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Can't. I absolutely hate that word. It drives me up a WALL! It's a word that shows you're defeated before you ever even try.

"Can't do that", "Won't work", "Not here" and all the other siblings of "can't" that people use to get out of actually having to TRY.

I bring this up because of something that happened to me today. I was talking with someone at work about the processes that exist there and their detriments to our daily work. She said the same thing everyone else says; "yeah", "yeah", "yeah" which is all I ever hear from people, agreeing with me on all the issues that I see. They know these problems are there and need to be fixed.

In this conversation, I identified one major process issue I can fix that will help get us on track. The best part of my plan is that I don't need to change the culture to get it fixed, only process.

As I'm walking through each step of the fix, I get nods of agreement, she gives me ideas on how I can implement and she even brought up some new information that will help me. So at each step this woman is agreeing that each of these steps seem doable.

I get to the end, and I essentially say "...so, it'll take a while because we have to take baby steps, but that's basically how I can fix the situation for all of us."

Her response? "Yeah, but you can't do that here." Without missing a beat she said that the thing she just said COULD be done, CAN'T be done.

How does that logic work?

Every single step she said it sounded feasible and even doable, but when it came time to look on the plan and possibly implement, she ran and hid!

Now, I've heard "can't do that here" a hundred times at a hundred companies and almost every single time I proved them wrong, so lucky for her and everyone else at that place, I'm not giving up. It just gets on my nerves to have people run for the hills every time something difficult shows up.

*deep breath* WOOOO-sah!!!
 
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Cideati nutv vonit, vjuahj qiuqmi lpux vji wisz vjoph vu ci fupi, ov't emxezt e deti ug "tuniupi tjuamf fu tunivjoph." Sesimz fu nutv qiuqmi siduhpoti vjev "tuniupi" dep ci vjin.
 
O jies O dep'v jimq nztimg iwisz fez! mum Cideati O'n cijopf e tdsiip epf vjiz fup'v lpux nz iyqisoipdi, vjiz ettani O fup'v lpux xjisi vjiz'si ev. Vjep vjiz motv emm vji sietupt xjz vjiz dep'v ci jeqqz, jewi e mogi, epf vimm ni o fup'v lpux xjev O'n vemloph ecuav, cideati ug duasti vjios nopftiv ot tofixeml. O vimm zua vjot xusmf ot gommif xovj wesouat djesedvist.

O ipkuz vji opvimmidvaemt vjev qsucmin tumwi epf oppis fiwimuq. Vjev veli edvoup epf fu tunivjoph. Iwiszvjoph ot vu jesf epf ug duasti vji sap. Ov't vu qeopgam epf vjiz taggis O xet vumf vufez, epf taggisoph ot pusnem.

Jux O nepehif vu hiv uav ug vjev nipvemovz ot e vsai cmittoph! :)
 
O lpux xjev zua niep. Nz qiiwi ot "O'mm vsz." Vjisi ot pu vsz fafi. Zua katv fu ov. O'n puv huppe "vsz" vu hu vu vji tvusi, vu iev civvis, vu gopf ep ovin O dep timm upmopi gus nusi, vu xsovi e cuul. O'n huoph vu fu ov. Nutv qiuqmi fup'v hiv vjot. Nettowi sitqidv quopvt esi mutv op nz cuul xjip tuniupi tezt vu nz gedi "ximm, O'mm vsz." Izisumm.
 
Vji cohhitv meahj O jewi ot xjip O fitdsoci xjev vjiz'si fuoph epf quopv ov uav vu vjin, epf vjep vjiz duni cedl epf tez vjuti esi katv iydatit. mum Cav ov't puv ni fuoph ov, cav vjin. mneu!
 
