Great post, thank you @Johnny boyThe most butthurt people I ever see in my entire life are people who get told they would need to change priorities in order to succeed.
“Hey, how do I find time to work on my business? I spend 5 hours a day playing patty cake with my kids, my wife makes me stay at home, I spend 4 hours a day at the gym, and I’m not trading away my time with my friends, we go golfing every other day for another 4 hours”
Your success is the last thing on your list of priorities, don’t be confused when you get proportional results.
You are competing against guys like me.
Gym is only 30-40 minutes 3x a week.
I kicked my girlfriend out of my house to stay focused.
I have 3-4 friends I see once a week and we talk 80% business.
I don’t have kids (that I know of)
I don’t have a wife
I don’t even have a dog
I wake up and think about my goals, I work, I go to bed thinking about my goals.
I prioritized my goals as the top 4 on a list of 5 important things to me.
I will expect proportional results.
You really want to spend time with the kids, you want to keep your safe full time job with no risk, you want to do everything but work and that’s fine, you can do that, just don’t be confused why you’re not getting anywhere.
Everyone acts like they were handed the life they are in and have no choice. You chose everything you have and everything you’ve done has led to today.
Everything in your life is your choice. You choose to spend your time any way you’d like. I’d love a dog. I’d love to spend time with my girl. I’d love to have a lot of friends hanging out every night. I just know that at the end of the day, it takes away from my goals, and I’ve already made the decision that I would trade all to get all.
You can have anything you want in life, you just don’t get to pick how much it costs. You are responsible for every second of your day, whether it feels that way or not. You could spend 17 hours working on your one singular goal 7 days a week, you just refuse to accept what you would have to give up. You love hearing things like “burn out”, “overtraining”, “work-life balance”. That shit isn’t real. Never losing momentum IS real. I’ve had singular strains of work that have lasted for weeks, only interrupted by dreams about the work I have to do before getting back to it. The truth is that there’s nothing more pleasurable than that.
Give all to get all, it’s an easy trade.
In 5 years I do not want to have a really good excuse. I don’t care how good it is. I don’t care if anyone around me is patting my back telling me it’s okay, I did what I could, it’s not my fault. That’s good as dog shit to me.
If I want time off, I have to earn it with progress. Each level gets a little reward before getting back to work. Double the company, take a winter vacation, repeat next year. Don’t want average results? Don’t act like an average person.
One thing I am enjoying about the forum right now is this kind of real talk (that would likely really rile the average person up). No molly coddling, no appealing to people's feelings, just matter of factly stating what it sometimes can take to prioritise routes to true freedom. No lowering standards to only dream of making $100k/yr and kidding ourselves that's enough to set anyone up for an exciting, fulfilling and safe life.
Whilst this always has to be put into the context of each person, my opinion is it takes more of this attitude than not to get that initial escape velocity. Maybe after a certain point it doesn't need to be so full on (which was my experience).
For me it was mostly working hard in my 20s, but still enjoying life along the way (work hard, play hard). Working *really* hard in my 30s when I got my first business going, but also travelling a lot, enjoying life - but choosing to work pretty much every day with focus.
Now in my 40s I've got the foot much more off the business gas (also correlated to living in comfort through the spoils of successful business). But as I'm starting a new venture and want to go to the next level, for large periods of the day I'm channeling the energy you're describing. That said, I like to practice working almost every day and vacationing almost every day. I'm going for longevity and consistency, but also to enjoy life along the way (just not with mindless things or lazy defaults).
Anyway, the post hit home for me. Thank you.
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