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INTRO How heartbreak actually good for your well-being

theMikeFerrari

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I believe in a certain point, we all have fallen in love at least once. As a young man, I fell in love with a beautiful, warm, talented, wealthy, young woman. Who doesn’t fell for that kind of woman? That’s the dream, isn’t it? I was certain that if I ever want to marry someone that would’ve been her, in fact I got to a point where I decided if it's not her, I'd rather being single for my entire life. But the truth is, that kind of girl will never to marry the kind of person I was — even there’s a gun pointed on her head.

At that time, I was a hardcore gamer. Boy I even used to dream to be a professional gamer. Whenever I played games, I felt alive. I could spend eight hours straight playing on my laptop everyday. I’d play games for the rest of my life, or would I?

One day, I got in a deep conversation with that girl.

After I had a small surgery to lift my wisdom teeth, I couldn’t get to sleep. It was eleven o’clock and I saw her online on LINE, an online chatting app, so I thought why not? A little chat wouldn’t hurt. So I said hi. As the night gets darker, both of us became more and more vulnerable.

I asked nervously “By the way, I wonder… Do you have a crush?”

“Damn, you stupid. Why did you ask her that of all question?” I snapped at myself.

“Yeah I do.” She replied.

My heart raced. I knew I couldn’t stop. This is it. The point of no return.

“Who...? Who’s the lucky guy?”

“It's *********** (my close-friend’s name)” He's wealthier, more handsome, more charming, more talented, smarter than I am.

I thought the worst feeling in the world is when your teeth got pulled out of your mouth. This one, bajillion times worse. But let me tell you, it didn’t end there.

“Whom do you like, Tim? (my family and close friends call me that)” she continues, trying to break the awkward silence.

“You.” I desperately answered to win her heart.

“Oh. You know what? I feel that too…"

The f*ck?? Is this the moment my dream came true?

"...not that I like you back. Just… I know how you felt.”

It’s still hurts me when I remember all this. But I still remember it as clear as day because that’s the day I said:

I couldn’t live like this anymore.

Since that day, I worked on myself harder than I worked on my study. I have to be smarter, wiser, wealthier, healthier, and more likeable then I was. I read, I attend seminars, I tried different kind of intern also part-time jobs, I practiced. Now here I am. It all happened five years ago, and today when I write this, I’m sure that day was the best day of my life.

The person I’ve become today is not even on my list of what’s possible. Whom I was dreaming to be was far behind who I am today. I’m wiser, I’m more skillful, I have plans, I prioritize, I read, I write, I think, I’m dating someone better (yeah, it's happening). The secret is not on what I have, but whom have I become. Jim Rohn said it better: “Being a millionaire the least important thing is what they have, but what they’ve become.”

Long story short, I bought the Millionaire Fastlane and UNSCRIPTED, surely I'm joining this movement.

I hope I can help anyone just as how MJ has helped me, guided me directly to the top 1% population of the world.

I know I'm young and still has a lot to overcome but I'm sure I can be a person of value in no time, and I hope I can be a valuable asset to your life, to this community as well.

Enough about me, I want to know more about you. Post your introduction's threat below so I can read your story. I hope we can get along well.
 

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DaDream

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Me in a nutshell.
I have failed a million times.
I learned from all those failures.
Finally I'm starting to win.
Ecommerce/Digital Marketing.
Been learning non stop for 3 years.
Current goal is to take the company I work for to 10-20xs valuation.
2-4 times the sales.
8 employees on site. Company growing.
I'm building a kickass resume.
 
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theMikeFerrari

theMikeFerrari

Contributor
Read Millionaire Fastlane
I've Read UNSCRIPTED
Jun 18, 2019
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Me in a nutshell.
I have failed a million times.
I learned from all those failures.
Finally I'm starting to win.
Ecommerce/Digital Marketing.
Been learning non stop for 3 years.
Current goal is to take the company I work for to 10-20xs valuation.
2-4 times the sales.
8 employees on site. Company growing.
I'm building a kickass resume.
That's awesome! I haven't even start. Currently I'm seeking my own executable idea, I hope I can get to a point where you are. Wish you all luck, hope you can achieve that 10-20x valuation in two years or less.
 

Kevin88660

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I believe in a certain point, we all have fallen in love at least once. As a young man, I fell in love with a beautiful, warm, talented, wealthy, young woman. Who doesn’t fell for that kind of woman? That’s the dream, isn’t it? I was certain that if I ever want to marry someone that would’ve been her, in fact I got to a point where I decided if it's not her, I'd rather being single for my entire life. But the truth is, that kind of girl will never to marry the kind of person I was — even there’s a gun pointed on her head.

At that time, I was a hardcore gamer. Boy I even used to dream to be a professional gamer. Whenever I played games, I felt alive. I could spend eight hours straight playing on my laptop everyday. I’d play games for the rest of my life, or would I?

