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jonahsr

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I recently came across this talk & it affected me pretty deeply.


I feel like many of us have this "I am not enough" mindset deep down in their unconscious, and I think it can be either a driving factor for growth or the thing that limits their life severely.
What do I mean by this?

Either it fuels them to prove (generally their parents) wrong by making lots of money etc. or it cripples them because they don't explore their full potential. How is it determined who ends up where? I am not so sure...

Though, I believe having that "I am not enough mindset" is making people incredibly unhappy, no matter if it inhibits them from growing as a person in their subconscious mind, or if they have used it as a driving factor to build a large business, make lots of money etc...

You won't fix that mindset by making any amount of money or getting anything else materialistic. I'm not saying that materialistic things are bad at all, what I mean though is that they won't make you feel truly fulfilled if you weren't fulfilled before.

Just listen to that example of the movie director in Beverly Hills who got enraged when a car that wasn't at least a Porsche or Lamborghini was standing on his street. Even though he was successful, the whole time he was only trying to prove that he was "enough", preventing him from living life to the fullest and making him happy. After he made that switch, his life turned around drastically.

It starts with a switch on your mind, knowing that YOU ARE ENOUGH and that you can do anything you want. Through that video, I realised I had a huge issue with that, and I am now slowly starting to change it.

What do you guys think about this? Does that way of thinking subconsciously also affect you?
 

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I struggle with this as well. I think part of the reason is because we are targeted online by "gurus" and hyper successful people (fake or real) and that's what we see day in and day out.

When someone tells me I am doing well, I feel behind the curve, and I use the phrase "I don't compare myself to people not on my same path."

One thing that helps is only comparing yourself to previous iterations of yourself. IE: Am I better than I was 5 years ago? What about 1 year ago? What about 6 months ago? What about last month?
 

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I struggle with this as well. I think part of the reason is because we are targeted online by "gurus" and hyper successful people (fake or real) and that's what we see day in and day out.

When someone tells me I am doing well, I feel behind the curve, and I use the phrase "I don't compare myself to people not on my same path."

One thing that helps is only comparing yourself to previous iterations of yourself. IE: Am I better than I was 5 years ago? What about 1 year ago? What about 6 months ago? What about last month?
Definitely! I feel like though the "highlight reel syndrome" (people portraying the best version of their life on social media only, making you think you are living such a different life than "most", even though it's an illusion) is easier to overcome than what I originally meant.
I was referring to the fact that many people grow up not treated in a way that makes them feel like they are the problem/not good enough, which often leads to a subconscious feeling that persists throughout sometimes their whole life. Let me explain:

Say a child had a father that always criticized them whenever they did something slightly wrong or something he didn't like. Especially if the child is young, it will develop this unconscious feeling of not being good enough. Then it grows up, and works hard to make lots of money, get very successful etc. but a big part of the motivation is proving to their dad that they are great/ good enough. Once they get there, they may not even actually be happy with what they have achieved deep down, since their primary motivation is always to prove the dad that they are enough, or rather prove it to themselves.
As long as they don't recognize that pattern & that THEY ARE ENOUGH, nothing is ever going to make them fulfilled or happy. Hope this makes sense :D
 

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It's like proving your teachers wrong for dropping out or proving any naysayers wrong... that's a jealous, revengeful mindset. I see this ALOT but less so recently.

I think people (at least in my circles) are becoming aware that succeeding because "success is the best revenge" is an unfulfilling way to live life. Instead I recommend never speaking or thinking about those people again, and not living in the past.
 

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It's like proving your teachers wrong for dropping out or proving any naysayers wrong... that's a jealous, revengeful mindset. I see this ALOT but less so recently.

I think people (at least in my circles) are becoming aware that succeeding because "success is the best revenge" is an unfulfilling way to live life. Instead I recommend never speaking or thinking about those people again, and not living in the past.
Yeah, for sure. I like to think of it as is that they most certainly didn't even intentionally act evil or bad, since their believes & values since everyone believes they are doing the right thing.

If your mother tells you to just get a normal job & play safe, she doesn't say it to keep you from getting successful, but she most likely wants to keep you safe from negative moments, risks or disappointments. She is just speaking with her view of the world.

Even Hitler thought he was doing the right thing & that it would benefit his country in his mind.... (obviously he didn't see the full picture).
 

jonahsr

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It's like proving your teachers wrong for dropping out or proving any naysayers wrong... that's a jealous, revengeful mindset. I see this ALOT but less so recently.

I think people (at least in my circles) are becoming aware that succeeding because "success is the best revenge" is an unfulfilling way to live life. Instead I recommend never speaking or thinking about those people again, and not living in the past.
Just found this post while reading Medium.

It ties into this whole conversation, thought you might find it interesting. :)
 

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