Sorry, But MJ (or the forum) Can't Make Your Life Decisions For You!!

[MJ DeMarco]

MJ should I use hair spray or gel?

I use both; my hair is totally cowlicky.

 

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[Hokoleskwa]

I think often times people who are considering taking a big risk want a more experienced or successful person to tell them they're making the right choice so that the risk will feel safe. But if you refuse to step outside your comfort zone and walk the wire without a net, you'll never realize your full potential.

 

[Jonleehacker]

Here's my favorite decision making technique...

Think about your tough decision.

Get a coin, assign heads to one result, and tails to the other result.
eg. Heads I move to Phoenix, tails I stay in Chicago.

Take deep breath, with a clear head, flip the coin in the air.

Now, while the coin is in the air pay attention to your thoughts and feelings... which result are you hoping for?

The one you were rooting for is the answer to your decision, forget which side the coin lands on.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Bumpety Bump!!

 

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[Rawr]

I think we need a thread on how to deliberately make decisions, and increase the aggressiveness/ risk.

That is the cause. Alleviate that and these emails will stop.

Some advice from someone's who also asked way too many questions:


1. Recognize choices have outcomes. You can't have every outcome, so narrow it down to the few you'd prefer and look for those choices. "Should I move?" hence becomes a write out of what "moving" means - "do I want nicer weather? Different crowd? Bigger/smaller city? Ocean? Hiking? Job opps?" - use matrix to select the choice.

2. Not making a decision is a decision. This one was hard to learn for me - when you are still feeling like you could do anything and be anything it is very hard to pick something and eliminate other options. But until you start narrowing it down, you can't move. Imagine sitting in a plane thinking of all the wonderful places in this world to go to. But never picking even a continent- so time passes and you are still stuck on the runway.


3. Making a decision can be scary but it is required if you want to make progress - don't think you will fail. We make many decisions daily - what to eat, when to go to bed, what to do - take confidence in these things - make better decisions and step them up to greater ones, feeling more confident in your choices.



If anyone feels they have more to add to decision making strategies I am sure there are many who would learn and the benefits are worth it. You start reaching for the steering wheel...

 

[hrishikesh]

I am a very slow decision maker, although my decision are almost always the right.
There is this book about decision making which has 5 star reviews. I have ordered it. Lets see.
Do it! or ditch it!

 

[ClintonSkakun]

This tool is awesome, I use it now and then when I have super pressing decisions to make.

 

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[Vigilante]

MJ.... will you adopt me?

 

[MJ DeMarco]

HelpMyDecision.com went over 1,000 decisions today!

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Bump.

 

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[SPX]

nice website, i was using it and half way through I knew what I needed to do.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Bump.

 

[FastNAwesome]

I can guarantee that anyone who would ask someone to make life changing decisions for them are not cut out for the fastlane and very likely to fail. Fastlane is not for everyone, that's why the slowlane and sidewalk exist. Again, I don't mean to be mean but I have a hard time understanding some of these guys' behavior.

Speed++

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

Bump ...

And I'd like to include that "anyone else on this forum" cannot make life decisions for you.

 

[Jill]

Bump ... And I'd like to include that "anyone else on this forum" cannot make life decisions for you.

Uh-oh. I've been telling everyone what to do!

 

[ColtonJD91]

WADM Success Story: I completely changed my employment set-up using this outline. I now have time to work and bring home a GREATER income, attend class online, AND hone skills I know I'll need for my targeted niche. It's not an easy schedule, however, without quitting a dead end job and risking my wimpy looking resume in an unstable job market, it wouldn't even be possible. It's a complete 180 degree switch from the direction I was headed, and when I asked for advice on these forums about 6 months ago on what to do, NO ONE recommended this route. MJ and everyone else is absolutely right when they say your decisions are best made by you!

 

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[Jonleehacker]

The guys behind Freakonomics have put up a website designed to help people make decisions (and teach you a lot about decision making)

https://www.freakonomicsexperiments.com/home/experimental_design

The funny thing about decisions is they are like ideas, they mean a lot less than we think

 

[AllenCrawley]

Bump

 

[Vigilante]

bump

 

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[Capital]

Make your own decisions
"If you don’t make a decision, a decision will be made for you. And if someone else makes the decision for you, it might not be fixable." -Ronald Perelman

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Bump.

 

[Investfourmore]

I am new here, but I feel your pain to a lesser degree. On my blog I have people emailing me and asking how to invest in Real Estate all the time and I can tell they don't want to do the work it takes to make the right decision on their own. They want someone else to decide for them because it is easier and then they don't have the responsibility if they make the wrong decision. I try to point them in the way of self educating, but some just want a quick answer.

 

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[Dan Willis]

I'm starting to receive a lot of emails, and even messages on this forum that request advice on major, life-changing decisions ... as if, I hold some type of crystal ball that knows the right decision for your life, your family, and your happiness.

Do I quit my job?
Do I move across the country?
Do I build the website myself? Or outsource?
Do I risk going into business with Joe Blow or stay in school?
Do I do this?
Do I do that?

Folks, I don't know!

I can't make these decisions for you. Everyone is different and only you know you. Some people are dealmakers. Some are introverts. Some are networkers. Some are analytical geniuses.

And yet, please understand that every decision of major consequence in your life carries with it RISK. And yet, RISK is fundamental to the Fastlane because it is the ROAD LESS TRAVELED and often involves sacrifice, and hard-work beyond the "well-traveled" road.

You have to do what is right for YOU and what YOU think will make you happy. And guess what? For some folks, that just might be a Slowlane -- no worries -- life is about happiness and being resolute in your dreams and goals. Whatever path you take, understand that everything extraordinary in life often involved an extraordinary risk.

If you are having trouble making a big decision in your life, I suggest you use the WADM decision matrix that I have used so many times in my life.

Got a Tough Choice? HelpMyDecision.com Helps You Make Better Decisions!

I have been HAPPY in every decision this matrix solved for me.

So to sum it up, I don't know if you should quit college.
I don't know if you should quit your job.
I don't know if you should move to another country.
I don't know if you should quit that business and start another.
I don't know if you should piss-off your parents and do what they don't want.
I don't know if you should learn how to code, or just partner.

While I'm flattered that I am asked about such big decisions, my answers are automatically BIASED based on my life experience. This does not guarantee you will get a good answer based on what is best for YOU.

Take a deep breath, and ask yourself ... What is going to make me happy not just this week, but over the long term? Should you be blessed with another 40 years of life, is this the path you want to take?

In general, you should already know what my answer will be ... the Fastlane path. But again, that is ME.

I am not you.

You may possess other strengths, talents, and attributes that make the other answer, BETTER.

:smxB:

Good luck and happy decision-making!

This is exactly it! Where does the responsibility for your life fall? On you! Own it.

 

[Rawr]

Now what?

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Now what?

Go by alphabetical order.

 

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[Blueskies4me]

Same with "Tell me what your product / niche is!" Duplication isn't in the "product" it's in the blood sweat & tears of process which is what people are showing you here. Duplicate their PROCESS, man! That's gold! Life isn't going to wait for you to make decisions. Worst you can do is fail forward.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Just going through my personal emails today and trying to respond ... thought this needed a bump.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

Monthly bump.

 

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[MJ DeMarco]

Bump. And retagging to GOLD. More people will read it.

 

[MJ DeMarco]

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