The Only 3 Beliefs Holding You Back Right Now

[YacineLaid]

Twice per day, I scroll through the forum. Occasionally I recognize patterns of thinking or behavior and I go through a little internal struggle: "do I respond to this question with a heartfelt response" or "should I just keep scrolling" -- I'll admit, I've been scrolling a lot more than responding lately so I figured I'd take a minute to give some unsolicited advice.

Your current results are a direct reflection of your belief systems.

That means the amount of money you have in your bank account today is not due to covid, the election, California burning, or how you were treated as a child... it is a culmination of your beliefs around money that you've held for the last 6 days, 6 weeks, 6 months, 6 years...

Beliefs like "should I save my money or spend it", "should I invest or not", "should I go all in on my business or do it part time", or "is this really even going to work?"

The "Covid 19" weight that people have gained wasn't because of the pandemic. It was because of your beliefs around exercising and eating healthy "should I work out or skip it", "what's healthy or unhealthy"

Relationships, too. "Should I be in one or not", "what should I accept in this relationship and what shouldn't I accept in this relationship"

If you aren't happy with your current results, here's my suggestion:

Identify and change your limiting beliefs.

Luckily, there's really only 3 types of limiting beliefs; hopeless, helpless, and worthless.

Hopeless Beliefs are the ones where somebody says "Just shut up, Steve. Nobody can make money in this economy. Nobody can build a business in this situation.
Relationships never last anyways.
My genetics won't allow me to get in shape.
This is bullshit, it can't be done!"

Helpless Beliefs are when someone says, "Easy for you to say. MJ can do it because he had a better idea.
They have more money than me.
They have more time than me.
They have less kids than me.
They have more hair than me.
That's why THEY can do it and I can't!"

Worthless Beliefs are where someone says, "Fine, fine. You're right. Everybody can make money. Everyone can have a long-lasting loving relationship. Everyone can have a great body... but if I'm being honest with you, man... I just don't think I deserve it. I don't think I'm worth it. I don't think if I made that money, I'd be able to keep it. I don't think if I got into that relationship, I could ever make them stay."

Can you see how devastating this psychology and these beliefs could be to someone's life and business?

For those of you who are here asking the questions over and over again like "should I go or stay", "should I invest or not", "should I start this business or put it off" -- my question for you is which one of these beliefs are really holding you back? ...And are they really true?

While I often spend hours helping people shift their beliefs, I can tell you exactly how to do it in very few words:

A belief is simply a feeling of absolute certainty you have about something.

If you didn't have certainty about that belief... you wouldn't believe it! You just feel like it's true. (And man it really does FEEL real, doesn't it?)

To change a limiting belief, simply start by figuring out what the belief is, then create doubt in it. Ask the question "is this belief really true?" and "are there examples of someone in my situation that made it work anyways?" or "have I even succeeded at this in the past and maybe I'm just overthinking it, now?"

I'm more than willing to help but I think it would be even more valuable for you and the whole forum -- if you're up for it -- to post an old belief you held in the past... and then what changed it for you? How do you see it now?

As an example... growing up, I truly believed money was scarce and extremely hard to come by. The first real shift in that mindset was coming here on the forum and meeting really successful people who started with nothing. When they spoke about how easy it was to make money, it really created doubt in that belief. "Maybe it ISN'T so tough... I'm just making it a bigger deal than it really is..."

Today when I look at how much money is in the system (especially here in the U.S. with another 2 TRILLION dollars floating around), I can't help but think "wow, it really is everywhere and people have no problem spending it!"

What is it for you? What shifted? What changed?

It isn't that easy to change the beliefs even with consciousness and certitude that it's not helping you. It needs discipline and repetition every damn day until it change. Cause even if you think you're believing in something new emotion aren't there. And the subconscious keep working with the old one's. The better and the fastest way is to start by meditation learn to calm and relax your mind and reading some books that helps like (limitless Jim kwik ) the miracle morning hal Elrod .napoleon hill ( law of success , think and grow rich ...etc) and than having and everyday plan. And by time you'll feel your beliefs changing, and by time you become a new version of your self that make you get more health wealth love and happiness....
And this will be your new lifestyle reading books doing meditation and affirmations visualising and then working smarter and having more energy and money to invest in your dreams that nourish your beliefs your purpose your life it's not that hard if you get the real attention to do it for a lifetime it will be hard just like the first week and the end of the week you'll start feeling better and you feel it really inside you that's enough to push you trought .
Sorry if I did some mistakes in language I'm just becoming bilingual for like months. I'm from Algeria and the second language in my country is French so I'm still developing my English skill.
Wish you'll health wealth love and happiness

 

[PureA]

GOLD.

