How to get a Girl in 10 seconds

[dknise]

ps: for the record, I'm a woman. Most people seem to think I'm a dude on forums.

Roflocopter, I'm just going to ignore your post because it's obvious where you're coming from. I'm so glad to hear you're "the one exception," just like every other one.

 

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[Red]

That's pretty much the response I expected. Good luck to you, dknise.

 

[Lights]

That's pretty much the response I expected. Good luck to you, dknise.

OP here, I'm a woman too.

Hey people cheat all the time. It's best to keep expectations low about others, since finding true love is hard. I think people true love is more out of a survival reason, since you had a kid with her/him, or because it just makes life easier. It's better to be single and not get suck into a 40 year long relationship, and be miserable.

Happiness must comes from within, in my opinion, and if you need someone else to be happy then that sucks.

 

[danoodle]

This is a very fascinating thread so far. It is especially interesting to hear from those who have been cheated on. Do you think there is a reason why divorce rates are so high? Do you think there is a reason why people "cheat" on each other basically in every single relationship out there? I am considering doing a presentation on open relationships for B&P, but I'm not sure if it would be well received.

 

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[JayKim]

This guys channel had me rofl. My favorite was [video=youtube;4V2uYORhQOk]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4V2uYORhQOk[/video]

@1:55



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0DWYJwMOMGo

 

[Entourage]

I stick with my mindset.

I've dated a lot of women, especially at my age, and the only thing I noticed was how easy they cheat on their boyfriends/husbands with me. Though it's fun, and I'm as much in fault as they are, I will not marry a woman who gives her phone number to the first guy that asks. Call me oldschool, but I'd much rather meet the type of girl who you can't speak to unless you go through her father first.

@Red; I think you're mistaken. Dknise does not hold a grudge towards women, neither do I. We're simply reserved. And as we're comparing women to business in this thread (LOL). Let me sum it up for you.

Women are like the market;

there is supply, and there is demand.

Now, if a woman supplies her a$$ to too many men, the demand (and especially mine) will plummet causing a global crisis.

Don't tell me I don't understand women. I don't need to, women understand women and they hate eachother.

 

[dknise]

@Red; I think you're mistaken. Dknise does not hold a grudge towards women, neither do I. We're simply reserved. And as we're comparing women to business in this thread (LOL). Let me sum it up for you.

Women are like the market;

there is supply, and there is demand.

Now, if a woman supplies her a$$ to too many men, the demand (and especially mine) will plummet causing a global crisis.

Exactly! I still go out with women... I still want to find "the one." I just cut things off at the first red flag which usually only takes them about 20 minutes to throw one up.

What is a red flag? A red flag is an obvious sign that the girl has unfaithful traits. Not just to you because you're not providing value, but to everyone in her life. As some of you may remember, I predicted exactly how my 3 year relationship was going to play out after only 4 months. If I had trusted my instincts, I would have saved myself a lot of time and pain. I'm not religious at all, but I do have faith, I have faith in people. Despite all the red flags, I had faith that my ex wasn't who she was appearing to be. I had faith for her hopes, her dreams, her life, and even pushed to her to do good things. I truly believed she was a better person than she was appearing to be, but I was wrong. I don't go around telling girls "prove me wrong about what I'm expecting you to do." It's a personal rule for life that I carry with me. I'm that a**hole that girls always wonder why I never want to go out with them after showing them one good night, because I can already see exactly where it's going. When someone finally proves me wrong (that private rule, not public), then I'll have found someone special. I can't afford to throw my faith into someone who doesn't actively possess what I'm looking for. That was my bad, not my ex's.

What are red flags?
-Lying. If she constantly lies to her friends and family, she's going to lie to you.
-Cheated before. Done, bye, cya. Oh you cheated on your ex-bf with me? Please explain how you're not like that and it won't happen to me too.
-Lack of intelligence. Not only is that just an undesirable trait in a partner, but dumber people tend to make dumber choices...

