It’s both in a way.
I love my family. I spend time with them.
We talk about stuff going on.
They give the worst advice possible.
I smile and say “haha okay”
And I ignore all of it.
I come back, after ignoring all of it, with adventures, stories and success. Running my business…traveling the world…seeing and doing everything, etc.
And they forgot they ever said it. They’re just normal people, and that’s okay. They hang up my pictures on their fridge and tell their other old friends about things Johnny is doing. Things they told me NOT to do! LMAO.
I love them, they love me. They are cautious and boring. I am not.
A winner takes ultimate ownership.
It’s on me to be stoic enough to listen to bad advice gracefully.
“Don’t go climb Mt rainier”
“Don’t go to Thailand for two months”
“Don’t go to Morocco or India”
“Don’t start a business”
It’s on me to not let other people derail my mind by even an inch.
And it’s on me to keep the peace and let other people have their silly opinions.
It’s your responsibility too.
Are they wrong? Of course.
But…
If you’re going to be a winner, there’s going to be 50,000 times you are totally right, but you must account extra for the sake of others’ ignorance.
So yes, they are your family. They are on your team. And also yes, they’re just some people here on earth that had a kid and it happened to be you. It’s both.
It would be a shame to not love them and gain from that.
That doesn’t mean you have to let these random people control your brain.
A truly internal locus of control will understand that you are in control of your actions regardless of family opinions. This frees you to be open to their love and see even their criticism as a version of that love…and also keep your mind focused and not let your thoughts and actions be swayed.
If they really are messed up and ruin your mind and you can’t stand being around them, go ahead and separate, but usually it’s not all that bad.
I love my family. I spend time with them.
We talk about stuff going on.
They give the worst advice possible.
I smile and say “haha okay”
And I ignore all of it.
I come back, after ignoring all of it, with adventures, stories and success. Running my business…traveling the world…seeing and doing everything, etc.
And they forgot they ever said it. They’re just normal people, and that’s okay. They hang up my pictures on their fridge and tell their other old friends about things Johnny is doing. Things they told me NOT to do! LMAO.
I love them, they love me. They are cautious and boring. I am not.
A winner takes ultimate ownership.
It’s on me to be stoic enough to listen to bad advice gracefully.
“Don’t go climb Mt rainier”
“Don’t go to Thailand for two months”
“Don’t go to Morocco or India”
“Don’t start a business”
It’s on me to not let other people derail my mind by even an inch.
And it’s on me to keep the peace and let other people have their silly opinions.
It’s your responsibility too.
Are they wrong? Of course.
But…
If you’re going to be a winner, there’s going to be 50,000 times you are totally right, but you must account extra for the sake of others’ ignorance.
So yes, they are your family. They are on your team. And also yes, they’re just some people here on earth that had a kid and it happened to be you. It’s both.
It would be a shame to not love them and gain from that.
That doesn’t mean you have to let these random people control your brain.
A truly internal locus of control will understand that you are in control of your actions regardless of family opinions. This frees you to be open to their love and see even their criticism as a version of that love…and also keep your mind focused and not let your thoughts and actions be swayed.
If they really are messed up and ruin your mind and you can’t stand being around them, go ahead and separate, but usually it’s not all that bad.
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