How can we be proactive as possible with belief change?
Are there any practices you would recommend?

 

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[Katherine]

For those of you who are parents , what beliefs will you impart to your children now? I certainly want my children to have a good head start.

I certainly don't want to pass on my helpless belief! Thanks @Kung Fu Steve for the wonderful post!

 

[BizyDad]

I'll let others speak more to your mindset stuff. For me, I'd just say don't be too hard on yourself. None of these things are as bad, or as insurmountable, as they seem. Some are probably flat out false.

If anyone is interested in the kid talk, there's this recent thread (so we don't hijack this one): OFF-TOPIC - How to instill hard-working values in my kids

 

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[Wil22]

Do you know any good books by Martin Seligman?

”Learned Optimism” is one of my favorites. I hope it helps.

 

[sfarieri]

Yeah I definitely don't have those limiting beliefs. I believe I had, but several books this year changed my perspective.

 

[ExaltedLife]

”Learned Optimism” is one of my favorites. I hope it helps.

I've read it, and that's why I mentioned it, because this post comes right out of its pages

 

[Kung Fu Steve]

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[Kung Fu Steve]

@Kung Fu Steve Looks like I am getting to understand your thread and message each day. I've decided to simplify your teaching in this way to help me process things easier:

Your beliefs determine your mindset.
Your mindset determines your attitude.
Your attitude determines your altitude in life.

So, we are all where we are because of our belief system. Wrong beliefs can hold you captive for many years... unless you identify and change them.

Also, I found that the best way to identify and change these beliefs is through reading and studying from those who have gone ahead of you. Reading, studying, meditating and practising lessons learnt from books---is what I have found to be the best.

Learning from mentors who have achieved what you want to achieve. Studying their beliefs, thinking and mindset system and making changes in yours to match theirs.

I just realized that once the changes in beliefs are made, it will alter the mindset which will alter the attitude and definitely alter the destination.

In Millionaire Fastlane , MJ said, "Acquisition and application of knowledge will make you rich!"

Obviously, knowledge plays an essential role in reaching the right destination. But that happens in the attitude stage after the right beliefs and mindsets have been formed to condition a person to acquire and apply the knowledge obtained.

While knowledge is important, most people fail to APPLY because they have the wrong belief system and mindset which has corroded their aptitude to APPLY the knowledge acquired. Therefore, I'd like to add to your thread:

Wrong beliefs = wrong mindset = wrong attitudes = wrong destination.
Right beliefs = right mindset = right attitudes = right destination.

Again, thanks for creating this thread.

Spot on!

It's interesting to see people's beliefs surrounding... beliefs...

Have them, don't have them, mine are good, mine are bad, mine help, mine are true -- I mean if you didn't believe your beliefs, they wouldn't be your beliefs!

But ask anyone why they don't have what they want already and they'll give you all sorts of "excuses" but behind every excuse is a belief. It's just so fascinating to me.

 

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[afrankmore]

Twice per day, I scroll through the forum. Occasionally I recognize patterns of thinking or behavior and I go through a little internal struggle: "do I respond to this question with a heartfelt response" or "should I just keep scrolling" -- I'll admit, I've been scrolling a lot more than responding lately so I figured I'd take a minute to give some unsolicited advice.

Your current results are a direct reflection of your belief systems.

That means the amount of money you have in your bank account today is not due to covid, the election, California burning, or how you were treated as a child... it is a culmination of your beliefs around money that you've held for the last 6 days, 6 weeks, 6 months, 6 years...

Beliefs like "should I save my money or spend it", "should I invest or not", "should I go all in on my business or do it part time", or "is this really even going to work?"

