I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept mediocrity

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I think you just need to get laid.

You have your basic needs for survival taken care of.

Food clothing and shelter.

But you don't have the next teir of self actualization..

Sex, Belonging, Community,

The online world is not the REAL world.

Get out of the hoUse. Make some REAL friends.

And stop looking at porn.

This is a fantasy world. You need a dose of reality

 

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[PaulRobert]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I think you just need to get laid.

Sex, Belonging, Community,

The online world is not the REAL world.

Get out of the hoUse. Make some REAL friends.

And stop looking at porn.

This is a fantasy world. You need a dose of reality

I am going to be straight up honest with this.

How is getting laid going to help? How is it going to help you with self-development? What it can do is lead you to more problems and more headaches.

No offense eagle but your post seems a little immature.

I think Ryan is getting a dose of reality and he is choosing to share his struggles publicly.

 

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

You cant reach the levels of fastlane until you take care of the lower needs first.

I have written extensively on this topic and will publish it when another project comes to fruition.

I also speak from personal experience.

Until you get a steady piece of tail or learn to be a notorious ladies man you will flounder in mediocrity. I know I did after my divorce. Until I got the pootang situation under control nothing made sense. Now I dont have to waste precious energy looking for a$$ and feeling like a loser when I didnt get any. But I had to go out and learn how to do it. And with the help of people like dennis d angelo and RSD nation I was able to pretty much get pussy or a girl friend anytime I want to.

I cannot put up the link to my site because MJ asked me not to for SEO reasons.

My myspace account has expired.


I suggest taking a year and learning about women and attraction. That will change your life more than anything. Knowing you can go out and get a new girlfreind or a piece of a$$ at any time is empowering.

Im not picking on him. Im trying to help him.

 

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

That would be the worst possible thing for us to do.

What I'm trying to get at, is that my life is out of control, I don't know how to get it back. The last thing I want to do, even remotely care about, is business.

So what do you REALLY want. Right now\?

 

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[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

For sure, I'm open to the idea of getting a job, or even multiple jobs/stages in fields of interest that I might want to pursue as my fastlane venture.

Yep, I'm starting with small goals, no matter how infantile and I'm proud to say that my first few goals include;

Sleeping when I'm supposed to be...at a regular time. I used to wake up cold at 5:30 am everyday (even weekends) to go for a jog regardless of the weather...now I can't even get up by 10:00am

Getting ready (shower, shave, clean clothes, etc) so that I'm best prepared for everyday, even if I have nowhere to go.

Keeping my room and the house in general clean, so that I'm not burdened by clutter.

Goals to tackle in a week or so, once I adjust with the first few;

Attend every class, unless I'm really sick
Eat healthy, all the time
Workout to a schedule

After those;

I'll deal with business (including job opportunities)

Good you're getting it but where's the a$$?

 

[Gymjunkie]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Maslow's hierarchy of needs - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

You cant reach the levels of fastlane until you take care of the lower needs first.

I have written extensively on this topic and will publish it when another project comes to fruition.

I also speak from personal experience.

Until you get a steady piece of tail or learn to be a notorious ladies man you will flounder in mediocrity. I know I did after my divorce. Until I got the pootang situation under control nothing made sense. Now I dont have to waste precious energy looking for a$$ and feeling like a loser when I didnt get any. But I had to go out and learn how to do it. And with the help of people like dennis d angelo and RSD nation I was able to pretty much get pussy or a girl friend anytime I want to.

I cannot put up the link to my site because MJ asked me not to for SEO reasons.

My myspace account has expired.


I suggest taking a year and learning about women and attraction. That will change your life more than anything. Knowing you can go out and get a new girlfreind or a piece of a$$ at any time is empowering.

Im not picking on him. Im trying to help him.

I'm kind of with eagle on this one. Getting women is important to any man..no need to deny it. I heard a good saying that "How good you are with women, that good you are with life"..made me think.. actually makes sense. Not to talk about the fact that a good partner can be great support and help in reaching man's goals. Some of eagle's thoughts are not politically correct but I think this forum is a place where we can not care about political correctness and be real.

 

[DeletedUser394]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

"Eagle": Unlike you, I respect women.

They are people, not objects.

 

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[DeletedUser394]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

So what do you REALLY want. Right now?

Quite honestly, for you to stop posting in this thread.

Also, how inebriated were you when you decided to start posting this disgusting crap?

