Hello Brother,
I intended to call you a 'Fastlaner' (instead of Brother) but I am guessing most of us are 'slowlaners' here, which is good.
I dedicate this thread to everyone who will spare 5 mins to read it, but mostly to us, sidewalkers/slowlaners. There is nothing bad in being a sidewalker or slowlaner... As in there is nothing bad in being a human!
I feel energised, REALLY ENERGISED today, first time since 15 years. 15!!
I have been depressed for the last 15 years, I think. I hid it somewhere inside, but it had great influence on me. I lost touch with it... but it didn't with me. Ok to the point...
Why aren't we successful? (with the exactly exact steps how to fix it at the end of the post)
I am not going to write a copy for 'twenty hours' to deceive you into reading it, and not giving you the answer. Here it is:
It's not talent, it's not your face, it's not your parents (ok they are affecting you a lot)... Wait. Unfortunately our parents are responsible for shaping our mindsets the most, next to the mass educational brainwash.... Nevertheless...
The answer is:
mindset
Mindset!
MINDSET!!!!!
Mindset?
MINDSET MF (as in motherfcker - can I swear or is it only reserved for the 'better' people on the forum?)
Ok one more time
I am reading the book by Carol Dweck on mindset and it has helped me a lot on recently and on my path to happiness... I don't want to write about it because it's 7$ on amazon so go get it if you want to change your life... Ok buying a book will definitely change the life of whoever owns amazon. Won't change yours in an instant. You need to put work in it...
Anyway.
Ok ok my story? It's important. My background.
(I don't buy this copy anymore 'How I went from 0 to 1 Trillion $ in two years from living in a box to a villa on Mars and Moon...")
I have been naive... back to the main story
You can call me...
Bill Clinton
I was one of the most talented kids in my country. I was training track and field in primary school - I loved it, and I had a huge talent, one of the biggest, my coach told me I was wwaaaay better than the guy that was our idol and his biggest achievement was 5th place in the world championships.
But well long story short I stopped, then I played volleyball (with 6ft, not too tall) and also loved it, put a lot of effort there, wasn't as good as at track and field, beacuse of my height, but nevertheless it doesn't define anything...
I stopped because of my back pain (it was 14 years ago and only now I started working on my back in a correct way, after going to several physios etc etc etc)...
My professional career - I was an 'accountant' and was on a way to be a CFO of a public listed company at the age of 29-31. Is it so so? or ok? or bad? or what?
But I stopped. I stopped every time I hit bigger obstacles. The older I got the faster I was to give up.
I signed up for @Fox 's web design course in the early 2017. With cold calling I didn't even properly start and put proper effort. One of the things that made me work on my mindset... compare this to the rest of the achievements I mentioned above. Had I put half the effort that I did into previous 'passions', I would have been.... nevertheless I am on my way to turn it around.
Nonetheless, I couldn't admit that I was a failure. Not to myself, so wouldn't even think about talking to other people.... This was how fragile we can be.......
OK THE STEPS ALREADY FFS (for F*ck sake):
the order here is not important, ok so I will play a mind trick on us:
1. Start writing daily, DAILY, NOT WEEKLY, NOT WHEN YOU WANT TO, daily, things that you are grateful for today - or made you happy. Even one sentence. And can be 'stupid' stuff like e.g. I am grateful for the ice cream in store. It makes me fat but it feels so good. Whatever works for you.
1. James Clear and his free ebook on habits. Download it and read it. Action on it. So read it once. First time just scan it. Then second time read it. Then third time with taking notes and how you will apply this knowledge - btw this is the system you can use to other books (aside of Harry Potter type of books...)
1. Maybe the single most important point here. Find a support group, like AA, support people, or at least one person. This person mustn't judge you. Just listen you saying that your imperfections are ok. From a book No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover - check out the book and there are simple actions you can take, but really powerful. If you don't have a good mindset, you most probably aren't ok with yourself on a deep unconscious level and we need to 'fix' this. It's ok to be miserable, depressed, smelly, ugly, handsome... 'The success and the bitches' will come later, ok, trust me
1. This forum is actually the best place on the internet. I joined in 2011 and have been lurking, frequenting it since then but not really actively... Wait, what? 2011? You are .... I don't know... It doesn't matter how long it takes or who you are. "It doesn't matter who we are. What matters is our plan".
but
this forum is also the worst!
1. The fastlaneforum doesn't provide this type of support we require in our fragile state. Maybe not to all of us. Everyone can come and 'shit' on your thread. It is great, still. But it's only a part of the puzzle. Great one. Big one.
Ok I am tired.... I hope you find some useful information here. It's just a summary. It sometimes takes days/weeks/ or in my case, years (2011 above guys says something).
One of my favourite people, the musician Steve Vai once said, "A true artist never gives up".
I Wish You Never To Give Up.
PS As usual I call every lurker to come out and say something, because it's important to start participating.
PS2 Big thanks to @Longinus because he is the inspiration for this thread and a lot of things that is going on in my life now. I love you Man!
PS3 OK enough with the editing, POST IT ALREADY, people are waiting.... or maybe not... who knows
Continued below....