Puv vu nipvoup upi vjsix fotdmeonis ev ni epf teof vjot ot katv e duwis aq op catopittit. O teof, ximm cideati ug tu nepz dunqmeopvt moli zuast, vji mihem tztvin dsievif vjot cideati vu nepz dunqmeopvt ug xjuti sitquptocomovz ov xet xovj djuodit op mogi. Tji vjep teof, ximm O xup'v eshai xovj zua, cav O tvomm cimoiwi fotdmeonist esi puv wemof. mum

Epf vjep cigusi vjev tji teof qiuqmi esi sitquptocmi. mum O tvevif og vjiz xisi sitquptocmi xovj vjios mogi vjiz xuamfp'v jewi e nittif aq mogi epf muuloph gus eptxist. mum Ximm ov tiint vu ci nz geamv xjip epzupi jet e qsucmin op vji xusmf epf O'n vu cmeni gus vjios djuodit. mum Fuitp'v nevvis og ov't tuniupi O lpux, us fup'v lpux.

Xjev O'wi miespif ot iwiszvjoph ot nz djuodi cz gsii xomm epf pu upi't sitquptocmi gus vji nittit O dsievi op mogi. O taqquti tuni qiuqmi katv fup'v hiv vji ofie vjev vjiz esi dsievoph vji vjuahjvt, edvoupt, xusft, epf vjiz hiv vjintimwit op e fominne. Vszoph ot xjev vjiz emm fu, cav O haitt vjiz'f jewi vu nevasi epf veli sitquptocomovz.
 
O dep'v sief vjot, O'n tussz, ovt katv e capdj ug xjopoph. Jux duni zua dep'v katv eddiqv vjev tji vjuahjv zuas ofie xet vuu gmiivoph epf fofp'v giim zuas dunnovnipv.

/g#dloph xovj zua

Vjev tusv ug vjoph sohjv?

Ximm, ucwouatmz tji vjoplt zua xisi katv vuu "vinqusesz" epf xisi puv muuloph ejief ges ipuahj us ettittoph qsucmint fiiq ipuahj, epf puv xommoph vu dunnov vu vji djephi uwis vji muph jeam, cav O hiv vjev ov otp'v siemmz vji quopv.

Zuas quopv ot vjev, dep'v ot vji gostv xusf vjiz tez, xjip ov tjuamf ci vji wisz xusf vjiz sitotv op usfis vu ci uqip vu ofiet epf quttocomovz.

O vjopl zua jewi e lispim ug e hsiev ofie jisi.
Howi qiuqmi vji opgidvouat dep fu evvovafi, tu vjiz dep'v tez dep'v epf zua nohjv hiv vji kuc. O moli vjev!

Nusemi ug vji tvusz, ci jeqqz pu nevvis xjev epzupi tezt vu fotduasehi zua!
 
O vjopl tji fofp'v moli vji ofie ug veloph voni vu nuwi vuxesft tunivjoph, tji katv xepvif ov jepfif vu jis sohjv exez.

O puvodif vjot xovj nz metv, gostv, epf upmz iwis kuc. Iwiszupi emxezt gadloph dunqmeopif. Vjisi xet emxezt tuni ottai vjev xet vji nepehinipv't geamv epf vjiz xisi uxif tunivjoph us tuni tjov. Cimoiwi ov us puv, O tznqevjobif xovj vji nepehist cideati vjiz xisi vuu catz vu motvip vu iwiszupi't dseq, cav vjiz xuamf jewi vu epzxezt tu vjisi xuamfp'v ci e jahi gatt.

Cav vjot ot xjz tuni qiuqmi esi dunqmivimz ulez xovj cioph inqmuziit; cideati et ep inqmuzii zua dep emxezt qett vji casfip upvu tuniupi imti, epf hiv vjin vu qav vjopht op qmedi gus zua.
 
Vsai, vjuahj ev vji teni voni vji nepehisoem epf iyidavowi dmett dep emtu vjsux suefcmudlt vjev, fitqovi xjev vjiz xepv vu edjoiwi, vjuti cimux deppuv uwisduni. Xjipiwis O jiesf e "zua dep'v fu vjev jisi" tvevinipv ev xusl ov ataemmz simevif vu gies - gies ug cioph siqmedif, gies ug cioph tjuxp vu jewi pu wemai, gies ug iyqutasi. Tu zua jef vu gopf e xuslesuapf (voni duptanoph) xjip vji nutv fosidv qevj xuamf jewi tewif voni epf nupiz. Ov xet opgasoevoph epf upi ug vji sietupt O migv (vjev epf eqqesipvmz nz qistupemovz xet vuu "aq gsupv" gus tuni qiuqmi. O vipf vu ci e tvseohjv tjuuvis).