 

[DeletedUser394]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

I'm kind of with eagle on this one. Getting women is important to any man..no need to deny it.

but there's a difference between "a$$" and sharing a meaningful relationship with another person.

Shit, most men are giant dick heads... I feel sorry for women who have to deal with people who think like that.

Edit: I wasn't refering to you Gymjunkie

 

[PaulRobert]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

"Eagle": Unlike you, I respect women.

They are people, not objects.

+1. I do the same thing.

I could not even respond yesterday to that reply. If I did, it would of been too harsh.

 

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[Gymjunkie]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

but there's a difference between "a$$" and sharing a meaningful relationship with another person.

Shit, most men are giant dick heads... I feel sorry for women who have to deal with people who think like that.

Oh just don't pretend you don't have desires... you see a gorgeous girl and you have urges, doesn't mean you act on them esp. disrespectfully, you control yourself. And how going out in the world and learning how to be good with women disrespectful? No one is talking about bedding as much as possible, it's about becoming a man worth a great woman's company. David DeAngelo's stuff, which I have seen, is awesome and is quite self-improvement-like. Check it out, you wont regret it.

I dare ANY guy here to go to www.davidwygant.com/blog and check out advice there, no disrespect for women etc. Read around, I'm sure you will learn some interesting stuff if you are not happy with your relationships with opposite sex.

Some people see world in black and white in this case, it's not like that!

And don't talk bad about your gender making angels of women. They are as promiscuous as men. Some people, doesn't matter the gender, want no-strings attached things, some don't. That's good as long as both are open and honest about it.

 

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

IT's not about disrespecting women. Its about attraction. I use coarse language to shake you up a bit. I respect women. But do you ever wonder WHY women are attracted to jerks? It's because they are exciting. Unpredictable. A thrill. Its drama. Drama is porno for most women. especially younger ones.

I got a great gal who I treat like a polynesian princess. But in order to get her I had to learn how to create attraction. I did this by being unpredictable. She would start up some serious conversation and I would crack a silly joke and she would be ROFL.

You can respect a woman. But you still have to lead her. She wants to see confidence. Confidence for a woman is like big boobs and a nice butt are to us. She wants to hump and alpha male and then have a beta male take care of her kids. Not some wussy boy with manners who will listen to her complain about the last guy she just got screwed by while wussy boy soaks up all her pain like an emotional tampon.. She wants to be touched. Not inappropraitely but she wants to know you are interested in her. I speak in generalizations. Not all women operate on this level particularly more experienced ones.

Get David D Angelos " double your Dating" ebook. Its only 20 bucks and it will open your eyes of the true nature of female Psychology and attraction. This is NOT about Relationships. This is about what ATTRACTS women. They are NOT guys with Boobs. They are wired COMPLETELY different.

You can get high quality women with his stuff once you get passed the "canned game" stage.

Now if you want to bang sluts then go to RSD nation. They should call that howtobangsluts.com but tyler, Ozzie, nathan, and Jeffy are some of the best players in the world. You can learn a lot from them. You dont have to turn into a douchebag 30k millionaire. You can keep some of your morals and principles. Just keep an open mind.

If it gets me kicked out for speaking the truth then so be it. Somebody has to say it.

 

[^eagle^]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

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I was sewn up like a coat
I got a smile from the bite of the wind
Watched the fresh fall of snow

I knew then that my life took a turn
I felt strong and secure
And with adhesive tape over my nose
I felt almost demure

Goodbye Sister Disco
With your flashing trash lamps
Goodbye Sister Disco
And to your clubs and your tramps

Goodbye Sister Disco
My dancing's left you behind
Goodbye, now you're solo
Black plastic; deaf, dumb and blind

Bye, goodbye Sister Disco, Now I go
I go where the music where the music fits my soul
And I, I will never let go, I'll never let go
'Til the echo of the street fight has dissolved

I will choose nightmares and cold stormy seas
I will take over your grief and disease
I'll stay beside you and comfort your soul
When you are lonely and broken and old

Now I walk with a man in my face
Ooh, a woman in my hair
I've got you all lookin' out though my eyes
My feet are a prayer

Goodbye Sister Disco
With your flashing trash lamps
Goodbye Sister Disco
And to your clubs and your tramps

Goodbye Sister Disco
My dancing's left you behind
Goodbye, now you're solo
Black plastic; deaf, dumb and blind

 

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[maximus20895]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

This thread is kinda drifting off. I would like to learn from more informative posts.