 

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[Hans im Glueck]

Maybe this video will enlighten some people
[video=youtube;pj6qhHYLeMU]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pj6qhHYLeMU[/video]

 

[McNandez]

I've dated a lot of women, especially at my age, and the only thing I noticed was how easy they cheat on their boyfriends/husbands with me. Though it's fun, and I'm as much in fault as they are...

Interesting that you willingly offer yourself as the other man. No wonder you harbor such a mindset about women! Surround yourself with trash, trash is all you'll get. Lie with dogs and you get fleas, and so on.

women understand women and they hate eachother.

- Sounds like you associate with losers. I'm tempted to explain the concept of "like attracting like", but this is a forum for improvement, so I will wish you good luck in attracting quality people into your life in the future.

 

[100k]

I used to close like that. In fact on a few occasions I have made out strange girls in less than 1-2 min.

This was way back... in my youth, when I had no care in the world. I actually remember at 1 point being so cocky and full of my self, that you could not tell me that Brad Pitt had ANYTHING on me! Hahah... that sort of self confidence makes life soooo easy.

 

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[Entourage]

Interesting that you willingly offer yourself as the other man. No wonder you harbor such a mindset about women! Surround yourself with trash, trash is all you'll get. Lie with dogs and you get fleas, and so on.


- Sounds like you associate with losers. I'm tempted to explain the concept of "like attracting like", but this is a forum for improvement, so I will wish you good luck in attracting quality people into your life in the future.

Nope.jpg

that's what happens when you meet over 50 new people each single day for three consecutive years my friend. My mindset when it comes to women consists solely of not spending time with the types of women I spent time with in my earlier days, what's wrong with that? The person I am now, and the person I was a year ago are two completely different people, and as you can see, I clearly state that I too was in wrong shoes in those situations. People change.

And when I said "women understand women, and they hate eachother." I ment it in a joking matter, emotions are not as easily expressed on the internet as they are in real life.

But please, oh mighty oracle, describe the person you think I am! It sounds like you can write my autobiography based on a single post I made. But then again, "like attracts like". "Shallow searches shallow"

 

[theag]

All I can add to this discussion at this point is that women are a F*cking pain in the a$$ and today I'm, for the first time, seriously thinking about leaving my girlfriend after nearly 4 years.

ullhair:

 

[The-J]

All I can add to this discussion at this point is that women are a F*cking pain in the a$$ and today I'm, for the first time, seriously thinking about leaving my girlfriend after nearly 4 years.

ullhair:

Why is that?

You might be making the best decision of your life. Or you might be willingly throwing yourself into a vortex of regret.

For me, my girlfriend is wonderfully supportive despite the fact that a lot of the things I say and do go against her preconceived beliefs instilled in her by her traditional parents. I'm waiting for her to try and get in the way of my ambitions. I love her dearly, but I'm still young and my projects, my obligations, and my aspirations come first.

Blog post coming soon about this

 

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[theag]

Why is that?

You might be making the best decision of your life. Or you might be willingly throwing yourself into a vortex of regret.

For me, my girlfriend is wonderfully supportive despite the fact that a lot of the things I say and do go against her preconceived beliefs instilled in her by her traditional parents. I'm waiting for her to try and get in the way of my ambitions. I love her dearly, but I'm still young and my projects, my obligations, and my aspirations come first.

Blog post coming soon about this

Found out today that she's lying to me and pisses me off in general in the last weeks with her behaviour.

Sometimes she motivates me above all doubt. Sometimes I feel like she is a 10000lbs rock dragging me down. And I don't think I can handle this back and forth while building my career/business. At the same time I fear I can't do it without her support. Thats what sucks about longterm relationships at a young age (she's my first longterm), you don't really learn how to be alone.

We'll see.

 

[JAJT]

Found out today that she's lying to me

I was so hesitant to leave my first long term relationship that I let her lie to me constantly and even took her back when she cheated on me twice (the third time did it for me).

