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Hey everybody,

My name is Roberto Escobar(no I'm not related- if I was I would either be in prison or on a private island drinking mojitos)and I am a 34 Y/O male from NYC. I am not a millionaire nor an entrepreneur. I never wanted to be one. Every time I would open Youtube I would see "entrepreneurs" selling courses or real estate "investors" saying how they make millions (if you are one of these people no offense). I honestly thought it was stupid and a scam....and most of it probably was. So being an entrepreneur was never the goal. So what did I do instead?

I became a nurse. Why nursing? I wanted to do something that improved other people's lives and get paid. I went through the gulag or so called nursing school to get my degree. I did 6 years of schooling to get my bachelors (this is not brag). I realized how brutal this job is. Ever stand outside a hospital at shift change hours and see nurses coming out? Notice how most of them look... Exhausted. tired. in pain. stressed. overwhelmed. Overweight. Burnt it. Well it's too late I already chose this career and put 6 years into my degree. I might as well keep going.

Then 2020 happened. Nope I'm not talking about Joe Biden winning presidency .......nor the George Floyd incident and the protests that ensued. I am talking about Covid. Regardless of where you sit on the spectrum (its fake and all made up or china sent it to us as bio warfare or bats created this disease and we should kill all the bats) the truth is that in NYC the STINK HIT THE FAN. We had patients fill up rooms and hallways. The hospital was overwhelmed and past capacity. We had 4X 53' refrigerated trailers outside. People were put on vents and as quickly as they got on they went to the trailer next, not alive. I saw over 100 deaths within 3 months, when the usual rate was about 1 death every 3 months. I also distinctly remember how the CDC were recommending healthcare workers to put bandanas one while caring for patients due to lack of supplies. This is where I first saw a glitch in the matrix.

At the end of 2020, Covid wasn't as severe. I never caught it and was living on a high. Until one day I was on my unit and all of a sudden started to feel this chill on my legs and hips. The pain became worst. A colleague of mine took my temperature and it read "102.6F". I went to a hotel right away and after a few days ended up in the ICU. This is where I began to have nightmares and flashbacks of seeing my patients pass before me. I wouldn't wish this on the devil himself. I survived but went home with a bag full of lingering symptoms and PTSD. My hopes of healing and getting back to work turned into a nightmare of lingering symptoms that wouldn't go away. I couldn't go back to work after months passed. I had extreme fatigue, electric sensations all of over my body, brain fog, dizziness upon standing, and a long list of the weirdest symptoms. I couldn't think well anymore. I couldn't walk around the block anymore. I went to all the specialists hoping for an answer. Cardiologist and exams. Neurologists and exams. Pulmonologists and exams. Everything came back negative (meaning nothing abnormal found). This is when I was diagnosed with Long Covid. While this is all happening my beautiful and caring hospital is sending me letters that I will be terminated despite medical notices being faxed to them (happened many times). After a year I had to either quit or get fired because my health was still severe without any improvement. So I quit....Not out of choice.

I had to change my mindset and start figuring things out. How can all my scans be negative and have no physical abnormalities and have these symptoms? This just didn't make sense. I gave up hope on my doctors (and medical system). I did research and learned how to heal myself. I got my life back (took 2 years). Actually I had to create a new life, new person, new traits to heal. After I healed I created a YouTube channel to help others heal, it was my way of giving back to those that continue to be sick.

*WARNING* Boring paragraph, skip if needed*
I don't want to bore you with the details but it had to do with an overstimulated nervous system. When you are stuck in chronic stress and a fearful event occurs your nervous system can get stuck. Your nervous system is connected to your endocrine system (your hormonal organs) and it will give you the weird symptoms due to hormonal secretions or lack of). I had to learn to accept life at where I was. To find peace in the middle of the chaos. To love myself and who I am. To look at my childhood trauma and reprogram my adult self. I stopped worrying about everything. In the mean time I used up all of my savings, was maxing out my credit cards to survive (I'm the bread winner of the house), had to quit a "good" union job, lost my health benefits and all this with no hope in sight (I wasn't sure I could heal in the middle of all that).

I had to make drastic changes in my life. I realized the script that my parents gave me, society gave me, teachers gave me, college gave me, media gave me was all garbage. I made it a promise to leave nursing. To leave a toxic mindset. To leave my old beliefs about myself, my abilities, my skills, my talents, my potential. I knew this was not going to be easy. First because we tend to be blind to our own weaknesses or "blind spots". Second we all have a level of pride and ego. We would never want to show the world we don't have it figured it out. Third to transform and become someone else, the old person must die. There is real pain in transformation and most are never quick to confess this part of the process. Fourth, you already have created an environment that has sustained the old you, so to become a new person your environment will need to drastically change. This includes killing off relationships and pissing off people around you and sometimes even straight up disappointing people you love.

