The "Astonishing Secrets" Thread

[Carny]

But I think a lot of the issues are me. I get mad or sad or depressed when she doesn't see my point of view. It's time to take our relationship by the cajones and exude that positive energy. Nobody likes to be around people who just mope around when they don't get their way.

@Windsurfer this one thing will help quite a bit. Start doing that NOW

I guess my big question in all this is how people manage to balance their family life and their fastlane endeavors? That seems to be My wife and I's biggest problem - especially since the bulk of my time is at my full-time corporate job? I have a bunch of real estate properties but not enough to quit my regular job. But I can't ramp up the real estate (or copywriting or whatever fastlane thing) much without keeping commitments to the family. I want to give my family ice cream, but they don't want me to take the time away from them making it. My wife is not into the entrepreneurial thing AT ALL.
Any thoughts on that anyone?

I struggle with this one too. I give up sleep. It gets old sometimes but I don't know a better option.

I think one of the keys of that is her trust.

^This!

This one "weird" trick will improve your marriage for the rest of your life!

Had to try my hand at a headline!

Really though, think about this for a minute. What is it that drives men? Since the dawn of time men have left the cave, killed something, and drug it home. Men are providers! It is in a man's nature to get the ice cream!

What do women crave? What will transform a woman into a strong, supportive wife? Security. Above all else a woman wants to feel secure. It is the woman's nature to keep the ice cream safe!

When you bounce 300 ideas off her in a week that are going to make you rich so you can quit your job, what does she hear? That you are going to quit your job. She can't support you because it scares the crap out of her. She may not even realize it herself. Women have a security gland, and every time you mention a "get rich quick" scheme it starts pumping securimones (TM) and she locks up.

In my upcoming ebook, I will lay out the 7 simple steps it takes to make her want you to be in the fastlane. My easy to follow plan will guide you, step by step, in the total transformation of becoming a power couple. Once you're wife is behind you 100% her support will unleash your true potential. You will be an ice cream making machine!

For a limited time I am extending a special offer to a select few. I'm practically giving the book away for $9.99. All I ask in return is that you leave a testimonial if you find the book helpful. If you feel like you didn't benefit, return it for a 100% refund, no questions asked. Once this offer ends the book will be available for $39.99. If you would like to take advantage of this opportunity and pre-order your copy today Click Here!


Ok, I'm done with that. One thing that helps is to reassure her that you are just discussing ideas and you won't quit your job until you have enough coming in to support yourselves. Don't imply it or hint around, say it!

Another thing that has helped me is Shark Tank of all things! Most wives will believe almost anything anyone tells them except their husbands! She started watching the show and every once in a while I would pause it to explain something (but don't turn it into a play by play or a seminar) or discuss what happened. The best part was when she saw my excitement for the ones that go really great. I remember one with some young girls and their mother that made jewelry. I was really happy for them and kept talking about how they were set for life, imagine how great they are going to have it now, etc, etc.

If you get her trust you will be amazed at the difference.

Another thing, TAKE ACTION. You see that here all the time. It helps more than just your fastlane journey. I've had so many ideas that she doesn't take most of them seriously any more. Why should she? I've repeatedly been excited about something only to move on to the next fad that hit the boards a few weeks later. When she saw that I was serious about this latest thing and that I was actually taking steps towards it, she got excited too! She still has reservations but it made a tremendous difference.

I hope this helps someone because that was a helluva lot of typing!

 

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[throttleforward]

For what it's worth, I've never been more motivated to pursue any of my various business ventures than when I showed my wife my MVP website and she started signing up on her ipad as I was talking to her about the concept. She was disappointed that she didn't get a confirmation email as I was talking to her (I had to explain I hadn't set up the autoresponder yet). She then proceeded to text me ideas for my business over the next few days.

 

[Yussef]

The greatest lesson of all...

LOVE THE HELL OUT OF OTHERS AND YOU WILL EVENTUALLY HAVE ALL THE ICE CREAM YOU CAN EAT.

The hell? This is a @zen******* secret? It is, and let me prove to you why.

When you love others with a genuine heart, you become more present to their feelings which include their pains and needs. You approach them from the position of, “How can I improve this person’s life? How can I add value to this person’s life?” as opposed to, “Where can I get money? COME ON GIVE ME THE MONEY!”.

This is the mindset I see a lot of people have: “The XYZ market is a $50B market and is about to explode 30% within the next 2 years. I’m going to get into that and get a piece of the pie!”. The ice cream shop has the right to refuse service to anyone and does not serve those with that mindset. We only serve ice cream to those who love others and solve their pains. Well, maybe we’ll offer plain vanilla to the 99% who don’t.

Do you think someone will tell you their pains and needs if you genuinely show them that you want to help improve their lives? Or are they more likely to tell you their pains if you approach them from the angle of, “Hey would you buy this product from me? Come on, buy it!”