 

[liv42dy]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Good Grief! This thread started out so good then turned into something children should never have to read. I hope my post will raise the intellectual plane a bit....

Ryan: You're lucky to have received so many responses to your plea. If it would have been someone my age posting a thread like this it would have been ignored! Clearly there are people who can relate to what you're going through and can sympathize with your situation. I know it's easier for you to reach out to people in the cyber world than in the real one, but eventually you're going to have to get out into the real world and engage with people who are living the kind of life you want to live.

But before you do that, there's something I want to do for you....

I'm a lot like you in the sense that I seem to jump from idea to idea, job to job. I get bored easily and am always looking for something that will challenge me intellectually, physically and spiritually. After I would work at a job for three months I would get bored and start looking for new challenges - the next BIG thing! I new that if I kept challenging myself this way that eventually, one day, I would be worthy... worthy of having money, a family, a rich and successful life.

Remembering what I have read about you and your past, I'm guessing that proving yourself to be worthy is a big reason why you are on this quest. To quote T. Harv Eker from Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, "In the end it doesn't matter whether you feel worthy or not, you can be rich either way. Plenty of wealthy people don't feel overly worthy. In fact, it's one of the major motivations for people to get rich... to prove themselves and their worth to themselves or to others. The idea that self-worth is necessary for net worth is just that, an idea, but it doesn't necessarily hold water in the real world.... Getting rich to prove yourself may not make you the happiest camper, so you're better off creating wealth for other reasons."

So here's what I'm going to do for you: I am going to release you of the burdens you've been carrying and HEREBY ANOINT YOU AS 'WORTHY' FROM NOW UNTIL FOREVER MORE. There, you no longer have to prove yourself to anyone. And now that you no longer have to prove yourself, the path to a rich life should become clearer to you now. Your focus will improve and your goals will become more tangible.

And I also agree that finding out what your personality type is will be helpful. Here's a couple of sites: Personality Test - Keirsey Temperament Website and Welcome to Personality Type! (this test is a lot shorter).

All the best for you, Ryan! Hang in there. :smx9:

 

[Cat Man Du]

Re: I don't know what to do anymore.. should I just accept medioc

Ryan............You need a father figure to help you thru this! Runum comes to mind.

 

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[buckmajor]

Cool post. I was playing football with a passion when I was 19yrs...which is why I didn't make a lot of money lol. If I could start again, I would still play and plan for a fastlane business on the side. Enjoy the youth of your life well you can

 

[Birdem]

You need to learn to have patience with your goals. I do not know one millionaire who had success overnight. I also feel that you do not have the confidence needed to achieve your goals you'll need to fix that.

 

[Rawr]

I feel like I can comment on this as I've faced this very same issue, and had done some research and REAL LIFE ACTION to figure it out.


Here are .02, take with slight grain of celery salt:


1. You problem, as you can see, is not unique. AT ALL. This problem stems from too much freedom - too many things we can (or think we can) be or do. Looking at the celebs, sportstars, reading about successful people - your identity is getting washed away, because "which one of these is better than others to be?" - realize, you aren't ANY of them.

The only solution is ACTION. I know it's scary, I know you might not want to hear it, I know you might not even know where to start, it doesn't matter - you will still be right here in this mess until you ACT. Action is merging ideas with reality. Without action, you are just hallucinating.


When you act, you start a vector - you have a direction and some speed. IT DOESN'T MUCH MATTER where you are going if you can't pick any direction at all, any is good, but know that you will change directions many many many many many times and do different things.


Your identity - you are not "the master of universe" or any of that BS. you are who people see when you look in the mirror - they also see side of your face and everything else, and most importantly YOUR ACTIONS. You might BS yourself with bad logic into not making decisions and saying it's ok - but how you treat others and how you ACT with them is directly implicit on what they think of you, which takes me to a very good point eagle made:

Getting laid, and/or having a steady girlfriends is probably THE MOST IMPORTANT factor for a reality check. Here is how:

I started dating a girl, no matter what I thought of myself or how cool I was, I had to merge my Actions with HER life. meaning, if, for example, I didn't have a car - I can't sweet talk my way out of "uh, i can't come over. can you come over pick me up?"

