Entrepreneurship and social life?

[TheTorche]

Hi everyone, I'm currently doing a research.

As an entrepreneur do you struggle to keep a balance between your social life and professional/entrepreneur life?

If so what would you say are your 2 biggest challenges?

Thanks for your insights!

 

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[PizzaOnTheRoof]

It’s easy. Just don’t have friends

 

[SteveO]

I do what I want. Hang out with who I want. Work when I want.

There are times when work requires 80-100 hours per week. I CHOOSE not to hang out at these times. Other times when things are cruising along, the opportunity arises to do other things.

I don't see the challenge here.

 

[MaxKhalus]

Hi everyone, I'm currently doing a research.

As an entrepreneur do you struggle to keep a balance between your social life and professional/entrepreneur life?

If so what would you say are your 2 biggest challenges?

Thanks for your insights!

It's obvious you don't know about Alex Becker.

 

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[SteveO]

What is the research for?

 

[Quart-Jar]

No, I just have underdeveloped social skills

 

[Kak]

No, I just have underdeveloped social skills

First step to improving social skills. You should probably not tell everyone you have underdeveloped social skills.

I can second @SteveO on this. It isn’t rocket science. In addition to that, entrepreneurship also provides a lot of opportunity to meet new people and have a social life.

 

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[Martin.G]

Well, in my case is kind of difficult because I have friends that they are not entrepreneur (maybe that's the problem). So, for example, every Friday or Saturday they want to go out and I prefer to rest or work. If I choose to go out with them I feel tired the next day, and if I don't go out I feel like I've missed something.

Also, I am a morning person, so I like to go to sleep at 10 pm and eat at 7 PM but in Argentina the people used to eat at 9-10 PM, so when they said to grab something to eat it's a problem for me.
I need a social life because sometimes I feel a little burn out, but I preferred to do some sports activities with friends in the afternoon or in the morning, because I improve my health and share with friends too.

I said that the problem is that they are not entrepreneurs because the talks are usually about things from slowlane o sidewalk, so I feel like I am wasting my time and sometimes are boring.

 

[Kak]

Well, in my case is kind of difficult because I have friends that they are not entrepreneur (maybe that's the problem). So, for example, every Friday or Saturday they want to go out and I prefer to rest or work. If I choose to go out with them I feel tired the next day, and if I don't go out I feel like I've missed something.

Also, I am a morning person, so I like to go to sleep at 10 pm and eat at 7 PM but in Argentina the people used to eat at 9-10 PM, so when they said to grab something to eat it's a problem for me.
I need a social life because sometimes I feel a little burn out, but I preferred to do some sports activities with friends in the afternoon or in the morning, because I improve my health and share with friends too.

I said that the problem is that they are not entrepreneurs because the talks are usually about things from slowlane o sidewalk, so I feel like I am wasting my time and sometimes are boring.

Yeah. So you still have the friends that like to play grab a$$ instead of accomplish anything of value.

I can’t speak for others, but I just grew to enjoy the company of they types of people that have a similar worldview to me. Slowly the grab a$$ types that want to “go out” got replaced by people I respect. It wasn’t intentional... It just happened.

Just do what you want. There isn’t a secret formula of work/life balance. None of this has a guide... It is just life, on your terms. You don’t need to understand our terms to figure out yours.

 

[GravyBoat]

My 2c:

I was chasing and "going out" from age 16 up until last year. That's when it all changed for me.

I realized that the people you associate with when you yourself provide minimal value to the world are just that. Minimal value people.

When you provide legit real value, you attract those who do the same. You suddenly become "cool" to another person who's on the same path as you. Like Kak said, it just sort of "happens." That's the universe making it so.

For the past ~8 months, I've probably worked an average of 70-90 hour weeks. I've also gone on a 3 week vacation, several 3-4 day trips, and had lots of fun doing non business related shit.

Once I have further built what I'm building, and more automation is in place, I will likely have more free time. Now I can choose what I do with that time. If you would have asked me 2 years ago, I would have said "bro I'm gonna party 6 days a week and go live on an island!". Now I realize that in order to be fulfilled, you have to build more. So my free time will likely be filled with building and passion projects instead of "going out."

