in this journey, this student definitely needs a mentor!!

charles J · May 9, 2014

just trying to reach out to anyone that has started an online business and or those who are wiling to share their priceless experience with me... im so ready for this!!! i just need someone who could make this path a little more clear for me... this plateau that ive been on for a few weeks is just not fun anymore, so im forced to reach out lOl... i no that im not the only on here at the same crossroads, so everyone that may find this intresting please feel free to read on and learn as much as possible... PS. thank you to my future mentors

SemiSentient · May 9, 2014

Have you ever walked into a room with hundreds of people and asked who wants to be your girlfriend? Try it.I doubt you would find any takers, or if you did, you would be sorry you asked.

I know this sounds absurd, but that is pretty much what you just did. You came to an online community without any introduction and asked for one of the most sacred kinds of help anyone of us would love to have. So why should anyone want to help you. No one knows your situation. Maybe you are just testing the entrepreneurial waters because you had a bad week at work. Or maybe you are the next Bill Gates. The odds favor the former, but none of us know.

I'm not trying to rip on you. I'm just asking that you put yourself in the shoes of this "mentor" you seek. They are probably successful to some degree at starting a business and building it. They have learned most of hard shit by trial and error. They would love to mentor other people with similar drive and aspirations, but they are very busy. If they see a post like yours, they breeze over it.

Here is my advice. You need to first be able to rely on YOU. You are capable of learning SO much by simply opening your eyes. Mentor-ship can come in many forms. It comes in the posts you read on this forum. It comes from reading good books. It comes from picking up on the things that you see successful people do. It comes from getting out there and trying whatever you think is the best path. Any action beets inaction. If you try something and you were wrong, now you know. If you never tried it because you were uncertain, you never learned anything. It is often hard when you are going through uncharted territory. You will wish you had someone showing you which way to go and where to step. But it doesn't work like that. And if it did you wouldn't learn nearly as much as you would if you were the one leading.

So, start by introducing yourself to the forum. Then start a progress thread. Post some of the things you failed at and learned from on your project. Post what the main things are that are holding up your progress. If you do these things you will get some kickass advice from a myriad of people.

I probably came across as a prick(not my intention). But if you read closely, you might have just had a tad of mentor-ship.

DeletedUser2 · May 9, 2014

charles J said:
. this plateau that ive been on for a few weeks

few weeks

BWAHAHAHAHAHA
:asshat:

AubreyJ · May 9, 2014

zen******* said:
few weeks

BWAHAHAHAHAHA

Yes, I feel like your first issue is that you have been on a plateau for a few WEEKS. A few weeks is nothing.

Here is a pretty good thread about mentors:

https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/co...entor-swear-your-undying-loyalty-first.49447/

I'd suggest you read it

DeletedUser2 · May 9, 2014

here is another one
https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/threads/how-to-piss-off-a-mentor-pro-version.42445/
Z

Mrs. BRKb · May 10, 2014

Hi, charlesJ! You're getting heat because you led with the ASK instead of a GIVE.

Maybe provide an intro, history of your online biz pursuit, and/or specific online things you don't understand?

Welcome to the forum.

charles J · May 10, 2014

Mrs. BRKb said:
Hi, charlesJ! You're getting heat because you led with the ASK instead if a GIVE.

Maybe provide an intro, history of your online biz pursuit, and/or specific online things you don't understand?

Welcome to the forum.

lOl its all good.. its just the internet hahaha

charles J · May 10, 2014

SemiSentient said:
Have you ever walked into a room with hundreds of people and asked who wants to be your girlfriend? Try it.I doubt you would find any takers, or if you did, you would be sorry you asked.

I know this sounds absurd, but that is pretty much what you just did. You came to an online community without any introduction and asked for one of the most sacred kinds of help anyone of us would love to have. So why should anyone want to help you. No one knows your situation. Maybe you are just testing the entrepreneurial waters because you had a bad week at work. Or maybe you are the next Bill Gates. The odds favor the former, but none of us know.

I'm not trying to rip on you. I'm just asking that you put yourself in the shoes of this "mentor" you seek. They are probably successful to some degree at starting a business and building it. They have learned most of hard shit by trial and error. They would love to mentor other people with similar drive and aspirations, but they are very busy. If they see a post like yours, they breeze over it.

Here is my advice. You need to first be able to rely on YOU. You are capable of learning SO much by simply opening your eyes. Mentor-ship can come in many forms. It comes in the posts you read on this forum. It comes from reading good books. It comes from picking up on the things that you see successful people do. It comes from getting out there and trying whatever you think is the best path. Any action beets inaction. If you try something and you were wrong, now you know. If you never tried it because you were uncertain, you never learned anything. It is often hard when you are going through uncharted territory. You will wish you had someone showing you which way to go and where to step. But it doesn't work like that. And if it did you wouldn't learn nearly as much as you would if you were the one leading.

So, start by introducing yourself to the forum. Then start a progress thread. Post some of the things you failed at and learned from on your project. Post what the main things are that are holding up your progress. If you do these things you will get some kickass advice from a myriad of people.

I probably came across as a prick(not my intention). But if you read closely, you might have just had a tad of mentor-ship.

actual you did not come off as a prick at all.... but the asking for a girlfriend part was hilarious!! have you tried it? single girls wish they could meet a guy with enough balls to do that (trust me)but yeah, thanks this is exactly what i was looking for... but for the record. do you know a thing or two about online businesses????

DeletedUser394 · May 10, 2014

charles J said:
but for the record. do you know a thing or two about online businesses????