What I left out in the middle of this story was that while I was healing me and my amazing wife received news of a surprise. I was going to be a father... The thoughts that filled my head: "Rob you just got back to work, how will you support them? Rob you aren't even in a career you like? Rob are you ready to be an example to your kid? " After a few panic attacks later me and my wife made a choice to be excited about the news and whatever challenges would arise we would get through them together. Having a kid changed my life. She is still only 15 months young but everything I do I think about her. Anytime I am unsure of what to do I ask myself, if my daughter asked what for the same advice what would I tell her? And that is the advice I give myself. Kids dont do what you tell them. They do what you do. They follow your example.

Pops - "Eat your veggies son"
Son- "sure pops..."
*son continues to grab Doritos out of dad's bowl"


The book "unscripted " peeled the layers of crap off of my eyes. Reading it feels like I'm going through another growth spurt and it hurts. Challenging all these beliefs I had in my mind and embedded in what feels like my soul. But because it's truth it is liberating. Some lessons that touched my soul and completely changed my paradigm are:
- Getting rich by wanting to get rich (staring at a toaster and expect toast to appear)- what values do I provide to others, in the marketplace?
- You are poor because you consume more than you produce (made me realize I don't produce much in the marketplace- how can I change that)
- We don't use the M word anymore, value vouchers is all we have
- Rich people create their own luck. They change the gum ball machine that suits that, they pull the lever, they adjust, and they pulling. Poor people stop trying.
- Entertainment is cool but it can also be this hypnotizing comforting poison. The question I ask to piss me off and wake me up is , who is making money/benefiting off me being hypnotized?
- Do what you love ( this was a big one for me-kept seeking this for a long time. Do what I love to make money vouchers) I love to run but I will never beat a mediocre Kenyan runner. No value vouchers for me there.
- Rich people have given us so much value in our life. Most of the valuable things you have are made by rich.....Made my whole paradigm around rich people shift

Things I am currently working on:
- TV was disconnected and put way
- PS5 was put away
- I replaced the location where my media was with a table for my laptop
- Im finishing up the book "Unscripted "
- I no longer feel bad for not hanging out with people that don't have the same goal as me
- Reading a book about being a better husband ( Hold me tight by Dr.Sue Johnson)
- Eating 1 pound of vegetables and 1 pound of sweet potato for my first meal (already lost 10 lbs)
- Increasing my confidence in front of the camera through certain exercises
- Publishing one video a week on my channel

There is no sexy ending here. I didn't create a business and become a billionaire. I currently have a small YouTube channel that is about Long Covid healing and currently pivoting and trying new topics on it. My wife keeps telling me I'm a great speaker and story teller and for years she has been telling me to be on Youtube. She has great intuition and so I'm working on that now. I am not sure what is next.......Things I am currently thinking about:
- What is my unfair advantage?
- What are my strengths, gifts, talents?
- How can I use those that could provide value in a system for others?
- If I won the lottery what would I do to provide value to the world and also give me a sense of purpose?
- write down what is a miserable life....and avoid that. That ends up looking like a scripted life.
- Analyzing creators on YouTube business models

SO this is my super long intro. If you got up to this point, thank you for reading. If you skipped the whole thing to get onto this point, thank you.
I'm excited to be part of the Fastlane community. If there is any value I could provide please don't be shy to reach out.

God bless, (God speed for those that don't believe in God)
Roberto Escobar
 
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Hey Rob!

Had to do a double-take when I saw your name pop up, haha.

I binged a lot of your videos last year! I've been very sick since getting COVID in November 2021 and have been documenting my journey here with both health and business.

Feel free to PM me if you'd like to discuss anything since we have an overlap of interests/experiences. I'm also trying to grow a YouTube channel. Would love to talk when I have the energy. I have some ideas.
 
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Hey everybody,

My name is Roberto Escobar(no I'm not related- if I was I would either be in prison or on a private island drinking mojitos)and I am a 34 Y/O male from NYC. I am not a millionaire nor an entrepreneur. I never wanted to be one. Every time I would open Youtube I would see "entrepreneurs" selling courses or real estate "investors" saying how they make millions (if you are one of these people no offense). I honestly thought it was stupid and a scam....and most of it probably was. So being an entrepreneur was never the goal. So what did I do instead?

