I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept mediocrity

[throttleforward]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I think the key isn't "how can I make money" but "how can I add value". Successful business people time and time again talk about how the value drives the money, not the other way around. Also, a lot of successful people talk about how they would do what they are doing for free, and it's a miracle that anyone actually pays them to do what they do (lesson: have a ton of fun doing it!)
If you make an entertaining video - guess what? You arn't going to make any money, especially if you post it for free on youtube. In fact, you will certainly lose money in the short term. But, you can use the experience and exposure from a successful viral video to market yourself, and through that you can make some money or open some doors. I suspect that it took a lot of "value-added", entertaining, non-monitized projects or pieces before most artists (film, print, written, etc) made any money on their creations.

 

[Brootal]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Excellent post throttle, thanks for the reply. I relaize that at least at first this would not be a money making project.

What I am brainstorming are ways to add value to the idea so that it could eventually have some worth just like you mentioned.

 

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[throttleforward]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

You mentioned your passions as cars, business, and travel. I immediately put those words into a sentance that describes a potential business (A review/listing of the best high end rental car companies for business people while on travel). I have no idea if that idea would work or not, but that's one way I brainstorm. The other is to try to figure out what the current status quo for that combination of items is, and try to see if I can add to it. For instance, I know that business travelers often use rental cars - so is there a way to enter that niche by either providing a product or information to that niche, like an iphone app that allows you to rent cars from car rentals at airports you know you are traveling to, or perhaps simply a book that describes and reviews rental car options (there was a story on entrepreneur.com that talked about a lady who made $500k simply writing a book listing and describing all the parking garages in NYC...crazy simple!)

If you have little passion for or experience in filmmaking, than I would leave that out of the equation for now, and try to get some "low-hanging fruit". I would figure out if you have any skills or talents that you currently know you have that could incorporate cars, busineeses, travel, or some combination.

 

[phade]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

For example: its not big deal to some celebrity in a Lambo or R8, but have you ever seen some kid in random young guy in one and thought "damn, what the hell does that guy do?"

I know it sounds like a lame idea to most, but I think it would be awesome.

Drop by your local newsstand, read through Heavy Hitters magazine:

The Official HEAVY HITTERS Magazine page. (Heavy Hitters Magazine) | MySpace
Source Interlink Media - Heavy Hitters

Find any flaws in their presentation, and add value. Currently, it doesn't seem as if they have much of a web presence, other than a few scattered youtube clips and a myspace page, so an expanded web/video version would be a great starting point.

 

[Gymjunkie]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Brootal, look at how Gary Vaynerchuk made big with his Wine Library TV... he is now incredibly successful.. If you give lots of value, you will lots of money in return eventually, through different ways!

 

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[maximus20895]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

This is starting to get frustrating again. It seems I don't have passion or I just don't know what it is yet and therefor it is hindering my plan. I know that you are not suppose to complain about the problems and just make it happen, but I don't know how to make it happen in this case.

 

[Brootal]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Ouch- Heavy Hitters is pretty much exactly what I had in mind. Thanks for turning me onto it however, it is a pretty awesome magazine.

The wine list guy is an interesting story. I am going to have to look more into how he did it. Thanks for the advice GymJunkie.

Whats everyones take on doing something that is damn near exactly what the heavy hitters magazine is doing? Is tweaking it just a little bit going to be enough to create something new?

The editor is John Jarasa from DUB magazine fame. He has a pretty large following and this is his newest project.

There are a couple holes that I see that I don't like and would change if I was to go through with this.

1) Some of the people in the magazine are inheriting large sums of money. There really is nothing wrong with this, but in my opinion there is not as much to learn about how to go from nothing to something from someone who was given a huge head start. My fascination is with people who created real businesses and grew them into a huge success.

2) A lot of the questions are ok, but offer little for those looking for real business advice. It seems like there are a few quick questions about what they did and then a bunch of questions about what they own. I would want more of a core focus like. My take would be more like Mixergy meets MTV Cribs.

3) The writing doesn't offer much in the way of "feeling". What I mean is that there are no questions that bring out the emotions of the person they are interviewing in respect to what they were feeling riding the business roller coaster. Obviously it wasn't all smiles, and I personally like to hear that successful people had some crappy times, but were able to overcome them.

