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A sample of my relationship e-book, tell me what you think?

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Hey guys,

I'm new to this website and I'm liking it so far. Great people on here and a great source of info. Here is my story. I'm currently working from paycheck to paycheck, and I'm not liking it. I was thinking of ways on how to make money and have some extra cash lying around. It took me a while to plan out what I wanted to sell or provide in service. I have a bunch of ideas but most of them don't come to fruition. Some of my friends tell me that I give really solid advice on how to keep long term relationships. Apparently they tell me I know what to look for. So I set out to create possibly an e-book for others to benefit from. I'm not your average guru telling you how to get a girl in 5 steps or less, or how to pick up women, no, I'm more of your man in how to look for the right woman and make her a keeper. It's a bit controversial in terms of the ideas and tips I give out, so be warned. Anyway, please let me know your thoughts on my e-book. I'm really trying to set out and help guys with choosing the right woman and keeping her for a very long time. I know there is a ton of information out there on how to attract women and how to get women to have sex with you, but my main goal is to let guys know, maybe this type of stuff is not what you are looking for and I have a solution to your problem, my e-book.

I'm still writing it and I'm currently working on the cover myself. I'm very good with Photoshop and know my way around it. I just have to get people's opinion on the book and if this is something you might buy for yourself.

Thanks again, below is my e-book




INTRODUCTION
The first thing you should know about me is that I'm Bosnian. In Bosnia, women and men know their roles in nature. Men provide food, shelter, and bring in the cash. Women take care of the children, clean the house and make sure there is food ready when her man comes from a long day at work. I'm telling you ahead of time, this book is controversial, meaning that a lot of people will not like what I have to say. Here is my answer to you, I've tried it and had no problems implementing these ideas into action when I was looking for my ideal woman. So far, I'm in a healthy relationship with my wife for the past 5 years. This book is about picking the right woman and avoiding all the headaches with today's gurus telling you this and that. I will teach you tips on how to find the right woman and avoid all the slutty ones. I'm not going to waste too much of your time, let's get right down to it.

*Never date women who go to clubs or bars.
Clubs and bars are for single people or friends going out and having a good time. Most of the time women get drunk, tell their boyfriends a guy made a move on them and shit went down. At this point, the boyfriend is a little bit delusional. He tells himself that he trusts her but not the other guy. This is a big mistake. I can tell you this. Women lie too much and twist the story in their favor to make them look like the victim. You obviously know you can't trust her now, but you still do anyway, why? because you're delusional. Bars and clubs are not a place to pick up women for long term relationships. Maybe for short term or one nighters, but that's about it. For long term relationships, you need to do a little more work. Avoid women who go to these types of places. It won't be a happy ending for you.

*Avoid extroverted women.
I say this because most of them will come running to you when you ignore them. I've had women who gave me their phone numbers call me and text me because I was playing hard to get. I wasn't trying to. I simply was not interested. What happened? It made them crazy. They started to up the texts and calls and tried to get me to hang out with them. I literally did nothing and they came flocking. It doesn't hurt to be handsome though. That's part of it. I'll tell you this, when you work for something, you get the most benefit out of it. It presents a challenge to you and you must find a way to overcome it. When a girl keeps contacting you because you haven't contacted her back, she really is not a keeper. She is an attention whore. She is wondering why you haven't called or texted her like all the other guys who were idiots to even talk to her. The girls you should be going after are shy women. You see, they are a huge challenge to obtain. Think of it this way, you are the hunter and she is the hunted. It should be this way because it's in the nature of how things should work. When you get the opposite, it becomes too fake, not ordinary and that is why you should avoid it. It took me 3 years to make sure I picked the right wife, I had to make sure I was 500% sure she was the one, and you know what? I'm happy and she's happy. No bullshit games, no fakes, no lies, no going out with other men, and no sluts.

