This isn’t geared at someone older with a family because I’m not one of those people. I’m a 22 year old dude that likes 22 year old dude stuff.
I recently just moved to a lake house. It’s my first place, and I rent. I live in Washington state.
I used to go to school, and I had baseball teammates and classmates. That was fun.
Then I went to college for baseball and stuck together with the team there and still had some fun.
And then I sold cars and had coworkers and that was less fun but still not terrible.
And then I started my business and had NO ONE. It sucked.
The only people I talked to were customers, employees, other business people, and you guys. Not much of a vibrant social circle for Friday nights (sorry guys). And it was not a lot of fun being cut off from everyone.
But of course I needed the time to focus on my business. I could only dive deep into the nuances when having lots of time to focus with no distractions, but eventually things take a toll on you. You become slightly depressed, a little less like yourself and more robotic. You question why you’re doing this at all. I love business like a dog loves T-bone steaks, but we all need a social circle. At least I do. I told myself I didn’t and then I slowly just started to socially die inside and confidence started evaporating out of me without me even knowing.
Thinking I could replace everything from before in the same way by getting friends from “networking groups” and doing that lame stuff was a compete joke. So many people are losers and I was just being dragged down to their level socially. I did meet some awesome people from this place but how many of you are within 20 minutes away and have any free time?
So what did I do?
I threw a party.
I hopped on tinder and told tons girls I was having a lake house party and they were invited and if they wanted they could bring a guy.
The first one was an average party. Every girl there thought I was a tool at first for only inviting tinder girls. And it made me look like a loser. “U don’t know anyone to have at the party? U have any friends?” “Uh...I have a couple. Oh I know some guys from an Internet forum...” lol no chance I’m saying that out loud.
Well, I made friends with some army rangers who were tatted up and regularly hooked up with a few new girls every single week.
The next party, I invited them again and only had girls, much better party. Crazy time.
The next day, I got invited to their party. Another fun time. The next day I got invited out to play volleyball.
We agreed the future parties would be just us 3 dudes and whatever girls we wanted to bring.
So now I’m hanging out with cool guys who are like me, I’m spending more of my time surrounded by people who are socially killing it which is bringing me back to my old cool self again, and I’m having a much better dating life if you haven’t guessed by now.
This is not a PUA forum so I get it. Not the best place to be saying “bro throw a party and bring some girls bro”, but I have a strong suspicious feeling that lots of you entrepreneurs out there are lonely as hell and wonder why being an adult is so much less fun than being young. I don’t think it has to be and I don’t accept mediocre situations. I make changes.
If you’re struggling socially, I think if you can have a party and let people “use” you a little, then let them meet you and see how cool you can be, and then use that to make friends and build up a better social life from scratch. Now, I’ve got things going on all week like I was back in school. I refuse to be the lonely rich man who regrets his choices. And I will not rely on just having coworkers or classmates to make friends. I don’t want to just go to the club either. That’s no fun at all.
As a bonus, everyone I’m meeting now is blown away I don’t have a “job” lol. They think it must be my dads company or something. Haha!
Don’t try to pretend you are better off not well rounded and excuse yourself of developing yourself socially. I did that and it hurt me. Don’t do it to yourself too.
I recently just moved to a lake house. It’s my first place, and I rent. I live in Washington state.
I used to go to school, and I had baseball teammates and classmates. That was fun.
Then I went to college for baseball and stuck together with the team there and still had some fun.
And then I sold cars and had coworkers and that was less fun but still not terrible.
And then I started my business and had NO ONE. It sucked.
The only people I talked to were customers, employees, other business people, and you guys. Not much of a vibrant social circle for Friday nights (sorry guys). And it was not a lot of fun being cut off from everyone.
But of course I needed the time to focus on my business. I could only dive deep into the nuances when having lots of time to focus with no distractions, but eventually things take a toll on you. You become slightly depressed, a little less like yourself and more robotic. You question why you’re doing this at all. I love business like a dog loves T-bone steaks, but we all need a social circle. At least I do. I told myself I didn’t and then I slowly just started to socially die inside and confidence started evaporating out of me without me even knowing.
Thinking I could replace everything from before in the same way by getting friends from “networking groups” and doing that lame stuff was a compete joke. So many people are losers and I was just being dragged down to their level socially. I did meet some awesome people from this place but how many of you are within 20 minutes away and have any free time?
So what did I do?
I threw a party.
I hopped on tinder and told tons girls I was having a lake house party and they were invited and if they wanted they could bring a guy.
The first one was an average party. Every girl there thought I was a tool at first for only inviting tinder girls. And it made me look like a loser. “U don’t know anyone to have at the party? U have any friends?” “Uh...I have a couple. Oh I know some guys from an Internet forum...” lol no chance I’m saying that out loud.
Well, I made friends with some army rangers who were tatted up and regularly hooked up with a few new girls every single week.
The next party, I invited them again and only had girls, much better party. Crazy time.
The next day, I got invited to their party. Another fun time. The next day I got invited out to play volleyball.
We agreed the future parties would be just us 3 dudes and whatever girls we wanted to bring.
So now I’m hanging out with cool guys who are like me, I’m spending more of my time surrounded by people who are socially killing it which is bringing me back to my old cool self again, and I’m having a much better dating life if you haven’t guessed by now.
This is not a PUA forum so I get it. Not the best place to be saying “bro throw a party and bring some girls bro”, but I have a strong suspicious feeling that lots of you entrepreneurs out there are lonely as hell and wonder why being an adult is so much less fun than being young. I don’t think it has to be and I don’t accept mediocre situations. I make changes.
If you’re struggling socially, I think if you can have a party and let people “use” you a little, then let them meet you and see how cool you can be, and then use that to make friends and build up a better social life from scratch. Now, I’ve got things going on all week like I was back in school. I refuse to be the lonely rich man who regrets his choices. And I will not rely on just having coworkers or classmates to make friends. I don’t want to just go to the club either. That’s no fun at all.
As a bonus, everyone I’m meeting now is blown away I don’t have a “job” lol. They think it must be my dads company or something. Haha!
Don’t try to pretend you are better off not well rounded and excuse yourself of developing yourself socially. I did that and it hurt me. Don’t do it to yourself too.
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