I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept mediocrity

[hatterasguy]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Your problem is that your young. (I know stay with me)

Your young and you don't know whats what. You don't really know yourself or what you want to do.

Step back, you need to figure out who you are and what you want to do before starting a Fastlane venture.

Their are many ways to do this. I just started getting jobs or exploring areas where I thought I may want to make a career. I sold houses for a couple years, worked on boats, and looked into investment banking. Finaly settled on building. You may be best served by getting a job right now, getting a job you end up hating can be very good at this point in your life. The idea isn't to start a career, its to get different experiances.

Another option would be to join the armed forces to sort yourself out. A lot of very successful people I know started out in the military.

I would advise you to take your time and work on sorting yourself out first. The rest will come.

 

[Runum]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

It's good to see you learning and adjusting Ryan. You will need a lot of interum goals as well. You need small victories all the time to keep you going.

 

[DeletedUser394]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

For sure, I'm open to the idea of getting a job, or even multiple jobs/stages in fields of interest that I might want to pursue as my fastlane venture.

Yep, I'm starting with small goals, no matter how infantile and I'm proud to say that my first few goals include;

Sleeping when I'm supposed to be...at a regular time. I used to wake up cold at 5:30 am everyday (even weekends) to go for a jog regardless of the weather...now I can't even get up by 10:00am

Getting ready (shower, shave, clean clothes, etc) so that I'm best prepared for everyday, even if I have nowhere to go.

Keeping my room and the house in general clean, so that I'm not burdened by clutter.

Goals to tackle in a week or so, once I adjust with the first few;

Attend every class, unless I'm really sick
Eat healthy, all the time
Workout to a schedule

After those;

I'll deal with business (including job opportunities)

 

[delerben]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

You are not alone as I am right there with you but I am really taking action to correct a lack of focus in 2010. So far so good. The good news is that I am getting more focused is doable.

 

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[Colbehh]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Don't feel alone man. I'm in this position too. I am trying to finish school even though its a grind for me everyday. I've got my eye set on doing deals, but I get so OCD about the idea and every detail I get burned out. I also feel like I can't talk to my peers about any of my ideas or goals because well, let's face it they're cookie cutter students. They're all worried about their careers while I just want something that I somewhat enjoy and make enough money to save and pursue other interests.

I also feel you on the car issue. I used to think that I really wanted a Lambo/Ferrari/Porsche but I realized one of my dream cars since I've seen them are the Infiniti G35s. I absolutely love them.

 

[EastWind]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

would it make you feel better to know that there are those of us in our 30's and 40's who feel like this? you still have multiple opportunities to learn, to try, to fail, we are almost at our last leg, and we still feel hopeless. I envy the young. Lots of great advice have been given here, all I can ask you is to just start doing. when you start doing, start small, but think BIG. learn to finish projects. develop skills, either learn technical skills, and find a small sales job to hone your sales skill. at the end of the day, you are going to have to sell your idea/products to make that money. Good luck buddy.

 

[TaxGuy]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Good old Tony Robbins! :coolgleamA:

As others have attested, I too am in the same boat, it's amazing that it's so much easier to give up and let the world control you instead of fighting to control the world around you. It looks like you have taken the first step though and have adjusted your goals.

A good song that I have been listening to quite frequently the last few weeks(in addition to many more with the "live each day like your last" motif) is "If Today Was Your Last Day" by Nickelback. Basically it's about taking all the chances you're scared to make b/c you might not have a tomorrow to make them.

I can tell you now the most important steps you can take are to

1) get rid of any and all material/emotional clutter that you do not need

This is difficult to do, however, it will pay off big time in the end. An example of this was I sold my car a couple weeks back, I owned it for over 9yrs and put much blood, sweat and tears(as well as money) into it, however it was holding me back and I knew if I had to invest another dime or minute into it it would keep me from having what I truly want(freedom and, well, a Porsche) so now I am driving my mom's car, but also need to find a replacement so I've set my sights on looking outside the box and finding a nice econo-box for less than $1k that gets me from PtA to PtB. There are plenty of other things I'm selling/donating/pitching, but the car so far has been the most significant.

