Environment and attachment.
Take away your friends, your hobbies, your car payments and mortgage, your obligations, your schedule and appointments, the places you have to be, anyone who knows you, your memories of what you've done...
You would find it very easy to do anything and to become anything.
You would not have any trouble because there is no "you" in the first place to be staying the same. What would you keep the same?
Attachment comes in many forms.
For example, I have a reputation of doing whatever the hell I want. The reason for that is so if a small part of me wants to do something new, I know that when I do it, everyone will say "that's Johnathan doing what he does". I have nothing to overcome.
You would look at a guy who lives a life you want and think he is better in ways he isn't. He may just have set up his environment to make some things easier than others.
If you do not like how you are, untie yourself from your environment a bit, make your change, and when you are happy with your environment and new path, then it's a good time to put down some roots.
Imagine how strong of an effect your environment has. If you land yourself in a military base and have to spend a year training, living and hanging out with navy seals, your day to day tasks will be wildly different, your attitude will be wildly different, your habits will be wildly different. You will be wildly different. It would be hard NOT to be.
The other problem is a misunderstanding of the order of change.
You don't sit in front of a fireplace and say "give me warmth, and then I will supply the wood".
Likewise you cannot say "I want to be a new kind of person" and wait until you feel like that kind of person before taking the kind of actions that a person like that would take. It's the wrong order.
You must realize "Oh, I need to act like a different person before I can feel like that person, and then actually be that person".
So, the best combination is to understand the correct order of change, then remove the anchors that attach you to your current life, change your environment, seek out an environment that makes it easy to become who you want to be, start acting that way even if you don't feel like it, and then watch yourself change.
Another idea to add to that would be to look at your life as if you were an outside observer and to make your own judgements if you were to look at that man as a stranger. What would you say to him if he came to you and said his current goals and problems and excuses? What would you tell him to immediately go do and to stop waiting? Now just go do those things. Rinse and repeat. Learn how to give yourself good advice and see yourself as a stranger, because to everyone else you are.
Take away your friends, your hobbies, your car payments and mortgage, your obligations, your schedule and appointments, the places you have to be, anyone who knows you, your memories of what you've done...
You would find it very easy to do anything and to become anything.
You would not have any trouble because there is no "you" in the first place to be staying the same. What would you keep the same?
Attachment comes in many forms.
For example, I have a reputation of doing whatever the hell I want. The reason for that is so if a small part of me wants to do something new, I know that when I do it, everyone will say "that's Johnathan doing what he does". I have nothing to overcome.
You would look at a guy who lives a life you want and think he is better in ways he isn't. He may just have set up his environment to make some things easier than others.
If you do not like how you are, untie yourself from your environment a bit, make your change, and when you are happy with your environment and new path, then it's a good time to put down some roots.
Imagine how strong of an effect your environment has. If you land yourself in a military base and have to spend a year training, living and hanging out with navy seals, your day to day tasks will be wildly different, your attitude will be wildly different, your habits will be wildly different. You will be wildly different. It would be hard NOT to be.
The other problem is a misunderstanding of the order of change.
You don't sit in front of a fireplace and say "give me warmth, and then I will supply the wood".
Likewise you cannot say "I want to be a new kind of person" and wait until you feel like that kind of person before taking the kind of actions that a person like that would take. It's the wrong order.
You must realize "Oh, I need to act like a different person before I can feel like that person, and then actually be that person".
So, the best combination is to understand the correct order of change, then remove the anchors that attach you to your current life, change your environment, seek out an environment that makes it easy to become who you want to be, start acting that way even if you don't feel like it, and then watch yourself change.
Another idea to add to that would be to look at your life as if you were an outside observer and to make your own judgements if you were to look at that man as a stranger. What would you say to him if he came to you and said his current goals and problems and excuses? What would you tell him to immediately go do and to stop waiting? Now just go do those things. Rinse and repeat. Learn how to give yourself good advice and see yourself as a stranger, because to everyone else you are.