I am also still struggling for ways to add value to this. The benefit to the people I would interview would be publicity for whatever their business / project is.

The benefit to the reader is entertainment / education / motivation.

Is that enough?

 

[CMCarlin]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Read Gary's book, 'crush it' to find out how he did it.

In my opinion, it's not always about the passion of the product or service your selling (hear me out! lol). See, I have a passion for building something. I want to build processes that work. Fit all the cogs together and watch the machine run. This machine, is my business and the cogs are my employees, automated software etc. etc.

I have a passion for getting to the next step up and then the next step after that (I don't want to look at the 'end result' because I think 'it' doesn't have an end - aka it's about the journey not the destination).

I guess my point is that a lot of great business weren't built on a passionate 'hobby'. But the business owner was passionate about the business. He or she was passionate for improving on profits and serving customers.

I hope I'm making myself clear.

 

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[maximus20895]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Yea, I often wonder how someone could be passionate about some businesses such as a chair business or a light fixture business.

 

[phade]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Ouch- Heavy Hitters is pretty much exactly what I had in mind. Thanks for turning me onto it however, it is a pretty awesome magazine.

The wine list guy is an interesting story. I am going to have to look more into how he did it. Thanks for the advice GymJunkie.

Whats everyones take on doing something that is damn near exactly what the heavy hitters magazine is doing? Is tweaking it just a little bit going to be enough to create something new?

The editor is John Jarasa from DUB magazine fame. He has a pretty large following and this is his newest project.

There are a couple holes that I see that I don't like and would change if I was to go through with this.

1) Some of the people in the magazine are inheriting large sums of money. There really is nothing wrong with this, but in my opinion there is not as much to learn about how to go from nothing to something from someone who was given a huge head start. My fascination is with people who created real businesses and grew them into a huge success.

2) A lot of the questions are ok, but offer little for those looking for real business advice. It seems like there are a few quick questions about what they did and then a bunch of questions about what they own. I would want more of a core focus like. My take would be more like Mixergy meets MTV Cribs.

3) The writing doesn't offer much in the way of "feeling". What I mean is that there are no questions that bring out the emotions of the person they are interviewing in respect to what they were feeling riding the business roller coaster. Obviously it wasn't all smiles, and I personally like to hear that successful people had some crappy times, but were able to overcome them.

I am also still struggling for ways to add value to this. The benefit to the people I would interview would be publicity for whatever their business / project is.

The benefit to the reader is entertainment / education / motivation.

Is that enough?

Pretty stiff competition, but also an indicator that a market for this type of product does exist. I think your list is a great start to creating a similar yet unique product, perhaps one without the overhead of being physically in print, which John Jarasa makes mention of in his blog:
» HEAVY HITTERS MAGAZINE IS ALIVE & WELL.

Maybe a bit more research into just how big a market this would serve; if the numbers are big enough the benefit to all parties would be quite large.

 

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I think you just need to get laid.

You have your basic needs for survival taken care of.

Food clothing and shelter.

But you don't have the next teir of self actualization..

Sex, Belonging, Community,

The online world is not the REAL world.

Get out of the hoUse. Make some REAL friends.

And stop looking at porn.

This is a fantasy world. You need a dose of reality

 

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[PaulRobert]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I think you just need to get laid.

Sex, Belonging, Community,

The online world is not the REAL world.

Get out of the hoUse. Make some REAL friends.

And stop looking at porn.

This is a fantasy world. You need a dose of reality

I am going to be straight up honest with this.

How is getting laid going to help? How is it going to help you with self-development? What it can do is lead you to more problems and more headaches.

No offense eagle but your post seems a little immature.

I think Ryan is getting a dose of reality and he is choosing to share his struggles publicly.

 

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

You cant reach the levels of fastlane until you take care of the lower needs first.

I have written extensively on this topic and will publish it when another project comes to fruition.

I also speak from personal experience.

