"Teach me everything you know once you're rich"

[royalflush]

5 years ago, I tried to tell all my friends that we should go to seminars and learn about entrepreneurship. They all dismissed the idea. They told me that it's just a waste of both time and money.

I pursued going to seminars and reading books and starting a business. My first business failed because I had no experience running a company. They all told me to just take a master's degree or just find a job. They ridiculed me.

I avoided my group of friends after my company closed.

5 years later, I hung out with the same group of people after not seeing them for a long time. This time, I already own a condo and a car. I already know all about investing, managing a business, and marketing. I am already a self published author that's earning royalties far beyond their monthly salaries. I own 2 profitable businesses.

The group of friends were wasting their time playing video games, watching tv shows, watching porn, reading comic books. They still insist that reading business books is boring, and they subscribe to the belief that "street smarts is better than book smarts." They think their job is boring and they don't do anything to be better.

Then, these group of friends told me "teach me everything you know now that you're rich."

In my mind, I was like "no way, you weren't there when I needed you most."

 

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[Mattie]

I had this same feedback from my friends and family. I'm not there yet. I look back when someone asked me why I wasn't successful like everyone else. Standing here today, it seems everything I was doing was wrong in their opinion. Wasting my time and money on books and education. There solution and mentality was the same as what you're saying. Basically their measure of success, wasn't the same as mine. A few other people along the way encouraged me to stay focused and keep on doing what I was doing. Re-inventing every aspect of myself. I'm still and always will be re-inventing and educating myself. At some point I'm sure I will be in the same position as you. Everyone will automatically be my best-friend. This just my point of view too, they weren't the one's that pushed and challenged me to be a success.

My guidance to them will be the same they gave me. "Go figure it out." Boy did I figure out so much more than all of them put together. When I'm a success, I plan on buying a pile of M.J.'s books and write inside. Good luck! Go figure it out! Merry Christmas. lol

 

[royalflush]

I had this same feedback from my friends and family. I'm not there yet. I look back when someone asked me why I wasn't successful like everyone else. Standing here today, it seems everything I was doing was wrong in their opinion. Wasting my time and money on books and education. There solution and mentality was the same as what you're saying. Basically their measure of success, wasn't the same as mine. A few other people along the way encouraged me to stay focused and keep on doing what I was doing. Re-inventing every aspect of myself. I'm still and always will be re-inventing and educating myself. At some point I'm sure I will be in the same position as you. Everyone will automatically be my best-friend. This just my point of view too, they weren't the one's that pushed and challenged me to be a success.

My guidance to them will be the same they gave me. "Go figure it out." Boy did I figure out so much more than all of them put together. When I'm a success, I plan on buying a pile of M.J.'s books and write inside. Good luck! Go figure it out! Merry Christmas. lol

Lucky for you, you were encouraged by someone to stay focused. No one supported me. My dad, my mom, my siblings - none of them ever gave me support.

When I closed my business, I was depressed for 4 months. Why? Because my own mother told me that I'm a big failure and that I should have listened to her and worked in a bank as a teller. My mom told all my relatives how much of a big loser I was. We never saw eye-to-eye on anything. She is a Slowlaner, and up until today, I don't respect her. She was a naysayer, and she never supported me in anything I did.

It's really too bad that sometimes your own relatives are your own enemies to success.

As I was earning money, some of my relatives even got jealous. They want me to teach them all my methods. They also keep comparing how much I earn vs how much their children earns.

What the heck right?

 

[Lauryn]

LMAO. I would laugh.
I see so many of these posts, and it never gets old how effin' lazy people are.

Keep watching porn, reading comics, being undisciplined and doing you.
Don't come at me for anything.

And no, I'm not there yet either, but I am working on me everyday.
I am not giving you the time or attention you want when you can't invest in yourself.

SMFH.

