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They say the difference between enlightenment and apathy is a very fine line.
For as long as I can remember, I used to suppress my emotions down into my unconscious. When I didn't face them at the surface, this allowed me to operate in a state where I didn't let my emotions take control of me. Whether it was when I volunteered as an EMT, a firefighter, or working in Law Enforcement; I couldn't let the emotions out because I had to remain in control.
You know how people let their emotions get out of control...I didn't want that to happen to me.
I didn't think they were a problem, because I wasn't having to face them.
When my ex girlfriend cheated on my during college (along with the next one), I closed off my emotions and built a wall up.
Stoic, not wanting to let my frustration out, and wanting to be in control; I pushed it down.
It's been 8-9 years since that chapter of my life, but up until the fall of 2015, I was caught in the habit of stuffing things down.
Then, in the Fall of 2015, I faced a very stressful moment in my life as a business owner with a sudden loss of income and feeling boxed in.
Doing what always worked for me in the past, I bottled up my emotions and stuffed them down.
Little did I know, that everything I was stuffing down was piling up, and it was piling up quickly into a finite space.
All of a sudden, things turned into a pressure cooker and began shooting off onto the surface (in the form of medical problems which led to me rushing to the emergency room two times and 6 doctors visits throughout the winter).
I used to view this stoicism and apathy towards emotions as a good thing because it helped me be in control of my actions, and I didn't have to face the pain that I was bombarded with in the past (unfaithful ex and working in emergency services).
They say the difference between enlightenment and apathy is a very fine line.
So this was around the time in my life where I learned how to properly manage my emotions.
The very first step is to be open to feeling them at the surface (instead of pushing them down). Feel them flow through your body, and accept them for being there instead of resisting them (all suffering comes from resistance).
As they flow through the surface, learn from them. Your emotions are a signal that pushes you in a certain direction. If you touch fire, the painful emotions push you to pull your hand away. Learn from your emotions and feel where they push you. If they feel good, what's it tell you to do? If they feel bad, what do you need to do different in your life?
Then, you can harness their power and release. In Think and Grow Rich, they talk about the art of energy transmutation. Your emotions are energy flowing through your body, instead of suppressing them, use them as the fuel that lights the fire. Regardless of the type of emotion, it can be used. I wrote a love story around feelings I had for a woman (of love). I wrote my first book based off of the excitement of reaching my business goals.
The rapper Eminem channels his anger into his music.
Emotions are energy. Regardless of what they are, you have the power to control them and use them to your advantage.
This way, whatever the emotions are, instead of stuffing them down and suppressing them, letting them build up...
You can harness their power, release them; and grow quicker because of it.
They say the difference between enlightenment and apathy is a very fine line.
Now, isn't this an enlightening way to view things?
Lessons learned:
1. Don't stuff emotions down and ignore them. This is very convenient at first, but very painful over time.
2. Control their release. People saw me posting a lot of emotional release videos last year on this forum because they were the tools which rapidly released everything that built up in that pressure cooker for over 10 years, taking back to an emotionally balanced and peaceful state. Art, singing, design, writing, exercise, whatever; there are ways to release them.
For as long as I can remember, I used to suppress my emotions down into my unconscious. When I didn't face them at the surface, this allowed me to operate in a state where I didn't let my emotions take control of me. Whether it was when I volunteered as an EMT, a firefighter, or working in Law Enforcement; I couldn't let the emotions out because I had to remain in control.
You know how people let their emotions get out of control...I didn't want that to happen to me.
I didn't think they were a problem, because I wasn't having to face them.
When my ex girlfriend cheated on my during college (along with the next one), I closed off my emotions and built a wall up.
Stoic, not wanting to let my frustration out, and wanting to be in control; I pushed it down.
It's been 8-9 years since that chapter of my life, but up until the fall of 2015, I was caught in the habit of stuffing things down.
Then, in the Fall of 2015, I faced a very stressful moment in my life as a business owner with a sudden loss of income and feeling boxed in.
Doing what always worked for me in the past, I bottled up my emotions and stuffed them down.
Little did I know, that everything I was stuffing down was piling up, and it was piling up quickly into a finite space.
All of a sudden, things turned into a pressure cooker and began shooting off onto the surface (in the form of medical problems which led to me rushing to the emergency room two times and 6 doctors visits throughout the winter).
I used to view this stoicism and apathy towards emotions as a good thing because it helped me be in control of my actions, and I didn't have to face the pain that I was bombarded with in the past (unfaithful ex and working in emergency services).
They say the difference between enlightenment and apathy is a very fine line.
So this was around the time in my life where I learned how to properly manage my emotions.
The very first step is to be open to feeling them at the surface (instead of pushing them down). Feel them flow through your body, and accept them for being there instead of resisting them (all suffering comes from resistance).
As they flow through the surface, learn from them. Your emotions are a signal that pushes you in a certain direction. If you touch fire, the painful emotions push you to pull your hand away. Learn from your emotions and feel where they push you. If they feel good, what's it tell you to do? If they feel bad, what do you need to do different in your life?
Then, you can harness their power and release. In Think and Grow Rich, they talk about the art of energy transmutation. Your emotions are energy flowing through your body, instead of suppressing them, use them as the fuel that lights the fire. Regardless of the type of emotion, it can be used. I wrote a love story around feelings I had for a woman (of love). I wrote my first book based off of the excitement of reaching my business goals.
The rapper Eminem channels his anger into his music.
Emotions are energy. Regardless of what they are, you have the power to control them and use them to your advantage.
This way, whatever the emotions are, instead of stuffing them down and suppressing them, letting them build up...
You can harness their power, release them; and grow quicker because of it.
They say the difference between enlightenment and apathy is a very fine line.
Now, isn't this an enlightening way to view things?
Lessons learned:
1. Don't stuff emotions down and ignore them. This is very convenient at first, but very painful over time.
2. Control their release. People saw me posting a lot of emotional release videos last year on this forum because they were the tools which rapidly released everything that built up in that pressure cooker for over 10 years, taking back to an emotionally balanced and peaceful state. Art, singing, design, writing, exercise, whatever; there are ways to release them.
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