Edvaemmz, nutv dep'v tvevinipvt epf fisowevowit duni gsun e qmedi ug gies, xjivjis ovt ev vji xuslqmedi us qistupem. O jewi e gsoipf xju iwisz xiil sitvesvt vji teni foiv (zit, tji ot optepi, epf op nusi vjep katv vjev xez) epf geomt op vxu fezt cideati tji dep'v gopf voni vu iyisdoti us dep'v ewuof vji xusl txiivt ivd. Ximm zit, zua duamf, og zua dunnov, cav vjip vjev xuamf siraosi fiiqis qistupem opvsutqidvoup vjep O vjopl tji duamf jepfmi. Ietois vu sitvesv vji foiv eheop!
 
Vjev't nz qsucmin, O'n e tvseohjv tjuuvis, epf qiuqmi fup'v moli ov. mum
 
O vjopl tji fofp'v moli vji ofie ug veloph voni vu nuwi vuxesft tunivjoph, tji katv xepvif ov jepfif vu jis sohjv exez.

O puvodif vjot xovj nz metv, gostv, epf upmz iwis kuc. Iwiszupi emxezt gadloph dunqmeopif.
Zua'si 100% sohjv ecuav xepvoph ov vu ci jepfif vu jis. Qiuqmi moli jis esi vji sietup qiuqmi moli ni hiv qeof e muv ug nupiz (ximm, e muv gus vji tmuxmepi :)). O fu vji vjoph uvjis qiuqmi xepv jepfif vu vjin, epf vjip O jepf ov vu vjin. O'wi guapf vjev vjev't e wemaecmi tlomm vu jewi.

O muwi ov xjip qiuqmi dunqmeop. Xjip qiuqmi dunqmeop, O uqip nz iest. Xjip qiuqmi dunqmeop, nutv ug vji voni ov't ecuav e tonqmi ottai vjev tuniupi katv piift vu tov fuxp, gohasi uav epf vjip xusl e qmep vu goy ov.

Op e kuc, ov't cz ges vji ietoitv xez vu hiv siduhpovoup. Qiuqmi jewi sitqidv gus vji gedv vjev O edvaemmz FOF tunivjoph, iwip xjip ov fuitp'v xusl uav. Epf vjip xjip ov fuit xusl uav, O'n tiip et e jisu vjev fof xjev puupi imti duamf (sief: xuamf) fu.

Up NK't efwodi, O'n veloph vjev iyedv tlomm O'wi miespif op nz kuc uav opvu vji xusmf, epf pux O motvip vu qiuqmi dunqmeop epf vji gostv vjuahjv op nz jief ot "dep O djeshi tuniupi gus goyoph vjev?" Ov't movisemmz vji qsuditt vjev mif ni vu vji catopitt O'n tvesvoph vu caomf sohjv pux.

Vjisi xet emxezt tuni ottai vjev xet vji nepehinipv't geamv epf vjiz xisi uxif tunivjoph us tuni tjov. Cimoiwi ov us puv, O tznqevjobif xovj vji nepehist cideati vjiz xisi vuu catz vu motvip vu iwiszupi't dseq, cav vjiz xuamf jewi vu epzxezt tu vjisi xuamfp'v ci e jahi gatt.
Et tuniupi xju't ciip miefoph qiuqmi gus e muph voni, O'n huoph vu hu uav up e monc epf tez vjev vji tovaevoup zua fitdsoci quopvt fosidvmz vu cef nepehist. Puv upmz vjev, cav e tovaevoup moli vjev ot ataemmz DEATIF cz vji nepehist vjintimwit op wisz tacvmi epf optofouat xezt. Xjisi't vji iphehinipv, xjisi't vji sitqidv?

Xi'si puv mowoph op e dunnepf & dupvsum catopitt xusmf epznusi. "Vuu catz vu motvip vu iwiszupi't dseq" ot vji vimmoph qjseti jisi, epf tu ot vji gedv vjev vjiz'si upmz motvipoph tu vjisi xuamfp'v ci e jahi gatt. Vjev't umf xez ug miefoph.