When you love the hell out of others, you begin building a brand with a noticeable heart. Customers WILL notice this and you will develop a loyal following. They will tell their friends and post it all over Facebook. You notice how In n’ Out Burger has a loyal following of fans? That’s because they show love for their employees and love for their customers by striving to always satisfy everyone’s needs. It’s a hamburger joint with a friggin’ culture. I love it. The employees are always joyful as hell. The company has HEART and SOUL. Compare that to the majority of other fast food joints who are just a cold cash taker.

Sometimes it’s not always about profit. Love others first and the ice cream will come.

I’ve never met zen******* in person but his whole vibe OOZES of love, heart, honor, and integrity. He wants to help you better your life. He doesn’t fear the success of those he mentors. I would trust that guy with a $100,000 personal loan. He obviously doesn’t need my money, but you get my point. I bet you a bunch of people bring him deals and opportunities to partner up simply because of his vibe of love and integrity.

Love others. Drop the greed because it will blind you to opportunities for more ice cream around you. When you harness this mindset for a long enough amount of time, you will see the abundance of possibilities and realize the ice cream is everywhere. Fear and scarcity WILL be replaced by confidence and abundance.

@JackEdwards wasn't lying when he said, "The moment you stop caring about money is the moment you start making money". Respect to you, good sir.

You also ooze awesomeness sir. Killer thread. Oh and in case you didn't know, zen******* is Yodas big brother and Jack Edwards used to train ninjas. They are both certified badasses.

 

[Windsurfer]

Once again, thank you to everyone for all the great advice. My wife and I had a long talk last night about my real estate investing, and she was actually more on board than I thought. She basically said she wanted me to diligently run all the numbers and make sure what I was doing was a good deal. She also wondered if it is ok for us to have all our eggs in one basket and should we diversify. I explained that we were also in mobile home notes and that was working for us as well.

I guess when I started in real estate investing, I was doing it a little by the seat of my pants. I have learned a ton along the way and am now putting together a lot more analysis with each deal. But she wanted to see it and I never thought she was that interested. She also didn't like me bringing home a new lead on a house all the time when all she saw was me being away from the family.

So if I can offer what I learned from this, the biggest investor you may have to pitch to is your wife. The rules in Z's Raising Capital Secrets still apply. Get your feces coagulated, have a good business plan, be brutally honest, disclose everything, and explain the downside. Once your wife sees that you are providing security, she will come along.

I am not there yet, but last night felt like a heckuva good start. I really appreciate everyone helping. This forum is incredible!

 

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[Oztrepreneur]

ICK looking forward to your sales lessons...please teach us.

 

[amp0193]

I'll divorce my wife if I feel strongly enough about my dream and she refuses to support it.

This post is really inconsistent with the rest of your thread. Arrogant and selfish. Helping people? In what way is divorce helping anyone but yourself? It takes time dude, and understanding the other persons point of view.

Now, I know you're not married, and of course you should be looking for someone who supports your ideas from the start, I get that. Makes it way easier.

Marriage is for the long haul bro. My wife came grew up in the slowest of the slowlane. Backwards-lane even, if her parents are borrowing money from her in college. It hasn't been easy, no, it's been F*cking difficult, but you know what, she's starting to come around.

 

[COSenior]

Damn...JackEdwards just complimented me. I can't lie, this one moved me. I have mad respect for the guy...I hope one day I can ride in his F430.

I had my first $2k day today. I can't figure out why it happened so I'm currently investigating it so I can repeat the process. Business is all about optimization and repeating what works best for you after you have optimized.

This morning, I got approached by an MLM to be a motivational speaker for them. They were asking me to lie and pretend that I had created a huge downline for myself. I can't sell my soul. My reasons for wanting to motivate you guys go far deeper than money. I'm super busy running my business right now and I spend a lot of time/energy writing these posts to make sure that each one is fun yet informative at the same time.

I never told anyone this, but JackEdwards played a part in my story as well. Many fastlaners on here did, actually. They say good artists copy and great artists steal.

I stole the Dolphin mindset about love and persistence. I stole the JackEdwards angle of creativity...the guy approaches business from crazy angles and I am amazed by it. I stole the CENTS formula from MJ. I stole Vigilante's thoughts about branding. I'm actually stealing from all the rich guy contributors on here and giving back to the people, just like Robin Hood bwahahah! Like a ninja thief in the night, I stole bits and pieces from everyone and created my own amazingly tasty blend of ice cream that the people apparently want to pay money for. Please make sure that the people are willing to pay money for your ice cream before you go out and invest your entire life savings towards an ice cream factory.

This thread is nearing 4,000 views yet I see very few people taking action. To say that I am frustrated by it would be an understatement.

I've decided that I'm going to create an mp3 audio file to address all of the peeps in here who hide behind the computer and aren't taking action. We will cover fear, limiting beliefs, your why, and all sorts of cool stuff that I taught to my friends in the offline world. I first started addressing it with typing, but it simply isn't effective enough because you can't feel the underlying emotion behind what I'm saying. ALL FREE. Ice cream for everyone yaaay!

