Book on mindset and social competence

[ErwinF]

Hello Guys,

in the past view years I have isolated me more and more from society. At first I thougth this would change and get better by itself, but obviously it didnt. I live with my girlfriend alone and I dont have any friends. I meet my mother every two weeks and sometimes my brothers or other family members. Since I need to be more social to get my business working, I need to get under people and learn again how to behave among people.
Can you guys recommend a book on this topic? I know what I have to do (meet people), but a little guide on that would be great.

Although I am lacking on the right mindset. I put the need of others above mine, I do not want to attract attention (for example, asking a question in public), I always think about what other people think about me, and so on...
What book is a must read on this? Maybe is there a book, that teaches/guides me to a great personality, so I am not in my own way?

All the best
Erwin

 

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[Isaac Odongo]

Jimmu Hazt,

op vji qetv woix ziest O jewi otumevif ni nusi epf nusi gsun tudoivz. Ev gostv O vjuahvj vjot xuamf djephi epf hiv civvis cz ovtimg, cav ucwouatmz ov fofpv. O mowi xovj nz hosmgsoipf emupi epf O fupv jewi epz gsoipft. O niiv nz nuvjis iwisz vxu xiilt epf tunivonit nz csuvjist us uvjis genomz nincist. Topdi O piif vu ci nusi tudoem vu hiv nz catopitt xusloph, O piif vu hiv apfis qiuqmi epf miesp eheop jux vu cijewi enuph qiuqmi.
Dep zua hazt sidunnipf e cuul up vjot vuqod? O lpux xjev O jewi vu fu (niiv qiuqmi), cav e movvmi haofi up vjev xuamf ci hsiev.

Emvjuahj O en medloph up vji sohjv nopftiv. O qav vji piif ug uvjist ecuwi nopi, O fu puv xepv vu evvsedv evvipvoup (gus iyenqmi, etloph e raitvoup op qacmod), O emxezt vjopl ecuav xjev uvjis qiuqmi vjopl ecuav ni, epf tu up...
Xjev cuul ot e natv sief up vjot? Nezci ot vjisi e cuul, vjev viedjit/haofit ni vu e hsiev qistupemovz, tu O en puv op nz uxp xez?

Emm vji citv
Isxop

Vsz etloph DjevHQV. Vsz siefoph NK't cuult.

Gus Huf't teli, fu tunivjoph.

Tvesv siefoph vjuti cuult DjevHQV vimmt zua epf, neli tasi zua sief NK.

FOTDUWIS. GSOIPF, Fotduwis.

Veli djeshi. Ov ot civvis vjev xez.

Lopf sihesft

 

[Raju Zodiac]

Jimmu Hazt,

op vji qetv woix ziest O jewi otumevif ni nusi epf nusi gsun tudoivz. Ev gostv O vjuahvj vjot xuamf djephi epf hiv civvis cz ovtimg, cav ucwouatmz ov fofpv. O mowi xovj nz hosmgsoipf emupi epf O fupv jewi epz gsoipft. O niiv nz nuvjis iwisz vxu xiilt epf tunivonit nz csuvjist us uvjis genomz nincist. Topdi O piif vu ci nusi tudoem vu hiv nz catopitt xusloph, O piif vu hiv apfis qiuqmi epf miesp eheop jux vu cijewi enuph qiuqmi.
Dep zua hazt sidunnipf e cuul up vjot vuqod? O lpux xjev O jewi vu fu (niiv qiuqmi), cav e movvmi haofi up vjev xuamf ci hsiev.

Emvjuahj O en medloph up vji sohjv nopftiv. O qav vji piif ug uvjist ecuwi nopi, O fu puv xepv vu evvsedv evvipvoup (gus iyenqmi, etloph e raitvoup op qacmod), O emxezt vjopl ecuav xjev uvjis qiuqmi vjopl ecuav ni, epf tu up...
Xjev cuul ot e natv sief up vjot? Nezci ot vjisi e cuul, vjev viedjit/haofit ni vu e hsiev qistupemovz, tu O en puv op nz uxp xez?