*Avoid women who say they are independent or career focused.
You don't need to bother with these women. They are trying to be masculine and feminists have already infected their minds on how she should think about relationships. Real women will stand by their man and let him be the bread winner, not the other way around. In the old times, men in their tribes would be out hunting for food to feed their families, while the women would be with the kids waiting on her man to provide for them. It's also a great feeling to know you are the bread winner in the family, because you know how to get shit done and know what it takes at all costs to protect and feed the ones you love. Women who are career focused usually don't even know what it's like being in a relationship. I've met these type of women before and you know what I ask them? When was the last time you have been with a guy? Their response is usually something like this, "I don't have time for men, I don't want to cook or clean for him, I like being independent." Well guess what? In her older years, she will question what happened and where she went wrong with men.

*Work out and eat right.
What does this have to do with relationships? I'll tell you what this has to do with relationships. Do you want to be a slob? a guy with a beer belly? A beta male? what's that? is that a NO I hear. Well then, good, you should be at peak physical condition when you are with your woman. Why? Well for one, you are healthy and strong. You show dedication in building yourself and avoid being all slobby and disgusting like most of the men you see today. Here is the thing, getting up and going to exercise is a huge deal that most people don't even have the balls to do. They usually tell themselves, "I'm too tired from work," "I'll do it tomorrow." Let me tell you something, there is no tomorrow. There never will be a tomorrow. You need to get up from that couch and start doing, start taking action and get your health on track, You don't have to be a body builder, just make sure you exercise and eat right and not end up becoming fat. Women will appreciate this because you show dedication and know what it takes to achieve success.

*Spend 30 Minutes on your dates.
You read that right. In the past I have gone on dates with women who I spent hours with and you know where that got me? The friend zone. How? because she knew too much about me, and I knew too much about her. Most guys who get the chance to go out with their ideal woman, get over confident and too excited and ruin the date because they talked too much. When you set up your first date, it should be short and sweet and to the point. FInd out who she is, what she does, and most importantly try to find out how many partners she has had in the past. Why you ask? The more partners a woman has had, the less reliable she is in terms of keeping her. Most of the time when a woman has 4 to 8+ partners, she was just looking to get some dick in her mouth and tell her friends how many guys she's been with. Avoid these women at all costs. Not worth your effort. When it comes to your dates, take her to the waterfront, or downtown. some place you can get a quick bite or a drink and get to know her. If you see something that is off putting, trust that gut feeling and don't go on a second date. If however you do see that she is a genuine girl and has no baggage behind her, look into it. Set up another date the following week and start taking each date to the next level.

****MOST IMPORTANT TIP OF ALL TIPS: Your email, facebook, texts, and calls should be used as tools in making a date with her, not chatting with her. You can do that later when she is your girlfriend. A lot of guys will make the assumption that if she is answering his texts and facebook messages, she must be interested. Well here is something to think about. Most guys fail on this level because they let out too much info on them through these texts and messages. You do not want to do that. You need to see her in person and talk ONLY then. I don't want to see you chatting with her 24/7 on your phone. Why? because you are digging your own grave in entering the friend zone. This is a huge tip you need to keep in mind. If the one thing you get out of this book, it's this one important tip. DON'T MAKE THIS MISTAKE.
 
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This book makes me sad - Too controversial for me, I'm afraid.

Apart from that, you should try and structure for thoughts a bit, I think. I don't know how long this is going to be, but the best ebooks don't just list random tips but have chapters that make sense and build up on the ones before (if that makes sense).

Also, make it very clear in your description that you cater to a niche market (hardcore traditionalists). Everyone else might not be too pleased with it.
 

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When a girl keeps contacting you because you haven't contacted her back, she really is not a keeper. She is an attention whore. She is wondering why you haven't called or texted her like all the other guys who were idiots to even talk to her. The girls you should be going after are shy women. You see, they are a huge challenge to obtain. Think of it this way, you are the hunter and she is the hunted. It should be this way because it's in the nature of how things should work.