I became a nurse. Why nursing? I wanted to do something that improved other people's lives and get paid. I went through the gulag or so called nursing school to get my degree. I did 6 years of schooling to get my bachelors (this is not brag). I realized how brutal this job is. Ever stand outside a hospital at shift change hours and see nurses coming out? Notice how most of them look... Exhausted. tired. in pain. stressed. overwhelmed. Overweight. Burnt it. Well it's too late I already chose this career and put 6 years into my degree. I might as well keep going.

Then 2020 happened. Nope I'm not talking about Joe Biden winning presidency .......nor the George Floyd incident and the protests that ensued. I am talking about Covid. Regardless of where you sit on the spectrum (its fake and all made up or china sent it to us as bio warfare or bats created this disease and we should kill all the bats) the truth is that in NYC the STINK HIT THE FAN. We had patients fill up rooms and hallways. The hospital was overwhelmed and past capacity. We had 4X 53' refrigerated trailers outside. People were put on vents and as quickly as they got on they went to the trailer next, not alive. I saw over 100 deaths within 3 months, when the usual rate was about 1 death every 3 months. I also distinctly remember how the CDC were recommending healthcare workers to put bandanas one while caring for patients due to lack of supplies. This is where I first saw a glitch in the matrix.

At the end of 2020, Covid wasn't as severe. I never caught it and was living on a high. Until one day I was on my unit and all of a sudden started to feel this chill on my legs and hips. The pain became worst. A colleague of mine took my temperature and it read "102.6F". I went to a hotel right away and after a few days ended up in the ICU. This is where I began to have nightmares and flashbacks of seeing my patients pass before me. I wouldn't wish this on the devil himself. I survived but went home with a bag full of lingering symptoms and PTSD. My hopes of healing and getting back to work turned into a nightmare of lingering symptoms that wouldn't go away. I couldn't go back to work after months passed. I had extreme fatigue, electric sensations all of over my body, brain fog, dizziness upon standing, and a long list of the weirdest symptoms. I couldn't think well anymore. I couldn't walk around the block anymore. I went to all the specialists hoping for an answer. Cardiologist and exams. Neurologists and exams. Pulmonologists and exams. Everything came back negative (meaning nothing abnormal found). This is when I was diagnosed with Long Covid. While this is all happening my beautiful and caring hospital is sending me letters that I will be terminated despite medical notices being faxed to them (happened many times). After a year I had to either quit or get fired because my health was still severe without any improvement. So I quit....Not out of choice.

I had to change my mindset and start figuring things out. How can all my scans be negative and have no physical abnormalities and have these symptoms? This just didn't make sense. I gave up hope on my doctors (and medical system). I did research and learned how to heal myself. I got my life back (took 2 years). Actually I had to create a new life, new person, new traits to heal. After I healed I created a YouTube channel to help others heal, it was my way of giving back to those that continue to be sick.

*WARNING* Boring paragraph, skip if needed*
I don't want to bore you with the details but it had to do with an overstimulated nervous system. When you are stuck in chronic stress and a fearful event occurs your nervous system can get stuck. Your nervous system is connected to your endocrine system (your hormonal organs) and it will give you the weird symptoms due to hormonal secretions or lack of). I had to learn to accept life at where I was. To find peace in the middle of the chaos. To love myself and who I am. To look at my childhood trauma and reprogram my adult self. I stopped worrying about everything. In the mean time I used up all of my savings, was maxing out my credit cards to survive (I'm the bread winner of the house), had to quit a "good" union job, lost my health benefits and all this with no hope in sight (I wasn't sure I could heal in the middle of all that).

I had to make drastic changes in my life. I realized the script that my parents gave me, society gave me, teachers gave me, college gave me, media gave me was all garbage. I made it a promise to leave nursing. To leave a toxic mindset. To leave my old beliefs about myself, my abilities, my skills, my talents, my potential. I knew this was not going to be easy. First because we tend to be blind to our own weaknesses or "blind spots". Second we all have a level of pride and ego. We would never want to show the world we don't have it figured it out. Third to transform and become someone else, the old person must die. There is real pain in transformation and most are never quick to confess this part of the process. Fourth, you already have created an environment that has sustained the old you, so to become a new person your environment will need to drastically change. This includes killing off relationships and pissing off people around you and sometimes even straight up disappointing people you love.