2) set the small goals and add to them after you've accomplished them

This seems to be the #1 piece of advice, it's a lot like the "how do you eat an elephant?" - "one bite at a time". In addition, trying out Parkinson's Law as discussed in the Four Hour Workweek which is shortening deadlines to promote taking action, something that I subconciously did a LOT in college, lol, I was the master of doing 2-4 week projects the night b4 they were due :coffee:

I could go on and on, but it looks like you see the light, hang in there and keep fighting, life can be both challenging and fun and remember:

"There is no difference between a pessimist who says it's hopeless and does nothing and an optimist who says it's gonna be alright and does nothing, either way, nothing happens"

So go from this moment with an attitude that things can change if you make it change and good things will happen, on that note, I need to take my own advice and take action in spending quality time with my family

 

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[msa1]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I think you're lost cause right now, you're trying to figure out where you can make money the fastest and nothing more.

What do you really enjoy doing? What is your (wait for it)......passion?

May sound corny, but you need to love what you do, to do it well. Not to mention, if you're gonna use this as your vehicle to millions you're going to be doing it a hell of a lot, so you better enjoy it.

So I would suggest you look at your problem from another angle.

 

[maximus20895]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

^that's my problem right there. I don't know what I love do to. It seems I am a jack of all trades, but a master at none.

 

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[Brootal]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I feel like this all the time as well. I have tried a few different things with varied success, but always feel that they weren't the right one.

Did wholesaling properties, but found it wasn't the path I thought it would be.
Did / doing affiliate marketing, but have only had small success.

At least I am learning something from each one that I will be able to use later.

Here is what I find interesting: A lot of us on this forum are in the same exact boat. I have seen numerous people post in this thread alone "I have the same problem".

This makes me feel that there is an opportunity even if I don't know what it is yet. Is there something we can do to help each other get out of this stage and get closer to success?

 

[msa1]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Maximus, what's the first thing that pops into your head when you wake up in the morning? For me when were busy, I absolutely love having a kitchen or bathroom reno to go to. They're truly fun for me. I get even more excited when i'm getting out of bed to do something with one of my own properties.

There are other fun things in my life, but these things definitely get me out of bed with a smile on my face.

 

[PaulRobert]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

There are other fun things in my life, but these things definitely get me out of bed with a smile on my face.

And this is where a bright idea/question came into my head.

To everyone- No thread hijack intended- What gets you out of bed on a free day? What do you enjoy to do with your time that you can provide others with value?

I think these two questions can open up many doors to the questions we ask ourselves in this thread.

 

[mkzhang]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I think the best thing is to stop mental masturbation (constant learning of new things, reading tons of blogs or books, non-stop thinking and planing). Just go and make the first step, doesn't matter if it's in the right direction or wrong (whether you succeed or not). Like you said, you had a few tries but they didn't go as you want, still, you got what you need - you learned something useful!

This post is for everyone!

What is important is the first step +speed for that.

However I want to add that after the first step, there is the 2nd, 3rd, 4th etc.

Each step is equally as hard, and at each step you will feel just as, if not more hopeless than not starting at all.

The key is to keep pushing yourself, the next step might make all the difference, whether it might be the 1000th or the one millionth.

 

[DeletedUser394]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I have nothing to add right now, but my hour of desperation has blossomed into a pretty cool discussion !!!!

 

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[clee4]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I think the best thing is to stop mental masturbation (constant learning of new things, reading tons of blogs or books, non-stop thinking and planing). Just go and make the first step, doesn't matter if it's in the right direction or wrong (whether you succeed or not). Like you said, you had a few tries but they didn't go as you want, still, you got what you need - you learned something useful!

This post is for everyone!

very very true on this post. i started the same way....i read everything and anything and had a ton of information....but the only thing driving me crazy was how to put all this information to good use? i mean...all the reading and acquiring information is great, but taking the first step and putting that information to use is critical.

as someone once said to me...information does not equal knowledge, applying that information makes it knowledge. i see that its very true...i can read and learn everything in the world....but its just information, unless you put that information to work...thats when it becomes knowledge.

find something you find interesting...even if it just tickles you a little bit.... put your heart into it and all the pieces will fall into place. i used to be where you are...ready to give in and be content in the slowlane...i was able to find some people with the same mindset as me...trying to get into the fastlane...we have taken the necessary steps to this goal and the ideas are now flowing in faster than we can complete our projects. you will find your way if you believe in yourself.

 

[maximus20895]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Maximus, what's the first thing that pops into your head when you wake up in the morning? For me when were busy, I absolutely love having a kitchen or bathroom reno to go to. They're truly fun for me. I get even more excited when i'm getting out of bed to do something with one of my own properties.

There are other fun things in my life, but these things definitely get me out of bed with a smile on my face.