The "Covid 19" weight that people have gained wasn't because of the pandemic. It was because of your beliefs around exercising and eating healthy "should I work out or skip it", "what's healthy or unhealthy"

Relationships, too. "Should I be in one or not", "what should I accept in this relationship and what shouldn't I accept in this relationship"

If you aren't happy with your current results, here's my suggestion:

Identify and change your limiting beliefs.

Luckily, there's really only 3 types of limiting beliefs; hopeless, helpless, and worthless.

Hopeless Beliefs are the ones where somebody says "Just shut up, Steve. Nobody can make money in this economy. Nobody can build a business in this situation.
Relationships never last anyways.
My genetics won't allow me to get in shape.
This is bullshit, it can't be done!"

Helpless Beliefs are when someone says, "Easy for you to say. MJ can do it because he had a better idea.
They have more money than me.
They have more time than me.
They have less kids than me.
They have more hair than me.
That's why THEY can do it and I can't!"

Worthless Beliefs are where someone says, "Fine, fine. You're right. Everybody can make money. Everyone can have a long-lasting loving relationship. Everyone can have a great body... but if I'm being honest with you, man... I just don't think I deserve it. I don't think I'm worth it. I don't think if I made that money, I'd be able to keep it. I don't think if I got into that relationship, I could ever make them stay."

Can you see how devastating this psychology and these beliefs could be to someone's life and business?

For those of you who are here asking the questions over and over again like "should I go or stay", "should I invest or not", "should I start this business or put it off" -- my question for you is which one of these beliefs are really holding you back? ...And are they really true?

While I often spend hours helping people shift their beliefs, I can tell you exactly how to do it in very few words:

A belief is simply a feeling of absolute certainty you have about something.

If you didn't have certainty about that belief... you wouldn't believe it! You just feel like it's true. (And man it really does FEEL real, doesn't it?)

To change a limiting belief, simply start by figuring out what the belief is, then create doubt in it. Ask the question "is this belief really true?" and "are there examples of someone in my situation that made it work anyways?" or "have I even succeeded at this in the past and maybe I'm just overthinking it, now?"

I'm more than willing to help but I think it would be even more valuable for you and the whole forum -- if you're up for it -- to post an old belief you held in the past... and then what changed it for you? How do you see it now?

As an example... growing up, I truly believed money was scarce and extremely hard to come by. The first real shift in that mindset was coming here on the forum and meeting really successful people who started with nothing. When they spoke about how easy it was to make money, it really created doubt in that belief. "Maybe it ISN'T so tough... I'm just making it a bigger deal than it really is..."

Today when I look at how much money is in the system (especially here in the U.S. with another 2 TRILLION dollars floating around), I can't help but think "wow, it really is everywhere and people have no problem spending it!"

What is it for you? What shifted? What changed?

This post just blew my mind!!!! I just learned what is and has been holding me back. Although, i feel like I am making progress in certain aspects of my life, I have a little voice in my head and that voice is a worthless belief... I need and want to change that, I understand that it can start just by changing how I think but this is hard. I didnt grow up being told I was worthless, but I grew up with zero direction. At one point in my life I thought that my life was going to be completely absorbed in substance abuse. I started at 12 and at 27 I changed my life but I still have that worthless feeling. Like I dont deserve it! If I am successful, am I just going to blow it?

I have been very proactive in my finances and have really changed that around in my life. I was truly a consumer of everything!!! Now, I save, invest, and watch what i spend, how I spend. Anyways, I want to wrap this up, thank you for this post because I now know what is holding me back, and I want to learn to overcome that.

 

[Kung Fu Steve]

100% truth. For the longest time I sat on the idea that "to make a lot of money you have to cheat people and be corrupt" and that held me back from so many opportunities and led me to thinking small. Not only that, I would just do absolutely NOTHING and never take action. I had to really dig deep in my beliefs system and met some very financially successful people who were great, honest and willing to teach me and be generous with their time. I have also met many poor broke a$$ people who are very negative in their mindset, 99% live like victims and bitch about life all the time. The successful people I met had one thing in common. They all are very intentional about whatever they are successful at. They don't expect things to work out on their own, they find a way to make things work out. Their mindset is so different, therefore, their results show that difference.
We are what we think.
Awesome post.