What I left out in the middle of this story was that while I was healing me and my amazing wife received news of a surprise. I was going to be a father... The thoughts that filled my head: "Rob you just got back to work, how will you support them? Rob you aren't even in a career you like? Rob are you ready to be an example to your kid? " After a few panic attacks later me and my wife made a choice to be excited about the news and whatever challenges would arise we would get through them together. Having a kid changed my life. She is still only 15 months young but everything I do I think about her. Anytime I am unsure of what to do I ask myself, if my daughter asked what for the same advice what would I tell her? And that is the advice I give myself. Kids dont do what you tell them. They do what you do. They follow your example.

Pops - "Eat your veggies son"
Son- "sure pops..."
*son continues to grab Doritos out of dad's bowl"


The book "unscripted " peeled the layers of crap off of my eyes. Reading it feels like I'm going through another growth spurt and it hurts. Challenging all these beliefs I had in my mind and embedded in what feels like my soul. But because it's truth it is liberating. Some lessons that touched my soul and completely changed my paradigm are:
- Getting rich by wanting to get rich (staring at a toaster and expect toast to appear)- what values do I provide to others, in the marketplace?
- You are poor because you consume more than you produce (made me realize I don't produce much in the marketplace- how can I change that)
- We don't use the M word anymore, value vouchers is all we have
- Rich people create their own luck. They change the gum ball machine that suits that, they pull the lever, they adjust, and they pulling. Poor people stop trying.
- Entertainment is cool but it can also be this hypnotizing comforting poison. The question I ask to piss me off and wake me up is , who is making money/benefiting off me being hypnotized?
- Do what you love ( this was a big one for me-kept seeking this for a long time. Do what I love to make money vouchers) I love to run but I will never beat a mediocre Kenyan runner. No value vouchers for me there.
- Rich people have given us so much value in our life. Most of the valuable things you have are made by rich.....Made my whole paradigm around rich people shift

Things I am currently working on:
- TV was disconnected and put way
- PS5 was put away
- I replaced the location where my media was with a table for my laptop
- Im finishing up the book "Unscripted "
- I no longer feel bad for not hanging out with people that don't have the same goal as me
- Reading a book about being a better husband ( Hold me tight by Dr.Sue Johnson)
- Eating 1 pound of vegetables and 1 pound of sweet potato for my first meal (already lost 10 lbs)
- Increasing my confidence in front of the camera through certain exercises
- Publishing one video a week on my channel

There is no sexy ending here. I didn't create a business and become a billionaire. I currently have a small YouTube channel that is about Long Covid healing and currently pivoting and trying new topics on it. My wife keeps telling me I'm a great speaker and story teller and for years she has been telling me to be on Youtube. She has great intuition and so I'm working on that now. I am not sure what is next.......Things I am currently thinking about:
- What is my unfair advantage?
- What are my strengths, gifts, talents?
- How can I use those that could provide value in a system for others?
- If I won the lottery what would I do to provide value to the world and also give me a sense of purpose?
- write down what is a miserable life....and avoid that. That ends up looking like a scripted life.
- Analyzing creators on YouTube business models

SO this is my super long intro. If you got up to this point, thank you for reading. If you skipped the whole thing to get onto this point, thank you.
I'm excited to be part of the Fastlane community. If there is any value I could provide please don't be shy to reach out.

God bless, (God speed for those that don't believe in God)
Roberto Escobar
I am very sure doctor John Campbell
became a millionaire making pandemic and covid related videos.

His videos ten years earlier on digestive system barely had views.

Welcome.
 
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Hey Rob!

Had to do a double-take when I saw your name pop up, haha.

I binged a lot of your videos last year! I've been very sick since getting COVID in November 2021 and have been documenting my journey here with both health and business.

Feel free to PM me if you'd like to discuss anything since we have an overlap of interests/experiences. I'm also trying to grow a YouTube channel. Would love to talk when I have the energy. I have some ideas.
I had to re-read this comment. Cant believe someone who watched my video saw this.
I hope the videos have helped you in some way. I'll PM you.
 