 

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[Mattie]

I was in the same situation with relatives and friends. I met a spiritual life coach online, and she had a class online that we had built a positive support group. I also had professors at a private college that pushed me, because they knew by my work and presentations I was willing to go farther than other students.

The people that support you in life are not your friends and family. They are complete strangers.

 

[Ashten]

You can't expect to be in the 2% of people that make shit happen by listening and crediting the naysayers opinions. Inner-reliance is a skill that can be built & is necessary. Inner-motivation is key; talking to yourself & cheering yourself up is also key.

You're going to make it big man. Keep going.

 

[JAJT]

My brother asked me about starting a business a few months back. I gave him a few idle ideas and thoughts but when he kept going on I told him I have a literal library of business books he can borrow and I'll point him in the direction of my favorites on any topic he likes. That pretty much ended that.

 

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[Mattie]

That's the plan!

 

[royalflush]

My brother asked me about starting a business a few months back. I gave him a few idle ideas and thoughts but when he kept going on I told him I have a literal library of business books he can borrow and I'll point him in the direction of my favorites on any topic he likes. That pretty much ended that.

LOL )

 

[Mattie]

I tell people resources all the time. It goes in one ear out the other! lol

 

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[CarrieW]

I have not had anyone say this to me ever...

they say things like, oh I could never do what your doing. or it sounds like too much work, or better you than me.

the only ones who want me to teach them everything I know are my kids they don't care about waiting for me to get lots of money because they know Mommys got the goods LOL

My daughter keeps telling me not to worry because she knows that her and her brother will be millionaires because they have great ideas and are learning how to make them real.

I have never been so proud in my life... (except when my son told his dad he was going to create assets to pay for the sports car he was drooling over in traffic when my hubs told him if he wanted a car like that he better get a real good job )

 

[Tommy92l]

I know people who have ridiculed me and insisted that I was just the childish idiot, that their way was not only the best one, but the ONLY one.

I was talked to as if everything that was said to me came with a little slap on the back, as if they're gracing me with their advice.

2 years later, I'm doing better than this other person, a large group of people following me and things are looking up. This guy I know who gave me all of the advice has a following of 0 and is absolutely enraged. Tells me "Try something else! You're only going to be a flash in the pan! You're so close minded! Life isn't what you think it is!".

Don't let it bother you, and as everyone else would say - LET IT MOTIVATE YOU.

When this fella said this to me, I kept my cool , but inside I wanted to F*ckING EXPLODE. How DARE you tell me what I can or cannot do when you've done nothing but ridicule me and here I am passing you by leaps and bounds!

Stay humble though. People would not be saying these things to you if they thought you were doing poorly, that's a common tendency.

You know you're doing work when they have something to say.

I think we can all agree that there is no worse feeling than acting like you're on top of the world and seeing someone else totally blow you out of the water with what they're doing. You feel left behind.

 

[Mattie]

Those people don't like that you passed them mentally. You've taken away their only tool to sabotage your success. I was called the rebel for standing up for myself against a group of toxic people. I just learned not to allow people to mess with me. lol

 

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[royalflush]

The bigger you dream, the more they're offended

 

[Mattie]

This is what I've heard listening to millionaires and billionaires. I believe this is the shift, knowing what people say or do is their choice. They have the same opportunities. They just choose not to apply themselves. Wasn't that what they told us. They just did it half way, we slam!

 

[shedim]

My brother asked me about starting a business a few months back. I gave him a few idle ideas and thoughts but when he kept going on I told him I have a literal library of business books he can borrow and I'll point him in the direction of my favorites on any topic he likes. That pretty much ended that.

If only I had a brother like you. I'd love to see that library of yours. Which were the first books that helped you get started? What would you recommend for a beginner to read first?



Way too many people want something but aren't willing to step outside of their comfort zone in order to get it. A shame, really.

 

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[The-J]

They just don't like the big ugly P: PROCESS.

It's tough! Maybe not 'hard', but it takes big balls and tough skin to walk this path. The concepts are simple, the process... it's long and success is the culmination of the years behind you.

