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I really mean sacrifice in a negative way; friends and ESPECIALLY significant others have caused me to make irrational decisions in the past; and I consider myself difficult to influence. Some of the people I know have really suffered because they wanted to "keep" their unsupportive boy/girlfriend.
I think Gabeseg couldn't even enjoy his trip to Italy because it was against his values to blow away so many hours of work for leisure instead of investing it towards a more comfortable future. To his girlfriend it was probably 'normal' to spend heavily for leisure. Different perceptions about money.
I think the problem is we get too attached to the people we are close to and fear "losing" them because of all the time, energy and emotions we invested in those relationships.
We fail to see the other side's viewpoint. Maybe they fear losing us too, and will accept our decision if we push through and show our determination. And if they really WILL leave us for trying to make ourselves better-off, then it's not conducive to a long-term relationship.
I think Gabeseg couldn't even enjoy his trip to Italy because it was against his values to blow away so many hours of work for leisure instead of investing it towards a more comfortable future. To his girlfriend it was probably 'normal' to spend heavily for leisure. Different perceptions about money.
I think the problem is we get too attached to the people we are close to and fear "losing" them because of all the time, energy and emotions we invested in those relationships.
We fail to see the other side's viewpoint. Maybe they fear losing us too, and will accept our decision if we push through and show our determination. And if they really WILL leave us for trying to make ourselves better-off, then it's not conducive to a long-term relationship.
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