Lost me. You have no idea what you are talking about here. You should read Corey Wayne's book "How to be a 3% man" and his videos.

****MOST IMPORTANT TIP OF ALL TIPS: Your email, facebook, texts, and calls should be used as tools in making a date with her, not chatting with her. You can do that later when she is your girlfriend. A lot of guys will make the assumption that if she is answering his texts and facebook messages, she must be interested. Well here is something to think about. Most guys fail on this level because they let out too much info on them through these texts and messages. You do not want to do that. You need to see her in person and talk ONLY then. I don't want to see you chatting with her 24/7 on your phone. Why? because you are digging your own grave in entering the friend zone. This is a huge tip you need to keep in mind. If the one thing you get out of this book, it's this one important tip. DON'T MAKE THIS MISTAKE.

That's true, agree.

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Overall the tonality of your writing feels like trying too hard to convey something and after a few paragraphs this kind of tone looses its power. It makes me wanna sleep or go on a beach to relax and recover my mental energy spent here. :p

True Masters will make you aware of things but they won't try to convince you on anything, for they know you can't convince anyone on anything they are not ready for.
 

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I agree...it's seems a bit old school...and not many people deal that way anymore. It may work for certain culture's. Maybe certain religions. If that was your first chapter...I would have just closed it and skipped the entire thing. Why? I broke all your rules. I'm career minded, and also had a LDR through email, skype, and landed myself in the Netherlands. We're both good people and two different culture's.

I could go on and on how none of this fits my experience, or the people I know. lol Which have been married and very happy meeting online, career woman, and the friend zone is already made up in your mind from the start. Men are deliberate whether they're interested in you. They're not going to hang out with you, or even give you the time of the day unless they are interested.

Men hang out because they want sex and side candy. Sly words and sly moves. They're not interested in being your friend. lol

I've had plenty of men friends growing up, and I can tell you they know how to be very blatant. They don't like you, they ignore you even when you're right in front of them. They're deliberate from day one whether you're just friends. lol

I've read tons of relationship books, and listen to talk shows. lol It's alot of mixed messages, and bad advice at times, and when someone bases their relationships on someone else's biased experiences, it can be very bad results.
 
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Not so great...

Too much about you, wasn't fun, and no credibility, pulled out of thin air.

Sorry

Better if it had a theme and gave these tips on the side, so I can skip them if I don't like them.
 

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Thank You guys very much. It focuses on a specific niche. I guess relationship advice these days are all mixed signals. There are no accurate techniques in getting that one girl you want. I guess it all depends on each situation. Sigh......oh well. I'm curious though, when it comes to relationships, what are people really interested in? what makes them pick up an e-book and go, "hey, some good stuff in here, I would buy this."

Thank you guys again, you really are helping me out.
 
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People pay money to make their pain go away.

You can write a relationship ebook, but I'd approach it differently (even if I don't agree with most of what you said, but then I don't belong to your niche anyway). So you want to write about how a good, honest man can attract a good, honest housewife. There's certainly a problem for you to solve. Paint the picture of the end result and then tell people how to get there. Try to be positive about it though. I didn't like the approach of "don't do this and don't do that", and I also didn't like the judgmental attitude. Yes, some women are sluts, but you make us sound as if we were 99% incapable of and not interested in long term relationships. Not good.
 

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I would study on relationships from different view points globally. The more you understand cultural views, and get an idea what the problems are than you can provide solutions. Relationships have problems, one of them is judgment and criticism. Is there a right way or wrong way to have a relationship? What are the pro's and con's of your thoughts and what cause and effect do they have on the relationship.

Individual people coming together...his point of view...her point of view...you really have to get a good picture of both sides. What their issues are, why the react and respond the way they do. Why they act out the way they do. You have to go deeper than surface.
 