Until you get a steady piece of tail or learn to be a notorious ladies man you will flounder in mediocrity. I know I did after my divorce. Until I got the pootang situation under control nothing made sense. Now I dont have to waste precious energy looking for a$$ and feeling like a loser when I didnt get any. But I had to go out and learn how to do it. And with the help of people like dennis d angelo and RSD nation I was able to pretty much get pussy or a girl friend anytime I want to.

I cannot put up the link to my site because MJ asked me not to for SEO reasons.

My myspace account has expired.


I suggest taking a year and learning about women and attraction. That will change your life more than anything. Knowing you can go out and get a new girlfreind or a piece of a$$ at any time is empowering.

Im not picking on him. Im trying to help him.

 

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

That would be the worst possible thing for us to do.

What I'm trying to get at, is that my life is out of control, I don't know how to get it back. The last thing I want to do, even remotely care about, is business.

So what do you REALLY want. Right now\?

 

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[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

For sure, I'm open to the idea of getting a job, or even multiple jobs/stages in fields of interest that I might want to pursue as my fastlane venture.

Yep, I'm starting with small goals, no matter how infantile and I'm proud to say that my first few goals include;

Sleeping when I'm supposed to be...at a regular time. I used to wake up cold at 5:30 am everyday (even weekends) to go for a jog regardless of the weather...now I can't even get up by 10:00am

Getting ready (shower, shave, clean clothes, etc) so that I'm best prepared for everyday, even if I have nowhere to go.

Keeping my room and the house in general clean, so that I'm not burdened by clutter.

Goals to tackle in a week or so, once I adjust with the first few;

Attend every class, unless I'm really sick
Eat healthy, all the time
Workout to a schedule

After those;

I'll deal with business (including job opportunities)

Good you're getting it but where's the a$$?

 

[Gymjunkie]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

You cant reach the levels of fastlane until you take care of the lower needs first.

I have written extensively on this topic and will publish it when another project comes to fruition.

I also speak from personal experience.

Until you get a steady piece of tail or learn to be a notorious ladies man you will flounder in mediocrity. I know I did after my divorce. Until I got the pootang situation under control nothing made sense. Now I dont have to waste precious energy looking for a$$ and feeling like a loser when I didnt get any. But I had to go out and learn how to do it. And with the help of people like dennis d angelo and RSD nation I was able to pretty much get pussy or a girl friend anytime I want to.

I cannot put up the link to my site because MJ asked me not to for SEO reasons.

My myspace account has expired.


I suggest taking a year and learning about women and attraction. That will change your life more than anything. Knowing you can go out and get a new girlfreind or a piece of a$$ at any time is empowering.

Im not picking on him. Im trying to help him.

I'm kind of with eagle on this one. Getting women is important to any man..no need to deny it. I heard a good saying that "How good you are with women, that good you are with life"..made me think.. actually makes sense. Not to talk about the fact that a good partner can be great support and help in reaching man's goals. Some of eagle's thoughts are not politically correct but I think this forum is a place where we can not care about political correctness and be real.

 

[DeletedUser394]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

So what do you REALLY want. Right now?

Quite honestly, for you to stop posting in this thread.

Also, how inebriated were you when you decided to start posting this disgusting crap?

 

[DeletedUser394]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I'm kind of with eagle on this one. Getting women is important to any man..no need to deny it.

but there's a difference between "a$$" and sharing a meaningful relationship with another person.

Shit, most men are giant dick heads... I feel sorry for women who have to deal with people who think like that.

Edit: I wasn't refering to you Gymjunkie

 

[PaulRobert]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

"Eagle": Unlike you, I respect women.

They are people, not objects.

+1. I do the same thing.

I could not even respond yesterday to that reply. If I did, it would of been too harsh.

 

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[Gymjunkie]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

but there's a difference between "a$$" and sharing a meaningful relationship with another person.

Shit, most men are giant dick heads... I feel sorry for women who have to deal with people who think like that.

Oh just don't pretend you don't have desires... you see a gorgeous girl and you have urges, doesn't mean you act on them esp. disrespectfully, you control yourself. And how going out in the world and learning how to be good with women disrespectful? No one is talking about bedding as much as possible, it's about becoming a man worth a great woman's company. David DeAngelo's stuff, which I have seen, is awesome and is quite self-improvement-like. Check it out, you wont regret it.

