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Stop listening to others

Discussion in 'General Entrepreneur Discussion' started by royemunson, Oct 17, 2007.

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    ok. so we all come here to learn from other successful individuals right? one thought I recently had was that sometimes we should just listen to our gut instincts.

    one thing about the world's richest people is that they didn't listen to others even when they were the smartest and brightest and sometimes more successful.

    when they ended up listening to their guts and taking action, moving forward through adversity, and creating something nobody ever heard of, the same people who thought it was impossible were now calling these entrepreneurs geniuses.

    I hate to say it but I personally have had a number of ideas that were shot down by others who I thought were more successful, only to read about someone else's success story sometime down the road.

    Bottom line is that if you really want to be a part of the elite members here (and I am not one of them yet) who are truly fastlaners, then you need to learn to listen to yourselves, listen to your gut, and lead. You are the one who will be making that crucial decision every time.

    Just something I was thinking about the other day as I was developing my plan. Would love to hear other's thoughts on this subject.


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    What you are talking about is very important. It's not that you should stop listening to others, but rather you should develop the skill of listening to people without automatically accepting what they say as true. Verify, verify, verify.

    You have to be very very careful what information you allow to sink into your head. The naysayers and chicken littles of the world can kill your ambition before it even gets started. But if you want to really grow and learn, you have to continue seeking out information from other people, because there IS invaluable information and experience out there for you to learn from. You just have to learn how to filter it and ignore the stuff that doesn't ring true.
     
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    I don't listen for decisions,
    I listen for information and ideas.

    So I'd never not do something 'cause someone said not to
    (I'm perverse, my instinct says to do the opposite of what is said to do)
    but I sure would listen to what they feel are the challenges with the project.

    Before deciding to go small press with my book,
    I had a bunch of people tell me that was the wrong decision.
    I'd ask why
    and then got a list of challenges.
    My next step was to address these challenges.

    For example:
    One challenge is the lack of editing
    so I pay for pre-submission editing for my novels.
    Now I have a product I feel confident about.
     
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    I think who you listen too is important.

    For the most part, you shouldn't listen to much of anyone unless they are experts in the field of advice sought.

    If I want advice on being the best writer I can be, I'd listen to expert writers like Paterson.

    If I want advice on being the best motivational speaker, I'd listen to Tony Robbins, Tracy, and Zieglar.

    If I want advice on being the best basketball player, I'm listening to NBA players.

    If I want advice on becoming a commercial real estate mogul, I'd listen to Trump.

    As for a getting feedback for your ideas -- only one entity can do that -- not your friends, family, or business associates -- its the MARKETPLACE - the marketplace determines the value of any idea by using it and/or buying it.
     
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    If you're talking about James Patterson,
    you know the guy doesn't write most of his books.
    He's very upfront about getting others to research and write for him.
    If the individual's contribution is significant,
    he even puts their name on the novel.

    Hey, his system works and people don't seem to care.
    More power to him.
     
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    If thats true, then I'd take his advice on how to write a best-selling book without actually writing it.
     
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    That's exactly it.
    Very clever.

    I asked him myself (I could have misunderstood but I did ask for clarification).
    I asked how he could write so many books a year
    and he replied that he had a team of researchers and writers.
    But he assured me that he reads everything
    and puts his own special touch on it.

    This isn't uncommon in the writing world.
    There are some fictional names that are really groups of writers.

    The readers don't care, as long as they get a good story.
    Which is an additional illustration of your threads
    on giving the customer what they want.
     
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    Oh, some day when I find my notes,
    I should post his thoughts on marketing.
    Brilliant, brilliant stuff.
     
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    Please do!!! The topic of ghost writing is very interesting and deserves a forum on its own!
     
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    I wouldn't say stop listening, but definitely selectively listen for sure. This has become a daily exercise for me as of late. Once I made the mental shift and decided to go Fastlane with my own life, all I hear are the reasons why I can't.

    I get it from everyone in my own age group.
    "Investing is too risky, wait till you're older."
    "You can't make money that easily."
    My favorite that I've heard recently, last Thursday actually. Person who said it was 23-
    "You're either born someone who can get rich or your just average like everyone else."

    I get it from everyone older than myself.
    "You'll ruin your life getting into stocks now, you'll loose everything."
    "You need a degree to get anywhere in the world now."
    My favorite from this crowd.-
    "You should have stayed in the military for the benefits and job security."

    But if I didn't listen to others, I wouldn't have learned anything here. I also would have missed out on lots of wisdom and advise from truly wonderful people. I'm all ears when it come to listening to others, but I also take it all with a big a$$ grain of salt.
     
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    Yeah, what I couldn't get out of Patterson
    was how he prevents getting sued.
    All he said was he has very good lawyers
    (whatever that means).

    But having a team of writers is darn smart
    because publicity takes up so much time.
    I think that's why Patterson does big time publicity
    and Nora Roberts doesn't.
    Heck, Patterson even comes to Toronto a couple times a year.

    How did Nora get her push to the top of the lists?
    A bestselling romance writer of the day
    (Janet Dailey) was caught stealing big chunks of Nora Roberts' novel.
    Big, big publicity.

    'Course that might be why her hands are tied
    about farming out writing.

    BTW... if you still think readers care about the author over story,
    Janet Dailey, after getting caught "cheating",
    is still writing and selling books today.
     
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    +1

    I'd be interested in hearing any information about ghost writing. It's a topic I have been curious about recently.
     
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    :smx9: to Ghost Writing... I heard this concept a few years ago and it's fantastic. I have a friend who has done it for clients. It's much cheaper than you'd expect too. You could even have someone interview you (who's a fantastic interviewer) and have them write the book. They hammer it out much faster than we would and we still get all the credit!!!

    Check out www.elance.com - there is a ghost writing source. Lots of writers too.
     
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    I can understand where you are coming from.
     

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