I got into a discussion on another thread about communication and it was suggestion to start a new thread as to not derail the other. So, here is my issue...
It fires me up when people tell me to "calm down" or "slow down." Look, I talk fast. I am passionate, but it annoys me when others see it as a character flaw. If someone asks me nicely, "can you please repeat that because you said it a little fast for me," that is one thing. But it's super condescending and disrespectful to me when someone interrupts me and tells me to "slow down." That fires me up. I am fired up now just thinking about it.
Others tend to think it's my job as the "sender" of information to adjust my speed/tempo/excitement to the "receiver" in the conversation. While I agree that this probably should be the case, it just honestly doesn't always happen. I don't think that gives the other person the right to be condecending or mean about it. I would never demean someone with an accent or someone who talked slower than me because I wasn't understanding or didn't like the way the message was being sent to me.
Your thoughts?
It fires me up when people tell me to "calm down" or "slow down." Look, I talk fast. I am passionate, but it annoys me when others see it as a character flaw. If someone asks me nicely, "can you please repeat that because you said it a little fast for me," that is one thing. But it's super condescending and disrespectful to me when someone interrupts me and tells me to "slow down." That fires me up. I am fired up now just thinking about it.
Others tend to think it's my job as the "sender" of information to adjust my speed/tempo/excitement to the "receiver" in the conversation. While I agree that this probably should be the case, it just honestly doesn't always happen. I don't think that gives the other person the right to be condecending or mean about it. I would never demean someone with an accent or someone who talked slower than me because I wasn't understanding or didn't like the way the message was being sent to me.
Your thoughts?
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