Such a good distinction

This post just blew my mind!!!! I just learned what is and has been holding me back. Although, i feel like I am making progress in certain aspects of my life, I have a little voice in my head and that voice is a worthless belief... I need and want to change that, I understand that it can start just by changing how I think but this is hard. I didnt grow up being told I was worthless, but I grew up with zero direction. At one point in my life I thought that my life was going to be completely absorbed in substance abuse. I started at 12 and at 27 I changed my life but I still have that worthless feeling. Like I dont deserve it! If I am successful, am I just going to blow it?

I have been very proactive in my finances and have really changed that around in my life. I was truly a consumer of everything!!! Now, I save, invest, and watch what i spend, how I spend. Anyways, I want to wrap this up, thank you for this post because I now know what is holding me back, and I want to learn to overcome that.

Your biography doesn't have to be your destiny.

Well done turning things around!

 

[Vadim26]

Posts like this are one of the reasons I keep coming back to this forum.
Saved, bookmarked, shared.

Seriously, how is this not GOLD yet?!

 

[Kung Fu Steve]

Great post. One of my limiting beliefs was that I had poor genetics and wouldn’t be able to lose weight that I put on over the years. A couple of years ago I changed that limiting belief and my mindset and lost over 70 pounds last year.

What a freaking rockstar!

 

[ExaltedLife]

If you and I were to sit down and have a conversation, I'd ask some pointed questions. "How are you performing in (certain area)? Scale of 1-10?"

I've worked with enough people to know that most people who rate themselves lower tend to be the high achievers. The people who always want more but never think they're doing good enough. Then the people who rate themselves higher tend to be the type of over-confident people who are in a comfort zone and have little to no desire to more

** This is a gross overgeneralization but it gives me a starting point with someone **

Then I'd ask about your goals "what's a level 10 look like? where do you want to be?"

And then a pretty intense question "why don't you already have this? what's holding you back?"

We can easily come up with an entire list:

I don't have the...

time, money, knowledge, energy, support, etc. etc. etc.

( just responded above with the "IF, THEN, MEANS" frame because when people simply say I don't have the time -- that's not a complete belief... probably more accurate is something like:

If I have kids, then I don't have the time to workout, which means I'll never be in good shape. I should just accept that.

If I don't go to business school, then I won't have the knowledge I need, which means I'll never succeed in business. I shouldn't even try.

Again, I'm being obnoxious but here's the simple way:

1. What's an area of your life you're doing well in... why? What makes you good in that area? How do you think about it? What habits or routines have you built? (You'll find some empowering beliefs)

2. What's an area of your life you're NOT thrilled in... why? What stops you from making progress? What has to be done in order to progress? What are you not doing or following through on? Why? (you'll find some limiting beliefs)




Wow -- this is a fantastic list!

Nobody consciously woke up this morning and see "gee, I can't want to fear failure today!"

All of these beliefs are conditioned. Which is great... because they can be reconditioned!

What's the difference between the times when we face a challenge and breakthrough versus the times when we end up feeling helpless and the problem lingers?

Whenever we find ourselves feeling helpless or unable to improve a situation, it’s because we have fallen into learned helplessness.

In learned helplessness, these 3 P's show up:

1. PERVASIVE: We think that because our finances are destroyed that our whole life is ruined. It’s not true, we have our health, our relationships, and tons of other things. It’s not pervasive, but sometimes we react as if it is.

2. PERMANENT: No problem is permanent. When things are good we think they will be good forever. When things are bad, we feel like it will be bad forever. Neither one is true. Life has seasons. We ALL go through Winters and we all eventually get to Spring. Nothing is permanent, life is constant change.

3. PERSONAL: We think it’s us. If we were smarter, prettier, stronger, if we lived over there, if we had this family, if we were taller, thinner, richer, then we wouldn’t be in this situation. We all do this. We take it personally and think that somehow, if we were XYZ (good enough) we would magically not have these “problems”. It’s not you, it’s not personal. Problems are a part of life. (Suffering is optional)

Any time you think your problem is all 3 of these things we get in that funk of "why even bother".

