Got rejected by a girl today...

[Vigilante]

I am not a huge fan of the formality of the "law of attraction" but I do think that there is some merit to it.

 

[Esquire]

Nah ... you're thinking about it the wrong way.

You didn't get rejected ... you just figured out one more approach ... that does NOT work.

On the road to success.

Hey ... at least you asked ... right ...?

No one ever landed a date slinking in a corner.

Just play the law of averages.

The more women you ask ... the more women who will accept.

If your odds are 10% ... ask 10 women out.

Just simple math.

Just keep casting your hook.

Good for you for trying.

 

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[The-J]

You sound like you're thinking about ways to avoid rejection. Don't.

Same in business: don't think of ways to avoid failure.

Think of ways to WIN. WIN by getting the date. WIN by making sales. WIN by getting many dates. WIN by getting many sales.

I don't know much about girls (haven't been single in a little while) but there is some parallel between dating and business. The main parallel being that in both instances, you're dealing with people.

In dating, find out what the girl wants and give it to her. In business, find out what the customer wants and give it to them. Girl pays you in time, customer pays you in money.

That's why money chasing and girl chasing, although you might make some money and get some girls, will never be sustainable.

 

[Red]

Join a sports team, hiking club, something team-oriented or task-oriented (accomplishing a goal together -like community centered). It's a great way to meet people, no pressure & allows you to get to know someone without them feeling creeped on.

 

[IceCreamKid]

Brb guys gotta go to the Halloween store to pick up my clown ninja costume.

Seriously though, let's all work on ourselves and our biz. The women will always be there, but the time to pursue our fastlane is today.

 

[borntodominate]

And it made me realize something, there are rules to how things work. Chasing just doesn't work. Also came to the conclusion most of the content I produce is not up to par and its merely 'chasing money'

Funny how things work.

 

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[Unknown]

This thread makes me sad. Women are human beings. Just talk to them.

 

[Bila]

How do people meet new women. I work 9-5 and i do not go clubbing. Haven't met anyone new for six months.

Tinder ........i knew i was on the wrong app after the 10th " what are you up to tonight ?"

 

[GuestUser113]

I can see why you were rejected. Gonna ignore some folks in here.

 

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[theag]

I can see why you were rejected. Gonna ignore some folks in here.

 

[RHL]

Calling it now: This thread is the next "Chasing Paper."

 

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[Unknown]

Every time I read a thread about dating I'm glad that I met my wife in college.

 

[DeletedUser394]

What is wrong with some of you people...

To the guys that are complaining about women, or objectifying women, or wondering about why they can't get a date... it's pretty obvious.

Women aren't pieces of meat, they are members of the opposite sex.

Seriously, just F*cking talk to people without 'trying to get into their pants'. Offer a sincere complement to someone you don't know. Be somebody other than a self entitled narcissistic brat.

If you've got a problem attracting the opposite sex, it's probably not their problem, it's yours.

 

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[Unknown]

If your odds are 10% ... ask 10 women out.

But not 10 women who are standing next to each other...that just pisses them off

 

[Red]

ask a woman to write your profile for you.

I love writing online dating profiles. The only caveat is that you have to use what I write, unedited.

Clarification: I am a woman. Also, the whole reason I found this whole group back in the day was off a PoF profile, LOL

 

[Red]

women dont know what they want, never ask a women for advice

Wow. Sounds like your problem may not be in your approach, but in your mindsets you carry about women that they pick up on. Don't underestimate the perceptive capabilities of a woman. This is an instant turn-off.

 

[theag]

Are you so insecure about your beliefs that you can't bear to witness people who think differently?

Yeah @Raoul Duke whats up with you man. Dont be so insecure. Jeez.

You need to loosen up! Like this:

 

[Esquire]

As a dating site owner ... I can't tell you how many guys lead off with pics ... that look like something like this:

Seriously ...?

WTF fellas ...?

What are these guys thinking ...?

I know what I'm thinking ... get the hell off my site!

(Click ... Delete ... Gone)

I don't know ... maybe I'm out of touch.

Whaddayathink ladies ...?

Turning ya on ...?

Feeling a little tingle downstairs ...?

What woman in her right mind can resist profile pics like this ...?

 

[theag]

Sloots.

But:

http://www.troll.me/images/the-rock/damn-dat-a$$-.jpg

 

[theag]

I'm doubling down. Chasing Paper 2.0, unfolding live, right here.

 

[Unknown]

I'm gonna be so attractive to girls

 

[Bila]

Ohhhh and women are not a throwable commodity by the way .... You know ...

 

[Esquire]

Here's "Pro Tip" # 2

Let a woman select your pics as well.

What guys "think" women want to see ... and what women "really" want to see ... is almost never one the same.

It amazes me how many guys completely screw up their profile picks ... on a regular consistent basis.

 

[Digamma]

Thank you for this thread guys. 10/10. Would recommend to a friend.