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I'm telling you ahead of time, this book is controversial, meaning that a lot of people will not like what I have to say

I will not judge your book's point of view. It's yours, and it's your right to write about whatever message you're trying to convey as long as you believe in it.
The above quoted sentence should be the beginning of your book. Do NOT start with your biography. The fact that you're Bosnian is of little importance to the reader, it should be a background noise at most.

Start with something like that:
" I'm warning you ahead of time, the book in your hands controversial. As much as I would like to make you swallow the pill easily, I can't. There is no sufficient sugar coating when we deal with human relationships in general, sooner or later we will get to the sour portion of the prescribed pill. Yet, relationships are much more important than pills, they determine HOW we live instead of just prolonging a long agony. With this in mind, I can promise you that I will not add any unnecessary flavor to this book. It's going to be raw and rough, and my hope is to get you as excited as a wild monkey, ready to smash any preconceived notion."

In other words, make me visualize how I will be at the end of the book. Make me suffer if the idea that I will not read it pops in my mind. Of course mine is just an example that I wrote without even thinking, but that's how I would frame the book.
 

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That's awesome, I like all the advice on here. I'll continue working on this. See where I get. I'll try to add different view points and go from there. I think this is a quite challenging subject to tackle because there is so much information out there. Anyway, thanks again to all of you. I hope you all are doing well.
 

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It's too dry. . .wording and flow of it. Your advice positions one type of woman on a pedestal and the other as negative and horrible when frankly, the issue is lifestyle differences.

Now could your POV sell. . .sure. I think a lot of people would agree and you've had success despite your opinion. Wanting a housewife doesn't mean your personal preference is the only path to success in dating. The underlying idea of respect and boundaries I wholeheartedly agree with you.

The problem I notice with a lot of dating coaches or people looking to offer their perspective is they don't have follow ups planned. Remember you could target one book for men and one for women.

I find a good nonfiction book above 5k words (Ideally over 10k=30 pages) could be sold for about $2.99plus. It may seem challenging but if your brainstorm the major sections of your book, down to topics and subtopics of each section could get you past 5k easy.
 
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I think I know what I'm going to do. Below is a sample

I'll start with saying that the book is controversial and is not for everyone. It does not apply to all women, but some. This book fits people who are hardcore traditionalists.

I'll call it "How good honest men can attract an honest housewife"

I'm going to spend about 2 weeks on a rough draft and post back here and to other forums on relationships and see if people would go for it.

I'm glad I got feedback from people, it's a nice thing.
 

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I disagree with just about everything you say in this book; but that's my personal opinion. There's definitely a niche for this book.

I'm going to critique your WRITING, not the content, so don't take this personally, I'm just giving you pointers.

Your views expressed in this book are very strong, controversial, and as I'm sure you know, many people in North America are not going to have any of it. So when you deliver your points, they need to be strong, and profound.

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When a girl keeps contacting you because you haven't contacted her back, she really is not a keeper. She is an attention whore. She is wondering why you haven't called or texted her like all the other guys who were idiots to even talk to her.
Clarify. Because "attention whore" is a label. It's one interpretation of a woman's behaviour. So explain, why she is an attention whore contrary to her wondering why a guy she met and connected with suddenly is just brushing her off.



The first thing you should know about me is that I'm Bosnian. In Bosnia, women and men know their roles in nature. Men provide food, shelter, and bring in the cash. Women take care of the children, clean the house and make sure there is food ready when her man comes from a long day at work.
I wouldn't start the book with this point, because the fact that you're Bosnian doesn't appeal to a lot of people who aren't Bosnian. The fact is, Bosnia doesn't have the mainstream appeal in the world that some other countries have. So I would recommend starting with another reason why this cultural standard is effective, and then introducing the fact that this is the Bosnian way. Not only will the reader be intrigued by the origins of your ideals, but it may generate an interest in Bosnian culture. Remember in this book, it's not just about relationships, you're essentially introducing a whole culture to people who didn't know much about it before.