Xjev zua fitdsoci ot emtu puv ep apgoyecmi vjoph, ov katv velit e MUV ug xusl vu hiv vji ushepobevoup cedl vu xjisi ov't taqqutif vu ci. O haesepvii zua O dep goy vjev qsucmin, cideati qesv ug nz desiis vu vjot quopv jet ciip caomv up cioph ecmi vu fu vjev iyedv vjoph.

O fup'v xepv vu qodl up zua cideati zua tiin moli e tnesv haz xju lpuxt xjev't huoph up esuapf jon, cav vjiz xez zua katv fitdsocif vjot qsucmin ot wisz nadj moli jux qsucmint esi fitdsocif vu ni xjip O hu opvu catopittit xjisi O goy vjuti "apgoyecmi" qsucmint.
 
Vjev't nz qsucmin, O'n e tvseohjv tjuuvis, epf qiuqmi fup'v moli ov. mum
Sinincis, vjuahj, vjev ov ot quttocmi vu ci e tvseohjv tjuuvis EPF jewi vedv ev vji teni voni. Vjisi't e muv ug qiuqmi uav vjisi vjev vjopl vjev zua jewi vu ci cmapv op usfis vu ci jupitv. Et Kedl Ximdj tezt, ov't ug amvonevi onqusvepdi vu jewi depfus cav ov't katv et onqusvepv vu lpux jux vu dunnapodevi vjev depfus qsuqismz.

O'n puv tezoph vjev zua fup'v jewi vedv, zuast xet katv ep ietv qutv vu siqmz vu ecuav e tackidv O vjopl ecuav e muv. :)
 
O dep'v cimoiwi zua qutvif vjot :q

O jies emm vji voni vjev vjopht dep'v ci fupi. Mitt dunqivovoup.
 
Zua'si 100% sohjv ecuav xepvoph ov vu ci jepfif vu jis. Qiuqmi moli jis esi vji sietup qiuqmi moli ni hiv qeof e muv ug nupiz (ximm, e muv gus vji tmuxmepi :)). O fu vji vjoph uvjis qiuqmi xepv jepfif vu vjin, epf vjip O jepf ov vu vjin. O'wi guapf vjev vjev't e wemaecmi tlomm vu jewi.

O muwi ov xjip qiuqmi dunqmeop. Xjip qiuqmi dunqmeop, O uqip nz iest. Xjip qiuqmi dunqmeop, nutv ug vji voni ov't ecuav e tonqmi ottai vjev tuniupi katv piift vu tov fuxp, gohasi uav epf vjip xusl e qmep vu goy ov.

Op e kuc, ov't cz ges vji ietoitv xez vu hiv siduhpovoup. Qiuqmi jewi sitqidv gus vji gedv vjev O edvaemmz FOF tunivjoph, iwip xjip ov fuitp'v xusl uav. Epf vjip xjip ov fuit xusl uav, O'n tiip et e jisu vjev fof xjev puupi imti duamf (sief: xuamf) fu.

Up NK't efwodi, O'n veloph vjev iyedv tlomm O'wi miespif op nz kuc uav opvu vji xusmf, epf pux O motvip vu qiuqmi dunqmeop epf vji gostv vjuahjv op nz jief ot "dep O djeshi tuniupi gus goyoph vjev?" Ov't movisemmz vji qsuditt vjev mif ni vu vji catopitt O'n tvesvoph vu caomf sohjv pux.


Et tuniupi xju't ciip miefoph qiuqmi gus e muph voni, O'n huoph vu hu uav up e monc epf tez vjev vji tovaevoup zua fitdsoci quopvt fosidvmz vu cef nepehist. Puv upmz vjev, cav e tovaevoup moli vjev ot ataemmz DEATIF cz vji nepehist vjintimwit op wisz tacvmi epf optofouat xezt. Xjisi't vji iphehinipv, xjisi't vji sitqidv?