I can see why you were rejected. Gonna ignore some folks in here.

Are you so insecure about your beliefs that you can't bear to witness people who think differently?

People, seriously, online dating is like marketing. Your theories are worth nothing. Test and see what works. Is that simple, stop being so touchy and for F*cks sake stop reading pua websites.

 

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[Ninjakid]

And it made me realize something, there are rules to how things work. Chasing just doesn't work. Also came to the conclusion most of the content I produce is not up to par and its merely 'chasing money'

Funny how things work.

This is like one of those vague facebook statuses that hints disappointment. Usually used by teenage girls.

 

[FastNAwesome]

Chasing just doesn't work.

If by "chasing" you mean "cold approaching" - then yes it does work.
But it's a numbers game and 1 approach is nothing. Try 100.

Of course you also need to try learning things from each approach,
so you can improve the next one.

You really gotta love it to do it, but there are less stressful
alternatives like meeting through social circles and events.

Btw.don't take things personally, she didn't "reject" you - she don't know you,
she merely was saying no to whatever your proposal was.
It's her right to not like you. No big deal.

Anyways, if dating is like marketing....I'm going to be totally useless!

(Never had a gf in my life(in fact, I've never had a date in my life)

To have a glass of water, you need to take steps.

1. take a glass
2. open the tap
3. put the glass below the tap

Same with getting dates. What actual steps have
you taken towards getting dates, and how many times have you tried?

I'm a musician

musician = magnet for girls, do you play somewhere where they can see you and like you?

world traveler

so you have a lot of exciting topics to talk about on a date, and you can also talk about travels you're planning...ask her will she travel with you

Note: don't be one of those boring types who only talk about travel

athlete

I've never ever met a woman who doesn't appreciate athletic body.

and soon to be business owner

So ambitious guy with plans and direction in life. Another big plus.

Friends usually describe me as: Charismatic, funny, confident

Do you have female friends? If not, find some. If yes, ask them for hints and for help. Open your heart, and openly ask them to help you find get a date. Be completely open and say you never had a date and have no clue.

 

[Ninjakid]

I vote that this thread's name be changed to "how to get rejected by a girl today"

 

[smarty]

Congratulations!
Whether you realize it or not right now, getting rejected is 100 times better than living with doubts.
Chasing never works, especially with relationships. Give people the choice of freedom.
Never chase a girl, never chase money (the later can be harder to master)

 

[Mattie]

Let's call it matching pictures. I do believe we attract the same mindset, but opposite ends of the spectrum. In my experience no matter what kind of relationship, I end up facing someone that triggers my buttons. And those buttons only get pushed if I haven't faced an issue:

This happens all the time when I counsel people. As you grow, develop, and get a more positive mindset, you attract someone that matches where you are. Their experience may have been something you experienced, and triggers certain buttons, until you become neutral about it. They may say a phrase or a loaded worded that has been used in a negative way.

The opposite ends of the spectrum is usually the opposite point of view as yours. Resistant to your philosophy, personality, way of thinking, and they are triggered by some phrase or word you say.

The same experience will appear and appear again until you have resolved certain emotions, feelings, and no longer triggered. And your rejection comes into play because you don't match pictures anymore.

Usually because you're doing things the same way you've always done them, and just like your business with relationships no matter romantic or any other type, you will get the same response and result until you adjust the problem and issue.

I find it kind of funny, because a business isn't much different then a relationship. Same principles. In my experience, I had to learn about healthy relationships, apply, and act. For some people, they don't have to do this if they've had the right role models to begin with, for others they have to unlearn everything they've learned about relationships and learn something new to have a healthy relationship.

Which is the way you communicate, manage your emotions, feelings, thoughts, and act appropriately without crossing emotional, mental, spiritual boundaries. So yes, law of attraction happens, because if you don't unlearn certain things you draw someone to you that has similar issues, background, and behaviors. For example: If you're an alcoholic or child of one and co-dependent you will draw someone to you that is the same, or some other addiction.

If you're from families that have been raised on welfare and play by those rules, you will attract someone like that, and you can even say slow lane attract slow lane. The more you go up the scale, you attract someone that matches your life picture emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically.

I've watched this in different ways in my experience. And when you shift out of one it's usually surrounding yourself with a higher mindset and then you're life aligns with that picture. So, this is where Imagination creates reality steps in. "Visualization." Vision. You see yourself playing the part, you act the part, and it becomes your reality and life. And Imagination can create any reality you want it too. Same principles as an athlete before they go out to play.

 

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[Esquire]

How do people meet new women. I work 9-5 and i do not go clubbing. Haven't met anyone new for six months.

Here's a "pro" tip ...

When creating a profile on a dating site ... ask a woman to write your profile for you.

Odds are ... they will know what to say ... and exactly how to say it ... to make your dating profile resonate with women ... better.

 

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