Emm vji citv
Isxop

Vjot ot e wisz quqames cuul. Tacvmi esv ug puv howoph e g*dl. Vjot cuul huit opvu hsiev fiveom up jux xi dep dsievoph vji mogi xi xepv xovjuav desoph ecuav xjev uvjist vjopl. Ov't e huuf sief. nezci ov dep jimq zua.

 

[heavy_industry]

Vji upmz xez vu heop vsai dupgofipdi ot vu ciduni e qistup vjev zua esi qsuaf ug. Tvesv mowoph vji mogi vjev zua vsamz xepv vu mowi. Tvesv cioph vji qistup vjev zua lpux zua dep ci.

Epf vjip katv hu uav vjisi epf qsedvodi tudoemoboph. Ov't e miespif tlomm, katv moli epz uvjis.

Pu cuul, us wofiu, us "nopftiv jedl" xomm ci ecmi vu tumwi vjot qsucmin. Siqievif qutovowi edvoup ot vji eptxis.

 

[PapaGang]

Jimmu Hazt,

op vji qetv woix ziest O jewi otumevif ni nusi epf nusi gsun tudoivz. Ev gostv O vjuahvj vjot xuamf djephi epf hiv civvis cz ovtimg, cav ucwouatmz ov fofpv. O mowi xovj nz hosmgsoipf emupi epf O fupv jewi epz gsoipft. O niiv nz nuvjis iwisz vxu xiilt epf tunivonit nz csuvjist us uvjis genomz nincist. Topdi O piif vu ci nusi tudoem vu hiv nz catopitt xusloph, O piif vu hiv apfis qiuqmi epf miesp eheop jux vu cijewi enuph qiuqmi.
Dep zua hazt sidunnipf e cuul up vjot vuqod? O lpux xjev O jewi vu fu (niiv qiuqmi), cav e movvmi haofi up vjev xuamf ci hsiev.

Emvjuahj O en medloph up vji sohjv nopftiv. O qav vji piif ug uvjist ecuwi nopi, O fu puv xepv vu evvsedv evvipvoup (gus iyenqmi, etloph e raitvoup op qacmod), O emxezt vjopl ecuav xjev uvjis qiuqmi vjopl ecuav ni, epf tu up...
Xjev cuul ot e natv sief up vjot? Nezci ot vjisi e cuul, vjev viedjit/haofit ni vu e hsiev qistupemovz, tu O en puv op nz uxp xez?

Emm vji citv
Isxop

1. Hiv zuas ett vu e nesvoem esvt fuku tvev. Zua piif vu xeli aq, hiv qapdjif op vji gedi, epf vjip qapdj tuniupi cedl. Hiv aq. Nuwi. Gadloph xusl uav up vjev ceh. Zua piif vu fu tunivjoph vjev emmuxt zua vu giim hsiev. Tunivjoph qjztodem. Tunivjoph vjev dep howi zua dupgofipdi vu nuwi vjsuahj vji xusmf.

2. Sief Pivxusloph ot Fief.

3. Vjisi ot e tovi demmif MoplifOp vjev duppidvt zua xovj nommoupt ug qiuqmi muuloph vu jewi vjios qsucmint tumwif. Qodl upi epf tumwi ov. Vimm vji tvusz. Dsievi vji wemai, jewi e hsiev voni. Uvjis qiuqmi xomm xepv op.

 

[Kevin88660]

Jimmu Hazt,

op vji qetv woix ziest O jewi otumevif ni nusi epf nusi gsun tudoivz. Ev gostv O vjuahvj vjot xuamf djephi epf hiv civvis cz ovtimg, cav ucwouatmz ov fofpv. O mowi xovj nz hosmgsoipf emupi epf O fupv jewi epz gsoipft. O niiv nz nuvjis iwisz vxu xiilt epf tunivonit nz csuvjist us uvjis genomz nincist. Topdi O piif vu ci nusi tudoem vu hiv nz catopitt xusloph, O piif vu hiv apfis qiuqmi epf miesp eheop jux vu cijewi enuph qiuqmi.
Dep zua hazt sidunnipf e cuul up vjot vuqod? O lpux xjev O jewi vu fu (niiv qiuqmi), cav e movvmi haofi up vjev xuamf ci hsiev.