Does that in any way negate the validity of his advice?

charles J · May 10, 2014

RichKid said:
Does that in any way negate the validity of his advice?

nope... dont look at it that way

Mrs. BRKb · May 10, 2014

charles J said:
actual you did not come off as a prick at all.... but the asking for a girlfriend part was hilarious!! have you tried it? single girls wish they could meet a guy with enough balls to do that (trust me)

Oy.

AubreyJ · May 10, 2014

charles J said:
actual you did not come off as a prick at all.... but the asking for a girlfriend part was hilarious!! have you tried it? single girls wish they could meet a guy with enough balls to do that (trust me)

As a single girl, I think if a guy went up to me at a bar and asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend, I would immediately think he was an arrogant prick

DeletedUser394 · May 10, 2014

So, what's your business? What/how have you done? What's the backstory? Who are you?

If you show up to an elite university and simply say 'Hey, I'm a guy in my twenties, teach me stuff' you'd be promptly laughed out the door.

DeletedUser394 · May 10, 2014

This thread:

Been waiting for a chance to post that.

Good luck op

charles J · May 10, 2014

AubreyJ said:
As a single girl, I think if a guy went up to me at a bar and asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend, I would immediately think he was an arrogant prick

isnt it all in how you do it though?? and if your single or not

but yeah, just saying that i wouldnt be afraid to do that

charles J · May 10, 2014

charles J said:
isnt it all in how you do it though?? and if your single or not but yeah, just saying that i wouldnt be afraid to do that

not in a bar though haha

AubreyJ · May 10, 2014

charles J said:
isnt it all in how you do it though?? and if your single or not but yeah, just saying that i wouldnt be afraid to do that

No, it would be a turn off regardless. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and I would definitely consider that arrogance

charles J · May 10, 2014

RichKid said:
So, what's your business? What/how have you done? What's the backstory? Who are you?

If you show up to an elite university and simply say 'Hey, I'm a guy in my twenties, teach me stuff' you'd be promptly laughed out the door.

lOl yep, i think your right about that... but i think i would use alittle more common since of i was to meet with someone in person... just had to see what would happen with this post... thatnks

StartupsRFun · May 10, 2014

charles J said:
not in a bar though haha

Where is a good place to do it? Im curious

Yankee427 · May 10, 2014

This thread reminds me of a St. Patrick's day party I was at once back in college about 7 years ago. We were all just having a good time, about 21-22 at the time. All of a sudden one guy about 23 walks in with 4 single women in their mid 40's that he just met randomly on the street and brought back into the apartment to join the party. Everyone was just like WTF is up with that as we were all in our 20's.

You know this thread is not going to a good place when someone is quoting themselves and replying to their own comment.

Simon Ashari · May 10, 2014

charles J said:
i just need someone who could make this path a little more clear for me... this plateau that ive been on for a few weeks is just not fun anymore, so im forced to reach out lOl...

What have you done that you are in a plateau?

If you talk about what you have done and ask for suggestions I am sure many pros here will give you advice.

charles J · May 10, 2014

AubreyJ said:
No, it would be a turn off regardless. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance, and I would definitely consider that arrogance

i think a guy that would do that (such as me)would show know form of arrogance as he simply ask's a girl if she would like to be his girlfriend haha... we would both mostly laugh at the fact that its so random and childish... hopefully it comes off more so as a cute way of meeting a stranger... but yeah, thats just me... i guess you cant have em all... its better then wat most guys do ;-)

charles J · May 10, 2014

StartupsRFun said:
Where is a good place to do it? Im curious

mall, Starbucks, college... anyplace that there are girls ... A bar would be ok to, but most likely a girls has been hit on way to many times, to the point that she will not give a another dude a chance hahah... sucks for us

AubreyJ · May 10, 2014

Simon Ashari said:
What have you done that you are in a plateau?

If you talk about what you have done and ask for suggestions I am sure many pros here will give you advice.

It may be a good idea to address questions on your business as opposed to questions regarding how you pick up girls. Like this one^^^ what have you done that has caused your plateau?

Have you done anything to help yourself get out of the rut? if so, what did you do?

Yankee427 · May 10, 2014

You may want to leave your relationship questions for this category of the forum: https://www.thefastlaneforum.com/community/forums/people-relationships.76/

As everyone said, what have you plateaued on?

Simon Ashari · May 10, 2014

AubreyJ said:
It may be a good idea to address questions on your business as opposed to questions regarding how you pick up girls.

Agreed. This conversation about girls is a gigantic non sequitur.

RogueInnovation · May 10, 2014

Only you can eat through the glass, mentors help serious guys who take considered and impressive action
And if there is benefit in it for them, lets be honest :innocent: :halo:

So none of this :drowning:

SemiSentient · May 11, 2014

charles J said:
mall, Starbucks, college... anyplace that there are girls ... A bar would be ok to, but most likely a girls has been hit on way to many times, to the point that she will not give a another dude a chance hahah... sucks for us

Ahh!!

Of all the things I said, this is the only one you picked up on?

No more of my time invested here!

charles J · May 11, 2014

SemiSentient said:
Ahh!!

Of all the things I said, this is the only one you picked up on?

No more of my time invested here!

hahah looks like ive picked up a lot more from you then you realize... both the good and the bad... i like the way you get your points across... my road block seems to be on the amount of money ive been making from this business of mine... i earn enough to live a life of comfort, but i think i can earn more... you made me realize that with my own time and efforts i should be able to figure it out... thanks mate

rexxkai · Dec 12, 2014

GrumpyCat said:
This thread:

Been waiting for a chance to post that.

Good luck op

LMAO.... how many sunglasses were lost in the process LOL

edit: shit i wanna do this sometime soon....

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