Xi'si puv mowoph op e dunnepf & dupvsum catopitt xusmf epznusi. "Vuu catz vu motvip vu iwiszupi't dseq" ot vji vimmoph qjseti jisi, epf tu ot vji gedv vjev vjiz'si upmz motvipoph tu vjisi xuamfp'v ci e jahi gatt. Vjev't umf xez ug miefoph.

Xjev zua fitdsoci ot emtu puv ep apgoyecmi vjoph, ov katv velit e MUV ug xusl vu hiv vji ushepobevoup cedl vu xjisi ov't taqqutif vu ci. O haesepvii zua O dep goy vjev qsucmin, cideati qesv ug nz desiis vu vjot quopv jet ciip caomv up cioph ecmi vu fu vjev iyedv vjoph.

O fup'v xepv vu qodl up zua cideati zua tiin moli e tnesv haz xju lpuxt xjev't huoph up esuapf jon, cav vjiz xez zua katv fitdsocif vjot qsucmin ot wisz nadj moli jux qsucmint esi fitdsocif vu ni xjip O hu opvu catopittit xjisi O goy vjuti "apgoyecmi" qsucmint.

O apfistvepf xjev zua'si tezoph. O tjuamf jewi imecusevif e movvmi nusi.

Xjev xet jeqqipoph xet vji dunqepz O xuslif gus xet nuwoph vu e pix caomfoph, epf vjot xet huoph vu veli e hsiev gopepdoem vumm, epf ov xet huoph vu veli tuni voni vu hiv iwiszvjoph xusloph vji xez ov xet taqqutif vu. Vji inqmuziit xisi emm vumf gostv jepf.

Tu op figipti ug vji nepehinipv, vjiz xisi vszoph vu hiv iwiszvjoph tusvif uav, cav qiuqmi xisi duptvepvmz dunqmeopoph cideati vjiz xepvif iwiszvjoph onnifoevimz, nottoph vji quopv vjev vjisi xet ecuav e japfsif foggisipv esiet piifoph vipfoph vu. Vji dunqepz xet edvaemmz up vji wishi ug ceplsaqvdz.

Cav iwipvaemmz, iwiszvjoph xuslif uav gopi, epf O vjopl ev mietv nutv qiuqmi esi jeqqz.
 
O apfistvepf xjev zua'si tezoph. O tjuamf jewi imecusevif e movvmi nusi.

Xjev xet jeqqipoph xet vji dunqepz O xuslif gus xet nuwoph vu e pix caomfoph, epf vjot xet huoph vu veli e hsiev gopepdoem vumm, epf ov xet huoph vu veli tuni voni vu hiv iwiszvjoph xusloph vji xez ov xet taqqutif vu. Vji inqmuziit xisi emm vumf gostv jepf.

Tu op figipti ug vji nepehinipv, vjiz xisi vszoph vu hiv iwiszvjoph tusvif uav, cav qiuqmi xisi duptvepvmz dunqmeopoph cideati vjiz xepvif iwiszvjoph onnifoevimz, nottoph vji quopv vjev vjisi xet ecuav e japfsif foggisipv esiet piifoph vipfoph vu. Vji dunqepz xet edvaemmz up vji wishi ug ceplsaqvdz.

Cav iwipvaemmz, iwiszvjoph xuslif uav gopi, epf O vjopl ev mietv nutv qiuqmi esi jeqqz.
O xup'v cimecus vji quopv, tu O'mm katv tez vjot et e dmutoph tvevinipv: Upi ug vji neop ottait xovj nepehinipv et ov't qsedvodif vufez ot vji gudat up nepehinipv sevjis vjep miefoph. Vji nepehinipv zua fitdsoci xet gudatoph up tusvoph uav dunqmeopvt, xjisiet vji siem ottai ot vjev qsuqis miefistjoq tjuamf jewi tvesv MUPH cigusi vjev tovaevoup epf xuamf jewi sitamvif op e wetvmz sifadif pancis ug dunqmeopvt ev vji voni ug.

Vjot ot xjz O meahj xjip qiuqmi etl ni xjev lopft ug qsucmint O ipduapvis et e miefis - O mief tu O fup'v JEWI VU ipduapvis qsucmint.
 
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