Hey guys, I love this forum and all the valuable advice. This may be a bit off topic for the forums overall theme but this is the People & Relationships section so it's related, especially since who you choose to live your life with has a massive effect on personal happiness, productivity, and major loss of assets/wealth in the event of a divorce.
I'm curious, for the single men building a fastlane business, what are your thoughts on marriage?
Also, would love to hear from married/divorced fastlaners on the benefits/disadvantages of marriage.
Some marriage facts that bother me:
- 50% of marriages end in divorce.
- more than 75% of divorces are initiated by the woman.
- laws are NOT in the favor of the man when it comes to divorce.
- people are emotionally dynamic and ever-changing beings (women more so than men).
- legally enforceable prenups are difficult to "get right".
So basically for men, marriage is betting a woman half of your shit that SHE will love you forever. This seems like an unnecessary life risk and foolish bet with no apparent upside when compared to dating or cohabitation (except of course satisfying demands from your girlfriend and/or societal pressures, both not valid reasons to make a major life choice in my opinion)..
I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now, we love each other, what we have is amazing, etc. Personally, all of my relationship needs are already being met with the current dynamic, so I see ZERO benefits that legally getting married would add. Instead I see loss of legal freedoms, potential lawyer fees, and possible loss of half my net worth. I strongly believe in doing things only because I fully believe in them and not because society tells you it's the thing to do, etc.
I'm 31 and do not have kids. One day I do plan to have kids. My plan is to sign a Cohabitation Agreement and Parenting Plan/Agreement with the woman that I choose to have children with. I believe both parties needs are satisfied this way.. except of course a woman's society programmed/Disney desires to have "her big day", a 4 hour party that costs more than a down payment on a house to impress family/friends.
Before this gets too long and sounds like a rant, I'll summarize with:
I simply do not see any benefits of legally committing to another human being forever or signing a legal contract for an emotion when the main purpose of a relationship (love and connection) are already satisfied via dating and/or cohabitation.
*side note: I'm non-religious, so any talk of god or religion is irrelevant for me personally.
Fastlaners I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this topic!!
I'm curious, for the single men building a fastlane business, what are your thoughts on marriage?
Also, would love to hear from married/divorced fastlaners on the benefits/disadvantages of marriage.
Some marriage facts that bother me:
- 50% of marriages end in divorce.
- more than 75% of divorces are initiated by the woman.
- laws are NOT in the favor of the man when it comes to divorce.
- people are emotionally dynamic and ever-changing beings (women more so than men).
- legally enforceable prenups are difficult to "get right".
So basically for men, marriage is betting a woman half of your shit that SHE will love you forever. This seems like an unnecessary life risk and foolish bet with no apparent upside when compared to dating or cohabitation (except of course satisfying demands from your girlfriend and/or societal pressures, both not valid reasons to make a major life choice in my opinion)..
I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now, we love each other, what we have is amazing, etc. Personally, all of my relationship needs are already being met with the current dynamic, so I see ZERO benefits that legally getting married would add. Instead I see loss of legal freedoms, potential lawyer fees, and possible loss of half my net worth. I strongly believe in doing things only because I fully believe in them and not because society tells you it's the thing to do, etc.
I'm 31 and do not have kids. One day I do plan to have kids. My plan is to sign a Cohabitation Agreement and Parenting Plan/Agreement with the woman that I choose to have children with. I believe both parties needs are satisfied this way.. except of course a woman's society programmed/Disney desires to have "her big day", a 4 hour party that costs more than a down payment on a house to impress family/friends.
Before this gets too long and sounds like a rant, I'll summarize with:
I simply do not see any benefits of legally committing to another human being forever or signing a legal contract for an emotion when the main purpose of a relationship (love and connection) are already satisfied via dating and/or cohabitation.
*side note: I'm non-religious, so any talk of god or religion is irrelevant for me personally.
Fastlaners I can't wait to hear your thoughts on this topic!!
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