Real talk, the Dolphin mindset works...I've seen it at work with my own eyes. One of my buddies was even a former drug dealer in San Francisco and he seems to be on the road to turning his life around. He hasn't built a fully running ice cream shop yet, but he's taking baby steps learning it every single day. And that's what counts. Taking action every single day.

Anybody read the story of the tortoise and the hare? The tortoise never stopped. He just kept taking consistent action every single day and eventually won the race. Wanna be successful? Develop the habits of success. The only place where "success" comes before "work" is in the dictionary.

Everything on the exterior of your life is a reflection of what's going on internally within your mind. Shift your mindset.

Fascinating read! I got to the post above and decided I'd better get to work. Can't wait to read the rest.

 

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[Cult45]

This is a great thread and i just read all the way through it. Really catching the vibe here. One of the things I wanted to share and it has to do less with business and more with life in general. My wife went sort of through a depressed state over the last few years. Our marriage suffered and we became distant. I always felt she was really pushing out negativity into the universe. She was always angry about something or talked down about others and it made me mad. I wanted her to see how mad I was for her negativity. But it only brought more of it. It was unbearable enough I seriously thought about leaving her. I kept telling myself she was bringing me down. Most people told me that you cannot surround yourself with that sort of negativity, it will only prevent you from becoming happy and successful in life. So I contemplated leaving even more.

Then one day it just clicked. It all fit together like a puzzle and I solved it. And my life right now is amazing. Her negativity was so contagious that it caught on like wildfire to anyone who was around, and especially me since i lived with her. And I tried to change her so desperately because I hated to see her this way. But the answer just stood there in front of me this one moment. I knew right then I could reverse it, because of the laws of nature. I was looking in the wrong place. I wasn't going to change her by yelling at her or telling her to stop being so negative. What I did was became so overly positive and happy and cheerful and made a change inside of me that it began to slowly catch on to her, and eventually the way I became and interacted with her and with others became so contagious she began to adopt my attitudes and behaviors. It was through my positive attitude and the changes I made within myself, that spread like wildfire to my wife.

So the BEST ADVICE I could ever give someone if they grow apart from their wife is not to try and save her or make her do anything. You change yourself and be the person you need to be and even be the person you want them to be, and do it with so much ambition and heart that it becomes so contagious. Once you learn you can do this, you can really see how you can influence others through your own behavior. It's amazing to see how much influence you truly do have by exuding positive energy.

Wow...awesome post. My marriage has been "drifting" for years. Looks like I need to make a change !!

 

[Bigguns50]

you chose your wife for a reason. Trust her. HOWEVER.
there is a point when you need to be the man, and say, THIS is who I am, and THIS Is what I do, and I need your support and love. even if you dont understand it.
My wife, has not always understood what I do, or how. but she knows why. she knows that What I have done, or do, is for US, as a family and our shared vision. just because she cant see the shore, doesnt mean land is not there. I tell her, unfurl the sails, and let me drive. she gets to enjoy the ride.
She is a smart woman, and, supports me in what I want to do. as a result, I have given her an uncommon life.
Z

BOOM ! There you have it. Straight from the heart and life experience. Nuff said.

You know...I see something glimmering in distance...is that....Platinum ? This thread has an amazing vibe and flow to it !

 

[IceCreamKid]

This post is really inconsistent with the rest of your thread. Arrogant and selfish. Helping people? In what way is divorce helping anyone but yourself? It takes time dude, and understanding the other persons point of view.

Now, I know you're not married, and of course you should be looking for someone who supports your ideas from the start, I get that. Makes it way easier.

Marriage is for the long haul bro. My wife came grew up in the slowest of the slowlane. Backwards-lane even, if her parents are borrowing money from her in college. It hasn't been easy, no, it's been F*cking difficult, but you know what, she's starting to come around.

I appreciate this response, not the name calling though.

Anyway, let me clarify what I mean by my post. I agree marriage is for the long haul, but I do believe that there are situations where the relationship should be severed. For example, what if the husband beats up his wife everyday? Or someone just can't stop cheating despite numerous attempts for therapy? I don't think someone should blindly stay in a relationship just because it has the title of marriage.

YES you should ask your wife to just trust you. YES you should try to gain her support first. YES you should try to work things out. You don't just immediately jump ship and divorce. But what if she refuses to support it, regardless of the actions I took to gain her support?

Yes I do believe in loving others, but that includes loving myself. I wouldn't be loving myself if I lived the rest of my life knowing that I didn't give myself a shot at living up to the potential that is within. You can call it selfishness if you want, but I think it's simply a matter of respecting oneself. How can you be authentically loving of others if they don't even give you the opportunity to love yourself by going after your dream???

I also look at it from a utilitarian angle. It's difficult to build a multi-million dollar business if your wife isn't backing you up. Imagine a guy having the talent to build a business that could one day donate millions to charity but he couldn't simply because his wife refused to support him starting his business. I guess I'm arrogant and selfish for divorcing someone who absolutely refused to support me at taking a shot at my dreams to donate millions then.

