Pro-Tip: Ignore your Slowlane Parents

[Solais]

So I got off the phone about 20 minutes ago...

My dad went through these following points over ~45 minutes:

• Compared what I was doing with "gambling in Las Vegas"
• Talked about how going back to school -> software engineering job is much better. Cuz you know, there isn't a tech bubble or anything, tech companies don't discriminate against anyone over the age of 45, and commutes in tech hubs like the Bay Area/Seattle don't soak up 2 hours of your time staring at another car's bumper sticker.
• Listed a few random examples of "people who worked at startups" who succeeded "because Wall Street gave them a shitload of cash"
• Thinks a business only takes "a few" months to gain traction (I'm actually hoping for this, but not banking on it to win)

And he wonders why I don't call him more often.

While he was saying all this, I'm thankful I have enough scars from my (admittedly short) 27-28 years on planet Earth, as I stated in my Introduction thread.

The #1 lesson is you CANNOT believe what others tell you. "He said, she said" is a bunch of hooey, and can lead you down horrible paths.

Even if it's from your own parents. (Especially if it's from your own parents since you are more likely to "trust" them)

You can only observe what others have done and verify with your own two eyes. Then your job is to make meaningful (accurate) deductions.

(And even then, remain skeptical, since appearances can be deceiving.)

Anyway, he actually had the opposite effect; I'm more confident now in my ability to succeed...so maybe I should be thanking him? Consequences matter more than intent.

 

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[SDE]

The reason why most of the parents preach Slowlane lessons is that, they probably don't know there is a better path called FASTLANE, yet.

Honestly, most of us would still be working hard on our slowlane career, planning to retire at 65, if we hadn't read THE book and THE forum (Thank you, MJ DeMarco).

No parent want their kid to face hardship in their lives and stumble for a living. That's why they want us to get a job which in their eyes is 'safe'.

They have been taught by the society for very looong time that 'job' is a safe way to reach 'financial freedom'. It is a little difficult to tell them that it isn't.

Once they see with their own eyes, the results we are producing through our fastlane ventures, then they start to believe (sucks but true).

Best wishes for your fastlane venture.

 

[The Abundant Man]

You only have one dad in your life. I'd call him more often.