I dare ANY guy here to go to www.davidwygant.com/blog and check out advice there, no disrespect for women etc. Read around, I'm sure you will learn some interesting stuff if you are not happy with your relationships with opposite sex.

Some people see world in black and white in this case, it's not like that!

And don't talk bad about your gender making angels of women. They are as promiscuous as men. Some people, doesn't matter the gender, want no-strings attached things, some don't. That's good as long as both are open and honest about it.

 

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

IT's not about disrespecting women. Its about attraction. I use coarse language to shake you up a bit. I respect women. But do you ever wonder WHY women are attracted to jerks? It's because they are exciting. Unpredictable. A thrill. Its drama. Drama is porno for most women. especially younger ones.

I got a great gal who I treat like a polynesian princess. But in order to get her I had to learn how to create attraction. I did this by being unpredictable. She would start up some serious conversation and I would crack a silly joke and she would be ROFL.

You can respect a woman. But you still have to lead her. She wants to see confidence. Confidence for a woman is like big boobs and a nice butt are to us. She wants to hump and alpha male and then have a beta male take care of her kids. Not some wussy boy with manners who will listen to her complain about the last guy she just got screwed by while wussy boy soaks up all her pain like an emotional tampon.. She wants to be touched. Not inappropraitely but she wants to know you are interested in her. I speak in generalizations. Not all women operate on this level particularly more experienced ones.

Get David D Angelos " double your Dating" ebook. Its only 20 bucks and it will open your eyes of the true nature of female Psychology and attraction. This is NOT about Relationships. This is about what ATTRACTS women. They are NOT guys with Boobs. They are wired COMPLETELY different.

You can get high quality women with his stuff once you get passed the "canned game" stage.

Now if you want to bang sluts then go to RSD nation. They should call that howtobangsluts.com but tyler, Ozzie, nathan, and Jeffy are some of the best players in the world. You can learn a lot from them. You dont have to turn into a douchebag 30k millionaire. You can keep some of your morals and principles. Just keep an open mind.

If it gets me kicked out for speaking the truth then so be it. Somebody has to say it.

 

[^eagle^]

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[maximus20895]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

This thread is kinda drifting off. I would like to learn from more informative posts.

 

[Cat Man Du]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Ryan............You need a father figure to help you thru this! Runum comes to mind.

 

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[buckmajor]

Cool post. I was playing football with a passion when I was 19yrs...which is why I didn't make a lot of money lol. If I could start again, I would still play and plan for a fastlane business on the side. Enjoy the youth of your life well you can

 

[Birdem]

You need to learn to have patience with your goals. I do not know one millionaire who had success overnight. I also feel that you do not have the confidence needed to achieve your goals you'll need to fix that.

 

[Rawr]

The Last Psychiatrist: A Generational Pathology: Narcissism Is Not Grandiosity

 

[yveskleinsky]

Ryan,

I noticed that this thread was over 2 years old, and was just wondering how things are going for you now.

 

[InMotion]

Well you have age on your side, many people don't. This may be of little help but I think many of us have had this difficulty, in regard to what the hell am I going to do. Its a very difficult question to answer. My best advice is to not think so long term and realize that you don't have to stick with any one thing forever; that is what freezes most people in their tracks. Do a venture or anything for a couple of years then do something else, you never have to choose that "one" thing or correct path, because it will drive you mad; I've been there. Life is a path of trial and error. Might just take a step back and realize you have many years of trial and error in you. Get some more life experience under your belt and you will be better for it. The road to success is not linear and has many deviations. Stick to the business principles you have learned, keep learning, and just keep moving.


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[yveskleinsky]

In a sense, this a plea for help/guidance. I just need to know where to start. The little bit of control that I had I seem to have found in my life seems to be slipping away again.

This seems to become a pattern. I build up the motivation and the drive, I have nothing to be accountable for, and I get overloaded or quit, and watch it slip away. I skipped 4 out of 5 of my first classes already this semester in the last two days.

Ryan,

Are you currently feeling this way even with your current venture of reselling things online?

 

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