What if -- just for a second -- you thought the opposite of each of these beliefs? Are there plenty of references and evidence to support the opposite?

Finding deals around "my" expensive market is difficult.

What if it didn't matter how expensive a property was... what if it mattered what the ROI would be?

Other people are finding deals because they live in better markets.

What if they have a disadvantage because they DO live in better markets and can't find the deals you can?

It's very competitive and I don't stand a chance.

What if it's all bluster and most of these people just talk a good game? What if you were the right person for the job?

Others know more than me and already have a head start.

What if it's not how you start, it's how you end up?

Am I getting into real estate investing at the wrong time just before a recession starts or a real estate crash begins?

What are ways you can invest while preparing for a dip?

Am I going to lose everything and uproot my family?

Nope! ... but even if you did... would that be so bad? Or would that start a brand new chapter of your life?

Am I going to burst into a ball of flames?

I don't see this happening anytime soon... do you work with fireworks?

Am I fighting an uphill battle?

Not if you're going in a different direction ...

Do you know any good books by Martin Seligman?

 

[Legend]

This thread has hit me right in the feels.

 

[AshleysBliss]

What a freaking rockstar!

Thank you!

 

[StrikingViper69]

So, it's going to be a bit meta, but here is one belief I'd like to be challenged:
I believe that beliefs (no matter justified or erroneous) are imprinted on you either by experience or your environment. Which means I'm not sure people can truly change their beliefs just by reading a statement contrary to a belief they currently hold.

Not trying to discredit your post, it's a great insight in itself. I'm just wondering whether passing this message, in this form, can truly help some people, or if it's a waste of time because either people already believe what you believe, or they don't, and thus can't change their belief just by reading a message on a forum.

The latter would be my belief, although the more mature I get, the more open to changing my beliefs I am.

Everyone, who believes anything always has "evidence" for their beliefs.

When we start to challenge a belief, we will instantly spit back the "evidence". This is easy to see, if you talk to someone and challenge a belief they have.

One way you can start to counter this is by playing devils advocate against your belief.... and investigate is there evidence that possibly contradicts, or adds some context to your belief.

Thanks to confirmation bias, we rarely look for evidence that opposes any belief we have. More often than not, we can find examples from our own experiences if we think critically about them for 5 minutes.

 

[Outdoorlife2005]

what an awesome post
Spot on

this post screams me all over it. I’m not where I am due to me. I haven’t wanted it bad enough. (As I finally realized) after a tragic event it has woken me up

I’m so glad I came across the millionaire Fastlane book and now this forum. I’m taking action daily and it feels so good. I’ve had so many bad habits (spending ones) and after writing them down and looking at them daily I am so disappointed with myself for how stupid I’ve been the last few years. I have a solid game plan and plucking away at it daily until I reach my next goal

 

[Katherine]

I find myself saying these kinds of things often:

You can do it.
Keep trying.
You can figure it out.
Talk to your brother/sister and figure it out together.

They also have chores. No reward, no allowance, they are expected to do their chores because we all have duties and responsibilities.

And I ask them often, "What do you think?" Whether it's about what we're going to do today, or what to eat, or what just read together, or how to accomplish something, I solicit their opinion often. Not always, they still know Dad's the boss, but I want to encourage them to think for themselves. If they don't have an opinion, I encourage them to think it over.

I also encourage a lot of reading, which helps show them what is possible.

Thanks @BizyDad for sharing!

I find myself projecting the positive beliefs and mindset to my kids (because I want them to be better or ready to fight against any self doubts and negative situation when arises )....

Which brings to my next point .... (ironically) and at the same time struggling on my own and to my dismay accidentally projecting those struggles on them time to time. Wonder these make sense to some of you.

Going to be pretty vulnerable here... so here are some beliefs
- I am not that good / fantastic ... (fake humility)
- Poor money management
- I should be always on guard and be on hard on myself ... because taking it easy means I will fall off the wagon and lose everything.
- I am slow.... not fast enough...
- People are not willingly to spend $ .... hence closing sales is difficult
- Terrible mother .... terrible parenting
- I want to do more but i can't because the kids are taking up my time ... I felt incapable ...
- My clients are the old school kind, they are not open! (so ironic....)