What I found out by leaving her was that I should have left her LONG before I did. I was just afraid of the unknown. Could I get another girl? Would I feel the same? How will my life change? What if we she changes? Etc... They were just excuses to avoid change.

There are girls (and guys) out there who don't lie, don't cheat, and aren't pains in the a$$. Don't settle for one who is - there are far too many "good ones" out there to settle for a pain in your a$$.

 

[dknise]

Found out today that she's lying to me and pisses me off in general in the last weeks with her behaviour.

Surprise surprise , what was she lying to you about.

If I lived in Zurich, I would be buying you a beer right now.

 

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[theag]

Surprise surprise , what was she lying to you about.

If I lived in Zurich, I would be buying you a beer right now.

Met some guys at university and told me she was there just with a female friend. Wants to keep our relationship secret (the reason for this are her parents which I know for all the time now, but now she suddenly wants to extend this to everybody we know, except we're 1000km away from home). All kinds of F*cking bullshit.

 

[MikeC]

This is not "get a girl in 10 seconds". This is "get a phone number in 10 seconds".

Now, if a woman supplies her a$$ to too many men, the demand (and especially mine) will plummet causing a global crisis.

Have you ever asked yourself, "why do I feel this way?"

 

[Entourage]

This is not "get a girl in 10 seconds". This is "get a phone number in 10 seconds".



Have you ever asked yourself, "why do I feel this way?"

I have. It's because of meeting respectable women, who still cherish being lady-like. In case you're wondering, it's not because of the bad apples in this world

 

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[LightHouse]

I don't think asking a girl 'Do you think I'm attractive' would work unless you actually WERE really attractive or if the girl really was starved for male attention, which it seems like she was here.

Most of the time, girls would simply play games.

Granted, I don't know what 'works' or not, nor do I pretend to...

Have you ever tried it? No? Then what are you talking about. This relates to business too. So many people put things down on their own "theory", then the people who move forward work off facts. If you go try it on 10 eligible candidates and it doesn't work a single time, then you would know whether it works for you....

know what i mean? I'm not trying to sound like an a**hole or anything, just thought i'd point that out. IE Don't knock it til you try it.

 

[theag]

Have you ever tried it? No? Then what are you talking about. This relates to business too. So many people put things down on their own "theory", then the people who move forward work off facts. If you go try it on 10 eligible candidates and it doesn't work a single time, then you would know whether it works for you....

know what i mean? I'm not trying to sound like an a**hole or anything, just thought i'd point that out. IE Don't knock it til you try it.

Have you tried it?

 

[LightHouse]

There is all sorts of ridiculousness in this thread, then reading through, it seems like there is an age trend on this thread to. My advice, drop all your preconceived notions and prior convictions, the sooner the better and more happy you will be.

 

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[MikeC]

I have. It's because of meeting respectable women, who still cherish being lady-like. In case you're wondering, it's not because of the bad apples in this world

You may be living in a disneyland fantasy world.

 

[LightHouse]

Have you tried it?

Yup, im married now, but used to do the same thing all the time. Cut all the silly stuff out. It changes with both sides as you get older too.

 

[theag]

Yup, im married now, but used to do the same thing all the time. Cut all the silly stuff out. It changes with both sides as you get older too.

Yeah I had the best success with cutting to the chase, too. But I meant the exact line "do you think I'm attractive?". Did you try this exact one? I never did that, just asked for what I wanted in the first sentence (dance, date, whatever..). But thinking about it I never asked a girl to dance but just took her hand and took her to the dancefloor with a smile. Works even better But that was in the 17-19 age range. Now I'm out of commission :/

 

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[dknise]

Met some guys at university and told me she was there just with a female friend. Wants to keep our relationship secret (the reason for this are her parents which I know for all the time now, but now she suddenly wants to extend this to everybody we know, except we're 1000km away from home). All kinds of F*cking bullshit.

I completely understand what you're going through.

My ex cheated on me and kept that a secret till I found out the hard proof on her computer. She continued to lie about it. I broke up with her for a good two months till she came crawling back begging for another chance. I gave it to her...