 

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[Cult45]

I’m not going to post much for the next few days. I’m busy as hell…I think I have to buy a van or a u-haul to pick up product now because my Nissan Maxima can’t carry everything anymore. I end up taking multiple trips and it’s a pain to do that all the time.

Maybe I’ll rent a u-haul first and see how that works out. I hate spending money when I don’t have to. On the INSIDERS call yesterday, they were talking about how Sam Walton would buy folding chairs and fold out tables instead of real furniture…omg that’s awesome. The guy was truly on a mission.

Since I won’t be as available for the next few days to drop ice cream on the ground for you guys to lick off the concrete, I want to leave you with some homework.

Harness The Attitude of Gratitude

Have you ever started a morning on the wrong foot and everything else seemed to follow that overall vibe? By the end of the day, you’re drained because anything and everything seemed to not be going your way. You’re angry, tired, and frustrated. Sick and tired of being sick and tired. Here’s a trick to change all of that.

Every morning, write down 3-5 things that you’re grateful for. This will allow you to start your day from a mindset of abundance. When you do this first thing when you wake up, everything else that you do throughout the day will be done in support of that overall positive mindset. It sets the tone immediately.

You’ll find that you first start with very general stuff like, “I’m grateful for my 3 mistresses”. After a few weeks, you’ll run out of things to list that you’re grateful for so you’ll start getting VERY specific like:

1. I’m grateful for how Mistress A makes me feel when she smiles at me with her cute little dimples

2. I’m grateful for how amazing of a cook Mistress B is

3. I’m grateful for how Mistress C seems to really take the time to listen and understand me

You’ll start noticing all of the tiny details in your life that you can be grateful for. It’s a better feeling than shrooms, coke, and weed. It’s not better than sex though. Sex is better than ice cream, just my opinion.

Customers will notice your overall positive vibe and love you for it. I’m convinced Disney is such a powerful company because they have mastered the art of positive vibes and communicated it on a massive scale. They make you feel good. They make you forget all of the bullshit responsibilities that we have to endure as adults. They make you feel childlike again. Being childlike is key…that’s why ice cream and getting drunk is the common theme in a majority of my posts. Don’t take shit so seriously, it’s all just a game. Your job is to connect the puzzle pieces together.

I have a fat crush on the chick in this video. I hope the ladybird in my life doesn't read this haha. She's a fastlaner too, but made her millions in real estate development. She's the reason why I learned to love people. Let me tell you, the right woman in your life can be the greatest motivator in the world. With the wrong woman, you can work 24 hours a day and never get even close to building a smoothly running ice cream shop. Where are all the female entrepreneurs at, anyway??? I remember seeing a few around here...Determined, AroundTheWorld, where are the rest?

Mastering the art of gratitude is essential because you need it in order to get through the times of failure. Make no mistake about it, you WILL fail on your path to ice cream heaven. But you will fail better going forward. Fight to make it work and keep the faith. Developing an overall mindset of positivity and abundance is crucial because there are A LOT of roadblocks in Candy Land.

The gremlins in Candy Land are filled with hatred, envy, jealousy, selfishness, and cynicism…they will try to steal the ice cream out of your hands while you are doing cartwheels and jumping jacks. They hate to see you so happy, but don’t let it get to you. They’re just hurting and frustrated inside. You still love them anyway. They just don't know any better. I remember MJ saying that someone even stole an INSIDERS subscription from him. How the hell do you steal in INSIDERS subscription, @MJ DeMarco ???

Believe in yourself. Because not truly believing leads to doing shit half assed. Half assing your work leads to failure. Failure leads to you not being able to give back to the world. I need you to develop an abundance mindset so you can get get an abundance of ice cream so that we can give back.

Isn’t entrepreneurship amazing? Not only is it the fastlane to ice cream, but it’s also the fastlane to becoming a better, stronger, happier version of yourself. Don’t you want to become a happier version of yourself?

We’re giving back to the people in Candy Land. Spreading it across the country. One scoop at a time.

See you all later. I'm almost done talking about mindset. After that, we're going to jump into marketing.

p.s. I'm still convinced mindset is everything. Get your mind right. Get drunk and be happy cuz they play some really good music inside the ice cream shop.

Yet again, another amazingly inspiring post. I practice the art of gratitude every night while going to bed. Never thought of doing it when I get up.
Should be a great way to start the day!

 

[nitroheadz28]

This guy's the real deal.

We just spoke for an hour about ways I can reverse negative thought processes and limiting beliefs.

I've now got a tangible plan to slowly unravel the intangible things that are holding me back. That baby on the beach picture is how I feel right now.

Thanks dude.

This post is really inconsistent with the rest of your thread. Arrogant and selfish. Helping people? In what way is divorce helping anyone but yourself? It takes time dude, and understanding the other persons point of view.

Now, I know you're not married, and of course you should be looking for someone who supports your ideas from the start, I get that. Makes it way easier.