They're in the sidewalk because they don't wanna hear that. They wanna hear about how they could get rich with no money in the game, with little work, and as quick as possible! "I know, let's get our friend to take all the risks and then he'll mentor us!"

Nope.

 

[RogueInnovation]

The bigger you dream, the more they're offended

That just shows they wanna be king

Don't we all...


All value is self created though, thats the really ironic thing

 

[Mattie]

It certainly isn't a path for many! I think their concept in my case is they believe hard physical work and laboring is success. Which yes, anyone can work hard. People will work for very low pay and work hard and never get anywhere. They don't use their brains. They don't understand the concept of using the brain. I agree on time too. It doesn't happen fast enough, and money is supposed to fall from the sky with little effort.

 

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[BigDaddyKane]

When people make comments like that towards me I can't help but to truly and genuinely smile (with a bit of sadness for them). Not in a demeaning way or anything, but just really smile with inner joy because I know the day will come when others ask me "Teach me everything you know now that your rich".

 

[SteveO]

Why does it matter? They are friends correct? It would be fantastic if they truly wanted you to show them the ropes. My experience is that they may make a comment or two but that is as far as it will go.

Time and other interests will likely lead you all in different paths anyway.

 

[458]

Any time you do better than someone else you force them to look in the mirror and admit that they are not as good as they believe they are. Most, if not all the people around you believe they are superior to you in some fashion, its just how humans are...

 

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[DennisD]

My brother asked me about starting a business a few months back. I gave him a few idle ideas and thoughts but when he kept going on I told him I have a literal library of business books he can borrow and I'll point him in the direction of my favorites on any topic he likes. That pretty much ended that.

I'm very proud of both my brothers.
They do the learning and reading for themselves, only asking questions about which direction they should be pointed in or where to start.
Then they go out and do it.
I'm very pleased with them. We both turned out COMPLETELY different than our parents.

 

[MorgothBauglir]

Why does it matter? They are friends correct? It would be fantastic if they truly wanted you to show them the ropes. My experience is that they may make a comment or two but that is as far as it will go.

Time and other interests will likely lead you all in different paths anyway.

I agree, but I suppose it's because you get hurt. When you're about to go on a scary journey, naturally you're hoping for the support of the people close to you.

Then you sail back into port triumphantly and everyone's your best friend and needs your help, it's kinda like 'where were you when I was sailing through a storm with a leaky hull and broken mast?'

I think the important thing to remember is your friends are dealing with their own uncertainty/fear/ignorance. They've been fed the school -> college -> degree -> job their whole lives. Straying from this path can seem like madness.

Problem is, @royalflush's friends ridiculed him when he was vulnerable. That can take time to heal.

 

[SteveO]

but I suppose it's because you get hurt.

Aha! This is nothing more that a product of fear and insecurity. None of which belongs as part of your program.

What other people think of you should not ever matter.

 

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[SteveO]

it's kinda like 'where were you when I was sailing through a storm with a leaky hull and broken mast?

Again... fear....

 

[SteveO]

The people that I see doing this stuff are not afraid of failure. Sometimes we make bad, even stupid moves. Just dust yourself off and go again.

I quit a good paying job at HP after 19 years. Everyone thought I was NUTS!!!! But I had a plan and I was going to implement it regardless of what everyone else said.

 

[MorgothBauglir]

Aha! This is nothing more that a product of fear and insecurity. None of which belongs as part of your program.

What other people think of you should not ever matter.

Naturally, and often it takes going through this to learn that.

Just saying that I can relate.

 

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[Rickson9]

Why does it matter? They are friends correct? It would be fantastic if they truly wanted you to show them the ropes. My experience is that they may make a comment or two but that is as far as it will go.

Time and other interests will likely lead you all in different paths anyway.

I agree. These friends wouldn't be able to do anything that you teach them anyway. If they're not even willing to read a book, what hope do they have?