One day, I got in a deep conversation with that girl.

After I had a small surgery to lift my wisdom teeth, I couldn’t get to sleep. It was eleven o’clock and I saw her online on LINE, an online chatting app, so I thought why not? A little chat wouldn’t hurt. So I said hi. As the night gets darker, both of us became more and more vulnerable.

I asked nervously “By the way, I wonder… Do you have a crush?”

“Damn, you stupid. Why did you ask her that of all question?” I snapped at myself.

“Yeah I do.” She replied.

My heart raced. I knew I couldn’t stop. This is it. The point of no return.

“Who...? Who’s the lucky guy?”

“It's *********** (my close-friend’s name)” He's wealthier, more handsome, more charming, more talented, smarter than I am.

I thought the worst feeling in the world is when your teeth got pulled out of your mouth. This one, bajillion times worse. But let me tell you, it didn’t end there.

“Whom do you like, Tim? (my family and close friends call me that)” she continues, trying to break the awkward silence.

“You.” I desperately answered to win her heart.

“Oh. You know what? I feel that too…"

The f*ck?? Is this the moment my dream came true?

"...not that I like you back. Just… I know how you felt.”

It’s still hurts me when I remember all this. But I still remember it as clear as day because that’s the day I said:

I couldn’t live like this anymore.

Since that day, I worked on myself harder than I worked on my study. I have to be smarter, wiser, wealthier, healthier, and more likeable then I was. I read, I attend seminars, I tried different kind of intern also part-time jobs, I practiced. Now here I am. It all happened five years ago, and today when I write this, I’m sure that day was the best day of my life.

The person I’ve become today is not even on my list of what’s possible. Whom I was dreaming to be was far behind who I am today. I’m wiser, I’m more skillful, I have plans, I prioritize, I read, I write, I think, I’m dating someone better (yeah, it's happening). The secret is not on what I have, but whom have I become. Jim Rohn said it better: “Being a millionaire the least important thing is what they have, but what they’ve become.”

Long story short, I bought the Millionaire Fastlane and UNSCRIPTED, surely I'm joining this movement.

I hope I can help anyone just as how MJ has helped me, guided me directly to the top 1% population of the world.

I know I'm young and still has a lot to overcome but I'm sure I can be a person of value in no time, and I hope I can be a valuable asset to your life, to this community as well.

Enough about me, I want to know more about you. Post your introduction's threat below so I can read your story. I hope we can get along well.
Hi, I am glad that you can turn a setback into a source of motivation. That’s good.

I am curious and I have some questions.

How old are you and your friends? I am guessing early 20s? No body has made it wealthy at that stage. Basically I am assuming the girl has a rich daddy. Her crush who is your close friend has a rich Daddy. Am I right?

Because I know such people. Some of them are my sales clients. Rich people’s sons have enormous potential to be charismatic because they can spend time taking up liberal arts PHD in Universities and talks about wines, philosophy, world travel and play musical instruments. In short they can do fanciful shits because they do not have to worry about money. This is the charismatic classy type.

The other type is the brash and vulgar types. The bad boy who does not give a F*ck because they have money to not give a F*ck. They make friends easily and are super sociable as long as you are okay to be friends with him. Come on who doesn't want to hang out with someone who always foot the bill.
 

Mattie

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I believe in a certain point, we all have fallen in love at least once. As a young man, I fell in love with a beautiful, warm, talented, wealthy, young woman. Who doesn’t fell for that kind of woman? That’s the dream, isn’t it? I was certain that if I ever want to marry someone that would’ve been her, in fact I got to a point where I decided if it's not her, I'd rather being single for my entire life. But the truth is, that kind of girl will never to marry the kind of person I was — even there’s a gun pointed on her head.

At that time, I was a hardcore gamer. Boy I even used to dream to be a professional gamer. Whenever I played games, I felt alive. I could spend eight hours straight playing on my laptop everyday. I’d play games for the rest of my life, or would I?

One day, I got in a deep conversation with that girl.

After I had a small surgery to lift my wisdom teeth, I couldn’t get to sleep. It was eleven o’clock and I saw her online on LINE, an online chatting app, so I thought why not? A little chat wouldn’t hurt. So I said hi. As the night gets darker, both of us became more and more vulnerable.

I asked nervously “By the way, I wonder… Do you have a crush?”

“Damn, you stupid. Why did you ask her that of all question?” I snapped at myself.

“Yeah I do.” She replied.

My heart raced. I knew I couldn’t stop. This is it. The point of no return.

“Who...? Who’s the lucky guy?”

“It's *********** (my close-friend’s name)” He's wealthier, more handsome, more charming, more talented, smarter than I am.

I thought the worst feeling in the world is when your teeth got pulled out of your mouth. This one, bajillion times worse. But let me tell you, it didn’t end there.