Marriage is for the long haul bro. My wife came grew up in the slowest of the slowlane. Backwards-lane even, if her parents are borrowing money from her in college. It hasn't been easy, no, it's been F*cking difficult, but you know what, she's starting to come around.

Not cool, the man spends his time to help you for FREE and because you have a difference of opinion (not to mention interpreted his post incorrectly) you badmouth him?

Allow me to apologize for you, at least his time won't be wasted on me. Ryan is THE MAN!

 

[IceCreamKid]

ICK looking forward to your sales lessons...please teach us.

Don't worry man, it's coming. Just taking a bit longer than I anticipated.

I kinda lost a bit of that sense of urgency to post educational stuff on here because a good chunk of people that I've spent hours mentoring end up doing literally the exact opposite of what I advise them to do. Then I see zen******* doing some amazing stuff with the guppies and people throw rocks at him. It's super discouraging to see the community doing that stuff to him.

I noticed the biggest issue is that people limit themselves to businesses that they know or are passionate about because they fear venturing into the unfamiliar. I told a bunch of guys not to jump into a market just because they're passionate for it and they went forward doing the exact opposite of my advice. They don't realize that their passion actually ends up limiting them from bigger opportunities.

Ugh...trust me, if I'm making millions by importing horse poo then I will become passionate for knowing every tiny detail about it, despite how disgusting the idea is lol.

 

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[jon.a]

I'll divorce my wife if I feel strongly enough about my dream and she refuses to support it.

There's this quote..."don't try to teach a pig to sing because you'll only frustrate yourself and annoy the pig".

It's a lot easier to find a ladybird who embraces the fastlane ideology than it is to convince a slowlaner that the fastlane is the better way.

I did, and found a much superior one to replace her.

 

[Bigguns50]

@zen******* You money sending maniac you ! thanks for the transfer...I appreciate the recognition.

Don't worry man, it's coming. Just taking a bit longer than I anticipated.

Yep...and the more people that read this thread, and the more you comment, the more shit you'll take. That's fine man...keep giving.

Listen... @IceCreamKid because of you, @zen******* , @AllenCrawley , @healthstatus , @MJ DeMarco , and so many others, I KEEP MOVING FORWARD...and I'm getting my a$$ kicked...believe me. But I don't care. I couldn't care less. I keep thinking ..... " F those guys ( you guys )...if they didn't and don't quite...I'll be dammed if I'm gunna tap out. And I mean this in the absolute most positive, respectful way possible.

I'm nothing special...money says a LOT of people keep moving forward because of you all.

 

[IceCreamKid]

Not cool, the man spends his time to help you for FREE and because you have a difference of opinion (not to mention interpreted his post incorrectly) you badmouth him?
Allow me to apologize for you, at least his time won't be wasted on me. Ryan is THE MAN!

My brother! Thank you for the shout out. Don't put me on a pedestal though, I am just one of you.

I feel like this thread could turn into a big drama fest.

I want all of you to understand that I am open to your opinions and respect them accordingly. All I ask is that if your opinion differs with mine, please don't use name calling as part of your argument. It offers nothing productive.

Who knows, maybe amp0193 was just having a bad day. Maybe he was frustrated. Maybe he wanted to star in the "How To Piss Off A Mentor" thread. I still love you man.

 

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[Enki]

I still think most people don't understand the nature of "context" when involved on message boards and other forms of instant media. I used to (and still do occasionally) get passionate about some of the dumbest things. Now as a rule of thumb I try to imagine as many avenues of context as I can before I let my cortisol levels rise.

In hindsight I can almost always see where I could've asked somebody to elaborate before I got all pissed off and started name calling.

Can we move back to exploring the intelligence of a Dolphin combined with the likeness of a Zen Monk? Cause that's what I'm looking for here......

 

[Cult45]

Forcing yourself to be positive doesn't work because the deepest part of your heart would know that you're not being authentic with yourself.

My brother, I certainly feel for you and am sensing some emotional pain underneath your words. We need to dig deeper and find out exactly why you keep wondering "what if?" because it sounds to me that there are some unresolved issues there that you have not let go of.

Forcing yourself to be positive doesn't work because the deepest part of your heart would know that you're not being authentic with yourself.

When your heart and mind are clear of pain, the gates to emotional and intellectual abundance will be open for you.

It is very difficult to take quality, consistent action on the daily when you're not emotionally, mentally, physically 100%. Don't worry though, we here at the ice cream shop are here to help you and re-wire your mindset.

I usually advise to get drunk and eat ice cream, but this is one situation where you should take some serious reflection time. PM me if you need help moving forward with this.

True 'dat. Have spent years trying to "fool" myself that I am happy. This ice cream is the shit

 

[Oztrepreneur]

Ugh...trust me, if I'm making millions by importing horse poo then I will become passionate for knowing every tiny detail about it, despite how disgusting the idea is lol.

Exactly right. My passion is pursuing a process that frees my time and gives me the finances to pursue my hobbies. The sense of achievement after becoming a self made millionaire, even selling horse poo would be incredible. Thats my passion!

