status more accurately than any accessory you wear. In some 'poorer' cultures, accessorial markers are more important.

 

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[Deleted85763]

If a person prioritizes brand clothes (status) over a car for transportation (functionality) it can be perceived as incongruent, a coping mechanism and an attempt to flex on his/her surroundings. It is not logical to spend more on a jacket than on your transportation. In most places, major purchases such as your house or car signal your wealth / status more accurately than any accessory you wear. In some 'poorer' cultures, accessorial markers are more important.

It wasn't the brand in itself I bought the jacket for. It was the styling (neat lines) and the very high quality the brand is known for. Even if it was just the brand I bought it for what difference is it to ANYONE if it was even the only thing that I own, regardless if I can afford anything else?

It seems to me there are actually people who exist in this world who demand that a person's wealth or not be congruent to everything else in a person's life.

 

[biophase]

he starts motioning like "Yea, you're not rich. You just got off a bicycle. You're fake".

How does one motion that? Did you both know sign language?

 

[Fox]

There are people on here with limited edition Supercars.

If you are wearing a $200 jacket on a bike and someone you know is giving you weird looks you need to change social circles/location asap.

 

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[Fox]

It wasn't the brand in itself I bought the jacket for. It was the styling (neat lines) and the very high quality the brand is known for. Even if it was just the brand I bought it for what difference is it to ANYONE if it was even the only thing that I own, regardless if I can afford anything else?

It seems to me there are actually people who exist in this world who demand that a person's wealth or not be congruent to everything else in a person's life.

Honestly he is probably just curious/surprised why you were wearing it cycling a bike to a supermarket. From what you wrote it sounds out of place.

 

[WJK]

This whole thread is humorous.

My tenants drive better and newer vehicles than I do. Does it really matter????? The bottom line is that all of my vehicles and equipment are paid for -- while they are making car payments. And they pay me rent every month to live in my rental unit and occupy a little corner of my property. I get my jollies from being on the receiving end of those rental transactions.

If wearing an expensive jacket while riding your bike makes you happy, then do it.
You could have told the guy that you Are rich -- you were just virtual signaling by riding your gardener's bike... Or that your butler was back at the mansion detailing your limo... maybe try -- that you were having a regression moment taking you back to your childhood...

One off the wall comment deserves another…

 

[Deleted85763]

This whole thread is humorous.

My tenants drive better and newer vehicles than I do. Does it really matter????? The bottom line is that all of my vehicles and equipment are paid for -- while they are making car payments. And they pay me rent every month to live in my rental unit and occupy a little corner of my property. I get my jollies from being on the receiving end of those rental transactions.

If wearing an expensive jacket while riding your bike makes you happy, then do it.
You could have told the guy that you Are rich -- you were just virtual signaling by riding your gardener's bike... Or that your butler was back at the mansion detailing your limo... maybe try -- that you were having a regression moment taking you back to your childhood...

One off the wall comment deserves another…

Thank you! You have changed my mindset. Really. Next time I might tell them the truth: "Well, where I have another residence overseas most people ride bicycles as a major mode of transportation. It's very sophisticated."

 

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[WJK]

Thank you! You have changed my mindset. Really. Next time I might tell them the truth: "Well, where I have another residence overseas most people ride bicycles as a major mode of transportation. It's very sophisticated."

Talk to them in your native language. Tell them riding a bike is "sophisticated". That will blow their minds!

 

[Deleted85763]

Talk to them in your native language. Tell them riding a bike is "sophisticated". That will blow their minds!

I will tell them that and they'll say "Huh?".

 

[Johnny boy]

so let me get this straight

you rode a bike to the store

someone noticed you and didn't actually say a single word to you

you *knew* they were obviously gesturing in such a way that meant "haha you are not rich you are fake"

and this gesture hurt your feelings

and now you felt the need to tell other people about that, and it has become something that you've remembered for years and has affected the way that you see the world?


....

 

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[Simon Angel]

I told you guys that this dude is on a spectrum a few months ago.

Whether it's the schizophrenic or autistic spectrum I'm not sure but just take a look at his divergent way of thinking and the "Is my song worth 2 million?" delusions.

 

[biophase]

Today while I was walking my dog a guy across the street pointed at me, then waved his hand sideways and then did a sweeping circular hand motion followed by the middle finger.

I Googled this hand gesture when I got home and he said to me, ”I’m jealous that you’re so rich. Your dog is fat and your shirt is ugly”.

 

[WJK]

Today while I was walking my dog a guy across the street pointed at me, then waved his hand sideways and then did a sweeping circular hand motion followed by the middle finger.

I Googled this hand gesture when I got home and he said to me, ”I’m jealous that you’re so rich. Your dog is fat and your shirt is ugly”.

I just have to ask -- did your dog get upset by being fat-shamed? Or did he go home with you and beg for another treat?

 

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[Xavier X]

I just have to ask -- did your dog get upset by being fat-shamed? Or did he go home with you and beg for another treat?

Nah, the dog just took to its instagram and twitter pages to post long rants and trendy hashtags about it.