“Whom do you like, Tim? (my family and close friends call me that)” she continues, trying to break the awkward silence.

“You.” I desperately answered to win her heart.

“Oh. You know what? I feel that too…"

The f*ck?? Is this the moment my dream came true?

"...not that I like you back. Just… I know how you felt.”

It’s still hurts me when I remember all this. But I still remember it as clear as day because that’s the day I said:

I couldn’t live like this anymore.

Since that day, I worked on myself harder than I worked on my study. I have to be smarter, wiser, wealthier, healthier, and more likeable then I was. I read, I attend seminars, I tried different kind of intern also part-time jobs, I practiced. Now here I am. It all happened five years ago, and today when I write this, I’m sure that day was the best day of my life.

The person I’ve become today is not even on my list of what’s possible. Whom I was dreaming to be was far behind who I am today. I’m wiser, I’m more skillful, I have plans, I prioritize, I read, I write, I think, I’m dating someone better (yeah, it's happening). The secret is not on what I have, but whom have I become. Jim Rohn said it better: “Being a millionaire the least important thing is what they have, but what they’ve become.”

Long story short, I bought the Millionaire Fastlane and UNSCRIPTED, surely I'm joining this movement.

I hope I can help anyone just as how MJ has helped me, guided me directly to the top 1% population of the world.

I know I'm young and still has a lot to overcome but I'm sure I can be a person of value in no time, and I hope I can be a valuable asset to your life, to this community as well.

Enough about me, I want to know more about you. Post your introduction's threat below so I can read your story. I hope we can get along well.
I don't think you necessarily have to have your heart broken. I have had tons of masculine friends I never had romantic relationships with but taught me a whole hell a lot about how they react to women in certain ways. Naturally, I just paid attention to their behavior and reactions to other women, took notes, and tried to not do that in my romantic relationships with the masculine.

Either way, the masculine will usually end up teaching me to be a self-reliant women. Ha ha...they don't allow you to whine, cry, play the victim, and I'm probably grateful they don't, because I'm a stronger women because of it.
 
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theMikeFerrari

theMikeFerrari

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Thank you!

Yeah, in fact I was 17 when it happened. It was 5 years ago.

This is the charismatic classy type.
Uh huh, correct. He's got nothing to worry about money. His father own a real estate company. So yea, they're damn wealthy.

Also thank you for your concern about my relationship with this dude, but I'm not friends with him anymore.

I was friends with him because we attend the same church. At that point you have no choice but to act nice and be friends to everyone there.

Last year I accidentally met him. He's supposed to study aboard taking two econ degrees, I don't remember what are those, but I'm sure one of them are business. I tried to be nice to him by greeting him and talk about shallow stuffs like how are you doing. But he totally ignored me.

Actually it feels good that he ignored me. At least I know I won't be talking to him anymore.
 
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theMikeFerrari

theMikeFerrari

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Read Millionaire Fastlane
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Jun 18, 2019
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I don't think you necessarily have to have your heart broken. I have had tons of masculine friends I never had romantic relationships with but taught me a whole hell a lot about how they react to women in certain ways. Naturally, I just paid attention to their behavior and reactions to other women, took notes, and tried to not do that in my romantic relationships with the masculine.

Either way, the masculine will usually end up teaching me to be a self-reliant women. Ha ha...they don't allow you to whine, cry, play the victim, and I'm probably grateful they don't, because I'm a stronger women because of it.
Yes, I totally agree. If it doesn't happen to you, don't even think about putting yourself down there.

I was a nerd, needy, stupid boy who got lucky to be close to one attractive person. I valued my self as a 3 and she as a 9. Of course I fell in love with her, it's natural.

It's good to know that you're a self-reliant women. I trully admire independent women. (That's one of the reasons why I'm dating one)
 

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Sure, heartbreak can be great fuel for improvement, but there is another edge for that sword.

You might start to think that you are never enough. There are plenty of guys making excuses of not going after what they want (girl, job, business) because they think they are not yet enough and are stuck in learning loop frightened to take the real, but slightly painful actions and rather spend their time learning and improving.

Thing is, you are already enough, you are already complete. Does not mean, stop learning but now that you know this, here's some inner peace, do your deeds, learn from them and lose your broken self-worth meter, which is somehow connected to how a particular girl likes their guys.

Right girl (there is more than one, think how many millions of people live on this planet) will love you shitless and hopefully, you don't have to put on any masks there, because hell you want to realize that your are a damn butler to your girlfriend and get that puz, love only when you act in a certain way according to her ideals.

At least that is what I have thought about myself lately. It gives more clarity of mind and less stress, just kind of letting go and focus on the deeds you can do today and not worry too much of trying to think you are not already enough. That way you can live a little without being a nervous miserable dude and even start to appreciate the things you really take for granted (I don't think that bird who is singing on your tree branch is really concerned if they are already good enough to open their mouths) :D
 

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