I think i can go on forever .... oh dear :/

 

[Katherine]

I'll let others speak more to your mindset stuff. For me, I'd just say don't be too hard on yourself. None of these things are as bad, or as insurmountable, as they seem. Some are probably flat out false.

If anyone is interested in the kid talk, there's this recent thread (so we don't hijack this one): OFF-TOPIC - How to instill hard-working values in my kids

Thanks @BizyDad for the encouragement. Read that thread before

 

[CaptainAmerica]

Great stuff!

I used to have all kinds of nonsense pushing me around, from 'rich people are bad' to 'I don't deserve anything good'. Foolishness.

What changed was a big 2x4 of reality hitting me upside the head:

- people get rich all the time in ways that have nothing to do with their personality (the nice but dumb kid from high school made bank in real estate)
- money isn't always a result of effort (one of my good friends happened to marry into a shoe empire)
- I have a chronic condition, so my good days have to be fulfilling to make up for my bad days
- if I ruminate on my condition, I'll have more bad days

My beliefs about these things used to be counter to reality. I've gotten much better at seeing the thing itself is what counts, not what I believe to be true about it.

 

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[Raoul Duke]

This is a very good post, the best I've read from you on the forum yet. I think it deserves GOLD, so congrats.

However, I don't agree 100% with your point of view.

I'm much closer to @Paul David for example.

Yes, MINDSET is very important, I would put it in the top 3 success factors.

However, the importance of MINDSET tends to get exaggerated in this community, to the detriment of other important factors.

Let me give you my example.

I've scaled to mid 6 figures with my agency.

I also sell a course, which I view as a different business, although I use my agency to market it. The course has done close to 20K by now, since I first put it out a little over 1 year ago. However, all-in-all, time invested, money spent on advertising, etc. it's still in the red.

Now, I have two paths to million+.

One is with my agency. I have 3 clients I'm working with who have the potential to scale to 10M+. One of them is already at 1M+, one is 6-figures, and the other has a REALLY strong business that we managed to get from 0 to 20K in one month so far. If any one of them gets to 50M for example, I will have my million. Nothing to do with mindset, and everything to do with KNOWLEDGE and TIME. As much as I want to INSTANTLY do it, this is not possible. It requires launching new products, expanding the product range, building the sales channels, extensive testing etc. This requires time.

Now look at my course. There are people selling alternative courses in the make money niche who are making 3-20M/year. Why am I not a millionaire with my course yet? I can tell you for sure that the KNOWLEDGE inside the course is quite possibly the best on the planet in its category. I have a BURNING DESIRE to scale it. So why am I not a millionaire with it, and have just made 20K so far?

I think two reasons... The first is that my course does not yet have mass-appeal... These days people don't want to learn and work anymore. They just want the result. Instant gratification. Done-for-you. I have to convert my course into that, which is what I'm doing for the third update.

The second reason is that I don't have my own funnel prepared to the right standards, because I've simply been struggling to find the time to do it, between managing the agency and client work, and this project. So I know what I need to do, I know what others are doing to hit those numbers, all I really need to do is see what they're doing right and test until I hit my own sweet spot. I am doing this, but again, it takes time. As much as I'd LOVE to have it instantly done, it's not possible. Very often I get frustrated, but remind myself that there is no other way except step by step.

Weak entrepreneurs would say "Pff, a course! Everyone has that, you need to do something different" -> which is bullshit. If people are making millions out of X, you can too.

Of course I am 100% sure that I still have limiting beliefs, I'm pretty sure we all do. But I don't feel HELPLESS, I don't feel WORTHLESS, and I don't feel HOPELESS. I have a very clear plan, it's just a matter of time.

So both TIME and KNOWLEDGE are very important factors along with MINDSET.

What I see in the forums is a lot of people focused on MINDSET, I'm going to do this bla bla bla, but they never do anything, and in many cases NOT because of mindset, but because they lack KNOWLEDGE. They simply do NOT take the time required to get the KNOWLEDGE that they need.... which requires a LOT of time and effort. Most people don't want to put in the work... there's NOTHING more to it than that. They want the success, but not the work. They want to succeed while remaining dumbasses who can't even tell right from left...