That makes sense. Of course, right now the first thing that pops into my head is "Damn, I have to go to school" I know I need to find a passion. This is something I have struggled a great deal with.

I can't tell you how many projects/websites I have started and then they just tapper off since I really didn't want to do them in the first place. Yea, at the beginning I was a little excited, but as time went on I got less and less motivated. I think that has alot to do with the lack of passion.

Over the last month or so I just stopped doing this all together. I was constantly thinking about what am I passion about throughout the whole day and it was starting to tear me down. I was starting to think that if I don't know what I'm passionate about soon I will have to deal with mediocrity or not have a chance to pursue entrepreneurship. So I just took a break without worrying about it to much.

Now, over the past few days I am slowly starting to get back in it. I still don't know what I'm passionate about, but I am trying to let it just hit me and not worry to much about it.

Hopefully I will know soon as it is frustrating when you have the desire to succeed, but you don't know what your vehicle is.

 

[Brootal]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

maximus-

It is scary how closely i relate to what you just said. One of the other issues that I have is that the things I am passionate about, I literally see no way to make into a Fastlane vehicle.

 

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[maximus20895]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Yea, I find that I am not so different from other people on these forums, especially the last few days. That makes me feel a little bit better

At least your passionate about something. May I ask what that something might be?

 

[Brootal]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I don't mind at all. My number one passion is cars. There is NOTHING in this world that gets my heart pumping like cars.

I got a job at an independent repair shop two years before I went to college and then continued to work there to pay for school (I went to school for automotive technology. My degree is a Bachelors of Technology; Automotive Tech). I worked there for a little over 6 years. My first day I was sweeping the floors and cleaning toilets, and by the time I left I was running the place for my boss. I did everything from ordering parts, scheduling work, scheduling photo shoots on cars we built, all the way down to hiring/firing and of course, cleaning the toilets (this never really goes away).

When it was coming time to graduate I saw all my friends getting jobs running service departments at dealerships. Having already worked at a shop for 6 years, I knew that there was no way in hell I wanted to run a service department.

Having a strong technical background I started applying to anything that was evenly remotely related, and decided I would take the job that paid the most. To make a long story even longer, I took a job doing engineering & technical sales for a company thats makes heavy duty transmissions/equipment.

The whole experience has been a double edged sword. On one side I make what most slowlaners would consider to be "great pay". Everyone around me tells me that I'm F@*$!n' nuts for even thinking about leaving. I have benefits, they pay me to travel, my cell phone is paid, etc etc. It is becoming obvious that I can't talk to people outside of this forum about my plans.

The other side is that I like it as much as I like going to the dentist. If the money were equal I would rather work on cars. Call me crazy but I would rather sit there with the torch and remove rusty bolts from a frame rail any day over running calculations that tell me if I should use nodular steel or cast iron for a damn transmission housing.

Working on cars gives me a satisfaction like nothing else. I know that when I am finished with whatever job I did, that it was done to perfection and that it won't be coming back for the same thing anywhere in the near future. I also know that most other people can't do what I just did.

I am saving all of my extra money for that moment that I finally get an idea on how to turn it Fastlane.

 

[maximus20895]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Wow, that's probably my biggest passion as well, haha.

I also understand what you mean about other people thinking that you are crazy. The slowlane is so much set in stone in most people's mind that they really don't step back and say to themselves that there is more for them out there.

It seems that you are more of a hands on kind of person.

 

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[Gymjunkie]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Wow, that's probably my biggest passion as well, haha.

I also understand what you mean about other people thinking that you are crazy. The slowlane is so much set in stone in most people's mind that they really don't step back and say to themselves that there is more for them out there.

It seems that you are more of a hands on kind of person.

There are guys who like cars but don't know about them and couldn't fox them themselves if something happened... Why don't you two with Brootal partner up for a blog on cars with Brootal advice on fixing/improving them, maybe choose one car model, or car maker or write about a lot of them. Write about the basics of how engine, transmission works etc..

It's just a suggestion though, maybe you can work it out or do something else inthis niche!

 

[Brootal]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I appreciate your efforts to help get us thinking GymJunkie.

I have no idea how I could ever make it fastlane, but I had thought once of taking 3 of my all time favorite things and combine them into one business. Cars, Business, and Travel.

I haven't figured out how to make any money with it yet, but if I could I would quit my job and do like Mixergy does, but focus on cars and business I'd put my two weeks in tomorrow.