She lied about not having a facebook, she just had me blocked.
She lied about going to college parties, and said she was just with her sisters.
She lied about why she wasn't bringing me around her family. I spent 5 days out of the week eating dinners with her fam, after she cheated, I didn't see them once. When I finally ran into her mom at the grocery store, she thought we had never gotten back together.
She constantly lied about guys she was talking to, or claiming they were "just friends." While she was trying to get me back, there was a guy from one of her classes I didn't trust her with. After we broke up, I found out from HIM that he broke it off with her when he found out she was still seeing me. Apparently she played both of us.

Just some food for thought... If a lot of this sounds like the same worries you're having, she's probably the same type of girl. Most of them are.

 

[Entourage]

You may be living in a disneyland fantasy world.

My life does resemble Disneyland a lot; thank you!

I'm back to work now. Some people in this thread can't cope with difference in opinions apparently. Especially when it concerns their love life. Smells like insecurity!

Kudos people, enjoy your day!

 

[theag]

My life does resemble Disneyland a lot; thank you!

I'm back to work now. Some people in this thread can't cope with difference in opinions apparently. Especially when it concerns their love life. Smells like insecurity!

Kudos people, enjoy your day!

haha, I like the new avatar V in action

 

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[theag]

I completely understand what you're going through.

My ex cheated on me and kept that a secret till I found out the hard proof on her computer. She continued to lie about it. I broke up with her for a good two months till she came crawling back begging for another chance. I gave it to her...

She lied about not having a facebook, she just had me blocked.
She lied about going to college parties, and said she was just with her sisters.
She lied about why she wasn't bringing me around her family. I spent 5 days out of the week eating dinners with her fam, after she cheated, I didn't see them once. When I finally ran into her mom at the grocery store, she thought we had never gotten back together.
She constantly lied about guys she was talking to, or claiming they were "just friends." While she was trying to get me back, there was a guy from one of her classes I didn't trust her with. After we broke up, I found out from HIM that he broke it off with her when he found out she was still seeing me. Apparently she played both of us.

Just some food for thought... If a lot of this sounds like the same worries you're having, she's probably the same type of girl. Most of them are.

Yeah, I read your thread about it. That really sucks. I hope it doesn't come to this. But even it it doesn't there are so many other things that piss me off. Will need some time to think about it, a lot of change happening in my life right now and really can't use another big one now..

But what you said is shockingly resembling. I didn't say a word when she was partying with her girlfriends and I didn't want to come because I was working or tight on money, etc. I'm sure she hasn't cheated, but the fact that she's lying about talking to other guys creates enough of a trust issue for me.

 

[Bearcorp]

I completely understand what you're going through.

My ex cheated on me and kept that a secret till I found out the hard proof on her computer. She continued to lie about it. I broke up with her for a good two months till she came crawling back begging for another chance. I gave it to her...

She lied about not having a facebook, she just had me blocked.
She lied about going to college parties, and said she was just with her sisters.
She lied about why she wasn't bringing me around her family. I spent 5 days out of the week eating dinners with her fam, after she cheated, I didn't see them once. When I finally ran into her mom at the grocery store, she thought we had never gotten back together.
She constantly lied about guys she was talking to, or claiming they were "just friends." While she was trying to get me back, there was a guy from one of her classes I didn't trust her with. After we broke up, I found out from HIM that he broke it off with her when he found out she was still seeing me. Apparently she played both of us.

Just some food for thought... If a lot of this sounds like the same worries you're having, she's probably the same type of girl. Most of them are.

Your ex and my ex wife seem to have been cut from the same cloth, I could cut and paste your story and use it as my own!

I too hesitated in ending the relationship through fear of the unknown, my instincts told me very early my ex wasn't trustworthy but I chose to ignore them and have faith in her. It was an excellent lesson in believing and listening to myself, and trusting my instincts. Shame it took me so long to learn the lesson!