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Dating a millionaire

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I was curious to how dating is as a millionaire. How do you approach someone? Do you look for another millionaire or someone who simply interests and attracts you? Do you hide your financial history or pour it out in the open? Can you tell who is gold digging or truly likes you?

If you are already married, has it changed your dynamic? Did anyone have a divorce attempt? Did the inlaws come after you? Since I'm in a bevy of millionaires I thought I'd ask.
 
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Most millionaires don’t “look the part” and it would likely take some time before their net worth is discovered or brought up, so I don’t think gold diggers should be a legit concern. Of course there are exceptions.

On the other end of the spectrum you have high income earners who are far from millionaires but are flashy AF and finance their lifestyle. I think they would be more of a target to gold diggers than the average millionaire.

As far as how to approach them? I usually “accidentally” drop either my bank receipt or a wad of 100’s as I walk by—works every time!
 

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Not sure how this relates to my post.
 
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Most millionaires don’t “look the part” and it would likely take some time before their net worth is discovered or brought up, so I don’t think gold diggers should be a legit concern. Of course there are exceptions.

On the other end of the spectrum you have high income earners who are far from millionaires but are flashy AF and finance their lifestyle. I think they would be more of a target to gold diggers than the average millionaire.

As far as how to approach them? I usually “accidentally” drop either my bank receipt or a wad of 100’s as I walk by—works every time!
If enough gold diggers come to me I would start a business my business title.Twerking avalanche.
 

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Just to clear things up: I am not presuming that millionaires act or dress in an extravagant way. I'm just curious to the timeline of dating and when you start to mention your business and finances, if at all. Would you prefer for your partner to also be financially well off or are you fine with someone who is honestly a slow laner or even side walker? Some got their fortune while being married. I wonder if your spouse tried to get greedy and divorce you to get their half.
 
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My girlfriend says she always forgets that I am a millionaire.. We did get together before I became one though, but I dress pretty casually..

You are thinking too much into it. The fact that you are a millionaire wont change much.

Gold diggers are not a problem, I feel like they are super easy recognizable..
 

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Just to clear things up: I am not presuming that millionaires act or dress in an extravagant way. I'm just curious to the timeline of dating and when you start to mention your business and finances, if at all. Would you prefer for your partner to also be financially well off or are you fine with someone who is honestly a slow laner or even side walker? Some got their fortune while being married. I wonder if your spouse tried to get greedy and divorce you to get their half.
I think how you want to be known and also how you think you are perceived are valid questions. The topic isn't really limited to dating.

When you hide your wealth you might also be postponing the moment when some obviously crazy beliefs about money and power are revealed.

I don't have my 7 figure money system yet. But I just moved on from a great relationship because it gradually became clear that this closet millionaire wanted a partner who is star-struck by material assets, and sometimes wanted people to become jealous or insecure. The reveal was slow. A hoarder's future.

It's like there is a hurdle called 'getting over yourself' that has to be worked out with self-made millionaires. It all depends on your idea of how you want to be loved.
 
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If enough gold diggers come to me I would start a business my business title.Twerking avalanche.

This name works on so many levels. Horse names, Cocktail Name, Band name... I would park the domain if I were you xD
 

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Just to clear things up: I am not presuming that millionaires act or dress in an extravagant way. I'm just curious to the timeline of dating and when you start to mention your business and finances, if at all. Would you prefer for your partner to also be financially well off or are you fine with someone who is honestly a slow laner or even side walker? Some got their fortune while being married. I wonder if your spouse tried to get greedy and divorce you to get their half.

KAY OKAY OKAY I feel the need to redeem my gender a little bit. Lol.

I'm not broke I have my little job and income, I'm a self sufficient person and I'm proud of it. It's nice being treated to things every now and then because I see them as a caring gesture (idk if any of you guys know the love languages concept but my mom is the same, we never go empty handed anywhere, my aunt knits me stuff, you bring someone cookies when you visit, etc, not talking Louis Vuitton purses). So even if you make 10000x as much as I do, I'll get you a drink, I'll pick up the tab as much as I can, I'll pick up a case of your favorite beer or snack if I stop at a CVS on my way to you etc.

Anyway the last thing I want is to feel like a leech or dependent on anyone. I'd figure there has to be other girls like me out there. But you wouldn't find girls like me hanging out in the same environments gold diggers hang out, if that makes sense.

As far as the timeline goes I'd imagine you're not gonna come rubbing your money to my face in the first place, if you did that would be a turn off. I agree people with money but their head down to earth look "normal". So when I'm like... "what do you do?" "oh I'm a business owner/entrepreneur" oh okay, cool. I'm not interested in knowing how much you make, I wanna know if we are a match. As someone who was in a very shitty relationship, all I care is whether you're gonna be a good person to me, honest, reliable, funny, respectful etc. If the relationship progresses I'd probably figure it out by putting two and two together at some point from things I see on the daily if that makes sense. There probably wouldn't be a need to have "the talk" like if you had some sort of superpower.

Idk that's how it works in my head, hope that gives you some perspective. Don't over think it, let it flow. Keep your date venues/gifts on a "average" price range, you can always ramp it up once you know the person is solid whether you had or didn't have money.

Hope that's somewhat helpful?
 

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KAY OKAY OKAY I feel the need to redeem my gender a little bit. Lol.