For example: its not big deal to some celebrity in a Lambo or R8, but have you ever seen some kid in random young guy in one and thought "damn, what the hell does that guy do?"

I would find these people, travel all around the country and bring their stories out for everyone to read. Obviously it would have to be the people who wanted to let it all out there. It would be like MTV cribs on regular Joe's that made it big in business.

I know it sounds like a lame idea to most, but I think it would be awesome.

 

[BurnBright]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I haven't figured out how to make any money with it yet, but if I could I would quit my job and do like Mixergy does, but focus on cars and business I'd put my two weeks in tomorrow.

For example: its not big deal to some celebrity in a Lambo or R8, but have you ever seen some kid in random young guy in one and thought "damn, what the hell does that guy do?"

I would find these people, travel all around the country and bring their stories out for everyone to read. Obviously it would have to be the people who wanted to let it all out there. It would be like MTV cribs on regular Joe's that made it big in business.

I know it sounds like a lame idea to most, but I think it would be awesome.

MTV Networks Series Pitch Line
2600 Colorado Avenue
Santa Monica, CA 90404
310-752-8000

 

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[Brootal]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Now thats something that I never thought of. Do you have any experience with doing this?

 

[Russ H]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I appreciate your efforts to help get us thinking GymJunkie.

I have no idea how I could ever make it fastlane, but I had thought once of taking 3 of my all time favorite things and combine them into one business. Cars, Business, and Travel.

I haven't figured out how to make any money with it yet, but if I could I would quit my job and do like Mixergy does, but focus on cars and business I'd put my two weeks in tomorrow.

For example: its not big deal to some celebrity in a Lambo or R8, but have you ever seen some kid in random young guy in one and thought "damn, what the hell does that guy do?"

I would find these people, travel all around the country and bring their stories out for everyone to read. Obviously it would have to be the people who wanted to let it all out there. It would be like MTV cribs on regular Joe's that made it big in business.

I know it sounds like a lame idea to most, but I think it would be awesome.

It's a good idea.

Only problem pitching it is that you won't be the host. They'll choose a "face".

One way would be to do a pilot w/a production company. But this costs bucks. You typically want the go ahead from a network before trying something like this.

You could always do it bypassing TV: Shoot it for youtube.

If it went viral, you might get a prime time contract.

And if it didn't, you could still monetize something like this.

-Russ H.

 

[BurnBright]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Now thats something that I never thought of. Do you have any experience with doing this?

No experience doing it but I would watch it. I got that contact from the link below which explains some of the processes.
SoYouWanna pitch a TV show? | SoYouWanna.com

Russ is right that it would be best to do it thought a production company then just calling up and saying I have this idea. The great thing about it is your content would be self generating because many business owners would love national PR. People also love rags to riches stories.

 

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[Gymjunkie]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I appreciate your efforts to help get us thinking GymJunkie.

I have no idea how I could ever make it fastlane, but I had thought once of taking 3 of my all time favorite things and combine them into one business. Cars, Business, and Travel.

I haven't figured out how to make any money with it yet, but if I could I would quit my job and do like Mixergy does, but focus on cars and business I'd put my two weeks in tomorrow.

For example: its not big deal to some celebrity in a Lambo or R8, but have you ever seen some kid in random young guy in one and thought "damn, what the hell does that guy do?"

I would find these people, travel all around the country and bring their stories out for everyone to read. Obviously it would have to be the people who wanted to let it all out there. It would be like MTV cribs on regular Joe's that made it big in business.

I know it sounds like a lame idea to most, but I think it would be awesome.

Don't worry too much about making it Fastlane or not. Just start doing something, people get too hung up on the " is it Fastlane or not"...

 

[Xenia]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I get like that often.

I find that forcing myself to write down exactly what the problem is and what the solutions could be will shed some light on the confusion.

If you could just achieve, be, do, have just one thing what would it be?

 

[Xenia]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Oh by the way, never ever just accept mediocre. That's for everyone else :smxB:

 

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[Brootal]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I like the youtube idea a lot, Russ. If I could find a friend to shoot it, and found someone at college to edit the video it would keep my costs low.

I am interested in hearing how this idea could be monetized. I have no experience with making money from a video.

My biggest cost would be to travel around and meet these people. The costs associated with the travel would be one of my biggest issues. Obviously I couldn't pay the peopel either, but their benefit would be promotion of whatever they did / are doing to have success.

Thanks for everyones ideas / help!