ICK forget the drama queens on here. This thread started so well and the focus first on mindset was really good. I think we all need to help ICK here to allow him to stay on topic and then he can continue to share his experience. I am sure you would all agree, we don't want to drive away people like ICK, Zen, JackEdwards with drama. Bring on the sales lessons......

 

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[nitroheadz28]

ICK forget the drama queens on here. This thread started so well and the focus first on mindset was really good. I think we all need to help ICK here to allow him to stay on topic and then he can continue to share his experience. I am sure you would all agree, we don't want to drive away people like ICK, Zen, JackEdwards with drama. Bring on the sales lessons......

Right on! Just spent some more time on the phone with Ryan, man the guy is super cool and just a goldmine of knowledge. From copy, to approaching business prospects/ creating a business around them, pre-selling, marketing, getting into the customer mindset, the list goes on and on.. I already owe him big time, for now my promise of taking action very soon and all my rep will have to suffice- but I'll make him proud lol.

GET DA ICE CREAM!

 

[RogueInnovation]

Passion can definately be a limit. Better to see passion in anything you spend your time on and judge if it is time well spent independant of that.
The limiting aspect of passion is the part where everyone influences you to have something that suits the ideals of a collective that is NOT your market and will only give you backpats.

Passion should go hand in hand with process. Find a process, and now TURN ON that passion! It will make everything you do, that much more thorough and awesome. Add tequilla, add ice cream, add a lotta love.

If you do want to take action on things ICK and zen******* etc have said, I suggest that you do the following;
Disconnect from everything you are doing, and commit to a frame of time that authentically will test and act on things they tell you.
Make that time frame seperate from your "grind" and "hang onto life rafts" mindset struggles.
And before you sit down to their words, calm yourself down as much as possible (so you don't talk over them), be as humble and as giving as possible (admit where they are helping and accept it, don't be bitter or arrogant or try to hide it), become determined to "see it through" and give their advice a lotta love.
Then write out the process, then write out the opportunity and key action point, keep it short and sweet, so you can remember what they are telling you and not get too distracted in anything else, and pour some passion into that mold that equal the timeframe, determination, awesomeness and humility you pledged.
Put an action list up, and put the most important ones right at the top, get some tequilla and icecream truck music... Let amazingness do its thing

You can "get back" to your grind later, but with the benefit of new actions taken.
Don't let self obsession be the thing that is stopping you from taking time out, to DO what you might usually not do. To get passionate about a process you JUST discovered, that found a market that might not be the one your ego clings to.

It is a courageous act, but it is an act that gives back.
And if you CAN manage to do this, you will get ice cream.
(looks at ick coin, and thinks... really thinks about doing it)

(I am truly contemplating it)

I'm starting to think that, this might be necessary.
Like, to remove that "home team" "suck our market dry to the bone" aspect of your business.

(starts chuckling)
Clever guys...

Yes.
Zen and ICK are totally right. They want you to do it, to shake you outta apathy, and have you act on it, because choosing to act on it makes you feel normal and chilled out.
It is MEANT to be hard, and encouraging, because it TAKES BOTH!

Yet again, another sneaky trick. (claps)
Well played.
(looks at ICK coin "hmmm")

If you really listen to their words, you might see... Their biggest trick of all.
(closes eyes, feels like walking into an arena, "I know this place")

Thank you guys for your GRIT and compassion. It takes a long time to believe, and no one wants to be this frustrating, we just are obsessed with seeing.
(damn, where is the tequilla)

Too much ice creaaam, "brain freeeeeeeze!!!"

(pushes tequilla away "no! Must stay focused!")
So much ice creaaaam.

Passion for process, comes from ice cream, because the icecream comes from you stepping beyond that place.
I can see why you guys are making so much bank!

Its an honor.

(reflects)

*chuckles, goes and gets an actual drink*
I just understood what I need to do with my business.

Guys, ACT on it.
Bring out your best. Don't just blow them hot air. You WILL gain more than just encouragement!!! This is a chance. Take it.

EDIT:
BTW, anyone worried that doing what they suggest will make you their "bitch", forget about it, cuz they are very very aware that the ONLY way you can be someone's bitch is if you DON'T listen and they have to DRAG YOU(which they won't do, which is fair).

If you listen to them, you'll find out, that they really offer what they do, as a generous thing that supports your individuality. ICK for example, endures telling you all this, on TOP of everything else he is already doing!
He is happy to see you listen, succeed, and then go back to his ice cream shop.

So don't be paranoid. Take up that chance, because they aren't possessive about it at all. It is just your mind that is tricking you (don't let it, let their trick win over its trick).

 

[Enki]

Perhaps an audio - "I take action, make confident decisions, and see things through to the end, always." Sounds corny, but just writing this is making me realize it really could work.

Do it, It can and will work! But record yourself saying these things with strength and conviction!

I'm going to take it a step further myself. I'm going to record myself doing one of Les Brown's Tapes. I'm going to try and deliver with the energy he delivers with.