Your social circle becomes much "smaller" but in reality you just realize who you really relate to, and have commonalities with. I can almost guarantee alot of your friends are only your friends because you happened to grow up in the same place at the same time drinking the same beer.

I have friends now that I don't talk to for months, because both are busy, then when we talk, it feels like we talk every day.

If you're looking for advice, I'd say cut everyone that doesn't actively push you towards your goals or hold you accountable in some way, from your immediate friend group. They can be move to friends you see a few times per year.

Also cut ANY signs of negativity RIGHT out, this instant. If someone makes you feel anxious, guilty, tense, awkward or dramatic in some way, just block their number and cease communication. No good will ever come from it.

I think @SteveO taught me this but he said he has friends for different activities that he does. IE "golf friends" or "tennis friends" or "ski friends" or whatever. They don't have to cross into another category. If you really enjoy skiing with a certain person, be their ski friend. Talk skiing. You don't have to talk business or family or anything else unless you want to. For instance I have a really good friend who I ONLY talk cars with. But I wouldn't really talk to him about much else because we don't relate on those things.

 

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[SteveO]

My 2c:

I was chasing and "going out" from age 16 up until last year. That's when it all changed for me.

I realized that the people you associate with when you yourself provide minimal value to the world are just that. Minimal value people.

When you provide legit real value, you attract those who do the same. You suddenly become "cool" to another person who's on the same path as you. Like Kak said, it just sort of "happens." That's the universe making it so.

For the past ~8 months, I've probably worked an average of 70-90 hour weeks. I've also gone on a 3 week vacation, several 3-4 day trips, and had lots of fun doing non business related shit.

Once I have further built what I'm building, and more automation is in place, I will likely have more free time. Now I can choose what I do with that time. If you would have asked me 2 years ago, I would have said "bro I'm gonna party 6 days a week and go live on an island!". Now I realize that in order to be fulfilled, you have to build more. So my free time will likely be filled with building and passion projects instead of "going out."

Your social circle becomes much "smaller" but in reality you just realize who you really relate to, and have commonalities with. I can almost guarantee alot of your friends are only your friends because you happened to grow up in the same place at the same time drinking the same beer.

I have friends now that I don't talk to for months, because both are busy, then when we talk, it feels like we talk every day.

If you're looking for advice, I'd say cut everyone that doesn't actively push you towards your goals or hold you accountable in some way, from your immediate friend group. They can be move to friends you see a few times per year.

Also cut ANY signs of negativity RIGHT out, this instant. If someone makes you feel anxious, guilty, tense, awkward or dramatic in some way, just block their number and cease communication. No good will ever come from it.

I think @SteveO taught me this but he said he has friends for different activities that he does. IE "golf friends" or "tennis friends" or "ski friends" or whatever. They don't have to cross into another category. If you really enjoy skiing with a certain person, be their ski friend. Talk skiing. You don't have to talk business or family or anything else unless you want to. For instance I have a really good friend who I ONLY talk cars with. But I wouldn't really talk to him about much else because we don't relate on those things.

Wine and beer around a campfire... We can solve all problems!

 

[Bearcorp]

Wine and beer around a campfire... We can solve all problems!

Got this booked in with my old school buddies as soon as we can socialise again, been a couple of years now since we all caught up, the shut down has helped prompt us to get around the fire one night and solve the worlds problems!

 

[Martin.G]

Yeah. So you still have the friends that like to play grab a$$ instead of accomplish anything of value.

I can’t speak for others, but I just grew to enjoy the company of they types of people that have a similar worldview to me. Slowly the grab a$$ types that want to “go out” got replaced by people I respect. It wasn’t intentional... It just happened.

Just do what you want. There isn’t a secret formula of work/life balance. None of this has a guide... It is just life, on your terms. You don’t need to understand our terms to figure out yours.

I agree with you, that was the reason that sometimes I preferred not go out with that kind of friends and in the past I stop seeing other ones. I need new ones too, but first I need to figure it out where I find that kind of persons.

 

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