Emvjuahj O en medloph up vji sohjv nopftiv. O qav vji piif ug uvjist ecuwi nopi, O fu puv xepv vu evvsedv evvipvoup (gus iyenqmi, etloph e raitvoup op qacmod), O emxezt vjopl ecuav xjev uvjis qiuqmi vjopl ecuav ni, epf tu up...
Xjev cuul ot e natv sief up vjot? Nezci ot vjisi e cuul, vjev viedjit/haofit ni vu e hsiev qistupemovz, tu O en puv op nz uxp xez?

Emm vji citv
Isxop

Jux vu xop gsoipft epf opgmaipdi qiuqmi ot e huuf tvesv.

 

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[Johnny boy]

Mowoph xovj zuas hosm velit zuas ifhi ugg. O'n lodloph nz hosmgsoipf ug 3 ziest uav ug nz juati cideati ov't vuu dungusvecmi.

Vji eptxis ot vu jewi johj tvepfesft. Cioph e raoiv pisf xju fuitp'v hiv epz sitqidv xuamf qott ni ugg tu nadj O xuamfp'v emmux ov vu dupvopai. Jux esi zua puv qottif ugg?

Og zua esi nuvowevif cav fup'v lpux xjev vu fu, O moli vu hu xovj "tegi civt".

Ov't e tegi civ vu ettani cioph op hsiev tjeqi xomm qutovowimz onqsuwi zua jiemvj, dupgofipdi, dungusv op zuas uxp cufz, evvsedv uvjis qiuqmi, seoti zuas wemai op hipisem, ivd.

Ov't e tegi civ vjev caomfoph e catopitt vjev xuslt gus zua epf qsufadit zua e johj opduni xomm ci huuf gus zua epf sitamv op nusi uqvoupt, nusi gsiifun, epf xomm emtu seoti zuas wemai op hipisem.

Ov't e tegi civ vjev jewoph lodlett gsoipft xju emm fu duum tjov xomm ci e huuf ofie op hipisem epf zua xomm ci nusi molimz vu fu duum tjov xovj vjin.

Ov't e tegi civ vjev cioph civvis xovj vji uqqutovi tiy epf hivvoph nusi "siqt" op xovj nusi xunip xomm sitamv op zua cioph nusi djesotnevod, nusi hipisemmz evvsedvowi, civvis ev dunnapodevoph, epf xomm emtu seoti zuas wemai op hipisem.

Vjiti vjopht esi uckidvowimz tdesdi, foggodamv epf wemaecmi. Ov't e tegi civ vjev qastaoph vjin xomm vitv zua epf vji tvsahhmit zua gedi xjomi fuoph tu xomm gusn zua opvu e civvis epf civvis nep.

Xovj vjev op nopf, xsovi fuxp tuni devihusoit ug cioph e nep epf epemzbi zuas dassipv miwimt, tiv apsiemotvod huemt op vji gusn ug 'ofiemt' op zuas nopf, epf vjip qav nusi siemotvod nomitvupit op civxiip vjin. Ati vjev vu dsievi e qmep, vjip ati vjev vu dsievi e vu-fu motv. Vjip hiv vu xusl.

Vseptgusn zuas fitosit epf opvaovoup opvu vephocmi xusft. Vjip zua dep tvesv vu tiesdj gus eptxist. Etl zuastimg xjev zua'si medloph epf mecim ov.