Something about mimicking people we look up to has a powerful effect on our subconscious.

 

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[IceCreamKid]

Passion can definately be a limit. Better to see passion in anything you spend your time on and judge if it is time well spent independant of that.
The limiting aspect of passion is the part where everyone influences you to have something that suits the ideals of a collective that is NOT your market and will only give you backpats.

Passion should go hand in hand with process. Find a process, and now TURN ON that passion! It will make everything you do, that much more thorough and awesome. Add tequilla, add ice cream, add a lotta love.

If you do want to take action on things ICK and zen******* etc have said, I suggest that you do the following;
Disconnect from everything you are doing, and commit to a frame of time that authentically will test and act on things they tell you.
Make that time frame seperate from your "grind" and "hang onto life rafts" mindset struggles.
And before you sit down to their words, calm yourself down as much as possible (so you don't talk over them), be as humble and as giving as possible (admit where they are helping and accept it, don't be bitter or arrogant or try to hide it), become determined to "see it through" and give their advice a lotta love.
Then write out the process, then write out the opportunity and key action point, keep it short and sweet, so you can remember what they are telling you and not get too distracted in anything else, and pour some passion into that mold that equal the timeframe, determination, awesomeness and humility you pledged.
Put an action list up, and put the most important ones right at the top, get some tequilla and icecream truck music... Let amazingness do its thing

You can "get back" to your grind later, but with the benefit of new actions taken.
Don't let self obsession be the thing that is stopping you from taking time out, to DO what you might usually not do. To get passionate about a process you JUST discovered, that found a market that might not be the one your ego clings to.

It is a courageous act, but it is an act that gives back.
And if you CAN manage to do this, you will get ice cream.
(looks at ick coin, and thinks... really thinks about doing it)

(I am truly contemplating it)

I'm starting to think that, this might be necessary.
Like, to remove that "home team" "suck our market dry to the bone" aspect of your business.

(starts chuckling)
Clever guys...

Yes.
Zen and ICK are totally right. They want you to do it, to shake you outta apathy, and have you act on it, because choosing to act on it makes you feel normal and chilled out.
It is MEANT to be hard, and encouraging, because it TAKES BOTH!

Yet again, another sneaky trick. (claps)
Well played.
(looks at ICK coin "hmmm")

If you really listen to their words, you might see... Their biggest trick of all.
(closes eyes, feels like walking into an arena, "I know this place")

Thank you guys for your GRIT and compassion. It takes a long time to believe, and no one wants to be this frustrating, we just are obsessed with seeing.
(damn, where is the tequilla)

Too much ice creaaam, "brain freeeeeeeze!!!"

(pushes tequilla away "no! Must stay focused!")
So much ice creaaaam.

Passion for process, comes from ice cream, because the icecream comes from you stepping beyond that place.
I can see why you guys are making so much bank!

Its an honor.

(reflects)

*chuckles, goes and gets an actual drink*
I just understood what I need to do with my business.

Guys, ACT on it.
Bring out your best. Don't just blow them hot air. You WILL gain more than just encouragement!!! This is a chance. Take it.

I used to ignore your posts back in the day because I would always take forever to decode the deeper meaning behind what you're saying...but by golly, you actually have a lot a wisdom behind your insane posts. You drink a very unique flavor of tequila, good sir.

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[jpa0827]

I appreciate this response, not the name calling though.

Anyway, let me clarify what I mean by my post. I agree marriage is for the long haul, but I do believe that there are situations where the relationship should be severed. For example, what if the husband beats up his wife everyday? Or someone just can't stop cheating despite numerous attempts for therapy? I don't think someone should blindly stay in a relationship just because it has the title of marriage.

YES you should ask your wife to just trust you. YES you should try to gain her support first. YES you should try to work things out. You don't just immediately jump ship and divorce. But what if she refuses to support it, regardless of the actions I took to gain her support?

Yes I do believe in loving others, but that includes loving myself. I wouldn't be loving myself if I lived the rest of my life knowing that I didn't give myself a shot at living up to the potential that is within. You can call it selfishness if you want, but I think it's simply a matter of respecting oneself. How can you be authentically loving of others if they don't even give you the opportunity to love yourself by going after your dream???

I also look at it from a utilitarian angle. It's difficult to build a multi-million dollar business if your wife isn't backing you up. Imagine a guy having the talent to build a business that could one day donate millions to charity but he couldn't simply because his wife refused to support him starting his business. I guess I'm arrogant and selfish for divorcing someone who absolutely refused to support me at taking a shot at my dreams to donate millions then.

You forgot... Give her some Ice Cream. Everyone likes Ice Cream here

 

[IceCreamKid]

You forgot... Give her some Ice Cream. Everyone likes Ice Cream here

HAHA never underestimate the power of ice cream.

True story...I was a super rebellious teenager and would always get into fights with my mom back in the day. In the middle of the fight I'd say WAIT LET'S STOP FIGHTING AND GRAB SOME ICE CREAM REALLY QUICK. No lie, the ice cream would instantly change both of our vibes from angry to happy.

