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Divorced and Looking to get out of the Rat Race

telly123

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Hi all,

Recently joined and glad to be a part of this community.

A bit of background. It's been a turbulent three years. In this time I've become divorced, which drove me on to bring in an additional income to my generic IT job 9-5 (not a coding roles), via matched betting. This allowed me to purchase my own house shortly after the divorce went through.

The match betting value is starting to dwindle and therefore isn't sustainable long term. I'm now investigating other business possibilities, although at present I'm really struggling to think of a product/service.

I understand from reading 'Unscripted ' that one of the main cornerstones is about bringing value to others. If I'm honest one of my main motivators for becoming a successful businessman is to be able to spend time with my daughter and to be able to live near her if my ex decides to move to another part of the country. I want to be able to take her to clubs, be there in person throughout her upbringing. The idea that she won't grow up with a strong father figure in her life, frankly, scares the sh1t out of me. I want the best for her more than anything in the world and using this fear as fuel to succeed.

I'm looking at location independent roles, even considering options such as Affiliate Marketing, trading and learning to become a full time poker player. I know these go against the CENTS ethos, but at least these offer a way out of the 9-5 and give me location independence. I'm quite happy staring at a computer screen all day long, it's pretty much what I do at work all day and then matched betting for several hours each evening and more at the weekend.

I seem to lack creativity at present. Strengths include high boredom threshold, addictive/obsessive personality, very strong work ethic, (never miss a gym session, eat clean food all the time, work 9-5 where I'm a top performer, work several hours on matched betting each evening and all weekend, literally every day). My ex said to other people and me after we split that she's never met anyone else as resilient, who can focus on one thing and just keep going and going, and she's at upper management level in a government job. She did say I need to believe in myself more than I do, which I agree with. I'm also prone to analysis through paralysis through constant research and reading.

I'm considering Affiliate Marketing and the other options as I don't mind working hands on for long hours, as long as I can get out the rat race and from there maybe learn more business skills and awaken the creative part of me which hasn't been utilized for a long time now. From there look at a fastlane business.

At present I seem to be a machine/work horse with little entrepreneurial nouse, I'm sure this is something that can be worked on.

Money motivates me, I'd love to be rich - the freedom it brings and not being an employee is important.

Would be interested in what you guys think about my situation.

Thanks!
 
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Welcome to the forum.

The idea that she won't grow up with a strong father figure in her life, frankly, scares the sh1t out of me. I want the best for her more than anything in the world and using this fear as fuel to succeed.

I have never been in the same position as you, but what you have written here resonates with me so much. You may find some value in the Order of Man podcast, which is all about becoming a better man in business, family and other areas.

I have listened to a whole bunch recently after finding out about it myself through a post on this forum and one of the discussions was your exact situation - how to stay part of your children's life in the most fulfilling way after a breakup or divorce. Apologies that I can't remember the specific podcast but looking at this may be a good starting point.
 

telly123

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Welcome to the forum.



I have never been in the same position as you, but what you have written here resonates with me so much. You may find some value in the Order of Man podcast, which is all about becoming a better man in business, family and other areas.

I have listened to a whole bunch recently after finding out about it myself through a post on this forum and one of the discussions was your exact situation - how to stay part of your children's life in the most fulfilling way after a breakup or divorce. Apologies that I can't remember the specific podcast but looking at this may be a good starting point.

Cool, cheers mate - will certainly give it a look later on!
 

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