Real women will stand by their man and let him be the bread winner, not the other way around. In the old times, men in their tribes would be out hunting for food to feed their families, while the women would be with the kids waiting on her man to provide for them.
Once again, you need to say why this is a good method. Just because it's the old way, doesn't make it the most desirable. You're comparing a lifestyle hundreds of years old to a modern day lifestyle; so you need to demonstrate why it would be beneficial to apply these older traditions today.

Anyways man, good luck!

Source: I've been a creative writer all throughout my school years, worked on my school's newspaper, and received numerous awards for my writing.
 
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I would say probably not Austrailia, United Kingdom, or United States. lol Austrailia and women U.K. especially.
 
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I think I know what I'm going to do. Below is a sample

I'll start with saying that the book is controversial and is not for everyone. It does not apply to all women, but some. This book fits people who are hardcore traditionalists.

I'll call it "How good honest men can attract an honest housewife"

I'm going to spend about 2 weeks on a rough draft and post back here and to other forums on relationships and see if people would go for it.

I'm glad I got feedback from people, it's a nice thing.

Your title should be the subtitle. I feel like it fits better there. You need a stronger title. 30 thousand years of dating can't be wrong: how men tired of games can attract the right woman to be his wife?"

My title is too long, but as you can see your title fits better as the question you hope to answer and that's the subtitle.

Your title should have something eye catching and clever like "Caveman Dating" and the subtitle will offer a peek about the main premise of the book.


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I disagree with just about everything you say in this book; but that's my personal opinion. There's definitely a niche for this book.

I'm going to critique your WRITING, not the content, so don't take this personally, I'm just giving you pointers.

Your views expressed in this book are very strong, controversial, and as I'm sure you know, many people in North America are not going to have any of it. So when you deliver your points, they need to be strong, and profound.

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Clarify. Because "attention whore" is a label. It's one interpretation of a woman's behaviour. So explain, why she is an attention whore contrary to her wondering why a guy she met and connected with suddenly is just brushing her off.




I wouldn't start the book with this point, because the fact that you're Bosnian doesn't appeal to a lot of people who aren't Bosnian. The fact is, Bosnia doesn't have the mainstream appeal in the world that some other countries have. So I would recommend starting with another reason why this cultural standard is effective, and then introducing the fact that this is the Bosnian way. Not only will the reader be intrigued by the origins of your ideals, but it may generate an interest in Bosnian culture. Remember in this book, it's not just about relationships, you're essentially introducing a whole culture to people who didn't know much about it before.



Once again, you need to say why this is a good method. Just because it's the old way, doesn't make it the most desirable. You're comparing a lifestyle hundreds of years old to a modern day lifestyle; so you need to demonstrate why it would be beneficial to apply these older traditions today.

Anyways man, good luck!

Source: I've been a creative writer all throughout my school years, worked on my school's newspaper, and received numerous awards for my writing.

I've encountered a problem. You said North America will not have any of it. Why is that? Is it too strong and truthful? I didn't know people here in America are that sensitive. Hmm...interesting.

So apparently this is one of those books where I only have to release to certain countries and not the U.S, U.K, or Australia? Oh man, this is not going the way I expected. I wanted to help people here in the U.S. So now I have to say it in a nice way so I don't hurt people's feelings? I'll probably have bad reviews just because people are not fond of my ideas and beliefs. I need to re-examine this whole structure on giving advice on keeping a long term relationship. It gives me something to think about. Thanks for the tips. Appreciate it.
 

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friend zone.

attention whore

Your email, facebook, texts, and calls should be used as tools in making a date with her, not chatting with her

The PUA scene is saturated with these cliches. Sorry I've got no idea how you'd make money when all this stuff has been out there for 10+ years for free.

If you can somehow figure out a way to time travel and market this in the 1950s you'll make a killing. Your views seem a good fit for the era...

*Work out and eat right.
This is the one point I'm with you on.
 
