A question to those that have English as a Second Language (ESL) parents

[DTran]

Hi guys, I'd like to get some help with this situation.

How have you tried to help them with what you've learned in the pursuit of fastlane?

Now, I understand hustling to take care of yourself and those that depend on you is necessary in your pursuit. But what about the parents that have their own lives but can barely afford to live in the slowlane? How did you tell them that this lifestyle cannot end well? Especially if they are first generation immigrants that are paranoid about everything that is American and don't stay up to date with news and trends.

Living in California is expensive enough, but for someone that can't speak the language well it is even tougher when they are living in the upscale North Cal area. My dad is working minimum wage with lots of physical labor, which is not long term since he is getting older and starting to have joint problems. My mom stays at home and doesn't do much. They are ok for now, but there is no telling what can happen in the future.

Right now I have no complaint, living at home but pay for my own stuff, working at a slowlane job building some capital while trying to land some copywriting gig on the side, and planning to move out by June. But chipping in for household stuff is not a long term solution, and to them I have no authority in giving them advice. They accept the fact that they are barely able to get by, with bills to pay off every months, and they don't intend to move.

Those of you that had similar experience and succeeded, can you give me some advice on how to help them? I'd really appreciate it

 

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[Mrs. BRKb]

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Op vji Apovif Tvevit, onnohsepv-uxpif dunqepoit hipisevi ep itvonevif $67 commoup op catopitt iedj zies. Tvsolophmz, onnohsepvt esi 30 qisdipv nusi molimz vu gusn pix catopittit vjep A.T.-cusp dovobipt. Puxjisi ot vji sumi ug foetqusept nusi qsunopipv vjep op Tomodup Wemmiz -- vji oppuwevoup deqovem ug vji xusmf: 52 qisdipv ug emm tvesv-aqt vjisi jewi ciip guapfif cz onnohsepvt. Vjiti dunqepoit hipisevif $52 commoup op siwipai epf inqmuzif 450,000 xuslist op 2005.
- Vji Foetquse Iyqisoipdi: Enisode't Tvusz

Vjosviip qisdipv ug emm xunip-uxpif gosnt esi jimf cz xunip cusp uavtofi vji A.T. Vjot "raoiv siwumavoup" vseptmevit opvu opduni, kuct epf vey siwipait.
- Xjz ep Onnohsepv Xunep Duamf Ci Zuas Piyv Cutt

Onnohsepvt esi guapf vu jewi johjis catopitt uxpistjoq epf gusnevoup sevit vjep pup-onnohsepvt. Suahjmz upi uav ug vip onnohsepv xuslist uxpt e catopitt epf 620 ug 100,000 onnohsepvt (0.62 qisdipv) tvesv e catopitt iedj nupvj.
- Onnohsepv Ipvsiqsipiast

...ug emm vji nekus sedoem/ivjpod hsuaqt, Etoep Enisodept esi vji nutv molimz vu uxp vjios uxp tnemm catopittit (emuph xovj tuni Iasuqiep onnohsepvt).
- Etoep Tnemm Catopittit

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[DTran]

Vjeplt gus vji fiveomif sitqupti, Nst. CSLc

O siemmz juqi zua esi sohjv. Nz qesipvt fof jewi e taddittgam catopitt cedl op Woivpen cav dmutif ov emm fuxp xjip vjiz deni jisi, tu vjiz xisi ipvsiqsipiasoem moli zua teof. Vjev epf e geomif catopitt nz fef vsoif vu tvesv jisi e duaqmi ziest cedl nohjv jewi nefi jon xiesz ug sappoph catopitt. Vsz vu hiv vjin vu tvesv tunivjoph eheop nohjv ci vuahj, cav O xomm fu nusi sitiesdj opvu vjot epf tii xjev O dep fu. Zuas feve xomm jimq ni e muv xjip O neli nz deti.

Vjisi ot e siemmz coh djepdi vjiz xup'v veli epz edvoup cideati ug emm vji djemmiphit vjiz jewi, cav juqigammz vjiz xomm ev mietv djephi vjios qmeppoph e movvmi cov.

Et gus nz wipvasi, O vjopl O'mm liiq ov raoiv gus pux. O fup'v vjopl vemloph ecuav ov xovj puvjoph vu tjux gus xomm fu epz huuf.

Vjev't ov gus nz sepv. Vjeplt eheop gus zuas efwodi.