I don't have a money to go out - would the guy she wants to date be able to take her out once in awhile?

i don't have a cell phone because I can't afford it - would she want a guy to be able to reach her/be reachable?


do you see it? Start putting "would this person want to be with a person who DOES (not THINKS he does) x y z." and you will see the truth in reality, and you will be able to know what to do next.

and, exactly right - it's the small fixes and steps in the right direction

how is telling a girl "I will be a rap star" someday does anything for me not having a car to pick her up RIGHT NOW? Nothing, exactly. and if the girl is smart (and I love smart girls) she will see through bullshit right away. And that's why they say you must have "substance"



So, to recap:

small goals - to learn discipline, keeping your word (to yourself as well), celebrating success

identity - looking at yourself through eyes of others and judging yourself on ACTIONS.

clear vision of reality - you are just another grain in this world of other grains. You are not special or unique, learn to consider others and what your ACTIONS can do for them to provide value. Good things sometimes take a lot of time and work. Yes, good old work, doing stuff you might not want to do to get to where you want to be.

Welcome to adulthood

good luck




Last thing to consider reading before just taking boring action from now on till forever:

http://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2012/02/my_fiancee_is_pushing_me_away.html

 

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[Rawr]

The Last Psychiatrist: A Generational Pathology: Narcissism Is Not Grandiosity

 

[yveskleinsky]

Ryan,

I noticed that this thread was over 2 years old, and was just wondering how things are going for you now.

 

[DeletedUser394]

Ryan,

I noticed that this thread was over 2 years old, and was just wondering how things are going for you now.

I wish other people were capable of noticing as well

Frankly, I reckon there's a breakdown thread started by me once every few months... the threads probably number in the dozens.

Honestly, rereading the original post, not much has changed. Most of it is naive rambling.

Although there have been definite improvements and some setbacks as well.

 

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[InMotion]

Well you have age on your side, many people don't. This may be of little help but I think many of us have had this difficulty, in regard to what the hell am I going to do. Its a very difficult question to answer. My best advice is to not think so long term and realize that you don't have to stick with any one thing forever; that is what freezes most people in their tracks. Do a venture or anything for a couple of years then do something else, you never have to choose that "one" thing or correct path, because it will drive you mad; I've been there. Life is a path of trial and error. Might just take a step back and realize you have many years of trial and error in you. Get some more life experience under your belt and you will be better for it. The road to success is not linear and has many deviations. Stick to the business principles you have learned, keep learning, and just keep moving.


Success… What it Really Looks Like…

 

[Laverdure]

Every time I seem to motivate myself, it dies a few days later.
Every time I set goals, I change them a few days later.

I can't decide on what I want, I make so many plans and nothing ever happens. I've finally taken action a few times, and in each instance I attack too aggressively and end up way over my head.

I no longer know what to read. And when I do choose something I can barely focus because I'm thinking about the next thing I'm going to read.

I can't make up my mind on my fastlane vehicle(s), I'm incredibly overloaded with information that I can't make sense of. I'm so lost. It's rather pathetic that I'm going to quit before I ever really start.

I have no guidance, no support system, no idea where I'm headed, no idea what I'm doing. There are no rules, no one to be accountable to but myself, and that's no motivator. I'm starting to lose faith in myself.

Sure, I got rid of TV, but I've just replaced it with the computer. I lose track of time and spend entire days, just reading and doing nothing online.

And just as always, I'm making excuses. I'm so pissed at myself, I get this far, and for what? to quit.

In a sense, this a plea for help/guidance. I just need to know where to start. The little bit of control that I had I seem to have found in my life seems to be slipping away again.

This seems to become a pattern. I build up the motivation and the drive, I have nothing to be accountable for, and I get overloaded or quit, and watch it slip away. I skipped 4 out of 5 of my first classes already this semester in the last two days.

Life is kinda' falling apart again, and I don't know what to do.

Maybe the problem is that I should be a slowlane person with a job and blindly following other people's orders? It seems it could be better, considering I can't even follow my own. I just always thought I belonged in the fastlane... I'm not so sure anymore. But at the same time I'm not sure of anything.

I'm sorry to all who's time I've wasted when they gave me advice/suggestions etc. It truly was a waste. I'm not even so sure that I'll follow through with the advice that you'll offer me now. I'm just being honest.

Ryan

In my opinion you want to go to fast. You want it bad but you want it right now so what you are doing is just going from one idea and switching to another one because you think it's a better one then you find a reason why this one won't work and then you still switch and you don't make any progress.