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At the end of 2020, Covid wasn't as severe. I never caught it and was living on a high. Until one day I was on my unit and all of a sudden started to feel this chill on my legs and hips. The pain became worst. A colleague of mine took my temperature and it read "102.6F". I went to a hotel right away and after a few days ended up in the ICU. This is where I began to have nightmares and flashbacks of seeing my patients pass before me. I wouldn't wish this on the devil himself. I survived but went home with a bag full of lingering symptoms and PTSD. My hopes of healing and getting back to work turned into a nightmare of lingering symptoms that wouldn't go away. I couldn't go back to work after months passed. I had extreme fatigue, electric sensations all of over my body, brain fog, dizziness upon standing, and a long list of the weirdest symptoms. I couldn't think well anymore. I couldn't walk around the block anymore. I went to all the specialists hoping for an answer. Cardiologist and exams. Neurologists and exams. Pulmonologists and exams. Everything came back negative (meaning nothing abnormal found). This is when I was diagnosed with Long Covid.

Did you take the jabs?

The book "unscripted " peeled the layers of crap off of my eyes. Reading it feels like I'm going through another growth spurt and it hurts. Challenging all these beliefs I had in my mind and embedded in what feels like my soul. But because it's truth it is liberating.

Welcome.
 

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I did get the jabs, but after I already had long covid because some people were saying the jabs helped them recover. I took 3 jabs desperate for healing.

Interesting. Lots of similarities between long-covid symptoms and jab-injured symptoms, which is why I was asking.

Glad you're feeling better and enjoying fatherhood.

- What is my unfair advantage?
- What are my strengths, gifts, talents?
- How can I use those that could provide value in a system for others?

To give you some guidance on your journey: one thing to remember is that it's also normal and probable that you may not have an unfair advantage (yet).

From my own experience I've learned that most of my difficulties have been due to skill issues.

We're told too often to find our "hidden" talents and gifts. And not often times told the bitter truth that most of us are mediocre with underdeveloped abilities.

If you can accept your own failures, your own weaknesses, and honestly assess your inabilities, you stand a greater chance at improving and becoming the best version of yourself.

If you try to recycle your existing baggage into some form of enterprise, you may miss the bigger opportunities which come with greater risk and challenge.

The way out is to relentlessly become better.

All the best!
 
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Interesting. Lots of similarities between long-covid symptoms and jab-injured symptoms, which is why I was asking.

Glad you're feeling better and enjoying fatherhood.



To give you some guidance on your journey: one thing to remember is that it's also normal and probable that you may not have an unfair advantage (yet).

From my own experience I've learned that most of my difficulties have been due to skill issues.

We're told too often to find our "hidden" talents and gifts. And not often times told the bitter truth that most of us are mediocre with underdeveloped abilities.

If you can accept your own failures, your own weaknesses, and honestly assess your inabilities, you stand a greater chance at improving and becoming the best version of yourself.

If you try to recycle your existing baggage into some form of enterprise, you may miss the bigger opportunities which come with greater risk and challenge.

The way out is to relentlessly become better.

All the best!
Damn! That hit my soul......
Thank you for that.

Ive never heard someone just say straight out, "What if you never developed any skill and are just mediocre?"

I really struggle with this because you are correct, I think about apps, websites, and softwares I love using.......I have some ideas I can come up with but I know nothing about program development, coding.
I have other strengths but I'm just thinking through them........

Become better...... love that.
Ace appreciate your words of wisdom!
 

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I am on the opposite side from @AceVentures comment and sincerely deeply believe every single one of us has some (many!) unfair advantage.

We are all born with a unique genetic make up. We then are subjected to a unique environment shaping us into who we are today. Our decisions led us to today and you absolutely have things that separate you from the pack.

We are Internet strangers and I can already spot your unfair advantages:
  1. You write very well. I was drawn to your story not because of the story but because of the way you wrote it. A tech-savvy person who cannot write will have a disadvantage from you when it comes to: sales, customer support, raising money, employing people etc.
  2. You have both experience and education as a nurse - means that anything to do with medical, you'll have some unfair advantage over people like me.
  3. You had long covid, you learned to self-recover. You know how to research information for your own use and make your own good decisions. This is in contrast to people who often rely on consultants (gurus) and the like. That's an unfair advantage.
Your wife is right and I have not even seen your YT channel. To say you are mediocre ... no you are not.

As to what to do next? No one ever knows! But doing something beats doing nothing. Asking questions beats wasting hours watching internet mind-garbage videos.

Improvement, not perfection! That't the trick.

I'll quote my own threads for you to promote my thoughts as I took the time to write them out once already:
  1. GOLD! - MINDSET - I believe in magic, and why you should too.
  2. GOLD! - EXECUTION - 8 Steps To Help You Plan for Business Success, a How-To Guide
  3. GOLD! - ASSERTION - MINDSET - Tell us, who are you?

Welcome to the forum.
 

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lovely intro, my friend! Question.