If you gain the knowledge, let me tell you - it's only a matter of time before you'll succeed and before your mindset will improve and everything. Of course, when you lack knowledge, you have a POOR MINDSET - and factually so, you know that you don't know what leads to success in business. So how could you possibly feel confident, at least in a rational way?

I've been learning for YEARS to be able to do what I'm doing today, and I've pretty much been doing it full-time. People simply do not spend the TIME necessary for success. They want instant. Instant gratification. Now. Just change your mindset. Wohooo! Instant result! Wow...

Now to complete the circle... one of my own limiting beliefs from the past:

I thought I couldn't succeed in business without first working for someone else, but I did.

The belief was put into my head by my parents, but I made the DECISION never to work for anyone, and I didn't. I didn't start by believing this was possible... I just didn't have an alternative, and I had to do it. So I did it, all the while being very scared and not knowing what I'm doing, but I devoted my entire energy, 100%, to succeeding. So as my success grew, my belief started to fade away, and be replaced by a certain inner confidence. But it was a gradual thing... which happened as I became more successful, not the other way around. My stubbornness and arrogance helped - without them, I would never have managed to get to where I am today, because I would have probably given up.

 

[Guest1413tpa]

I've needed this thread. I've spent the past week under the weather and playing the pity card because I can't afford the deals I want right now.

 

[Fiza Hanif]

Just to give a little perspective, most of us have had that experience of indoctrination no matter where we're from.

You are right man!
I completely agree with you... Cultures, traditions, and ways of living are different but human psychology or nature is very much the same.

I definitely don't want to downplay your experience, I just want to remind you that you're not alone

Thanks and don't worry!

 

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[Fiza Hanif]

Please tell your friend "thank you" for recommending my work.

Sure MJ

So cool to be associated with The Untethered Soul, it is as great book.

I have reread The Untethered Soul and Unscripted many times. Both are masterpieces...

I highly recommend his other one as well, The Surrender Experiment.

Ok great! I will check it out
And I'm waiting for your next book!

 

[Luis Weiland]

GOLD.

How can we be proactive as possible with belief change?
Are there any practices you would recommend?

As he said, the fastest way is to start by meditation learn to calm and relax your mind. I have 2 years of experience. Is there anything you would like to know?

 

[Wil22]

I've never met a drug dealer making more than 60k/year.

60k WAS a lot of money in my neighborhood... but it was silly.

There's a silly quote from "Get rich or die trying" with 50 cent where he realized while selling crack on the corner all day every day he was making less than minimum wage based on the amount of hours he was out there. Not to mention the risk.

Funny when you actually do the math, income, expenses, profit and unrealized mental stress, 60k is nothing. But in a small community, millions.

 

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[evergreen_scene]

This is a very good post, the best I've read from you on the forum yet. I think it deserves GOLD, so congrats.

However, I don't agree 100% with your point of view.

I'm much closer to @Paul David for example.

Yes, MINDSET is very important, I would put it in the top 3 success factors.

However, the importance of MINDSET tends to get exaggerated in this community, to the detriment of other important factors.

Let me give you my example.

I've scaled to mid 6 figures with my agency.

I also sell a course, which I view as a different business, although I use my agency to market it. The course has done close to 20K by now, since I first put it out a little over 1 year ago. However, all-in-all, time invested, money spent on advertising, etc. it's still in the red.

Now, I have two paths to million+.

One is with my agency. I have 3 clients I'm working with who have the potential to scale to 10M+. One of them is already at 1M+, one is 6-figures, and the other has a REALLY strong business that we managed to get from 0 to 20K in one month so far. If any one of them gets to 50M for example, I will have my million. Nothing to do with mindset, and everything to do with KNOWLEDGE and TIME. As much as I want to INSTANTLY do it, this is not possible. It requires launching new products, expanding the product range, building the sales channels, extensive testing etc. This requires time.