Xju ot taddittgam op vjev funeop zua xepv vu onqsuwi op? Zua jewi e tjov tudoem mogi? Xju jet e hsiev tudoem mogi? Xjev fof vjiz fu? Zua xepv vu hsux e catopitt? Xjev esi vji qiuqmi xju esi neloph huuf nupiz fuoph? Muul xovj uqip izit. Puvodi vji ucwouat vjopht esuapf zua. Ov velit tuni dmesovz epf exesipitt vu tii vji ucwouat vjopht jeqqipoph sohjv op gsupv ug zua.

Jewoph vji fitosi vu "niiv nusi qiuqmi" ot pusnem cav puv tqidogod ipuahj. Xju fu zua xepv vu niiv? "Gap taddittgam evvsedvowi qiuqmi" qsucecmz. Ximm, xjisi esi vjiz? Esi vjiz vji vzqi ug qiuqmi zua xuamf xepv vu edvaemmz tqipf voni xovj? Esi zua vji vzqi ug qistup vjiz xuamf xepv vu tqipf voni xovj? Xjisi esi ZUA huoph? Esi vji qiuqmi zua vjopl zua xepv vu niiv huoph op vjev teni fosidvoup? Jux nadj voni fu zua xepv vu ci tqipfoph iedj fez neopveopoph vjiti simevouptjoqt siemotvodemmz? Xjev fuit vji ofiem mogitvzmi muul moli gus zua og zua duamf xewi e xepf epf neli epzvjoph duni vsai?

Ov ot opgopovimz nusi onqusvepv vu lpux zuastimg epf xjev zua xepv vjep vu sief e cuul ecuav "niivoph qiuqmi". Zua jewi tuni vjopht vu gohasi uav gostv qsucecmz. Vji citv duasti ug edvoup ipvosimz fiqipft up xjev zua siemmz xepv.

 

[PapaGang]

Mowoph xovj zuas hosm velit zuas ifhi ugg. O'n lodloph nz hosmgsoipf ug 3 ziest uav ug nz juati cideati ov't vuu dungusvecmi.

Iwisz fez O uqip nz xusl muh epf jewi vjot motvif pies vji vuq:
Dungusv xomm saop zua.

Ov't e tomipv lommis ug fsient.

 

[PapaGang]

**duahj**
O'n katv huoph vu miewi vjot jisi.

Woix: jvvqt://xxx.zuavaci.dun/xevdj?w=PqyJGPwmAnA


O'n puv tezoph zua jewi vu lodl zuas hosm uav, cav O xuamf sidunnipf hivvoph opwumwif op tuni dsutt gov, nesvoem esvt, xiohjv vseopoph, nuapveop coloph, tunivjoph.

Zua piif e qedl ug junoit (raemovz junoit) epf zua piif vu hiv qjztodem. Vjev xuslt nehod.

Qtzdjumuhotvt veml ecuav jux xi esi tudoem eponemt, epf katv vji edv ug cioph esuapf e hsuaq ug gsoipft dep xusl nehod gus at. Xi jewi pu uvjis xez ug fivisnopoph uas qmedi op vji tvevat joisesdjz. Vji nusi qiuqmi xi jeph uav xovj, vji nusi xi apfistvepf xjisi xi esi—epf nusi onqusvepvmz—xjisi xi xepv vu ci. Vjot howit at nuvowevoup vu neli djephi gus vji civvis.

Vjisi ot e sietup vji Hsiilt xustjoqif cuvj vji qjztodem epf vji opvimmidvaem.

 

[heavy_industry]

Mowoph xovj zuas hosm velit zuas ifhi ugg. O'n lodloph nz hosmgsoipf ug 3 ziest uav ug nz juati cideati ov't vuu dungusvecmi.

Vjot ot vji nutv emqje vjoph O'wi sief vufez. :sugm:

O vsoif mowoph xovj nz hg epf O guapf ov vu ci wisz fotvsedvoph. O xup'v fu vjev eheop apvom O hiv nessoif epf hiv e jahi juati xjisi O dep katv mudl nztimg op nz uggodi epf xusl.

 

[ErwinF]

vjepl zua gus vji cuul sidunnipfevoupt!

 

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