I have been in this situation earlier and I talked a lot with a forum member who has helped me a lot with this problem.

I'm about the same year of age of you (I'm 20) and I wanted to go way too fast and become rich tomorrow.
I was taking 0 action and nothing was progressing and I was like OMG ... maybe I'M not a fastlaner...

I figured out with this member that my mind set was wrong and I had to change it and just go through the process.
There is a quote that says : “The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.â€

Now what I did to get out of it and you shouldn't give up, yes it might be rough and tough but that's the part of the game and from that you should ask yourself : why are other people doing good and why I'm not? you might be doing something wrong for sure because these guys of acheive sucess has a brain like you but their mind set and belief are differents.

First of all I recommand you to watch this 40 minutes video (worth gold IMO and it's with Anthony Robbins, Frank Kern and John Reese. If you don't know these guys yet let me tell you that you can models these guys ) In this video they explain why some people are succesfull while many others aren't.

Second, stop being in a hurry man you are F*cking young you need to learn all the stuff by taking action, going through the process of doing the things and stop switching from one to another.

Third, Focus on one thing and belief in it.

fourth, find something you want to do and take the time you need to and do it just do it and keep trying until you succeed. If you fail ... who cares ? you learn so much from failure.

This is just my opinion ... if you stop believing in you the potential will be lower then your action will be low then your result will be crap and your belief will change again because this shit isn't working ...

I started doing the process 1 month ago and now I have my own website ... I have many videos of products reviews from my market ... I'm building a list of client with AWeber ... etc It took me 1 month to do this web site : Entrainement De Hockey | Améliorez votre hockey en suivant nos entrainements de hockey. (all alone) and just by doing and taking action now I can make the same damn website in about a day or two maximum (text, website design, menu bar ... etc.)

So please don't stop like all those people who stop believing in them self because it is not easy or it is not working yet.

Here is the video : Tony Robbins, Frank Kern and John Reese on the Most Important Skill of Achievers. - YouTube (good stuff start at like 4 minutes) best video on youtube IMO.

GL

Chris.

 

[yveskleinsky]

In a sense, this a plea for help/guidance. I just need to know where to start. The little bit of control that I had I seem to have found in my life seems to be slipping away again.

This seems to become a pattern. I build up the motivation and the drive, I have nothing to be accountable for, and I get overloaded or quit, and watch it slip away. I skipped 4 out of 5 of my first classes already this semester in the last two days.

Ryan,

Are you currently feeling this way even with your current venture of reselling things online?

 

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[Lights]

You must had realize the reality of living? Work like a horse to get financial freedom at a risk.
My suggestion is to really sit down, take the whole day off, mark it on your calendar. Think why you want to be financial free... how are you going to get there, and when you do... will you be happy now? Living is only meant to die, so relax, take it easy.. don't stress, we're all the same, looking for that temporary high that make us feel "special" and "love".

Well... it's ok.

 

[Brentnal]

Every time I seem to motivate myself, it dies a few days later.
Every time I set goals, I change them a few days later.

I can't decide on what I want, I make so many plans and nothing ever happens. I've finally taken action a few times, and in each instance I attack too aggressively and end up way over my head.



I no longer know what to read. And when I do choose something I can barely focus because I'm thinking about the next thing I'm going to read.

I can't make up my mind on my fastlane vehicle(s), I'm incredibly overloaded with information that I can't make sense of. I'm so lost. It's rather pathetic that I'm going to quit before I ever really start.

I have no guidance, no support system, no idea where I'm headed, no idea what I'm doing. There are no rules, no one to be accountable to but myself, and that's no motivator. I'm starting to lose faith in myself.

Sure, I got rid of TV, but I've just replaced it with the computer. I lose track of time and spend entire days, just reading and doing nothing online.

And just as always, I'm making excuses. I'm so pissed at myself, I get this far, and for what? to quit.

In a sense, this a plea for help/guidance. I just need to know where to start. The little bit of control that I had I seem to have found in my life seems to be slipping away again.

This seems to become a pattern. I build up the motivation and the drive, I have nothing to be accountable for, and I get overloaded or quit, and watch it slip away. I skipped 4 out of 5 of my first classes already this semester in the last two days.

Life is kinda' falling apart again, and I don't know what to do.

Maybe the problem is that I should be a slowlane person with a job and blindly following other people's orders? It seems it could be better, considering I can't even follow my own. I just always thought I belonged in the fastlane... I'm not so sure anymore. But at the same time I'm not sure of anything.

