Starting a business, but... divorce

[jeje452374]

Hi. I’m new here and I’m hoping I’m posting this in the right section/category.

I read Fastlane and I’m charged up and ready to get to work. I’m still reading Unscripted and it’s just fueling me up even more. I only have one fear...

After 3 years my marriage has been going south and I recently moved out just to maintain my sanity and control of my own life. I can no longer live with her in peace and I’ve tried everything. I don’t want anything to hold me back, hold back my energy and drive to build a successful business system that a billion people could benefit from but, it would kill me to start, build it and be successful one day only to have it all taken away in a divorce.

Any recommendations/advice? I don’t want to hamper my ambition by waiting months or years for a divorce to be finalized as I fear my ideas may fade as I wait for the wheels of justice to turn. Sitting on my hands could stifle what could be the next best thing.

Feel like I’m idling in a new Bugatti Veyron, but hitting the gas, moving forward or making that turn could cause me to lose it all...

 

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[ZF Lee]

Hi. I’m new here and I’m hoping I’m posting this in the right section/category.

I read Fastlane and I’m charged up and ready to get to work. I’m still reading Unscripted and it’s just fueling me up even more. I only have one fear...

After 3 years my marriage has been going south and I recently moved out just to maintain my sanity and control of my own life. I can no longer live with her in peace and I’ve tried everything. I don’t want anything to hold me back, hold back my energy and drive to build a successful business system that a billion people could benefit from but, it would kill me to start, build it and be successful one day only to have it all taken away in a divorce.

Any recommendations/advice? I don’t want to hamper my ambition by waiting months or years for a divorce to be finalized as I fear my ideas may fade as I wait for the wheels of justice to turn. Sitting on my hands could stifle what could be the next best thing.

Feel like I’m idling in a new Bugatti Veyron, but hitting the gas, moving forward or making that turn could cause me to lose it all...

Hi @jeje452374 , thanks for sharing.
Yeah, this seems to be in the right section...

TBH, I'm typically against divorces (I'm a kid who came from such a household), but if a relationship is draining you, and not making you a better person- then yeah, by all means, you should start anew.

But I think your conundrum isn't purely because you 'don't want to be held back' though.
If you don't mind clarifying....how exactly has your partner treated you? Perhaps there's more details to look at...

And what do you mean by 'you've tried everything'?

 

[Kevin88660]

Hi. I’m new here and I’m hoping I’m posting this in the right section/category.

I read Fastlane and I’m charged up and ready to get to work. I’m still reading Unscripted and it’s just fueling me up even more. I only have one fear...

After 3 years my marriage has been going south and I recently moved out just to maintain my sanity and control of my own life. I can no longer live with her in peace and I’ve tried everything. I don’t want anything to hold me back, hold back my energy and drive to build a successful business system that a billion people could benefit from but, it would kill me to start, build it and be successful one day only to have it all taken away in a divorce.

Any recommendations/advice? I don’t want to hamper my ambition by waiting months or years for a divorce to be finalized as I fear my ideas may fade as I wait for the wheels of justice to turn. Sitting on my hands could stifle what could be the next best thing.

Feel like I’m idling in a new Bugatti Veyron, but hitting the gas, moving forward or making that turn could cause me to lose it all...

Sounds like you need legal advice.

Like how to set up a company where you are an employee working for your dad, like how a bankrupt forum member here did.

Things along that line of thought. There can be meaningful actions now and there is no need to wait...like researching on market need or looking at relevant skills you need to learn.

 

[lomb]

You can also work on organizing yourself- Setting up a workflow your comfortable with, time you can devote, managing time and productivity. Obviously protecting yourself if you think its over would be wise. Lets say you have a new biz that generates even 2500 a month in profit, a lawyer would likely mulitply that by a multiple of that.

 

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[ijack]

Tell us how the things are going now for you?

 

[Johnny boy]

Get a divorce attorney before getting married.

Shoulda got a prenup.

I’ll be getting one someday.

“If we split, what’s in my name is mine. What’s in your name is yours. What’s in our name gets split”.

Put the company and company money in company account and your name owns it, family stuff like the house and personal money should be split, and she can have her own stuff too.

In a divorce, you keep your company.

Look into irrevocable trusts and all that fun stuff

 

[MJ DeMarco]

This thread is nearly 4 years old.

You think he is still treading a bad marriage and hoping for things to change?
You think he pursued a Fastlane, or is he still stuck in a job he hates?
Did anything he read in Unscripted take hold and life shifted to the better?

I'd love to hear the update.

 

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[Black_Dragon43]

“If we split, what’s in my name is mine. What’s in your name is yours. What’s in our name gets split”.

Isn’t this sort of the default though? In Europe, whatever you own before the marriage is yours, even in case of divorce. So if you own 2 properties, a company, bla bla, before marriage it remains yours in case of a divorce.

Whatever is ACQUIRED AFTER marriage is split (obviously the growth of your pre-existing company doesn’t count).

 

[Johnny boy]

Isn’t this sort of the default though? In Europe, whatever you own before the marriage is yours, even in case of divorce. So if you own 2 properties, a company, bla bla, before marriage it remains yours in case of a divorce.

Whatever is ACQUIRED AFTER marriage is split (obviously the growth of your pre-existing company doesn’t count).

No, more to it.

Divorce rape. Research.

 

[Noyaux]

Isn’t this sort of the default though? In Europe, whatever you own before the marriage is yours, even in case of divorce. So if you own 2 properties, a company, bla bla, before marriage it remains yours in case of a divorce.

Whatever is ACQUIRED AFTER marriage is split (obviously the growth of your pre-existing company doesn’t count).

in France by default everything is splitted except if you specify it in a contract

 

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