I'm curious if there is anyone else who doesn't have the support of their spouse/significant other in their writing ventures?
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I've been told numerous times that I'd make more at McDonald's than messing with my silly writings.
Yeah, it sounds to me like there's bigger issues at play.
you are a woman!!!! LOL
okay, my bad and I"m so sorry. I'm still trying to learn about all the people here...
I have to laugh, because people have done that to me in the past, and now I'm guilty.
...He. It's my husband. I've already asked him your questions 1 and 2, those aren't issues. So, who knows.
Eeessshhh... I feel nervous just posting this!
So, if I had to take a stab at it... a total shot in the dark... I would guess that at some level he's threatened by your desire to change. He's doing things in a passive aggressive way to keep you where you are.
The Fastlaner thinks, "Why is he/she wasting all that time on TV/VideoGames/Whatever." The Non-Fastlaner thinks, "Well, there he/she goes again on some new 'get rich' scheme!"
In general, I hate to look at things with a gender bias, but I've often wondered if it's more lonely for female Fastlaners, because it's a bit of a role-reversal.
In general, I hate to look at things with a gender bias, but I've often wondered if it's more lonely for female Fastlaners, because it's a bit of a role-reversal. And of course, that's one reason this forum is so great. We can all cheer each other on, even if the rest of the world doesn't always get it.
In general, I hate to look at things with a gender bias, but I've often wondered if it's more lonely for female Fastlaners, because it's a bit of a role-reversal. And of course, that's one reason this forum is so great. We can all cheer each other on, even if the rest of the world doesn't always get it.
I am the same way, philosophically anyway. But, in reality I tend to think that gender issues really are magnified when it comes to attitudes about money, being the "bread winner," safety, security, etc.
I do think that 'generally' a man's response to a his wife becoming financially successful will be different from a woman's response to her husband becoming financially successful.
Women "fastlaners" do experience a unique set of challenges. It definitely IS nice to have other women on this forum!
In general, I hate to look at things with a gender bias, but I've often wondered if it's more lonely for female Fastlaners, because it's a bit of a role-reversal.
Not because I think women are less or should be less, or anything even close to that, but maybe because I won't be defending our home from raiders or bandits and I can't prove my worth with a sword anymore.
okay, my bad and I"m so sorry. I'm still trying to learn about all the people here...
I have to laugh, because people have done that to me in the past, and now I'm guilty.
At first, I regretted making this thread... but I'm glad that I did now.
Totally made me laugh.
I agree with this totally! Men aren't allowed to be masculine or protective anymore -- unless they're vampires, apparently. It's sad. If you get the door for a woman, you have to fear being called a pig. If you don't get the door, you risk the chance of being looked upon as rude. I live in the Deep South, though, and old-fashioned manners are still quite common, which I find pretty nice.These be confusing times for men of the modern world...
I'm going to assume that your book is your avatar ... and if it is, I'm going to say it looks rock solid, like something straight out of Random House or Penguin. You need to be proud.
They say you can't judge a book by it's cover, but we all know in the publishing game that's BS. Anyhow, I was going to say that if that little gem is YOURS and a product of YOUR sweat, YOUR hard work, and YOUR creative mind, you have every right to be proud of what you're doing although your hubby might not see the immediate dividends, nor understand.
You see, what I see isn't a book with a nice cover, but the manifestation of a dream ... a dream that has been attacked and pursued. That cannot be discounted and I sincerely hope the hubby can eventually understand that to not go after your dream is simply to commit spiritual suicide.
Anyhow, thank you for sharing and being apart of this community. I hope things improve in all aspects of the challenges you're facing.
Understanding that, if that is indeed the issue, can make things pretty easy to fix with a little cleverness and a couple date nights.
We're all tired and confused. Okay, maybe we're not ALL tired and confused. But it sure can be exhausting and confusing.
Wow, that was quite a rant, wasn't it? Here, let me wipe the spittle off the screen...
I agree with this totally! Men aren't allowed to be masculine or protective anymore -- unless they're vampires, apparently. It's sad. If you get the door for a woman, you have to fear being called a pig. If you don't get the door, you risk the chance of being looked upon as rude.
I live in the Deep South, though, and old-fashioned manners are still quite common, which I find pretty nice.
And the men don't know what to think, because there are so many conflicting messages floating around. I fear for my son sometimes.
Most guys don't know how to support an ambitious and driven women, especially one seeking to obtain something that is more than said man is currently able to provide. Personal insecurities and inadequacies can run rampant in such situations, and, if I had to guess, I'd imagine these two emotions are the likely problem for him.
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