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Great points from everyone above... If you're serious about this topic, and serious about making money in this
niche. Become the expert. Self Publish a paperback book using createspace and put it on Amazon. Then you'll
have the thump factor. Anytime you meet with someone you can thump it down on the table. This is the fastest
way to climb to the top, in my opinion because your the perceived expert. Info products, speaking - everything else follows.
Just make sure you know your stuff.

The title and cover are KEY! Most people don't make it past the first chapter, so your best stuff needs to go there.
 

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I don't think the topic of the writing itself is that big a deal. As long as it is congruent with your sales page then anyone who disagrees or is turned off by it isn't going to buy anyway. 99% of the population can disagree with what you're writing and selling as long as it is legal and the 1% who buy know what they're getting and it meets their expectations.

Eben Pagan built a huge dating business out of stuff you could have found in $10 books on Amazon and free forum posts. He just presented it better and it was marketed well. He was clearly no dating expert in real life, but he became an expert at selling dating products to both men and women. Guys who were far more successful with women in their own lives floundered at translating that into products and a successful ongoing business.

If you want to get into the ridiculously competitive dating niche with an ebook, of which there are seemingly millions, I'd suggest the much bigger battle is working on the presentation and marketing. The content writing itself can simply be outsourced and edited rather cheaply. No matter how many hours you put into writing you're unlikely to produce anything that hasn't been produced before in that niche.
 

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Why is that? Is it too strong and truthful?
Its because you're writing a guide on how to get a dishwasher with legs, not a woman.

Most of the time when a woman has 4 to 8+ partners, she was just looking to get some dick in her mouth and tell her friends how many guys she's been with.
Really? Haha. I know its an e-book but jesus christ...

If you can somehow figure out a way to time travel and market this in the 1950s you'll make a killing. Your views seem a good fit for the era...

^This. Your advice is archaic. I've never been to Bosnia but life is very different to the picture you're painting in Australia.
 
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I've encountered a problem. You said North America will not have any of it. Why is that? Is it too strong and truthful? I didn't know people here in America are that sensitive. Hmm...interesting.

So apparently this is one of those books where I only have to release to certain countries and not the U.S, U.K, or Australia? Oh man, this is not going the way I expected. I wanted to help people here in the U.S. So now I have to say it in a nice way so I don't hurt people's feelings? I'll probably have bad reviews just because people are not fond of my ideas and beliefs. I need to re-examine this whole structure on giving advice on keeping a long term relationship. It gives me something to think about. Thanks for the tips. Appreciate it.
I should have clarified. When I said that North America won't have any of it, I don't mean that your book will be rejected and banned, but the opinions you express, such as women should be homemakers, is unpopular in the media, therefore, it will likey be unpopular in the public. But there ARE people who agree with you. But in North America, the popular belief is that women should go out and get jobs and careers too.
The flip side to that is your book might be so controversial that it gains a ton of interest.
Personally, I would say release it everywhere. Just release it in all the countries you want. Then see what happens. Just because your opinion may be unpopular in those countries doesn't mean you don't have the right to express it.
 

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Also bud, the people who do agree with you will appreciate it. But make sure it will grab the attention and live up to it's potential before you release it
 

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I wanted to help people here in the U.S. So now I have to say it in a nice way so I don't hurt people's feelings?


Its not about saying it nicely or mean. In my opinion people from North America ain't having it simply because they don't agree with these extra dated ideals.
 
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Interesting Book:
French Women Don't Get Fat
http://www.amazon.com/French-Women-Dont-Get-Fat-ebook/dp/B000FC2PKQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1410503501&sr=8-1&keywords=French Woman Don't Get Fat

I mention this, because this seems to be similar to the angle you're going for. Just to play the devil's advocate to the reasons why your book "won't work", there's sometimes something to be said for embracing the controversial. I do think you spend too much time talking about yourself in the introduction. I think you should speak to the reader. Address their pain-points so they know you understand their problems. Pull them in with a real-life example. "Ted started dating Marcy, because she seemed really outgoing, but a couple months later, she slept with his best friend and drained his bank account..." (Obviously, this isn't a good example, but you get the point. People are drawn in by a story.)