I intended to call you a 'Fastlaner' (instead of Brother) but I am guessing most of us are 'slowlaners' here, which is good.
I dedicate this thread to everyone who will spare 5 mins to read it, but mostly to us, sidewalkers/slowlaners. There is nothing bad in being a sidewalker or slowlaner... As in there is nothing bad in being a human!
I feel energised, REALLY ENERGISED today, first time since 15 years. 15!!
I have been depressed for the last 15 years, I think. I hid it somewhere inside, but it had great influence on me. I lost touch with it... but it didn't with me. Ok to the point...
Why aren't we successful? (with the exactly exact steps how to fix it at the end of the post)
I am not going to write a copy for 'twenty hours' to deceive you into reading it, and not giving you the answer. Here it is:
It's not talent, it's not your face, it's not your parents (ok they are affecting you a lot)... Wait. Unfortunately our parents are responsible for shaping our mindsets the most, next to the mass educational brainwash.... Nevertheless...
The answer is:
mindset
Mindset!
MINDSET!!!!!
Mindset?
MINDSET MF (as in motherfcker - can I swear or is it only reserved for the 'better' people on the forum?)
Ok one more time
MINDSET
I am reading the book by Carol Dweck on mindset and it has helped me a lot on recently and on my path to happiness... I don't want to write about it because it's 7$ on amazon so go get it if you want to change your life... Ok buying a book will definitely change the life of whoever owns amazon. Won't change yours in an instant. You need to put work in it...
Anyway.
Ok ok my story? It's important. My background.
(I don't buy this copy anymore 'How I went from 0 to 1 Trillion $ in two years from living in a box to a villa on Mars and Moon...")
I have been naive... back to the main story
You can call me...
Bill Clinton
I was one of the most talented kids in my country. I was training track and field in primary school - I loved it, and I had a huge talent, one of the biggest, my coach told me I was wwaaaay better than the guy that was our idol and his biggest achievement was 5th place in the world championships.
But well long story short I stopped, then I played volleyball (with 6ft, not too tall) and also loved it, put a lot of effort there, wasn't as good as at track and field, beacuse of my height, but nevertheless it doesn't define anything...
I stopped because of my back pain (it was 14 years ago and only now I started working on my back in a correct way, after going to several physios etc etc etc)...
My professional career - I was an 'accountant' and was on a way to be a CFO of a public listed company at the age of 29-31. Is it so so? or ok? or bad? or what?
But I stopped. I stopped every time I hit bigger obstacles. The older I got the faster I was to give up.
I signed up for @Fox 's web design course in the early 2017. With cold calling I didn't even properly start and put proper effort. One of the things that made me work on my mindset... compare this to the rest of the achievements I mentioned above. Had I put half the effort that I did into previous 'passions', I would have been.... nevertheless I am on my way to turn it around.
Nonetheless, I couldn't admit that I was a failure. Not to myself, so wouldn't even think about talking to other people.... This was how fragile we can be.......
OK THE STEPS ALREADY FFS (for F*ck sake):
the order here is not important, ok so I will play a mind trick on us:
1. Start writing daily, DAILY, NOT WEEKLY, NOT WHEN YOU WANT TO, daily, things that you are grateful for today - or made you happy. Even one sentence. And can be 'stupid' stuff like e.g. I am grateful for the ice cream in store. It makes me fat but it feels so good. Whatever works for you.
1. James Clear and his free ebook on habits. Download it and read it. Action on it. So read it once. First time just scan it. Then second time read it. Then third time with taking notes and how you will apply this knowledge - btw this is the system you can use to other books (aside of Harry Potter type of books...)
1. Maybe the single most important point here. Find a support group, like AA, support people, or at least one person. This person mustn't judge you. Just listen you saying that your imperfections are ok. From a book No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover - check out the book and there are simple actions you can take, but really powerful. If you don't have a good mindset, you most probably aren't ok with yourself on a deep unconscious level and we need to 'fix' this. It's ok to be miserable, depressed, smelly, ugly, handsome... 'The success and the bitches' will come later, ok, trust me
1. This forum is actually the best place on the internet. I joined in 2011 and have been lurking, frequenting it since then but not really actively... Wait, what? 2011? You are .... I don't know... It doesn't matter how long it takes or who you are. "It doesn't matter who we are. What matters is our plan".
but
this forum is also the worst!
1. The fastlaneforum doesn't provide this type of support we require in our fragile state. Maybe not to all of us. Everyone can come and 'shit' on your thread. It is great, still. But it's only a part of the puzzle. Great one. Big one.
Ok I am tired.... I hope you find some useful information here. It's just a summary. It sometimes takes days/weeks/ or in my case, years (2011 above guys says something).
One of my favourite people, the musician Steve Vai once said, "A true artist never gives up".
I Wish You Never To Give Up.
PS As usual I call every lurker to come out and say something, because it's important to start participating.
PS2 Big thanks to @Longinus because he is the inspiration for this thread and a lot of things that is going on in my life now. I love you Man!
PS3 OK enough with the editing, POST IT ALREADY, people are waiting.... or maybe not... who knows
Continued below....
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