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People reject solutions to their problems all the time.
They can't see it. They literally can't perceive how their problem can be resolved, which is why they feel so stuck to begin with.
Now the person who doesn't have that same problem can't relate. He finds himself dumbfounded by the other's obvious folly.
We're all like that. It's the nature of not knowing. It seems obvious and trivial to talk about, but I experience it so frequently in practice that I find it's actually elusive in our daily lives.
You can think a thing but not embody it. We think we know our problems well, but if we truly understood them we'd have a way to change it, thus we wouldn't actually have a problem there or we wouldn't perceive it as a problem.
Our problems persist because of our inability to perceive how we cause them, or we'd have a choice over the matter.
The most unfortunate and tragic thing about it so that no amount of talking seems to change that.
It reminds me of that scene from Westworld where Dolores' dad finds a modern picture one of the guests dropped at the park. He shows it to Dolores and she blankly says "It doesn't look like anything to me". Her programming has no reference frame for it, so it's practically invisible to her. Likewise an infant when shown a picture. He can't make sense of it. He'll shove it in his mouth but he won't be able to appreciate the ideas the image conveys.
The way out seems to be FAFO, or anything that supports the formation of the FAFO habit.
If your development has been conducive enough of FAFO experimentation, you're far better off than those who haven't. Your FAFO skill encourages your continuous learning. On the other extreme if you've grown up stubborn and your environment/culture/parents hasn't provided you with the space to harness FAFO as a habit, you'll find yourself feeling habitually stuck.
And because you don't have the habit to FAFO, you can stay blind to yourself long enough to feel like your problem is just part of who you are.
They can't see it. They literally can't perceive how their problem can be resolved, which is why they feel so stuck to begin with.
Now the person who doesn't have that same problem can't relate. He finds himself dumbfounded by the other's obvious folly.
We're all like that. It's the nature of not knowing. It seems obvious and trivial to talk about, but I experience it so frequently in practice that I find it's actually elusive in our daily lives.
You can think a thing but not embody it. We think we know our problems well, but if we truly understood them we'd have a way to change it, thus we wouldn't actually have a problem there or we wouldn't perceive it as a problem.
Our problems persist because of our inability to perceive how we cause them, or we'd have a choice over the matter.
The most unfortunate and tragic thing about it so that no amount of talking seems to change that.
It reminds me of that scene from Westworld where Dolores' dad finds a modern picture one of the guests dropped at the park. He shows it to Dolores and she blankly says "It doesn't look like anything to me". Her programming has no reference frame for it, so it's practically invisible to her. Likewise an infant when shown a picture. He can't make sense of it. He'll shove it in his mouth but he won't be able to appreciate the ideas the image conveys.
The way out seems to be FAFO, or anything that supports the formation of the FAFO habit.
If your development has been conducive enough of FAFO experimentation, you're far better off than those who haven't. Your FAFO skill encourages your continuous learning. On the other extreme if you've grown up stubborn and your environment/culture/parents hasn't provided you with the space to harness FAFO as a habit, you'll find yourself feeling habitually stuck.
And because you don't have the habit to FAFO, you can stay blind to yourself long enough to feel like your problem is just part of who you are.
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