Also look at this title.
Why Men Love Bitches
http://www.amazon.com/Why-Men-Love-Bitches-Relationship-ebook/dp/B001CN48VQ/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1410503747&sr=1-1&keywords=why men love bitchs.
This book was a mega-seller. I've read it. It's insightful, entertaining, hilarious, and full of good advice.

Yeah, some of your content is caveman-ish, but hey, if a guy is looking for a traditional relationship, that fits. What about a title of "Be Caveman. Get Girl." I'm not sure that's a serious suggestion, but it is thought-provoking, huh?

Good luck with whatever route you go!
 

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People are right this is a niche audience, but those mentioning American Females are not the real target anyway. The target are frustrated guys who may be MRA, guys who are looking to be more traditionalists. Those who may be antifemnists. One thing MRAs bring up a lot is the feminists movement as determental. Those guys would be interested in your ideas.


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http://therulesbook.com/ These books here sold a lot. Problem is it rides on the manipulation tactics of men's feelings, to get what you want. Bad idea, pisses them off, and your playing games. I can't tell you how many books are like this for men and women, play a game, and fortunately it doesn't work. Old fashioned ways of dating aren't all wrong, but we're just not living in the 1950's. It's a different era, and you'd have to get a lot of dead beat men in side walk and slow lane to take responsibility for having sex, and making babies, if they don't want the responsibility financially. It comes to leadership, and Religion tries to teach this, but of course it doesn't always work out this way. There's a million different approaches to relationships, but you really have to look at the root problem, not the surface problems.

Sure your book can sell, it's just whether they agree with your philosophy, and apply it to their lives. Whether it's effective and brings positive results.
 
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A lot of guys today don't know how to read signs from women. They get into a relationship fast without asking themselves, hey, how many sexual partners did this women have before I met her, is she a heavy drinker, does she have ex-boyfriends in the background that she didn't tell you. These are important questions for any long term relationship because you avoid all these headaches down the road. I know this to be true, because I've seen it happen, but of course if you're just looking to screw around, then hey, this is not my place and time. I want to help guys see these signs ahead of time. Yes, my content is up there where certain people will not agree with what I have to say. But those people out there that need advice, I'm certainly here to help. I can't please everyone these days. I hope none of you read me wrong, I'm just trying to help out certain people in a certain niche.

Thanks for all the comments guys. You really have given me different perspectives on this. I know what I need to do
 

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I wanted to help people here in the U.S. So now I have to say it in a nice way so I don't hurt people's feelings?

No, no, no, and NO!
You fail to realize that "helping people" is one of the most difficult tasks. It's difficult to help friends you care about, let alone making money out of it.
Again, I won't judge your ideas. I am pretty "traditional" in my views, and a Catholic churchgoer (shame on me! lol) which makes me not really the most "modern family oriented person". Yet, I would never help people talking like you do. When inevitably I am involved in discussions on divorce (to say one), I always explain why I think it's a wrong concept. I explain point by point the consequences, the damage on society etc. and I try to offer several examples. It's my opinion, 90% of the times it's not met by my "audience".
But it would NEVER cross my mind to insult/attack the concept of divorce itself, let alone the people involved in it. Why? If you are trying to HELP people you know why: if you're trying to help it means that something BAD happened, and someone is SUFFERING about it, and someone is trying to SOLVE the problem. We might not agree on the solution, so when we HELP we offer our point of view as a solution. People agree, or not. But if you say that girls date multiple men, you have to say why it's bad for the men involved, for the girl involved, and for society. You can't dismiss it with a cheap insult and let it go.
It's not a matter of hurting feels. I mean, holy crap, Viktor Frankl told concentration camp's prisoners that being in a nazi camp wasn't that bad after all, and he's one of the best known psychologists (and a genius).
 

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