Can you see yourself eating ice cream with an angry face on? Neither can I.

Ice cream works...and vodka...and tequila...jk

 

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[NinjaRice]

Ugh...trust me, if I'm making millions by importing horse poo then I will become passionate for knowing every tiny detail about it, despite how disgusting the idea is lol.

LOL +1

 

[RogueInnovation]

I used to ignore your posts back in the day because I would always take forever to decode the deeper meaning behind what you're saying...but by golly, you actually have a lot a wisdom behind your insane posts. You drink a very unique flavor of tequila, good sir.

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Ha, you know you rock man, you are a large part of the reason for those better changes. Generously giving to all these guys sets an example to live up to, and to strive to meet. (not that I will ever meet that standard, and I have respect for all the guys that do, its tough)

I personally found entrepenuerialism hard because I don't trust how people "shut off" and blame... (its not at all their fault, just some part of me finds it so sad)
It was so distressing that YES it made me feel CRAZY (as it must make THEM feel, to not know how to change what these slowlaners etc do)

But, when someone like you finds a way to set an example the better sides of people find their way out. That sad state of blame dissappears, people get closer to their goals, and there is a chance for better bridges of communication to form.
And I'm just ONE of the people finding results due to YOUR help. (a small voice in the biz world)

My tequilla tastes a bit too strange right now to hand out, but give it some time(and preferably some more action dashed in there as well [pours in a whole bottle]), and I'll make anyone that wants it a killer mojito
Ho ho ho!
Whatever I do though, your positive attitude massively helped

You still up for all the marketting stuff?
Personally I'd love to hear about your journeys offline. It is so stale, telling us all what we want.
What do you want man.

 

[Roland]

Just a quick post, not adding much value to your thread ICK but I wanted to say thank you.
Thanks to you I have spent several days contacting more than 900 companies in a very exclusive field to figure out what are their problems. I got only two answers, one for sending me away and the other one gave me an opportunity. I then spent all my nights during a week to prepare my answer to this opportunity and the guy is now reviewing it.
It might not be a success but I have never gone so far in the process as having this sort of opportunity so thank you again I owe you that.

Keep up with the good stuff. I am following your step and will be there quite soon now.

 

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[IceCreamKid]

You still up for all the marketting stuff?
Personally I'd love to hear about your journeys offline. It is so stale, telling us all what we want.
What do you want man.

Yea I'm still up for the marketing stuff, bro. Still working on creating some online marketing content because that's what the people seem to be leaning towards. It's a slow process because I'm learning from my buddy as I go.

My marketing journey offline is pretty goofy. I really enjoy pulling off "shock and awe" marketing tactics to get myself in the media because I can't afford to pay for advertising with real commercials. Real TV commercials are ridiculously expensive.

2 memorable ones for you:
Found out the mayor of my city was going to be giving a speech later in the week. Got 2 garbage bags and filled each one with $2 bills. Called up a bunch of local news stations and told them that I would be slowly emptying the 2 garbage bags from the top of a building onto all of the people below while the mayor gives his speech. I stamped my marketing message for my company on each $2 bill. People went NUTS over it...can you imagine real cash falling down from the sky??? I've never seen people go crazy like that before. Super cheap stunt considering how much media attention it got.

Another event was when I threw a surprise party for a bunch of homeless people. Called up the local homeless shelter then told them that I wanted to surprise all the peeps in there with some gourmet catered food. Called up a bunch of news stations again so my company could get some media attention.

Shit...the media completely twisted the story. The headline in the newspaper the next day was "Millionaire Birthday Kid Parties With Homeless". First off I'm not a millionaire yet, 2nd it wasn't my birthday haha.

Not caring about money is one of the most important mindset shifts that an entrepreneur must go through because once you get to that mindset, you unlock the part of you that becomes childlike and creative. Creativity and flexibility is the core of what keeps a business growing and evolving. Creativity leads to innovation.

When you care too much about money, the lack of it will become a mental limit for you. You start thinking stuff like, "oh I can't get into that business because I don't have capital to start with". The creative child will find a way...he'll open up a lemonade stand on every street corner in the city, hiring the other children to sell for him while he sits back and controls everything. Since the creative child is broke in the beginning, he will promise the other children that they will receive 10% of all lemonade sales after they set up shop on every corner in the city. That's what the creative mind does...turn lemons into lemonade.

I'm telling you...the offline ice cream shop is super fun. It's way more fun than hiding behind a computer. Once you get a real taste of how it feels to produce something of value for the world, there is no going back. I'm serious, it's like some weird addiction. I think that's why you see guys like Richard Branson building companies again and again. It's addicting once you figure out how to play the game. Part of the fun is that the rules of the game are constantly changing since customer tastes change.

But you know what taste will never change? My taste for alcohol and ice cream.

STAY DRUNK FOREVER AND GET THE ICE CREAM.

 

[theag]

just catching up here. great thread!