Now look at my course. There are people selling alternative courses in the make money niche who are making 3-20M/year. Why am I not a millionaire with my course yet? I can tell you for sure that the KNOWLEDGE inside the course is quite possibly the best on the planet in its category. I have a BURNING DESIRE to scale it. So why am I not a millionaire with it, and have just made 20K so far?

I think two reasons... The first is that my course does not yet have mass-appeal... These days people don't want to learn and work anymore. They just want the result. Instant gratification. Done-for-you. I have to convert my course into that, which is what I'm doing for the third update.

The second reason is that I don't have my own funnel prepared to the right standards, because I've simply been struggling to find the time to do it, between managing the agency and client work, and this project. So I know what I need to do, I know what others are doing to hit those numbers, all I really need to do is see what they're doing right and test until I hit my own sweet spot. I am doing this, but again, it takes time. As much as I'd LOVE to have it instantly done, it's not possible. Very often I get frustrated, but remind myself that there is no other way except step by step.

Weak entrepreneurs would say "Pff, a course! Everyone has that, you need to do something different" -> which is bullshit. If people are making millions out of X, you can too.

Of course I am 100% sure that I still have limiting beliefs, I'm pretty sure we all do. But I don't feel HELPLESS, I don't feel WORTHLESS, and I don't feel HOPELESS. I have a very clear plan, it's just a matter of time.

So both TIME and KNOWLEDGE are very important factors along with MINDSET.

What I see in the forums is a lot of people focused on MINDSET, I'm going to do this bla bla bla, but they never do anything, and in many cases NOT because of mindset, but because they lack KNOWLEDGE. They simply do NOT take the time required to get the KNOWLEDGE that they need.... which requires a LOT of time and effort. Most people don't want to put in the work... there's NOTHING more to it than that. They want the success, but not the work. They want to succeed while remaining dumbasses who can't even tell right from left...

If you gain the knowledge, let me tell you - it's only a matter of time before you'll succeed and before your mindset will improve and everything. Of course, when you lack knowledge, you have a POOR MINDSET - and factually so, you know that you don't know what leads to success in business. So how could you possibly feel confident, at least in a rational way?

I've been learning for YEARS to be able to do what I'm doing today, and I've pretty much been doing it full-time. People simply do not spend the TIME necessary for success. They want instant. Instant gratification. Now. Just change your mindset. Wohooo! Instant result! Wow...

Now to complete the circle... one of my own limiting beliefs from the past:

I thought I couldn't succeed in business without first working for someone else, but I did.

The belief was put into my head by my parents, but I made the DECISION never to work for anyone, and I didn't. I didn't start by believing this was possible... I just didn't have an alternative, and I had to do it. So I did it, all the while being very scared and not knowing what I'm doing, but I devoted my entire energy, 100%, to succeeding. So as my success grew, my belief started to fade away, and be replaced by a certain inner confidence. But it was a gradual thing... which happened as I became more successful, not the other way around. My stubbornness and arrogance helped - without them, I would never have managed to get to where I am today, because I would have probably given up.

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[Deleted68316]

So, it's going to be a bit meta, but here is one belief I'd like to be challenged:
I believe that beliefs (no matter justified or erroneous) are imprinted on you either by experience or your environment. Which means I'm not sure people can truly change their beliefs just by reading a statement contrary to a belief they currently hold.

I like this meta belief. It makes me smile.

Recently, instead of going against my beliefs, I am trying to give them a direction.

I have the same meta belief: "I believe I can change my beliefs, but deep down, everything is imprinted already. So, I actually cannot change them."

I would say something like this to myself in order to give this belief a direction (trying now for myself since I need it): "yes, it is probably true that beliefs are imprinted and cannot be changed. But, at the same time, it may also not be true."

I think the statement above cannot be questioned. While I think that beliefs cannot be changed, at the same time, I have to admit that it is possible to change them.

 

[Deleted68316]

Spot on!

It's interesting to see people's beliefs surrounding... beliefs...

Have them, don't have them, mine are good, mine are bad, mine help, mine are true -- I mean if you didn't believe your beliefs, they wouldn't be your beliefs!

But ask anyone why they don't have what they want already and they'll give you all sorts of "excuses" but behind every excuse is a belief. It's just so fascinating to me.

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