I'm not broke I have my little job and income, I'm a self sufficient person and I'm proud of it. It's nice being treated to things every now and then because I see them as a caring gesture (idk if any of you guys know the love languages concept but my mom is the same, we never go empty handed anywhere, my aunt knits me stuff, you bring someone cookies when you visit, etc, not talking Louis Vuitton purses). So even if you make 10000x as much as I do, I'll get you a drink, I'll pick up the tab as much as I can, I'll pick up a case of your favorite beer or snack if I stop at a CVS on my way to you etc.

Anyway the last thing I want is to feel like a leech or dependent on anyone. I'd figure there has to be other girls like me out there. But you wouldn't find girls like me hanging out in the same environments gold diggers hang out, if that makes sense.

As far as the timeline goes I'd imagine you're not gonna come rubbing your money to my face in the first place, if you did that would be a turn off. I agree people with money but their head down to earth look "normal". So when I'm like... "what do you do?" "oh I'm a business owner/entrepreneur" oh okay, cool. I'm not interested in knowing how much you make, I wanna know if we are a match. As someone who was in a very shitty relationship, all I care is whether you're gonna be a good person to me, honest, reliable, funny, respectful etc. If the relationship progresses I'd probably figure it out by putting two and two together at some point from things I see on the daily if that makes sense. There probably wouldn't be a need to have "the talk" like if you had some sort of superpower.

Idk that's how it works in my head, hope that gives you some perspective. Don't over think it, let it flow. Keep your date venues/gifts on a "average" price range, you can always ramp it up once you know the person is solid whether you had or didn't have money.

Hope that's somewhat helpful?
Thank you for the insight. I guess it truly is like dating in the slowlane and sidewalk world. I just know some people have different views on how to split finances in a relationship. Some feel that everything should be 50/50 no matter the salary, while some believe that there has to be some scale i.e. since you make a certain percentage more than me, you should pay the higher portion of the bills.

Very good dating suggestions, although this is just for questioning. I am already about to be 3 years into my current relationship :blush:.
 
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Thank you for the insight. I guess it truly is like dating in the slowlane and sidewalk world. I just know some people have different views on how to split finances in a relationship. Some feel that everything should be 50/50 no matter the salary, while some believe that there has to be some scale i.e. since you make a certain percentage more than me, you should pay the higher portion of the bills.

Very good dating suggestions, although this is just for questioning. I am already about to be 3 years into my current relationship :blush:.
In all interpersonal relationships, money matters are always a currency of something else you want. Always.
Why? Because one way or another money always supports life. Or destroys life.
Don't overthink it. Make sure spending money always supports love. Never use money for power, justice, reward, punishment, desire, or instruction, or you'll poison feelings. A toxic error is hard to forget.
 

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Quick tip for gold diggers: Just don't give them money and the ones only interested in your wallet will soon disappear. They want easy targets who throw money their way.
Quick tip for gold diggers: Just don't give them money and the ones only interested in your wallet will soon disappear. They want easy targets who throw money their way.
Give a man a fish, and he will eat for a day. Teach a man to fish, and he will eat for a lifetime.If you have lots of money and no business knowledge you will fail.If you have learned something from books or mistakes that knowledge is with you for a lifetime so you will be abit more clever.
KAY OKAY OKAY I feel the need to redeem my gender a little bit. Lol.

I'm not broke I have my little job and income, I'm a self sufficient person and I'm proud of it. It's nice being treated to things every now and then because I see them as a caring gesture (idk if any of you guys know the love languages concept but my mom is the same, we never go empty handed anywhere, my aunt knits me stuff, you bring someone cookies when you visit, etc, not talking Louis Vuitton purses). So even if you make 10000x as much as I do, I'll get you a drink, I'll pick up the tab as much as I can, I'll pick up a case of your favorite beer or snack if I stop at a CVS on my way to you etc.

Anyway the last thing I want is to feel like a leech or dependent on anyone. I'd figure there has to be other girls like me out there. But you wouldn't find girls like me hanging out in the same environments gold diggers hang out, if that makes sense.

As far as the timeline goes I'd imagine you're not gonna come rubbing your money to my face in the first place, if you did that would be a turn off. I agree people with money but their head down to earth look "normal". So when I'm like... "what do you do?" "oh I'm a business owner/entrepreneur" oh okay, cool. I'm not interested in knowing how much you make, I wanna know if we are a match. As someone who was in a very shitty relationship, all I care is whether you're gonna be a good person to me, honest, reliable, funny, respectful etc. If the relationship progresses I'd probably figure it out by putting two and two together at some point from things I see on the daily if that makes sense. There probably wouldn't be a need to have "the talk" like if you had some sort of superpower.

Idk that's how it works in my head, hope that gives you some perspective. Don't over think it, let it flow. Keep your date venues/gifts on a "average" price range, you can always ramp it up once you know the person is solid whether you had or didn't have money.

Hope that's somewhat helpful?
 

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I think it is a problem.
A friend of me told me very sad long time again: i never know, whether they love me or my money.
But you learn to deal with it. There are people who don’t care about millionaire or not.
 
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I think it is a problem.
A friend of me told me very sad long time again: i never know, whether they love me or my money.
But you learn to deal with it. There are people who don’t care about millionaire or not.
Good news for the poor man:
Drive the point home that everyone is more or !ess the same, we all know love is not about the stuff. When doubt comes it's just his low self-esteem, low sugar, maybe old sad stories in his own mind. Gold diggers are a special tribe. You don't suddenly catch Gold Digger Disease. Most peop!e are strongly immune.
Drive home the truth that, money or no money, a good relationship has the same features. Laddie is just insecure and feels unworthy of love. Money is not the problem here at all.
 
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