Seeking Guidance on Life's Next Steps as a 19-Year-Old

[furman]

Hi,

I seek advice on what path should I follow. I know it's probably not the best place to do it, but I feel so much lost in life right now which brings me a lot of mental pain.

I live in Poland (Europe) and am going to study business management. I know this field of study is useless as you learn only theory, and still, I will go there because of family pressure, or at least this is what I say to myself. At the same time, I'm going to study Sales and Marketing part-time at the university where all of the lecturers are entrepreneurs. It has very good opinions and I can meet many like-minded people. However, daily studies feel like so big waste of time, money, and energy. Especially since I'm not going to study things like law, medicine, cybersecurity, etc.

I feel like I'm living constantly under mental pressure which completely takes away my pleasure from life. Everyone says that I should make my youth longer or that if I go to work now I will stay as some entry-level worker for the rest of my life, and even though I know it's not true, it influences me unconsciously so much that I feel dread and fear constantly.

I was the typical wantrepreneur for the last two and a half years and only now, after reading Unscripted , I started to focus on giving value instead of reading another and another book about marketing or sales.

I thought about going to work and part-time study while focusing on giving value either through freelancing or creating some products. This would give me real-world experience and at the same time, I would save some money. However, my mind is so brainwashed that right now I feel like I will lose in life if I don't study daily.

Right now I help as much as I can with my mom's business and work on some of my projects related to marketing and web design. After I finish one project I will try with creating websites for some local companies in my hometown as some of them don't have one and maybe it would be valuable for them.

However, I know that I won't have time for this if I go to the university. I'm going on holiday to Ireland and I have this hope that something magically will happen and I'll meet some person to whom I will be able to provide some value and work my a$$ off there, but obviously, the chance is close to zero for that

Thank you for reading it and for all the advice you give. I want to just say that this forum and the people here are amazing. M.J. changed my entire worldview which I am truly grateful for. Have a good day.

 

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