How do you not feel bad about not hanging out with ppl who don't share the same goals? I've been struggling because I FEEL like I want these people to come WITH me... Like I can't afford to NOT walk this path, but still I'm leaving "good people" behind.

Do we... just become content with solitude and focus on the goal ahead?
 
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lovely intro, my friend! Question.

How do you not feel bad about not hanging out with ppl who don't share the same goals? I've been struggling because I FEEL like I want these people to come WITH me... Like I can't afford to NOT walk this path, but still I'm leaving "good people" behind.

Do we... just become content with solitude and focus on the goal ahead?
To be honest I noticed people around me have issues with this idea of loyalty.
I have less of an issue and it's not because I am cold hearted.
I am big on self improvement in every aspect of my life (father, husband, spiritual, work, business). So if you are not improving as a friend it means you dont care about the well being of my future life. And if you dont care about the well being of my future life then you dont care about me. And if you dont care about me then why should I spend all this time with you.
I have friends who lost there way when we got older, got into drugs, got into just chasing pleasures, and their life is not what I want for my life and I am aware that their association will influence my life. I love these people and hug them when I see them but I make an intentional effort to not spend time with them. I dont spend time with them because I know if I do my life will start looking like theirs.
I have friends I am close with who dont have the same goals but they are good people, they have values, they are trying to do better in their life. They enjoy deep discussions about life. It's not all about goals. It's about wisdom and acting in harmony with it.
 

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To be honest I noticed people around me have issues with this idea of loyalty.
I have less of an issue and it's not because I am cold hearted.
I am big on self improvement in every aspect of my life (father, husband, spiritual, work, business). So if you are not improving as a friend it means you dont care about the well being of my future life. And if you dont care about the well being of my future life then you dont care about me. And if you dont care about me then why should I spend all this time with you.
I have friends who lost there way when we got older, got into drugs, got into just chasing pleasures, and their life is not what I want for my life and I am aware that their association will influence my life. I love these people and hug them when I see them but I make an intentional effort to not spend time with them. I dont spend time with them because I know if I do my life will start looking like theirs.
I have friends I am close with who dont have the same goals but they are good people, they have values, they are trying to do better in their life. They enjoy deep discussions about life. It's not all about goals. It's about wisdom and acting in harmony with it.
We all have just 24 hours and should not be apologetic about how we choose to spend our time.

If you meet people who share similar goals and working towards it thats the best. But again thats rare offline and that’s why online communities like FLF exists.

For people who don’t have their life in order they will become liabilities to people around them. Addicts will scam, lie and steal to get money from people around them.

Rule number one in any relationship is do not be a persistent net liabilities, to others.

Even if your life is in a mess somehow but you have a strong ego that do not allow you to become liabilities to others. I think we can hang out. (Unfortunately this trait is rare among the younger generation).
 
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I am on the opposite side from @AceVentures comment and sincerely deeply believe every single one of us has some (many!) unfair advantage.

We are all born with a unique genetic make up. We then are subjected to a unique environment shaping us into who we are today. Our decisions led us to today and you absolutely have things that separate you from the pack.

We are Internet strangers and I can already spot your unfair advantages:
  1. You write very well. I was drawn to your story not because of the story but because of the way you wrote it. A tech-savvy person who cannot write will have a disadvantage from you when it comes to: sales, customer support, raising money, employing people etc.
  2. You have both experience and education as a nurse - means that anything to do with medical, you'll have some unfair advantage over people like me.
  3. You had long covid, you learned to self-recover. You know how to research information for your own use and make your own good decisions. This is in contrast to people who often rely on consultants (gurus) and the like. That's an unfair advantage.
Your wife is right and I have not even seen your YT channel. To say you are mediocre ... no you are not.

As to what to do next? No one ever knows! But doing something beats doing nothing. Asking questions beats wasting hours watching internet mind-garbage videos.

Improvement, not perfection! That't the trick.

I'll quote my own threads for you to promote my thoughts as I took the time to write them out once already:
  1. GOLD! - MINDSET - I believe in magic, and why you should too.
  2. GOLD! - EXECUTION - 8 Steps To Help You Plan for Business Success, a How-To Guide
  3. GOLD! - ASSERTION - MINDSET - Tell us, who are you?

Welcome to the forum.
Thank you for responding. I agree with you. We usually all have some sort of unfair advantage. Thank you for the compliments, those are things im continuing to work on. We dont know what is next but we keep going lol. Thank you for the encouragement.
 
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