Should your life change as you get older?

[Era]

They are all into having kids, some of them going on 5-7 years old and I am 26! I feel there's so much to do before I get married, or even before I have kids.

RBefort, never be in a rush to make such a life changing decision. Especially settling down. I bet most of your friends rushed into starting a family and secretly would like to trade places with you, just to experience life "before marriage and kids" again, but most would likely never admit that. Do not let your GF talk you into settling down right now. You will know when the time is right when ever that is.

Like the slowlane, marriage and children are the default path....a lot of the younger people that i know who got hitched and had kids too early did so because that's what they were conditioned to do so. Taking time to accomplish their own goals and not settle down too soon was just too foreign to them. Their mindset was "Go to school get a good job, get married, have kids, work for 30-40 years, and then maybe they get to retire and watch their kids repeat that cycle..."

 

[Esquire]

Looking back 5, 10 or even 15 years ago... my life is pretty much the same. Just different place, different people, same ole me. LOL

I don't know if that's a good thing or not but for some reason I feel more guilty living the same way now as I did 15 years ago. But why should I?

I don't see a problem with that. Clearly you are doing what you enjoy doing. That's the whole point of this exercise. As I see it, the problems arise when you are doing things you do not want to do ... or not doing things you would otherwise like to do. So forget about what the "normal" people do ... or how they change over time ... just try to live out the rest of your life as you would like to see it play out.

Mind mapping is good in this respect. Try to figure out what (if anything) you would regret having done ... or having not done ... and then plan the rest of your time accordingly.

 

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[Enki]

It made me sad to see Peter2 comment on the thread. Evidence that "growing old" is not even guaranteed. (For newbs: Peter passed away some years ago).

He had business down to a science. I'd be hard pressed to argue with any advice he gave. From what I understand he was fairly young. I was reading his posts a few weeks ago and had no idea he was gone

 

[Saad Khan]

Looking back 5, 10 or even 15 years ago... my life is pretty much the same. Just different place, different people, same ole me. LOL

I don't know if that's a good thing or not but for some reason I feel more guilty living the same way now as I did 15 years ago. But why should I? Is it because there is no sense of accomplishment when you're older, but when you're younger it's ok because you don't have that "career" job yet.

Here's what I used to do in my early 20's.
(Lived at home with parents)
Wake up
Go to work
Work out
Play basketball
Eat
Sleep

Mid 20's
Wake up
Go to work
Work out
-- home improvement
-- play basketball
Eat
Sleep

30's
Wake up
Go to work
Work out
-- home improvement
-- play basketball
-- invest in real estate
Eat
Sleep

Now
Wake up
Sort of go to work
-- home improvement
-- play basketball
-- invest in real estate
------- golf (slowly creeping onto this list)
Eat
Sleep

My Short Life in stages

7-14

Wake up
Study
Come home
Go outside
Play cricket
Go home late and get spanked
Eat
Sleep

14-17

Wake up
Study
Come home and play games while pulling off 12 hour gaming sessions on holidays
Eat
Sleep

17-Now (18)

Wake up
Work
Got to uni, work in the back benches
Come home
Continue working
---learn other skills
---read a book
Eat
Sleep

Have to fit in workouts now but work consumes my time. I manage to not get tired because I like my work which I find meaningful (Managing and growing Amazon brands with Amazon Ads)