I'm sorry to all who's time I've wasted when they gave me advice/suggestions etc. It truly was a waste. I'm not even so sure that I'll follow through with the advice that you'll offer me now. I'm just being honest.

Ryan

HOLY SHIT what you experience is just me you completely explained what i am going through.
I actualy thought the same that i actualy should be medeiocre person but i force myself to do something usefull.

 

[Brentnal]

Personality Test - Keirsey Temperament Website and

I did the test and i am a:
You are an ISTJ
(Introvert, Sensor, Thinker, Judger)
ISTJs represent between 11 and 14% of the U.S. population

 

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[RogueInnovation]

Every time I seem to motivate myself, it dies a few days later.

This is normal, it takes months of this stuff until you accumulate a more substantial motivation from the broken pieces.

Every time I set goals, I change them a few days later.

This is where the boat metaphor Steve Jobs mentioned comes in, you are constantly course correcting and you feel like you are sinking because every day you have doubts and difficulties. Hopefully after enough course corrections you will find some solid and simple goals.

I can't decide on what I want, I make so many plans and nothing ever happens. I've finally taken action a few times, and in each instance I attack too aggressively and end up way over my head.

It gets better over time. You become better at recognising opportunities that suit you rather than bending and running and jumping to suit them.

I no longer know what to read. And when I do choose something I can barely focus because I'm thinking about the next thing I'm going to read.

Often we skim read to "overlook" details that would otherwise overwhelm us. Try reading one sentence and then take a break and bring some of your own knowledge and experience to the table, then discuss the points, and digest what you just learnt. It helps develop a more stable work ethic.

I can't make up my mind on my fastlane vehicle(s), I'm incredibly overloaded with information that I can't make sense of. I'm so lost. It's rather pathetic that I'm going to quit before I ever really start.

It isn't pathetic at all, everyone feels that pressure, and it usually subsides a few days later.
Biz isn't THAT hard, Elon Musk says that the key to speed is to allow a gestation period for ideas, and to have them working in parallel rather than in a series, that way they all start clicking together when they are ready.

I have no guidance, no support system, no idea where I'm headed, no idea what I'm doing. There are no rules, no one to be accountable to but myself, and that's no motivator. I'm starting to lose faith in myself.

Accountability is the hardest one there. You have to find a way to integrate what you are doing into who you want to be. That way, every time you succeed you get better at fulfilling the potential you know deep down you have.

Sure, I got rid of TV, but I've just replaced it with the computer. I lose track of time and spend entire days, just reading and doing nothing online.

It is important to have rest periods, if you want to tighten this up you can. I have a biz plan open, I have a few videos ready to chill out to, and a few sites to check and some music. Everyday I chill out, but I also am aware of a couple deadlines I want to reach for the week. I constantly check myself but I also constantly make sure I am fresh and well rested. Just take that few days system and work it so that it is all within one day. Work, rest and play

And just as always, I'm making excuses. I'm so pissed at myself, I get this far, and for what? to quit.

Yeah, thats a bitch, but you always keep long term skills like biz. And making excuses really is part of the process, you just learn to make a few less over time.

In a sense, this a plea for help/guidance. I just need to know where to start. The little bit of control that I had I seem to have found in my life seems to be slipping away again.

This seems to become a pattern. I build up the motivation and the drive, I have nothing to be accountable for, and I get overloaded or quit, and watch it slip away. I skipped 4 out of 5 of my first classes already this semester in the last two days.

It is a plea for "make this faster and easier". Sorry dude but chewing on glass and staring at the abyss is really part of it. Sometimes tedious shit haunts you, but you can learn to get over it.

Life is kinda' falling apart again, and I don't know what to do.

Maybe the problem is that I should be a slowlane person with a job and blindly following other people's orders?

HA! Man, you would HATE that.
Better to hustle and figure stuff out on the move.

It seems it could be better, considering I can't even follow my own. I just always thought I belonged in the fastlane... I'm not so sure anymore. But at the same time I'm not sure of anything.

I'm sorry to all who's time I've wasted when they gave me advice/suggestions etc. It truly was a waste. I'm not even so sure that I'll follow through with the advice that you'll offer me now. I'm just being honest.

Usually you'll get a second wind if you hang on.
Don't stress, you can always get onto stuff when you feel better.

 

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This was 3 (THREE) years ago.

Thanks, go away.